I've done it again, put my life on hold for another man
Q. I've done it again, put my life on hold for another man What's it all about, this dating stuff? I don't call him ever, new rule for me, he calls once a week to hook up. It's all very very good stuff, but now I find myself lost in the newness, ...
A. 14 January 2012: Hi msIntegrity,
I am so happy to hear that you are doing better and that you both decided to give the relationship a new chance. Why not? If he's willing to compromise I don't see why not give another chance. I am just happy that you took hand... (read in full...)
He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 30 November 2011: Hi,
I know he will change. He's with you this long, so he does care about you and your children. There's hope... As long as he's not physically, and emotionally abuse to you and the children, everything is possible. Be strong, be calm, be plea... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him?
Q. Should i break up witih him? We met on the internet. He tried to have sex with me on the first date. we've been together for 1 and 1/2 yrs 1) He cheated on me. a) with a girl he met on the bus, he told me its because he thinks i am unfaithful...
A. 28 November 2011: Hi Lively,
I know you've been together for 1 1/2 years, but seems like he's not ready to be committed to you? He cheats on you, when you guys fight, he goes to dating site immediately? I know you love him, and you want to stay with him, but he's... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him?
Q. Should i break up witih him? We met on the internet. He tried to have sex with me on the first date. we've been together for 1 and 1/2 yrs 1) He cheated on me. a) with a girl he met on the bus, he told me its because he thinks i am unfaithful...
A. 27 November 2011: Hi,
You should absolutely end with this guy!!!! No questions!!!
He's immature, selfish, and have self esteem problems. He's dishonest, and clearly he's not ready to be in a committed relationship. I know you have known him 11/2 years, but he shoul... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend broke up with me two months ago and he's already seeing someone else
Q. My ex dumped me barely two months ago. I am still in love with him, but have just found out that he is going to ask another girl out, and that he has found someone else. It felt like my heart just got broken again. How do I move past this? ...
A. 27 November 2011: Hi, If he has found someone so soon, that means he never loved you in the first place. I don't know why he broke up with you, but if he really care about you, even if you are no longer together, it's "impossible" to get over someone you truly ca... (read in full...)
Three year LDR. It's not working. Should I tell him how I am feeling now, or wait until I get back?
Q. Ive been with my long distance partner for 3 years. I am travelling overseas and planning to live with him when I get back. But I don't believe in our relationship anymore. I care for him and want him to be happy. I do love him, but we have bare...
A. 26 November 2011: Hi, Just wait 3 weeks until you come back. I do agree with you that you've invested 3 years to be with him. But, you also brought up very important points, that shouldn't be taking lightly. 1) you want to travel, live in different countries. He'... (read in full...)
I've been a supportive husband to my EXTREMELY accident-prone wife-what are my options in this situation?
Q. In 15 years of marriage,( second marriage for both of us ), my wife has been sick or injured more times than I can count. Car wrecks, falling down stairs, back injuries, broken legs, hips, collar bones, arms, wrists, and even a concusion that res...
A. 26 November 2011: Hi, You are an amazing husband... You've been through so much, and never said a bad word about your wife. It's just unfortunate situations, and your poor wife has no fault at all. As much as you love your wife dearly, I feel that you are not happ... (read in full...)
How can I avoid an Arranged Marriage? I do not wish it to go ahead. What should be my actions and behaviour in this situation?
Q. I am getting married as per my parents wish to a guy who is a liar, unattractive, no mannerisms, hypocrite, etc. Worst I get shivering spine when I think I will have to go to bed with him, for which he is eagerly waiting. He thinks himself very ove...
A. 26 November 2011: Hi, If you feel this strong about this arrange marriage, if you cannot accept him, you must talk to your parents immediately.... You cannot allow this, and will destroy your life. You need to explain to your parents how you feel about him... Y... (read in full...)
How did he get over our relationship so quickly ? He broke off with me and three weeks later was in a new relationship.
Q. i was in a relationship for a year with a guy that i was sure i was going to marry. we were talking about getting engaged and looking at rings and everything.well,about 6 months into the relationship,we started arguing about different issu...
A. 26 November 2011: Hi, I know this is not what you want to hear, but you need to be strong, and move forward with your life. He's already in a relationship, and although they have been together in a short period of time, she has already met his family, so I am guess... (read in full...)
Caught between two friends
Q. Dear agony aunts I have a huge problem.I was recently going through sum heavy things at home.my mom broke her leg in 2 places due 2 old age,so I have been taking care of her every need,then within a 2 weeks of that my sister had kidney faillure ...
A. 26 November 2011: Hi, I am sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. You are good person, and I am sure you know that it was wrong to get involved with the 1st man that had a girlfriend. Good thing is that you have already ended. It's very easy,... (read in full...)
He moves on to new woman so easily! Am I being unfair to feel he led me on only to drop me again?
Q. To all those people out in the world, that gift their time to answer our problems.... I thank you! I would be so grateful for opinions on my situation. My partner of 4 years and I split up six months ago, because I found he had been lying and I co...
A. 26 November 2011: Hi, Sorry that you are hurting now. I know that 4 years is a long time, and it's not easy to let go. I respect the fact that he confessed all the lies, that proves that he's regretful and willing to work on your relationship. What I don't unde... (read in full...)
Unexpected feelings have hit me hard!
Q. Ok, my neighbor girl basically pursued me, I felt no attraction of any sort for her in the beginning(except for she was hot), but her persistence, and her cute way, eventually started getting to me without me even knowing, she is 20, im 34, she is ...
A. 25 November 2011: Hi DeadEyeDick,
It's very easy. When she comes back, you should talk to her. Tell her that after she was gone, you realize how much you care for her, and that you would like to continue seeing her exclusively. After that, it's up to her. About th... (read in full...)
Why would a woman refuse to do a DNA test to prove to him that he is the father, if she was certain that he was the father?
Q. I had a friend ask me for advice and I was just wondering if I can some other people's ideas before giving him any advice. My friend had a one night stand with a girl (I know for certain it was not a relationship, just a once off) anyway a few ...
A. 25 November 2011: Hi,
Thank God!!
Tell your friend to be careful next time.... Use protection, and be careful because there are many crazy girls out there like this last one... ... (read in full...)
Unexpected feelings have hit me hard!
Q. Ok, my neighbor girl basically pursued me, I felt no attraction of any sort for her in the beginning(except for she was hot), but her persistence, and her cute way, eventually started getting to me without me even knowing, she is 20, im 34, she is ...
A. 24 November 2011: Hi DeadEyeDick,
If you have the chance to talk to her, ask her out, do so.....
Age should never be a problem. It all depends on the person. If you both get along, make each other happy, that's all that matters. Next time, do not over think too mu... (read in full...)
Why does she behave this way towards me? What is going through her mind?
Q. A girl am not fond of and a girlfriend to my friend usually like looking at me whenever am beside her and even though certain times i do offend her she would swear not to talk to me me any longer but still when am beside her she looks at me. even ...
A. 24 November 2011: Hi Erico,
Nobody can say for sure what she thinks about you, or what are her intensions. I think he might have a little crush on you. But, I do not want to give you false hope. She's reserve in regards to dating, so of course she will deny her... (read in full...)
Could use a little advice on what to do after my first date...
Q. So had a really awesome first date with a very pretty girl that I met online last night. Honestly a little out of my league, but I am very into her. I'm just being real here that I am fit, have a great job, witty, confident, etc... but I am balding ...
A. 24 November 2011: Hi,
So far, so good. You have nothing to worry about....
Definitely send her a message:
* wish her happy thanksgiving
* wish her a good trip
* tell her you had a great time meeting her
* looking forward to see her when she comes back
B... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't trust me because of his ex who messed with his head! What can I do?
Q. heyy, i was wondering if you could help me out with something i love my boyfriend more then anything in the world. he's the best thing that ever happened to me..but we've hit a ditch in the road you might say. He doesnt trust me and i didnt do ...
A. 24 November 2011: Hi,
He has been hurt deeply in the past. This experience clearly affected him, and now he has trust issues. The only thing you can do is, be supportive of him. Do not judge, or criticize him. When he's having his doubts, comfort him. Give him... (read in full...)
She has asked for a break, does this mean she is cheating?
Q. When your partner lies and hides things from you and all of a sudden ask for a break with the excuse that she needs time to let go of the fact that I cheated 3 years ago and now she's asking me for time. Does that means she's cheating on me? She ...
A. 24 November 2011: Hi,
You have not giving us enough details to confirm is she's cheating on you or not? Could be many reasons why she asked you for a break?
Maybe:
1) she really needs time apart?
2) she doesn't feel the same about the relationship, having dou... (read in full...)
Have I hurt the guy I liked? How would I know if he is still interested?
Q. I work in a large factory with many different departments. I am now in an office (within factory floors) but was previously just one of the normal labourers….which is where I met this guy. He isn’t from the UK like me and his English really i...
A. 24 November 2011: Hi,
I think that the older guy that you like had a little crush on you, but because the younger guy hugs you, and jokes with you the guy that you like thinks you have mutual feelings for the younger guy, because you allow him to continue his beha... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend cheating on me ?
Q. So recently my girlfriend received a text message from an unsaved number. I told her to respond to it and she did it very hesitantly. She responded who is this. I then asked her to turn on her on sound because i was suspicious. So we were on the bed ...
A. 21 November 2011: Hi Bowz3r,
Hard to give you a straight answer when you don't have any proof. If this is all you have, NO, I don't think your girlfriend is cheating on you. To me, maybe she was acting little nervous about the mysterious text, and hesitant when you... (read in full...)
He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 21 November 2011: Hi,
You are a very good mother. I am sure he will change, hopefully, and let's pray.... I have to agree with you when you made the comment about spending money on himself, but hesitant when it comes to the kids. it's strange to me that I pare... (read in full...)
He's ok till we are with others then he starts to get weird and doesn't trust me!
Q. I have been seeing a very nice guy for about a month now. Fell in love and everything is perfect when we are alone together, but the moment we are in a group with friends its almost as if he gets very insecure abut us. He tells me I look around at ...
A. 21 November 2011: Hi, Talk to your partner, and tell him that this is making you unhappy. Explain to him that you love him, that he has nothing to worry about. Besides that, tell him that you never did, or never will cheat on him. Tell him, instead of getting upset... (read in full...)
I was sent to a department to help out but the two women already there are making it hell for me!
Q. Ok so I know this has nothing to do with love but this is a work sitution in which I really need some help with. So around 2/3 months ago I was taken from one department and put into another to train up how they work in their office as right ...
A. 21 November 2011: Hi, I am sorry, I've been through a similar situation myself, I understand how you feel. Just know that no matter where you go, there will always be someone like that, giving you hard time. They don't like you, because they are jealous that you are ... (read in full...)
So lost and hurt after discovering my boyfriend has been sleeping with some of his female friends
Q. What do I do? i love him so much but i'm so lost and hurt. I found out recently my bf has been sleeping with one of his friends since we got together and then found out he recently had a threesome with two of his other female friends. That and ...
A. 21 November 2011: Hi, I am just as confused as you are? His behavior shows that he's not ready for a serious committed relationship. By him sleeping around with other women, means he doesn't respect you, or care about your feelings. Not sure? Does he knows t... (read in full...)
Does he mean we aren't serious or what?
Q. I've been seeing Mr X for a month now and as of thus weekend still never asked what he wants/is looking for. But he lately seems to be pulling away a bit. Yesterday I called him on it and said I just dont know what's going on with us and that I ...
A. 21 November 2011: Hi, I think he meant that you shouldn't worry too much. I think he's happy with you, and he wants to continue the relationship. Do not over think too much, analyze too much. You mentioned you both know each other for years, but understand that it ... (read in full...)
After my past experiences now I hate women!
Q. I have a really good relationship with my mother and sister so I was raised on the belief that women were wonderful creatures. My dad was a junkie and in 2007 it was his undoing. So in reality, I should respect women..HOWEVER.. I have been wit...
A. 21 November 2011: Hi Cultuz, Just know that what happened is in the past. You are only human, and you made your mistakes. You need time to heal... Try everything to let this anger out of you. I am glad that you realize you were living a bad life, and now you are ... (read in full...)
I dont' want to waste my time with the wrong man
Q. Hi I'm a single mum of 2 beautiful children under 5 and last September I met a wonderful man online. The relationship has been great, he's amazing with my children and I love him with all my heart...but I can't shake this feeling something isn't ...
A. 20 November 2011: Hi, I am going to be brief, because many people gave you very good advice. I hope you read each one of them, and consider seriously to take a step for your own life. You are very young, and still have a whole life ahead. I am really sorry to hear ... (read in full...)
Can you really just be friends with your Ex?
Q. My ex and I said when it ended that we wanted to remain friends. For the most part, we are. We keep in touch, and see each other now and then. My problem is, every now and then, we have these "moments" together. We end up in a place where I see it ...
A. 20 November 2011: Hi, Friends with ex? Yes! But, I don't think you are ready to be friends only. If this is hurting you more and more. If you are having "the moments" that means you are not over your ex-girlfriend, so therefore, you are not ready to be her friend... (read in full...)
Whats the meaning of a break?
Q. What's the meaning of a break, time, space,? Does that mean its over? my girl asked me for time to find herself and see if she can let go of the past and reallu for give me for cheating and lying, but yet we live together and she still wants me in ...
A. 20 November 2011: Hi,
Depends:
If the relationship is fairly new, don't know each other well, it could be a way to politely end...
If you are together for a while, know each other well, have history. Means, she's hurt, angry, and need time alone. I think this ... (read in full...)
Does his email sound genuine?
Q. I met this guy online and I really like him. -I am aware from the very beginning that he is trying to finish his PhD dissertation, and I know it can get very stressful. He used to write me about twice every week, but lately he just does it once ...
A. 20 November 2011: Hi,
I think he's being honest, and genuine. The problem is, you've known him only a month. Also, it's hard to care, develop feelings for someone you have never met?
The truth is, when you meet people online, it takes time to develop any kind of ... (read in full...)
If a girl has kissed say 12-13 guys in two months, what kind of girl does that make her? Would you want to get involved with her?
Q. If a girl has kissed say 12-13 guys in just about two months, what kind of girl does that make her? Would you want to get involved with this girl, or is it better to not go there? I ask because I met a girl who I got talking to in a club and I ask...
A. 20 November 2011: Hi,
I agree, it doesn't matter what she did in the past. What matters is how she's with you now. Before you start judging her, get to know her better. Do not waste your time thinking about those things, instead put your energy in having fun, enjo... (read in full...)
My wife is so crazily jealous about my ex that it is ruining our marriage!
Q. My wife (Erin) is super jealous of my ex girlfriend (Maggie). Erin thinks Maggie is super hot, popular, totally unstable, etc. The thing is though, she's mediocre looking and is a total loser; while Erin is at least a 9/10 and the most attractive ...
A. 20 November 2011: Hi, This is so bizarre? Why is your wife behaving this way? Did you give her reason to feel this way? What I don't understand is, why is your wife friend's with your ex? Seems to me that for some reason, she's obsessed with your ex, and her be... (read in full...)
After my past experiences now I hate women!
Q. I have a really good relationship with my mother and sister so I was raised on the belief that women were wonderful creatures. My dad was a junkie and in 2007 it was his undoing. So in reality, I should respect women..HOWEVER.. I have been wit...
A. 20 November 2011: Hi, Very simple. There's nothing wrong with you. The problem is that you are hanging out with the wrong people. Not all women are whores, and they don't "f" everything that moves. If your friends party 24/7, that's wrong. I know young people like... (read in full...)
What does it mean when he says he has his walls up?
Q. What does it mean when a guy says he has his walls up?...
A. 20 November 2011: Hi, Walls up? Means: He's protecting himself. Maybe, something happened to him in the past to make him feel this way? He's probably not sure about the relationship? Did you give him any reason to not trust you? Insecurity / lack of trust ... (read in full...)
We started out great, then the fighting started and now I don't know what we are!
Q. I met this girl a few weeks back and we had an instant connection. Things moved very quickly and rapidly and we spent practically every day together from there on out. The first two weeks were incredible. We got along amazing! Then we hit this brick ...
A. 20 November 2011: Hi,
Before you make any decisions, I think it's best to talk to her and try to solve the problems. It's hard to give you an advice if this relationship is salvageable, because you didn't specify the problem? You've mentioned ex? Is she still in cont... (read in full...)
She isn't good for me and I want to (politely) move on
Q. Hi this is my first time on this site. I am feeling quite confused and depressed. I am in love with a girl, i think shes my best friend or im hers i dont know, but anyway, I get the feeling she only talks to me if she needs help with something or if ...
A. 19 November 2011: Hi,
You are mentally well. You are not the problem, she is. To be honest, I think she thinks of you as a friend, because she knows you like her, and you are always available to her whenever she wants.
You don't need to be polite. Just tell he... (read in full...)
How do I overcome my boyfriends past behaviour and gain my confidence back, should I stay or go?
Q. Hello everyone, I would really appreciate some advice off both men and women please, I desperatly need help of some sort, as much as possible please. I am a 22 year old woman, my boyfriend is 32, I have been with him near 4 years now. He is my fi...
A. 19 November 2011: Hi, I am sorry he has made you feel this way. It's really crazy that someone will say such things to the one they love. When he met you, he knew how you look, so if he had a problem, or there was something he didn't like about you, he shouldn'... (read in full...)
Is he hiding something? Weekends he seems to disappear? Why?
Q. Dear cupid, I met this guy 3 weeks back in a dinner and we instantly liked each other. we exchanged numbers and he texted me the same night. We're in touch on a daily basis,we talk about how much we like each other and that we're both single. he'...
A. 19 November 2011: Hi,
I cannot say for sure, but I think he has someone besides you. It doesn't make sense to disappear 3 days? It doesn't make sense he cannot reply your text within a reasonable amount of time.
I have to agree with you, it has been only 3 weeks... (read in full...)
I want to ask her to marry me - but not for 2 years. Is this acceptalbe?
Q. Hi, i've been into this relationship for over two years now and am planing to engage her with a ring and marry her like next 2years.i realy love her and am ready to settle down with her.But am not yet ready to get married now until next 2years,but i ...
A. 19 November 2011: Hi,
Yes, it's right.
I think it's important to share you plans with her. Tell her how you feel, I am sure she will agree with you, as long as you let her know. Honesty is the best thing in a relationship. I think that 2 years is pretty fair. Yo... (read in full...)
I've done it again, put my life on hold for another man
Q. I've done it again, put my life on hold for another man What's it all about, this dating stuff? I don't call him ever, new rule for me, he calls once a week to hook up. It's all very very good stuff, but now I find myself lost in the newness, ...
A. 19 November 2011: Hi, I guess he's one of those people that wants to take things slowly? I don't think that there's nothing wrong with you. I just think that he doesn't want the same things you do. You should never put your life on hold for anyone. You should a... (read in full...)
Broken hearted - Do you think he will change?
Q. im so sad. i just discovered my boyfriend is back emailing this girl i asked him not to. U see shes linked to one of his foreign friends and he met her at an event abroad. i wasnt with him and when he came home he began emailing her. i discovered ...
A. 19 November 2011: Hi, Sorry for your pain. I am going through a similar situation myself. Words cannot describe the pain. The bottom line is, a relationship is nothing without trust. The thing I find it confusing is, why lie? Why keep it a secret, and make you beli... (read in full...)
I really liked him, but after kissing him my attraction and everything towards him has gone! How?
Q. Am I being silly here, I met this guy about three weeks ago and was attracted straight away, we had small talk whenever we saw each other but I didn't really think he liked me. Well last saturday I decided to just talk to him more than small talk ...
A. 18 November 2011: Hi,
After reading your story, I thought it was funny. Not laughing at you, but funny situation. I felt awful feeling this way, it's bad...
I think "caring guy" gave you the best answer. Really, there's no easy way to tell someone you don't li... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend and now so confused after he gave me my first kiss!
Q. hi every one well my story is kinda long so plz try to bear with it and thanks in advance so i am 17 years old a guy and in love with my best guy friend who is 18 i confessed to him last year and rejected me in a very hard way he hurted me so much ...
A. 18 November 2011: Hi,
I enjoy reading your story very much. Finally, something nice to read, no stress, sad story, problems, etc. I can see why he's your best friend, you are so sweet, it's hard not to like you.
It's quite simple why he's behaving this way. St... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 11 months broke up with me out of the blue!
Q. This is bit of a read sorry, but I'd really like some outsider input on this. I guess I now can no longer call him my boyfriend, so my ex, let's call him A, broke up with me tonight. We're both eighteen, he graduates school tomorrow, I grad...
A. 18 November 2011: Hi,
I am sorry you are in pain, and it must be very difficult for you.
Just know that, right now you need to be strong, and accept his decision. At this point there's no much you can do, and begging him to stay together will not solve anything... (read in full...)
Why would a woman refuse to do a DNA test to prove to him that he is the father, if she was certain that he was the father?
Q. I had a friend ask me for advice and I was just wondering if I can some other people's ideas before giving him any advice. My friend had a one night stand with a girl (I know for certain it was not a relationship, just a once off) anyway a few ...
A. 31 October 2011: Hi,
Rather this woman is telling the truth or not, a DNA test is absolutely necessary in this case, specially because it was a one night stand, and because they did not have a relationship, and do not know each other at all.
She has not right to... (read in full...)
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