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writes:My boyfriend has cheated over ten times in our home and outside our house. Its always sex and talking on the phone; he says he loves me everyone says its true you can tell he loves you more then anything but nobody can explain or undersand why he does this to me. He was never a cheater until his ex cheated. Does he have a problem?? I need help we are happy but he talks to new females then sleeps with them. He always tells them about me. He will lie and say we are taking a break or we are real koo. I love him to death and I felt he could change but I'm starting to feel differnt and its so hard to leave after 4 years no kids, just a dog we both love. I feel like I can live without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): You deserve much better than him. He's disrespecting you, and more importantly you are disrespecting yourself by staying with a man who is treating you as you dont exist.
I'm in somewhat same position as you. My b/f cheated on me and now the other girl is pregnant with supposedly his baby. He's not denying its his baby. He still treats me like crap. I love him with all my heart too but I had to leave him. I had to do this for me. Otherwise my life would be hell if i stayed. Now he says he wants me back and loves me. It's all talk and no action. Let him suffer for how he betrayed me. Thank god we were not married or have kids. Dont put yourself in that situation where its even harder to get out.
Leave him! He's not worth your time & love.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 What you feel and what you do are two different things.
You may feel you can live without him but when you really leave him and be on your own , your feelings may not be the same.
You many want him back like so many posters here who regretted and want their ex back.
You need to think deeply and then only decide.
Best of luck!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 Ask yourself this question, would he be so blase about this relationship if you were to start cheating on him? I bet my house he would go into a rage - these types always do.
Why you are allowing yourself to be treated like this is a question only you can answer, do you think you deserve this lot in life - being with a cheater, a man who sleeps with a number of woman and running the risk of picking up a sexually transmitted diseases.
Find the courage and dump him - things really cant get any worse can they?
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (13 February 2008):
 After ten times you should been gone lone time ago. Don't stand by and take this abuse. The first time you allowed it to happen gave him subtle permission to keep doing this. Since you have no children you are in a good position to leave him. What has kept you with him all this time? And why are you getting bad advice from others saying he loves you when he has cheated on you ten times! Not only should you leave him, you should reconsider the people who you seem to trust for bad advice. Anyone who tells you he loves you is not looking at his actions…Actions do speak louder than words. But it’s good you came here for advice. You DO have to leave this guy. And I know this is a hard thing to do, but you have to move on from him and his abusive ways....I wish you the best.
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