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female
age
36-40,
*hilosopher
writes:How can I find out information about my TAFE teacher in order to better enjoy my sexual fantasies?I am studying part-time at TAFE (Technical and Further Education - look it up if you don't understand) and working full-time.I am 22 years old and one of my TAFE teachers is young-looking. I have a crush on him and while I realise it would be unprofessional to try and seek a relationship with him (no matter whether it is for casual sex or a friendship or full-blown relationship), I do enjoy fantasising about him.I would like to get some information from him to aid in my fantasies, but without making it apparent I like him. Some information I know from experience would virtually immediately squash some fantasies, but if it can be ruled out, it would make my fantasies a little bit more enjoyable. I prefer my fantasies to seem plausible, or very unrealistic (eg hooking up with a guy vs having mind-control ability and forcing a guy to hook up with me).Some questions I would like answered (in order of likelyhood of receiving an answer): How old is he, is he single, what is his sexual preference, does he find me attractive, is he into BDSM/kinky sex (I'm dominant) - if so what is his orientation?How can I find out the answers to (some) of these questions?
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reader, Philosopher +, writes (3 September 2008):
Philosopher is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI chickened out. I'll just have to wait for an appropriate opportunity to ask. Maybe when he mentions something he's done in the past and I can say, wow - how old are you?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (31 August 2008):
Ok, well his age is easy, next time he asks you to explain a phrase (like something off the internet) then just say "Oh sorry, I keep forgetting you are in your 50's."
Add about 10 years to what you think he is, and he should react, and you'll be able to say "40's?" and then narrow it down if he doesn't tell you exactly.
As for the girlfriend - is he wearing a ring? If not then do a similar thing say something a bit girly and confusing, possibly sexual and when he asks for explanation of what you mean, tell him to ask his girlfriend to explain it. His reaction should give you a clue.
Both of these require you to do a lot of talking in class and it's going to be fairly obvious that you are interested to everyone in the class.
As for kinky sex, there is no way of finding out that in polite conversation. Keep that bit in your mind.
I still think you run a huge risk of being embarrassed in front of him and your whole class is all this and you don't need to know any of these things. But it's your funeral.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): Dear Philosopher,
By your name I would expect you know the close links between reality and imagination... I suggest you use your imagination and make it real for you...
To paraphrase Sir Laurence when talking to Dustin Hoffman about his need to live the role of the "Running Man"...
"Try pretending. . . It's much easier!"
If you keep on your mission to discover his secrets, you will look like a "nutter" and you will seriously embarrass yourself. But hey, you've asked for advice, and the advice was free, it's your life, go and do whatever you please....
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reader, Philosopher +, writes (31 August 2008):
Philosopher is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGeez, I don't want to stalk him. I realise now the way I asked this question does make it sound like that though. I mean, what's a good way of getting him to volunteer the answers - like what's a good way of asking? I don't want to go sneaking around or spying on him or anything like that.
I admit that most of those questions I'll probably never get an answer to, but I threw them in there in case anyone had any good ideas.
Maybe what I am asking for are some good tangents to ask questions from, or how can I get one of my classmates to ask him without my classmate/s finding out I like him? I'm the only female in my class.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (30 August 2008):
So you basically just need ways to stalk him for a bit?
Well firstly break into his house and hide a camera.....
No seriously. Don't do that. The whole point of fantasies is that they are NOT real. You are never going to be with this guy so you don't need to find out real details. Make him into who you want to be in your mind.... he could have a sex dungeon under his office and you could go in and discover it and seduce him.
Don't stalk him, it isn't worth the hassle / criminal record.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): Mmmm I think it would be quite difficult to ask somebody if he is into BDSM/kinky sex without making it apparent you are interested in him and lust after him sexually!Try not to mix fantasy with reality ... otherwise it may threaten to change your perceptive ideal of this man!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): It doesn't matter if he is is married or not, for instance. I think it would be better not to know. That way, you can either imagine that he is single and that you can win him for your own or you can imagine that he is married and you are being a slut and hooking up with him just for naughty sex. I think that would be more exciting.
I also think that seeking info about him might allow him to know that you have some interest besides just talking. I have a rule for my fantasies. I never fantasize about having sex with someone who is a current work associate or friend. That is too risky in my opinion, as it could lead to something improper or at least making the other person uncomfortable. I do fantasize about women who I have known in the past and will likely never see again. I think that is a lot safer.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (30 August 2008):
 Hi,
you cant and you shoulndnt. What you are talking about is an invasion of his privacy and your motives i have to say are very suspicious.
You can find out most of these things through simple friendly conversation. Why don't you just talk to him.
Good grief.
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