How can I tell her in a nice way that I'm no longer interested in her?
Q. Okay so I met this girl the other day at a social event and I got her number. Well we went on a casual date and while everything went great something she did finally made me put two and two together. See I have this friend and you know us guys that ...
A. 31 July 2011: Hi,
So funny...
Nicely, ignore her.. Don't call or ask her out anymore.. But, in case you run into her, be nice, polite, and if she ask you anything about date, feelings, etc, just nicely tell her that you enjoy spending time with her, but that you... (read in full...)
How do you get through those first few days after a break up?
Q. I will keep this short and sweet. Whats the most effective method of mending a broken heart, in the early days when you dont even want to get out of bed and when you feel so low you actually dont know what to do. I know the cliche - time is a good ...
A. 30 July 2011: Hi, I know its hard to let go of someone you love and that was a big part of your life.. But, know that you are not alone and we all been through that, so you'll survive. This person broke your heart, so its normal to feel all these mix emoti... (read in full...)
I've got a grudge holding problem, how can I fix it?
Q. I'm 15, and I have a huge grudge holding problem. I can't help it! I know its wrong and immature, but once i get them, they never go away. I've been told countless times just to let it go but I can't. I feel like I'm "punishing" them for what they ...
A. 30 July 2011: Hi, I am just like you... I know its wrong, immature, but that's our personality. Some people handles bad situations well, some, like us just go nuts... What could be a big deal for us, might mean nothing to them. Everybody have different opinions... (read in full...)
Sad and worried about my marriage
Q. Hi. I have been married for 21 years and my husband is the love of my life. lately though he has been working (from home for ever) and won't do anything at night, besides watch TV. I suggest things to do even free events and he is never up for it. ...
A. 30 July 2011: Hi, In my opinion, I think something is making your husband unhappy and not letting him live life the fullest. Issues about him? Confidence? Depression? Mid-life crisis? I am sure has nothing to do with you or what you are doing. To me, its about hi... (read in full...)
20 year old straight employee got sexually involved with me, took money and favours from me, and now his wife is pregnant and he's changed his job. I feel terribly used, betrayed and hurt
Q. OK, here's one that has to top it all. I am a boss, I met this straight man 20 years old. I am 50. This is so crazy that it is hard to believe it happened. At any rate, I told him about me, and when I did, he said, well anything is possible for ...
A. 30 July 2011: Hi, You are a smart, successful man and I cannot understand why you are letting this feelings control your mind? I understand that you don't choose who to love? However, why do you miss him so much? We all need partners in our lives, but we nee... (read in full...)
My friend is WAY too clingy and is getting on my nerves! What do I do??
Q. Hi, Basically, I have a friend that I've been studying with this past summer, since we are both taking the same summer class. He'd ask me to study a lot, and I would be fine with that at first, since it would force me to study. However, I'm st...
A. 30 July 2011: Hi,
I feel your pain, I know how this could be driving you crazy, but I couldn't help myself but laugh, specially when you told him you need to be somewhere, you were walking fast and he was running after you...
This to me is an innocent pup... (read in full...)
I don't know why I am with her anymore! What should I do?
Q. My gf had a past. she had her ex for 4 yrs. even after being in relationship with me, she cheated me behind my back.she used to enjoy with another guy who was attractive and was her college mate.I made her realise her mistake on time.Now when she ...
A. 29 July 2011: Hi,
The only way you'll start feeling better is to have a honest talk with her... Many will suggest professional help, but if you cannot affort, you need to talk, have her answer all your questions, whatever is inside of you and make her prom... (read in full...)
I cant deal with the fact that my boyfriend of two years suddenly wants to break up with me!
Q. Wednesday night my boyfriend of two years unexpectedly rang me up and asked if we could just be friends because he didn’t want to be in a relationship. I feel like someone ripped my heart out, I haven’t stopped crying since. I love him so much and...
A. 29 July 2011: Hi,
I know exactly how you feel and don't blame you for feeling this way. Just know that we all have been through this pain and it will get better, trust me.
Right now, how you feel is normal. Its overwhelming, having a best friend/boyfr... (read in full...)
I am getting the feeling that he may not want me to come up.
Q. I met this guy online last year. Not only is he 10 years younger but lives 2 hours by plane. Over the past year we have seen each other 3X and continued to chat, etc. We are planning to see each other the August Long Weekend. I am flying out to...
A. 19 July 2011: Hi,
I am going to be brutally honest with you. I don't think he's so much into to you.
I know you've been in contact with him for a year now. During this year, met 3x, which is ok, because both of you have to work, have commitments and obligati... (read in full...)
Can our daughter's possible health problem turn-off my wife's feelings for me and depress her?
Q. Me and my wife married for 10 years, have two kids. Latelly we have observed that our 5 years old daughter have some socilal adoptive problem. She doesn't follow social rules. She doesn't like to play with kids, doesn't follow the reules in class. ...
A. 19 July 2011: Hi,
Yes, the stress can cause your wife to distance herself from you.
Happened to me few years ago, when I lost my job, so I was very stress financially, even though my partner had a good job and was able to provide for both of us. We never ha... (read in full...)
Trapped in a sexless marriage for almost 20 years, wife won't have sex and won't say why she doesn't want to. Should I leave?
Q. I have been with my wife for almost 20 years now. We have had a sexless marriage for most of that time. We were arguing about it even just 1 year into the relationship. It's not that we never, ever have sex, but we go years in-between having i...
A. 19 July 2011: Hi,
I feel your pain and frustration... You have all the right to feel this way. You seem like a very resonable man, very caring, understanding and most importantly, are aware of the problems and is willing to work on this relationship and marr... (read in full...)
I fear that my distrust will show and ruin this relationship, and I don't want that to happen.
Q. Please help me?? Has anyone got any advice for me? I have reached a point in my life, thru previous relationships and so called friends who just used me for their own gain that i am finding it hard to trust anyone i meet to be a genuine person a...
A. 10 July 2011: Hi,
What can you do? Stop living the past.. What happened in the past is far gone, think as a life experience and try to become better person. Don't let selfish people destroy your life and happiness..
I'll tell you, when someone betrays your... (read in full...)
My flatmate is threatening to evict me, I feel hideous because of my terrible ache problem and I have no love life. I just want to crawl into a hole and stick my head in the sand and not come out.
Q. First, thanks loads to anyone reading this. My problem is this: For the last year I've lived in another country. I live with a girl and another guy (they're not a couple) and we're all of different nationalities. They sublet my room to me. The ...
A. 10 July 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you are having a horrible time, specially when none of this is your fault...
Please, acne is normal for your age, also stress can make it worst... I don't know if you have this in your country, but pro-active works well.. Its c... (read in full...)
She is known as a homewrecker.....should I run for the hills?
Q. I've been seeing a woman for the past seven weeks. We get on well and she has all the makings of the type of woman I want to settle down with. She's been hinting at a deeper commitment which I'm all for but there's one obstacle. I found out from ...
A. 9 July 2011: Hi,
Be greatful that you have good friends, that truly care about you...
Pls run as fast as you can and don't look back. Don't fall for her lies and don't feel sorry..
This person you are dating for 7 weeks is not the person you think, sh... (read in full...)
How can I make her believe in me and in us ?
Q. hey,am well im 36 and my girlfriend is 25.She already a single mother of a boy.she was betrayed in the last relationship and the father wanted nothing to do with her son.She is 10 weeks pregnant,and she knew for a few weeks and was afraid to tell me ...
A. 8 July 2011: Hi,
I believe you just answer your own question. Just tell her, how you wrote your story here. That you lover her for her, new baby, stepson... And everything else you wrote here ... Tell her ...its perfect...
Pls, don't say, she needs to giv... (read in full...)
Why do women get involved with married men (or men who are in committed relationships) and stay with them for years together, waiting for "their man" to leave his wife/mate?
Q. Why do women (of all ages)get involved with married men (or men who are in committed relationships) and in some instances stay with them for many, many, years, waiting and hoping for "their man" to leave his wife/mate? Despite you academic success, ...
A. 8 July 2011: Hi, I found out my ex of 10 years cheated on me. It has been 11 mos since the discovery. I tried to understand him, asked questions, but for some reason he cannot be honest with me? I have concrete proof, he told me she knew about me... That's a... (read in full...)
Girls like jerks and reject the nice guys?
Q. I posted this a week ago but didn't get any replies. So I am trying again today cause I want some advise. I m really down. After being dumped by my gf of 4 years for another guy 5 months ago and after most of the healing process, when I tried to ...
A. 4 July 2011: Hi, I am going to be honest with you... I am sorry that your ex-girlfriend of 4 years have broken up with you... The truth is that, sometimes people fall in love and fall out of love. It has nothing to do with you, if you've done anything wrong, e... (read in full...)
She has my shoulder to cry on but I'm afraid she'll go back to her ex
Q. i met this girl and is in love with her but we're just friends, we have been friends for quite some time. she had a bf when i met her and now they broke up few weeks ago. we talk a lot and lent her my shoulder to cry on. problem is, i really want to ...
A. 4 July 2011: Hi,
You should wait... When? Until your friend start feeling better. Right now its not the right time and break ups are hard to go through..
Remember, there's a reason why they broke up! I am sure she's not in love with him, but the attachment i... (read in full...)
Does deleted message from my wife phone mean anything?
Q. A year ago there was this guy whom my wife befriended. She said he told he he love her but she declined his broposal. I told her to cut her cuntact with him to help him to deal with it and she agreed. But they kept texting since then. Yesterday ...
A. 4 July 2011: Hi,
I am sorry your wife is making you feel this way... So stupid, right?
NO, you are not overreacting! You as a husband, have the right to feel this way and to be angry. I respect the fact that she admitted about this guy, but I have to agre... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in my marriage and am just trying to keep peace
Q. I am having a big problem that has to do with trust. I discovered in March that my husband had an emotional affair for the 3rd time in 13 years of marriage. We separated briefly (2 months) and then reconciled. I agreed to recon mainly for the ...
A. 4 July 2011: Hi,
I know exactly how you feel and you have all the rights in the wrold to feel this way. You haven't done anything wrong.. And this is really unfair...
I've been w/my bestfriend/partner for 10 years. Last aug 2010 discovered that he was seein... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend ashamed of me?
Q. Well ive been with my girlfriend for about 3 years, it's weird she never brings me around her house, never wants to have sex It comes to a point were I have to literally ask her if we are ever gonna have sex or not.. Its sad She broke up with me...
A. 3 July 2011: Hi, I don't understand why you feel this way? NO, she's not ashamed of you... Sorry to say, but she's just NOT INTO YOU. I don't want to hurt you, but she's clearly using you, not sure, but do uou buy her things, give her money? Common, you sound... (read in full...)
I have problems getting on with other women!
Q. I have a major issue which has been bothering me for a while and honest brutal answers would be much appreciated. I am a 30 year old woman. I am good looking, I take care of my body, eat well and believe in being the best that I can be. I am ...
A. 2 July 2011: Hi, I am happy that you are such a successful, smart woman. The truth is jealousy... Its hard to find real friends. True friends will care, love, support you and be happy for your success. The fact that you have to think and act certain w... (read in full...)
Why can't my husband handle his money? what could be causing these problems?
Q. Hi people, my husband and I have been married for 4 years now and I can't seem to understand him financially. I go to work and so does he. We have split house responsibilities and I always take care of my part. Thing is he asks me for money which ...
A. 2 July 2011: Hi, I understand how frustrating must be for you, and its very unfair that he gets mad at you and gives you the silence treatment. I think that getting mad at each other won't solve the problems. You've been married for 4 years now, so I feel that ... (read in full...)
We both got totally drunk and my wife was lying naked next to another guy!
Q. I went with my wife to a party this past weekend and we got completely wasted, neither of us remember the later parts of the night. But all I know is that when I woke up my wife was nowhere near me. When I looked around the house for her, I found ...
A. 2 July 2011: Hi, I don't think you and your wife have alcohol problems. As long as you don't drink mornings? Everyday? (If so YES, seek professional help, for your own health), but if occasionally, its ok, but drink responsibly. I just think you both made a ... (read in full...)
BF is lying to me and using my money!
Q. i became close friends with a guy 3 years ago and helped him loads, financially and wih work. hes always told white lies but thryve become black lies. for example 3 weeks ago he asked me to check his resume on his email and i did but also noticed ...
A. 2 July 2011: Hi, If you are helping him every month, that means you're making good money? You have enough to support yourself and help this guy. I know you are a good woman for helping a friend and not even expecting money back. Really, when it comes to mone... (read in full...)
My ex told my sister she misses me but she has never called
Q. I have broken up with my ex fiance about a year ago to date, it was a tough break up for me i moved to Los Angeles from Chicago to be with her and being here alone has been hard. Basically the reason she broke up with me was because of my immaturity ...
A. 30 June 2011: Hi,
Its very simple...
You both made your mistakes and learned from it. Its the past...
What matters now is that, you both are still single. I believe in second chances and its very possible that right now it can be better than ever. You both h... (read in full...)
Should I accept these gig tickets from her ex?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for about 1.5 years, we live close and spend about 5 days a week together. For the first 6 to 8 months of the relationship it was very difficult mainly because I found she used to bring up her ex everyday, obviou...
A. 29 June 2011: Hi,
So far you've been an amazing boyfriend and both of you are lucky to have each other. After a 5 years relationship, it takes time to move on, the love is not the problem, (I am pretty sure she loves you only), but more so the attachment and the ... (read in full...)
I'm 14, he's 21. Can we take this relationship any further?
Q. so i met this guy on the spot (a dating site on the ipod touch) and we've been talking,video chatting, and texting for 2 months now. well, 2 weeks after we started talking, he told me that he was 21 and in the airforce. the problem is, im 14. he ...
A. 29 June 2011: Hi,
I am sure you're a good person, but its hard not to get upset? Really? Then, I remind myself that you're 14 years old? So I should shut up and be kind, because it would be very rude and I'll be a big hypocrite trying to have an argument with... (read in full...)
I have noticed some changes in her, what could be the reason?
Q. I met her in the internet since 10 months ago , we live so far away from each others , we clicked so fast , and we felt we should meet up , prior to that we felt love but we wanted to see if that's real or not , we met after 3 months of chatting in ...
A. 29 June 2011: Hi,
You did the right thing, asking her what was wrong? But, I don't feel like she was completely honest with you.
I understand that so far everything was great. You have a mental, physical connection. Many things in commom and the conversation... (read in full...)
How can a guy be so selfish and hurt me so much?
Q. Why would guy be so selfish and hurt me so much:(? Am fuming!! I loved my ex boyfriend so much. I thoight we were in love and had a deep meaningful relationship, but he was faking it all the while! He dumped me saying he doesn't want a r...
A. 29 June 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you're so angry (rightfully so) and feeling this way. My dear, you're not the only one who's been cheated on..we all have our personal stories and experiences. Believe me... They're all the same story, same lies, same betrayal, same... (read in full...)
My troubled circumstances have been preventing me from dating and making friends.....
Q. Hey everyone, I am a 22 year old man with some very serious social issues despite the fact that I have been very successful otherwise. although this may be extremely hard to believe [it is for myself quite often] but I have never dated, hugged, h...
A. 27 June 2011: Honestly..
I feel very sorry that you had to go through so many bad experiences in life in such a young age. The pain, the suffering, the memories will never be erase from your mind, but its up to you to learn how to survive. Its hard, you migh... (read in full...)
I am in a great relationship, but have met someone else who is amazing, what should I do?
Q. I've been in a successful relationship for almost 2 years. It's been perfect, we both love each other dearly, we spend more than 5 hours daily together (be it physically (when possible) or via phone, skpy, etc.). Honestly, it's even better than ...
A. 27 June 2011: I don't understand why are you so defensive with the answers people gave you? You said it yourself that you don't want to end with your current gf and don't want to loose the new woman? What do you expect people to tell you? YES! Go ahead date ... (read in full...)
Struggling with pornography addiction, can you suggest a solution?
Q. I've come here a few times.. usually to answer questions but I've asked a few as well. I've found this to be a very caring site and I trust the advice here. I've had a fairly long-term struggle with pornography throughout my life. Ever since an ol...
A. 24 June 2011: Hi,
Honestly, I don't think you actually have an addiction to porn.
You're in that age that you're very hormonial, don't you think so? Isn't normal for a guy your age to think about sex frequently? This is all new to you and I am sure you hav... (read in full...)
He has been cheating the entire time with a girl online! Should I break up with him? Or forgive him and trust that he wants me, not her?
Q. Totally shattered. Please read - I have been with my boyfriend since one year. All the relationships I've been in before, the guys cheated on me. I was emotionally vulnerable when I met my present boyfriend, we had common friends. Both of us a...
A. 24 June 2011: Hi,
Sorry... I know what you're going through for my own experience.
I know it all, felt, deal with it, roller coaster emotions, anger, sadness, anxiety, crying, confusion, you named it.
This is a different situation? This girl is living ... (read in full...)
She created a fake Facebook account and now it has all blown up in her face! What should I say to her?
Q. Hi! I have a problem that I'm really hoping some of you could help. You see, my best friend who also happens to be my super huge crush has fallen head over heels for one of my friends. Yes, I was a little sad, but I got over it. After a few ...
A. 24 June 2011: You are a good friend and did everything you could to stop her and make her understand that this is wrong.
There's absolutely nothing to say, she needs to be responsible for her actions and hopefully she'll learn from this.
**you're a go... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to work out if I still love my boyfriend because of the way he treats me.....
Q. After years with my boyfriend, I am struggling to try and work out If I really do love him. The trouble is, he treated me so bad in the past, worse than anyone I have ever been out with. When I first met him, I Was in a terrible position, I was ...
A. 24 June 2011: Hi,
Rescuer couldn't said any better. I agree with her and I hope this give you the strengh to make the right decision and to step to a new life and new beginnings.
I am sorry that you have been through such a hard times and life hasn't been ... (read in full...)
Is there something going on with this so called friend of his? I made fun of her on Facebook and now my boyfriend is mad, should I take all the blame?
Q. There is this girl that I hate very much... I met her a year ago in not so pleasant incident. She is a friend of my bf but it all started when I found out that she has been flirting with my bf for a long time and I wasn't aware of it. Early last ...
A. 24 June 2011: Hi,
Let's say that it was wrong of you to make fun on her, that was not the right way to go about, but I don't blame you...
This girl is so rude and disrespectful. This has been going on for more than a year and its enough.. (I know you're alrea... (read in full...)
My husband has just gone into a home and I am missing company from the opposite sex. Is it possible to have a male friend whilst being broken hearted over my husband?
Q. I have just recently put my husband into a nursing home and i am just one year retired. I have been his advocate for various health issues for 15 yrs. (HE is 71 AND I AM 63) I AM in my early 60s not looking for a mate just get togethers with the ...
A. 24 June 2011: Hi,
Sorry that your husband have been dealing with health issues for so long. I hope he starts feeling better and comfortable.
You've been a wonderful, loyal, caring wife. You also have been a wonderful mother, have raised healthy children and... (read in full...)
Broken up with bf, and betrayed by friends. How do I overcome the sadness and loneliness?
Q. I am feeling really hurt and down. My bf and I broke up and it was my fault because I lied and probably hurt him. I guess as a result ppl started choosing sides. He is fun, and 'cool' and very popular. He is outgoing and I am shy and kind of ...
A. 24 June 2011: Hey, its me again :-)
Forgot to mention about this girl that started the rumors?
Well, let me tell you.. She's doing all this because she's jealous of you.. Not talking about physically, but she likes your ex-boyfriend and she's doing whatever... (read in full...)
Broken up with bf, and betrayed by friends. How do I overcome the sadness and loneliness?
Q. I am feeling really hurt and down. My bf and I broke up and it was my fault because I lied and probably hurt him. I guess as a result ppl started choosing sides. He is fun, and 'cool' and very popular. He is outgoing and I am shy and kind of ...
A. 24 June 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you had to go through a horrible experience in such a young age. Specially at your age, you feel vulnerable, because this is when you're becoming a young adult.
Unfortunately, betrayal at your age group happens often, because you ... (read in full...)
Parasite Girlfriend is running me dry. What can I do?
Q. HELP!!!!! I am in a relationship with a girl I live with and have been dating for 2 years. Ever since I met her I have been paying all her bills. You name it I pay for everything...cell phone, car payment, rent, clothing, food, child support ...
A. 24 June 2011: What kind of question is this?
Its ok when a man takes care of the wife or girlfriend, but I don't understand why you have to pay for everything? Why can't she work and share the bills with you?
You're in the middle 30's and I assume she's about ... (read in full...)
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