Extreme loneliness. Can I please have your opinions, before I discuss it with my therapist? I tried but her reaction hurt me
Q. As much as I try to suppress the feelings of loneliness, it always comes back to haunt me when I like someone. I'm 19 years old and I am an at home carer. I suffer from frequent periods of low mood, I have what I believe to be social anxiety d...
A. 31 October 2011: Hi Ninetieskid, You are very welcome! I feel a positive energy from you already.. I am being very honest, and very serious. This is how I truly feel after reading your post, and I would never give you false advice, or sugar coat, just so you can ... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 31 October 2011: Hi,
You confronted him? He denied? But, what did he say? Let's us know so we can give you our opinions?
I still don't understand why he bought the airplane ticket for her?
Let's us know, so we can help you..
Good luck! Stay strong...... (read in full...)
How can I let my best friend go just because he doesn't love me as a girlfriend?
Q. I feel so frustrated I just need to rant. I have known a guy for five years and we have always been friends. We get on really well and stay in weekly (sometimes daily) contact. We socialise every few weeks because we live some distance apart a...
A. 31 October 2011: Hi, I am so glad you had the talk with him, and so happy to see his reaction. This is very good news for you, the fact that he came immediately to see you, and talk with you is a very good sign. I do agree with you, he's being very honest, and... (read in full...)
Is there anyway I can reconnect with my husband and stop hurting him like I have?
Q. I'm in need of some serious help... I've cheated on my husband and he found me online yesterday on a site and seen some comments some guys have made. When my husband confronted me on it he said he wasn't mad about the site in general, but he was mad ...
A. 30 October 2011: Hi,
The important thing is that you accept your mistakes, and know that you still love your husband very much. To me the best solution to solve your problem is to have a honest talk with him. First, apologize to him again, make him feel comf... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 30 October 2011: Hi,
Ok, then wait & see what happens....
But don't you think that is strange that he would buy a airplane ticket for this woman he barely knows?
If he's not planning to cheat, so what's his intensions?
So far he hasn't done anything, you d... (read in full...)
Should we connect? Dont want to break his marriage but I need someone to make me laugh
Q. Thanks. I lost my hubby of 5 years a year and 2 month ago and i have 2 kids. just before i met my late hubby,i dated a guy i loved so much and i believed liked me for 3 months,i had to relocate some where far so we were not seeing but communic...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi, I am really sorry to hear about your late husband. I also lost my mom 9 years ago, so I know how it feels to loose someone you love dearly. Ink ow you feel lonely, it must be hard having someone for so many years, now you are alone, have ... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi, Sorry.... I am not sure how long you've been together, but as much as it hurts, I am going to be honest with you, the fact that he bought round trip tickets to this woman he barely knows shows he doesn't love you, or care about you. I think th... (read in full...)
How do you go about talking to the "other" woman?
Q. How do you go about talking to the "other" woman? I am not a exploding/crazy person and I was thinking that I would talk to her calmly but what to say? I don't know how I would start. But I really do want her to know that she's talking to my ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi, I agree with the previous answers. Do not contact her. You have to understand that this is not her fault, and even if she knows about you, it's your boyfriends who you need to blame. So stupid!!! I am not sure how long they know each othe... (read in full...)
Friend is making racist remarks and says I don't face reality! I am getting sick of him...am I right to feel this way?
Q. Hello everyone, I have a friend who is a little older than me, his dad works with my dad and we have become quite good friends. Recently we have been spending a lot of time together and one night when our parents went out for a meal to discuss ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi, You are a very smart, sweet girl, and I hope you never change. God created all equals, no matter race, color, we are all the same, no one is better than anyone. The worst thing one can do is judge someone by their race, or color. It's just cru... (read in full...)
Got cheated upon once, and now I am paranoid it will happen again in my present relationship
Q. Is this what one may call trauma? Two and a half years ago, i found out my ex was cheating on me which left me so scarred, it took me a year to accept what happened. He was my first bf. Anyway, i am fully recovered now in terms of any emotion towa...
A. 29 October 2011: Hi, I know exactly how you feel. I also have been in a 10 year relationship, and I've just ended month ago. I know how this affected you mentally, and I understand your fear. Unfortunately, what happened really traumatized us, and I guess this fea... (read in full...)
Caught my soon to be ex-wife and daughter eaves dropping, did I over-react?
Q. hi i have a question do you guys think i over-reacted? i was having a very private conversation with my father about his wife and i guess she cheated on him with some younger man and they have 3 kids. my father was real upset like i never seen him ...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi, Sorry to hear about your dad, be supportive of him, he will need all the help he can get... I know the feeling, and it will take time for your dad to heal. No, you did not over-reacted! You have the right to be angry... You have the ri... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my ex? She has asked for a 'catch up chat'....
Q. My ex wants to meet for coffee and a "catch up chat". Do i meet up or stay away ?....We broke up at xmas last year after a 7 month relationship. I did not see her after i found she was cheating with her best friends husband. I truly was in love wit...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi,
I am happy for you... You made the right decision. Stay strong, and never look back...
Good luck, hope you find someone that truly deserves you... Best wishes... (read in full...)
Should I confront her husband and let him know what his wife has been doing with me for the last 2 years, or let nature take its course?
Q. well , where do i start , was working with this girl for a couple of years , we became the best of friends , would talk about every thing and any thing , she is married , im single , and has kids , i knew all this before any thing had happened , ...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi,
I am glad you made a decision, and hope you stay strong. I know you love this woman, sure she's a good person, but honestly she doesn't deserve you or her husband.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Married man is trying to break the no contact rule
Q. I have cut off a friendship with a married man because we are both attracted to each other and we both realized it should not go any further. We have had no contact for two months now. It has been hard but in that time, I have been trying to move on ...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi,
I just hope you continue being strong, and do not believe a word he says.
I am glad you decide to end, and trying to put your life back together. I am sure you deserve someone that can be yours only, someone that truly care, and love you. Som... (read in full...)
Is this world only for beautiful people with good fortunes?
Q. I am not good looking and have no confidence in myself at all. When I was 14, pimples started appearing on my head and lost my font hair. Since then, I have been shaving my head to make it look decent but I know girls get turned off my look a...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi,
I think you are a nice, well educated man. I think the only problem is you... Looks, and money is not everything... I think what's not attracting women to you is your bad energy, negative thoughts. I am sure if you keep being strong, stop ove... (read in full...)
I want my wife back from this other man!
Q. My ex wife and I were together since we were 20. Got married at 21 and had our first kid at 23; each proceeding child is 1-3 years apart from the last. (We have 5 kids.) We got a divorce 4 years ago because, somewhere along the line, we stopped ...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi,
Please, don't let your ex-wife marry this man.... You are each other first love, have 5 beautiful children, and after all these years apart you both still love each other. I got so sad when you said she left the restaurant in tears? She's not ... (read in full...)
Extreme loneliness. Can I please have your opinions, before I discuss it with my therapist? I tried but her reaction hurt me
Q. As much as I try to suppress the feelings of loneliness, it always comes back to haunt me when I like someone. I'm 19 years old and I am an at home carer. I suffer from frequent periods of low mood, I have what I believe to be social anxiety d...
A. 27 October 2011: Hi Ninetieskid, The key to recover is to: •Acknowledge / which you did •Understand why you feel like you do Realize that what makes you feel this way is over thinking too much, which causes a over-tired mind, fatigue by contanst worrying th... (read in full...)
Extreme loneliness. Can I please have your opinions, before I discuss it with my therapist? I tried but her reaction hurt me
Q. As much as I try to suppress the feelings of loneliness, it always comes back to haunt me when I like someone. I'm 19 years old and I am an at home carer. I suffer from frequent periods of low mood, I have what I believe to be social anxiety d...
A. 26 October 2011: Hi,
I know you are dude... Sorry my bad, I was so anxious to answer your question, but I hope you understand, and hope I helped you some how...
I hope I made sense, and hope you start feeing better...
Just be strong, and know that how you are feel... (read in full...)
Extreme loneliness. Can I please have your opinions, before I discuss it with my therapist? I tried but her reaction hurt me
Q. As much as I try to suppress the feelings of loneliness, it always comes back to haunt me when I like someone. I'm 19 years old and I am an at home carer. I suffer from frequent periods of low mood, I have what I believe to be social anxiety d...
A. 24 October 2011: Hi,
My dear, you write really well, so therefore you seem like a smart girl. It's a good thing that you admit you have social anxiety, but to me seems like it's more about confidence. I don't know you well to make any judgment, but to me I thin... (read in full...)
He's married and won't always pay attention to me!
Q. Im 22.. And I'm having sOme affair with a 31 yrs old married man.. He says that he is not happy because her wife is already 51 yrs old and he really wants a baby.. Which her wife can't give because of the age (unable to bear a child) he's just ...
A. 23 October 2011: Hi, Whatever excuses he's giving you regarding his marriage, something makes me believe he's not being completely honest with you. You are so young, why don't you just end this unhealthy relationship, and find someone that truly deserve you? I ... (read in full...)
Why did this player start laughing so loud after we had sex?
Q. hi, I was having sex with this player..we enjoy the chemistry between us and he just cannot commit. Anyhow, my question is not about commitment but about sex. We've had sex several times over the years..Usually it is sensual and soooo much chemi...
A. 22 October 2011: Hi, You are welcome! I was just being honest. You seem like a nice, smart girl, and I understand that when it comes to love it's hard to be rational. I've been there, you know the truth, and what's right for you, but somehow find yourself going ba... (read in full...)
I'm contemplating leaving her and moving out to live on the streets!
Q. I absolutely love my fiancee and I want only good things for her. Our dilemma is that we live in an RHCF (we both have depression) and needed services and treatment. We no longer need to be here and I have been working as a freelance writer. She is ...
A. 21 October 2011: Hi,
Why live in the streets? I am glad that you no longer need the help, and that you are strong enough to be on your own. Very proud.. Happy for you
So..very...confused... Gave you great advice:
IF you are unhappy OP and you no longer need t... (read in full...)
There are no boundaries for his ex and I'm always left waiting!
Q. Dear Cupid; I dated a man for a little over a year. Early in the relationship, he had dumped me for a old girlfriend and when that didn't work out, came back to me. He also has a teenage son who he has 50% of the time. They have things they do ...
A. 21 October 2011: Hi,
It's your choice, rather you want to stay with him, or move on.
But, I just want to let you know that like the previous people mentioned, he's rude, and it's a matter of respect. It's shouldn't be an obligation for him to communicate with you... (read in full...)
If you are with a divorced man does that automatically mean I have to have a second best wedding and a second best life?
Q. My partner of 3 years is a nice guy, he makes me laugh, he’s good company, he cooks me dinner, we share interests. Intimacy is great. He got divorced 6 years ago. I have never been married. The problem is he has so many problems and we cannot ge...
A. 21 October 2011: Hi,
I think "so...very...confused" gave you the best answer, and advice..
I just want to add that, many people re-marry, have happy, and successful marriage second time around.
Of course, all the problems you mentioned, specially if the... (read in full...)
Why did this player start laughing so loud after we had sex?
Q. hi, I was having sex with this player..we enjoy the chemistry between us and he just cannot commit. Anyhow, my question is not about commitment but about sex. We've had sex several times over the years..Usually it is sensual and soooo much chemi...
A. 21 October 2011: Hi,
Sorry this no class, stupid idiot make you feel this way... You describe him as player? The title player is funny to me? What these kind of men/players will get at the end? STD...
Doesn't matter why he laughed.... He's an idiot... Spe... (read in full...)
How shall I approach my mother?
Q. Dear girlfriends, could you give me some useful hints how to tackle the following situation:¨ I am 47, a mother of two children, 19 and 22 years. I left my husband four years ago, it turned out he has been unfaithful to me from the very beginnin...
A. 21 October 2011: Hi,
I am sorry that you've been through so much, and have no support, or compassion by your family. It's hard enough to know that your life partner was unfaithful to you from beginning, now divorce, and no compassion. I know how you feel, and you ... (read in full...)
I feel no matter what I do I will never be able to pay my wife back after she did so much for me! How can I make sure she never has any complaints in life?
Q. In May 1996, while I was on visit visa to States to attend one of my cousins wedding there, I fell in love with 15 years old school going American girl and I was 18 then. Upon my return from there, we kept it going through phone and transferred it ...
A. 19 October 2011: Hi, Your story touch me so much... She's an angel, and you are a very lucky man. She's amazing... Love her forever, and never let her go... Tell her that she doesn't have to work anymore, if she chooses too, it's ok, but tell her she can quit an... (read in full...)
Don't want to stay, can't leave, what do you do with a marriage like this?
Q. Probably this is a very classic situation. 25 year long marriage went cold. My husband stopped looking at me, touching at me etc. There is no sex, affection, years ago. He went into silence, and passive aggressive responses. When ask why, he ...
A. 19 October 2011: Hi, I am sorry to hear about your loss, my mother passed away 9 years ago, and I know how you feel, part of me is dead, but life continues rather you want or not. Life is different now, you just have to learn how to live again. You have one chan... (read in full...)
Don't want to stay, can't leave, what do you do with a marriage like this?
Q. Probably this is a very classic situation. 25 year long marriage went cold. My husband stopped looking at me, touching at me etc. There is no sex, affection, years ago. He went into silence, and passive aggressive responses. When ask why, he ...
A. 19 October 2011: Hi,
I am sorry to hear about your loss, my mother passed away 9 years ago, and I know how you feel, part of me is dead, but life continues rather you want or not. Life is different now, you just have to learn how to live again.
You have one cha... (read in full...)
I'm so stuck - days just go by and life keeps ticking away and I just don't know what to do
Q. I am in a rut and have been for a long time (although I appreciate many people are!). The last 10 years in my head are nothing but a blurred montage of bad decisions, depression, regret, anxiety, ill health and lack of motivation. From about 16 ...
A. 18 October 2011: Hi,
I am sorry that you've been feeling this way for so many years. But, know that you can change that, and it's up to you. Remember that many things can cause depression, but it's more likely that your mind is bringing you down. Positive thing is t... (read in full...)
How can I learn to accept he wants someone else but still loves me?
Q. My partner has decided to start looking for other female company on chat sites. We got into a situation of our doing but I found I could not cope with the situation. He cannot understand that I have feelings that get hurt. It is destroying our ...
A. 17 October 2011: I am surprise that you are willing to learn how to accept your husband behavior, and choice? Why? Why do you want to choose to live this way? Of course, hurts your feelings, anybody would in your situation.
How dare he even be so open about it... (read in full...)
He dumped me out of the blue, found out he was cheating on me all along. How can I get past this?
Q. Why do I feel the way I do? is it normal? ? I loved my ex boyfriend so much, I never cheated on him or lied to him. He was so sweet and lovely told me he loved me everyday and I believed him cos all his actions told me he loved me. He su...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi,
I know how you feel. Words cannot describe the pain. It affects you emotionally, physically, mentally. Destroy your self esteem, confidence, ability to trust people.
Just know that how you feel shows that you are a normal human being, with ... (read in full...)
Relationship of 12 years not going anywhere, so I'm cheating and want to be with that girl
Q. I,ve been in a relationship 4 12 years now but the relationship doesnt seem to be going anywere. recently i,ve been seeing someone else behind her back, shes allot younger than me, when ever i see her i feel complete, ive even risked a kiss and ...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi,
I agree with everybody here. 12 years is a long time, and if you don't have feelings for your current girlfriend, and don't see a future together, please let her go with dignity. After 12 years, if you don't want to be with her anymore, at leas... (read in full...)
For 16-18 year olds, what should we do for halloween?
Q. Sooooo, Halloween is coming up, me and all my different friends and "friend groups" want to do something. People like coming to my place, but there is noway I am having a halloween party. We think someone else might be throwing one, but can't b...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi,
You are so cute!!
Previous answers are good ideas.. Sleep over, watch scary movies together, maybe a small party, maybe in your town they offer special attraction, like small amusement park...
Whatever you do, YES! dress up! Have fun!!! ... (read in full...)
I was dating his best friend but then he suddenly passed away, now the friend has feelings for me.....what should I do?
Q. I had been dating and working on a relationship with a childhood friend and he unexpectedly passed away. It has been three months and his best friend and I are now very close. I no that he has romantic feelings for me. I am attracted to him but I ...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi,
I am sorry for your loss, and your pain. I lost my mother 9 years ago, and truly know how it feels to loose someone you love so deeply.
I know that it has been only 3 mos, so everything still very fresh. You need to keep as many friends, fam... (read in full...)
My supervisor is trying to force me out of my job! Help!
Q. I know this isn't a problem regarding relationships or anything like that but I really need advice. I recently started my first job about 6 weeks ago, I've just turned 18 a few weeks ago. Everything was fine until I got friendly with a girl at w...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you are in this situation. So unfair, i know it must be difficult, and also it must be so uncomfortable, and stressful to work in such an environment, knowing that you have no one to support you. Unfortunately, you are right, talk... (read in full...)
I was his rebound girl....how do I get over this?
Q. I was his rebound girl. I cannot believe it. I definitely knew what I got myself into, but the god-damned feelings kicked in. I fell for him, quite a bit. I wanted more, and I thought I could do it. The honest words he said, does hurt....
A. 17 October 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you are feeling this way. But, you have to know that you didn't do anything wrong. It was not your fault, you didn't know in the beginning, and unfortunately when you did it was a little too late. I understand that you decided to stay... (read in full...)
I'm worried by these texts I've seen from another guy on my girlfriend's phone....what should I do now?
Q. my girlfriend sends and recieves strange txts from a guy at work; sent:he migth get suspisious secret meeting in the street an all x, (thro wet sponge at manager for charity) (pj day at work for charity) sent:you could get ya legs waxed in ya pj...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you are feeling this way, but I am afraid to tell you that I've been there, and unfortunetly this sick feeling is most likely right. One thing I've learned is to trust your gut feeling.
I was in a 10 years relationship... (read in full...)
Should I leave my boyfriend or am I overreacting?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. And we are about to buy our own house. He takes care of me etc..i don't know if all guys are like this or just him. I need to know if I'm making the correct decision. Anything sets him off when things ...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi,
I understand how you feel, and I agree with you. You are a very kind, understanding girlfriend. Very patient, and you know the meaning sacrifice, relationship is about understanding each other, and you know it well. I think you have a almo... (read in full...)
She's an ex for a reason, but I still can't let go
Q. so my girlfriend left me a handful of months ago for another guy and devistated me. i tried my best to move on. well she got back into contact with me when she asked one night if i wanted to come over and visit with her son who was asking about...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi,
I know it hurts to be in this situation. I also know you don't choose who to love? I guess this is what people say, when love is not enough?
As much as you live your ex-girlfriend, and I guess she feels the same about you, you have to accept t... (read in full...)
How can I let my best friend go just because he doesn't love me as a girlfriend?
Q. I feel so frustrated I just need to rant. I have known a guy for five years and we have always been friends. We get on really well and stay in weekly (sometimes daily) contact. We socialise every few weeks because we live some distance apart a...
A. 17 October 2011: Hi,
Not sure what to tell you. You were very honest about your post, and very realistic. You know the situation well, you are very aware of that this friendship will never be more, or at least what you want from him. Honestly 5 years is a very long... (read in full...)
Should I take a stand? It seems like she overreacted.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for three-years. Although about three-months ago, she had to move to Salt Lake City for her family (her mom is sick and she needed to be there for her). I was fine with it, even though I live in Portland ...
A. 14 October 2011: Hi, I am sorry you are sick in the wrong time... I understand your girlfriend, She was so excited to see you after so long, and she's sad, disappointed, heartbroken, specially because it's the anniversary day. She's being a little selfish, but it's... (read in full...)
How do I get past my strong feelings for her because she's married?
Q. I wrote a couple weeks ago about this girl whose married and have pretty much been having an emotional affair with. Her husband was out of town this week for business and I spent 5 days at her house with her. It was pretty much a nonstop party for ...
A. 14 October 2011: Hi lonelyguywb,
I know this is a difficult situation, you never plan this to happen, but here you are, and you just have to accept reality. I am glad that you are being strong, and I like the way you are handling the situation. Keep in touch, but ... (read in full...)
How do I get past my strong feelings for her because she's married?
Q. I wrote a couple weeks ago about this girl whose married and have pretty much been having an emotional affair with. Her husband was out of town this week for business and I spent 5 days at her house with her. It was pretty much a nonstop party for ...
A. 14 October 2011: Hi,
I felt so sad reading your post. You sound like a great guy... Have morals, character, integrity, and I am so proud to know that you, and your friend did not cross the line. Something that is so easy, but difficult to resist nowdays. It take... (read in full...)
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