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writes:My boy friend broke up with me 4 days ago, but then called me. We had a long talk and he told me how much he missed me and how I was the only one for him. All my friends tell me to let go because I deserve a better guy, but I think I still like him. Yet I'm afraid what others will think if I get back with him.Should I listen to my heart or to my friends?
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reader, hello1  +, writes (12 February 2008):
 You know what, the only time I said that to a freind was when she was in a BAD relationship. Maybe their only looking out for your best intrest, I can't seem them being jealous teenage girls. You haven't told us what this bloke is like so I can't give you any advice if you should go back or not.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (12 February 2008):
 Hi,
If your friends are just nitpicky or judgmental over certain things about them, then don't take any notice of them. But if your boyfriend treated you badly then head their advice.
Maybe you should tell us why they dont approve of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): Well, it depends... how much of a jerk is he? Did he really make you suffer, or did your friends said you deserve better just because he broke up with you and were showing support?
I don't know... do what feels right for you. Because really, for what you've written, I think you WANT to give this relationship a second chance. And you know something? Sometimes second chances aren't a waste of time, yes, you're taking a risk, but everything that's worthwhile has a risk factor.
If you truly believe that he's not right for you (therefore agreeing with your friends) then don't get back with him. However, if you're questioning whether to get back with him BECAUSE you're friends said you deserve better, then I'd say you're doing it for the wrong reason. Yes, your friends love you and want the best for you, they don't want to see you get hurt. But if you really want to give this guy another chance, do so and ignore your friends. Who knows? You might as well prove them wrong!
I don't think they'll stop being your friends because of it. I've been in a rocky relationship myself, and even though sometimes I've not followed my friends' advice, they haven't stopped being my friends. However, if you break up again, consider it a sign to move on. You don't want to lose your friends like amber2328's friend did, because YES, if you break up and make up with that guy nonstop your friends will eventually get tired of it. But it won't happen just because of one time, just make sure you keep both your relationship and friendships balanced, ok?
Good luck, do waht you feel is best for you!
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reader, davie +, writes (12 February 2008):
If you always do what you think your friends approve of most you'll never do what you want to do. If you want to get back with him then get back with him. I say listen to your heart.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 February 2008):
 Your friends may give meaningful advises but whatever you do , it will be you who will have to bear the consequences.
Are you a crowd pleaser or are you your own master?
You know what is best for yourself.
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reader, rcn +, writes (12 February 2008):
 Relationships are personal, between the two people involved. It's about your happiness and not pleasing the crowd.
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reader, amber2328 +, writes (12 February 2008):
 My best friend of eleven yrs would break up with her boyfriend at least once or twice a week then she would get back with him. Every conversation we had was about him and how he was a jerk and she hated him then guess what? The next day they were back together so after one yr of this her and I stopped talking and she also lost other friends over it! If you want to get back with him then do so but do not expect your friends to be tolerant of him or your situation. Also if your friends say you deserve better you probably are not in a great situation!
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