Am I wrong for taking my daughter away from this cheat or should I try and make it work?
Q. Long story short! I don't know if I can make my relationship work. I feel miserable!!! We have a daughter together she is 1 month and 1 week today, too be honest when I first found out I was pregnant I thought our relationship was going to change ...
A. 8 September 2011: Hi,
Congratulations on your new daughter!!!! Hope she's healthy...
I just want to tell you that you have the right to feel this way. I know when you don't have anybody to talk to, you get confused, specially when he makes you believe that you are ... (read in full...)
I',m upset that I caught my husband with a dirty magagzine
Q. Dear cupid i am married to my husband who i love so much and the other day i called into his work and caught him coming out of the bathroom at work with a dirty mag and i was upset and he was not bothered that i was upset but it made me feel ...
A. 6 September 2011: Hi,
I understand how this upset you, but honestly I think you are making it an issue when it shouldn't be. Of course, people have different opinions, morals, character and standards, but even though you don't understand or approve, above all befo... (read in full...)
Letting go of my abuser
Q. I was in an abusive relationship on and off for 4 years. I am a recovering alcoholic and this man approached me when I was three months sober and he was around 6 years sober. I never knew the relationship was abusive until I was in it on a regular ...
A. 6 September 2011: Hi,
You are very welcome!
I mean every word I said, and I know you will be happy and successful. Like you said, it will only get better for now on. There are reasons why things happen in life. I know that right now it's a difficult time for you,... (read in full...)
Why did he alter the classification of what went on between us after it was over?
Q. I went out with / dated this guy. He used the word "relationship" to describe us at the time and said that's what he considered our affiliation to be... but afterwards he classified it as "hanging out." I heard he told someone else that we "didn't ...
A. 5 September 2011: Hi,
Why do you care what he's doing now?
What matters is that it's over, be glad and grateful that you know what he's really like and that he's no longer part of your life.
You don't need fake people in your life like him. You should actually ... (read in full...)
Letting go of my abuser
Q. I was in an abusive relationship on and off for 4 years. I am a recovering alcoholic and this man approached me when I was three months sober and he was around 6 years sober. I never knew the relationship was abusive until I was in it on a regular ...
A. 5 September 2011: Hi,
Congratulations on being sober. You are a very strong person to overcome this disease and you should be proud of yourself as it's a huge accomplishment. The truth is that we don't choose who to love and we cannot control our hearts. So, don'... (read in full...)
What do I need to do? I'm worried and broken hearted over our falling out. She means so much to me.
Q. my bestfriend for 3yrs. Yet we got into a heated argument over a lie someone else told.. She and I have only slept together 2 times in those 3yrs.As a guy, i have more respect her than that. Yet no matter what i say, she won't believe me. My heart...
A. 5 September 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you are going to so much pain. Specially, when it's not your fault. The best thing to do right now is to give your friend some time apart so she can cool off a bit. Whatever the lie was, she's hurt, confused and angry. Right now, she ... (read in full...)
I've got myself into this mess. I slept with my ex. How do I get over this and move on?
Q. Okay, so I now deserve the stupidest person in the world award. I split up with my ex quite a few months ago. I didn't communicate with him at all after that. I've invested so much time in getting over him (it was my decision to break up, we were...
A. 5 September 2011: Hi,
First things first. The reason you broke up with him was due to false rumors, I am glad you met him to solve this issue, assuring that you were right all along. He realize that you were being honest with him.
Why do you think he doesn't l... (read in full...)
He says I'm immature and selfish. Am I being unreasonable by being upset that his family exclude me from family events but invite his ex?
Q. Hi. I have been involved with my boyfriend for 13 years now and we have one child. He has been divorced for the past 14 years. The problem is his ex wife. My boyfriend has refused to marry me in the past citing his family doesn't like me. Aft...
A. 5 September 2011: Hi,
I just want to tell you that you have all the right to feel angry and jealous. But, reality is that his family don't accept you, and if after 13 years they haven't change, I don't think they ever will. This is unfair and very sad because it's... (read in full...)
My mom is having an affair with her married boss!
Q. Hi readers, I'm typing this, hoping to seek great advice from anybody/everybody. I am 19yrs. old, living with my little brother and mother. My parents are separated. My father does not live with us, although he does live fairly close to us. M...
A. 5 September 2011: Hi,
I felt so sad reading your column. You are so young to be dealing with this kind of situation. As you know all so well, when parents separate or divorce not only affect them, but the whole family, including the children. I feel so sorry for ... (read in full...)
Don't want to do anything stupid. Should I tell my "friend" that I like his girlfriend, but I'm not going to act on my feelings?
Q. so im in love with my "friend's" girlfriend and have been since february. I just want to be with her so much and everytime i speak or talk to her i just want to kiss her. we are quite good friends and talk very often. we text and facebook. i told...
A. 5 September 2011: Hi,
Depends on how much you care about your "friend" because if you do feel him, most likely you will loose his friendship ..... Also, caringguy is right!
Good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm newly single. Should I wait in case my ex and I can get back together? Or go with this new girl now?
Q. I have been in love with this girl for five years, and now she has left me saying she can no longer take the fights we generally have. And so i let her go thinking she might really be facing real trouble. And i wasn't even thinking of anyt...
A. 5 September 2011: Hi,
Sorry about your recent break up. I know that you were together for 5 years and that's a long time. Honestly, if you already have feelings for a new girl, your heart beats fast, I guess you are not in love with your ex-girlfriend anymore. I th... (read in full...)
Will this couple make it? Interested in your opinion, in view of their myriad of differences?
Q. I'm asking this question purely out of curiosity. What are the chances of a couple (one of them being a relative of mine) making their relationship work the second time around if she ended the relationship the first time because her bf tried to ...
A. 5 September 2011: Hi,
I don't know why? But, nowdays relationships are so hard to maintain. We live in a different time now, where women are successful and independent. Men and women cheat. We have Internet, cell phone, so many ways to meet people, lie, etc. So, even... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much from him? five years into our relationship and still he remains at the beck and call of his ex and others.
Q. I have been in a relationship with my partner for over 5 years. Lots of difficulties have came from his ex wife, daughter, his mother and his mother's friend. I have struggled to understand why. I can see clearly now that these 4 women have had ...
A. 5 September 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you have to deal with your boyfriends problems. It's not fair to you, because it's not your fault and you never have done anything to these 4 women. Unfortunately, this is how your boyfriend is as a person, that's what he's to thes... (read in full...)
My first husband was a liar and it seems my current one is too
Q. I am in my second marriage of 2 years. My first marriage ended because I could no longer trust my ex-husband after a series of his repeated lies about numerous things - many involving money. I have caught my second husband in 3 "major" lies. Th...
A. 1 September 2011: Hi, I agree with basschick 100%. Your husband wouldn't have to worry about hurting you if he wasn't doing anything wrong. Why lie in the first place, right? You did the right thing doing therapy with him, but if that hasn't help or change him I do... (read in full...)
Is this a reason to breakup again? Is a rebound relationship after breaking up really cheating once the former relationship resumes after a break?
Q. I lately found out that my boyfriend of 4 years has been cheating on me for a whole year with many other girls. When the truth came out, he asked me not to leave him and pleaded for 3 months to take him back and bought me many gifts to win my love ...
A. 27 August 2011: Hi,
First of all, I want to let you know that you haven't done anything wrong and it was not cheating. It happened during a break up period of time, at that time you were free woman.
If you should break up over your boyfriend reaction, on... (read in full...)
I cant get myself to break up with my nightmare of a BF!
Q. What should I do with my life? I feel I have a boyfriend who doesn't deserve me. He has cheated on me with many women but I still gave him a chance, but he continues to treat me very badly and I just cannot pucker up the courage to break up. What...
A. 27 August 2011: Hi,
Cheating is one of the most painful experience one can go through besides death. I understand the fact that you forgive him, gave him another chance. I don't judge you, blame you for give him another chance, because we are all humans and some... (read in full...)
He's in jail for life, and he's telling me to cut contact. How can I deal with my strong feelings for him?
Q. I'm in love with a man who is incarcerated. I met him through a pen pal service which asks for people on the outside, like myself to write to prisoners. To be on the safe side, I picked a man who was doing life without the possibility of p...
A. 27 August 2011: Hi,
I am really sorry that you are in love with a man that will never be free. I know you had good intensions and never meant to fall in love. Love is the only beautiful natural talent that a human posses and you never deserve to feel hurt by givi... (read in full...)
We only see each other once a week, but she calls me clingy. I buy her everything, but she says I never take care of her. Is she using me?
Q. so me and my girlfriend have been fighting for the past two weeks. She keeps telling me im clingy, and she needs space, and i only see her once a week, so i dont understand how im being clingy. another thing iv noticed is i pay for everything. i pay ...
A. 25 August 2011: Hi, Please, do yourself a favor and stay away from your girlfriend and find someone that will respect you and appreciate you. Is she using you? YES! Is she selfish and rude? YES! Why are you with someone like that? If you love her? Why? She'... (read in full...)
How do you recover when being traded for another person?
Q. Hey all, I have a pretty interesting problem. So my ex left me last year and two weeks later was in a relationship with her new boyfriend. Suffice to say that entire experience stung and hurt me in ways that I could never even imagine. Fast forward ...
A. 25 August 2011: Hi,
I agree with NennaHB.
I feel your pain because I've been through a similar situation myself. It strikes us hard, deep and makes feel week and vulnerable.
How to move on? No one have a magic answer that will make the pain go away, erase ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my older boyfriend help with the bills?
Q. I am 26, and am/was dating a 43 year old. I normally tend to date guys younger than me or my same age, but figured I'd try something different this time. Anyways, he has basically been living with me the past 2 months and has never offered anything ...
A. 8 August 2011: Hi,
1) Can't delete video?
2) Don't call when out?
3) Don't help w/bills?
He has an odd behavior for 43 years old man, more like 21? You can do better, let the old, weird dude go.. Don't need someone like him in your life...
Good luck!... (read in full...)
I wanted to cheat with him knowing he has a girlfriend!
Q. Hey I'm T and I am 18. I have this friend that's recently appeared back into my life after we ran into each other... he is a gorgeous guy and we can talk for hours. He's with this really crazy girl and he hates it - he doesn't want to be with her ...
A. 8 August 2011: Hi,
I know you like him, spend hours talking, etc... But, something sounds fishy to me?...the story he told you? The whole thing I just have this gut feeling...
Anyways, you are the one in this situation, knows him, so you should know better ... (read in full...)
I've found the truest of true love with him.What can I do to not lose him?
Q. my boyfriend of 10 months just got back from college orientation, a few weeks ago and he's been texting a girl he met there nonstop. Every day and every night since he's been back. They both have a lot in common, and when I say a lot I mean A LOT ...
A. 8 August 2011: Hi,
I am sorry that you feel this way.. I know how you feel, and the thought of loosing him must be unberable, and painful...
Honestly, no matter what you do, if he wants to move on, he will... Sorry if this hurts, but its true.. I just want yo... (read in full...)
This bad feeling has come back How can I feel better when I know I'm ugly?
Q. I posted questions here before and they made me feel better for a while, by saying that everyone my age thinks they're ugly. But the feeling has come back again. I feel bad again because I realize that I actually am ugly. I have a big head and an u...
A. 8 August 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you feel this way, and that you cried so much...
This is a very sensitive issue, but honestly this is more in your head that reality.
Of course, some are better looking than others, but looks are not everything. People a... (read in full...)
I miss him. Did I do the right thing by making a stand, after how often he ignored me.?
Q. Ex boyfriend of 10 years (on and off again...long distance relationship...i am 31 and he is 35) came to see me for a couple of days... before he came he said i am the only one who he has ever loved and wants to make it work. He came had a wond...
A. 8 August 2011: Hi,
Yes, you did the right thing, its not right, rude to disappear for a week without calling you...
Just know that 10 years is a long time. I am sorry that you miss him, I know how you feel, but this relationship will not change unless you d... (read in full...)
Is there anything that could justify what he did to me? Or should I leave after his Domestic Abuse?
Q. I have a question..my boyfriend and I got in a heated arguement and I threatened to kick him out. He got irate and pulled me out of my chair and threw me on the floor. I have threatened this before and he got upset before but then we made up and ...
A. 8 August 2011: Hi,
There's no excuse for violence of any form, specially physically...
You both were angry, probably said things that shouldn't have said...
You know him well, its your life, so do what's best for you... Just make sure that this won't happ... (read in full...)
I didn't cheat, but my g/f insists I did. Did I?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend since October last year, but I started dating her around May. In june - july last year I went to Europe backpacking. During this trip I met with my ex girlfriend in Vienna for 3 days (she lives in Switzerland). This was ...
A. 8 August 2011: Hi,
You are right!
1) You were not a couple yet...
2) You were w/your sister, but it was a friendly meeting...
Sorry to say this, but your girlfriend, I am sure she's a nice girl, but its making this an issue when it shouldn't be...
... (read in full...)
I got attracted to an online guy too fast and then he deleted me!
Q. Hello dear cupiders have a problem and would really want some advice. Last friday, the curious me got the better of myself so I tried to go to some online gay chat sites. There I met tons of people ranging from oldies to guys who wants to do peop...
A. 8 August 2011: Hi,
Sorry this happened to you, specially when it was your first time experience....
Its just plain rude!!!!! Rather you like, wants to be friends, or whatever, its just rude!!! Immature..
If you have any way to contact him, send him a nice... (read in full...)
Intense training session has made me afraid of my instructor!
Q. hey, the other day i was with my fitness instructor doing (you guessed it) exercise. then about halfway through my instructor tells me we're going to do a conditioning session. i didn't know it at the time but a conditioning session is basic...
A. 8 August 2011: Hi,
You are so sweet....
Sorry that you are in so much pain, but I agree with the previous postes, I don't think this is normal, acceptable, or part of any martial trainning.
I know you you feel bad, scare and don't want to cause any proble... (read in full...)
His daughter is a selfish brat and I'm running out of patience!
Q. Hi I have been with my partner for over a year.He has a 17 year old daughter who is controlling.About a month ago when they had an argument she told him that she hates where she stays and wants to stay with her Mum who was the bad one in my ...
A. 5 August 2011: Hi,
This kind of situations are complicated, but common.
I am sure the daughther is a spoil brat, but
#1 she's a teenager, you should know that. Its hard years, they are very moody, defensive and sensitive. In her case worst, because her pare... (read in full...)
Why does my manager always pick on me?
Q. Why does my manager always picks on me? does she just not like me? Am new at my work. Am a temp. But I've been there for 8weeks now. I like my work. I love what I do. But my manager is always picking on me. She gives me the hard task and wat...
A. 3 August 2011: Hi,
I've been in a similar situation before. I also, work really hard in whatever I do, its just my character, so I understand you.
I guess, your manager doesn't like you for some reason. Sometimes, people do tend to not like somebody els... (read in full...)
I feel like I'll never be able to move on from my married lover....
Q. After 3 years of being with an older married man, I finnally walked away from him last week. Ever since, he has pestered me with hundreds of texts and emails daily, constant calls and if I don't answer he leaves voicemails crying, telling me he lo...
A. 3 August 2011: Hi,
I really don't approve of cheating, but I have learned that its not only the mistress fault. I am sure that you didn't know he was married when you first met. I understand that after knowing the truth is hard to let go, specially when he's nice... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 3 August 2011: Hi dear friend,
I am so happy you decided to meet him...
First of all, don't feel pressure, just get to know him as a person, don't think of him as a serious commitment. Who knows what this could led to, but what matters now is to make new fri... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 2 August 2011: Hi,
Always do whatever your heart desires, and enjoy life the fullest and don't think about tomorrow... We never know tomorrow, only God knows...
If someone really loves you, nothing will stop them from loving you... Time doesn't matter..they... (read in full...)
I despise my mother....so much! Help!
Q. Hello, I have have a big problem and I'm at my wits end in dealing with it. I have a mother who I dislike VERY MUCH! I try my best not to use the word "Hate" because it's a word and it has a meaning, but I know for a fact I definitely don't...
A. 2 August 2011: Hi,
I am very sorry that you are going through so much... At first, I was going to tell you to love and respect your mother no matter what, since I lost my mother 9 years ago. My mother was completely different though...an angel, bestfriend, prov... (read in full...)
Separated from my husband and he is threatening to only see his biological children, not my son who he raised for years! How do I handle this situation?
Q. My husband and I are seperated. It has only been a few weeks now that he has been gone. We were together for 9 years and I had a 2 year old son when I met him who is now 11. We have 2 other younger children together. He is angry and hates me because ...
A. 1 August 2011: Hi,
I am sorry to hear about your divorce... Should be so stressful, sad, because the truth is, this was the man you once love, and hope to spend the rest of your life with.
I don't like to judge people I don't know, but its very hurtful that... (read in full...)
Is it inappropriate for my boyfriend to have dinner alone with his new female friend?
Q. Hi everyone, Here's the situation. My boyfriend and I are very much in love. We both have close friends of the opposite sex and that never bothered us. However, just earlier this week, he had dinner with a new female friend. Am I crazy to think i...
A. 1 August 2011: Hi,
How can I explain, without putting more wood into the fire?
Well, if opposite sex friends were old friends, then its ok to have dinner alone, but new female friend, dinner alone, just the two of them? Its a date
Its nice that you and yo... (read in full...)
My partner treats me like a slave
Q. Help! I'm so fed up of it- My boyfriend treats me like some sort of slave! I do work part time and because he works full time its like no amount of work I do is ever good enough. I take care of the home and literally everything to do with it, our ...
A. 1 August 2011: Hi,
I know exactly how you feel, my ex was just like him, and I've been together for 8 years, hoping that he'll change, come to his senses, maybe if I continue to be nice, he'll realize and be nice to me... Well, nothing change at all... I work... (read in full...)
His mother doesn't approve of me and I can't wait forever!
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. I want to get married. He is egyptian muslim and i am white muslim. His mother is racist and hates british girls (muslim or not). He is very close to her as his father died at a young age and she ...
A. 1 August 2011: Hi,
Its so sad that race should even be a matter to consider in this time and age? But, yet its so common.. I am asian, and completly understand what you are going through... How you feel.. For some society, they accept it so well, yet some its almo... (read in full...)
Is he stringing me along?
Q. ok so i met this guy online in the beginning of the year he lives ina complete different state i started dating somebody else but as time went on i realized the more me and this lnog distance guy talked the more i liked him and developed feelings i ...
A. 1 August 2011: Hi,
I am just happy that you are aware that what you are doing is not right..
Dispite the fact that he's leading you on, not honest with you, etc... LDR are difficult in the first place. I think, you let yourself get involved too much!!
H... (read in full...)
Husband mistreats me and now he's dying. I'm not sure how to handle things
Q. my husband call me bitch whore tells me i cant cook tells me im not allowed to touch his money tell me im a fat useless bitch infrontvod my kids, i did leave him but after 5mths took him back thinkingbhe had changed he shouts at me all the time ...
A. 1 August 2011: Hi, I agree with everyone else here....the most important thing here is for you to understand that you should not feel guilty for his illness!!! Its Gods decision and you shouldn't live feeling the guilt. Be strong, you deserve to be happy, for... (read in full...)
How can I tell her in a nice way that I'm no longer interested in her?
Q. Okay so I met this girl the other day at a social event and I got her number. Well we went on a casual date and while everything went great something she did finally made me put two and two together. See I have this friend and you know us guys that ...
A. 31 July 2011: Hi,
So funny...
Nicely, ignore her.. Don't call or ask her out anymore.. But, in case you run into her, be nice, polite, and if she ask you anything about date, feelings, etc, just nicely tell her that you enjoy spending time with her, but that you... (read in full...)
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