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We had our ups and downs should I go back to my ex?

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Question - (3 October 2016) 4 Answers - (Newest, 4 October 2016)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My ex is recently single and I miss him a lot. Should I go back?

Weve had ups and downs when we were together but the sex was off the charts amazing and hot and everything you can imagine. We use to laugh a lot but our relationship was def more fwb and not dating. Its been two years since I last saw him, we didnt have a crazy break up or anything either. He just left for an internship overseas and that essentially ended our escapade. he hasnt made any attempts to reach out to me since he came back but hes a pussy, even when we were hooking up I had to be the sexual aggressor but we both were very into each other and had a great time.

I did cry a lot when he left however but im okay now and seeing that hes single, I am feeling like i wanna see him. Its not just purely sexual either, I do like him as a person. But I kinda did waited to see if he would reach out to me in these past two years and he sent me friendly posts and said happy bday to me on FB but other than that, we havent communicated much?

Im a bit afraid to get hurt but I really miss the amaazing sex and fun. Can he still be same man I fell for? Should I go back? Help

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (4 October 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntNo don't go back, no sex is worth getting heart broken over and over again. If he wanted to be with you he would have contacted you, he would have dated you and made an effort. If you contact him now it will be sex and he will leave the moment he meets someone he wants to settle down with. Save yourself the pain.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (4 October 2016):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntOP, you can say you like him as a person all you want, but it's clear you only want the sex. Quite frankly, it doesn't seem like he was ever a boyfriend, just a FWB.

Leave it in the past. Find a new relationship, if that's what you want, or an FWB with someone who wants that too.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (4 October 2016):

So_Very_Confused agony auntIF you go back you will have amazing sex and he will leave again, maybe this time for a woman he really cares about.

I would say to protect your heart you not do anything to get back with him.

I say this because you said it's not purely sexual; that means you harbor some hope of it being more then FWB and it never will be based on what you have said.

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (4 October 2016):

Denizen agony auntDon't go back - ever. You will just rejoin the same cycle of passion and pain. It becomes wearing after a while. That bald patch on the tyre will come around again and the same old problems will appear. Then you will think things have got better and the cycle begins again.

Find someone new who will love you so much they will break down doors to be with you.

And remember your mistakes in the previous relationship when you find your new man.

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