My wife says I should be satisfied with sex once a week or less. I'm not happy. what can I do about this?
Q. My wife only wants sex once a week or less this has made me so mad angry and upset most of the time I cant handle this lifestyle she has a low sex drive. I'm very sexed up every day I masturbate and need sex... Wife says she will never change onc...
A. 22 January 2012: Hi tony40star,
Sorry that your wife cannot understand you, but instead of thinking of sex constantly, why don't you try to be romantic? Maybe, if you are more affectionate towards your wife, helping around the house, taking her date nights once a we... (read in full...)
My gf is pregnant with her abusive ex-bf's baby! What do I do now?
Q. I met a girl 3 months ago, and we fell madly in love and were both 39 and have talked about marriage and we both feel we have found our soul mates in each other. During these 3 months ive found out that her last relationship the guy cheated on her ...
A. 21 January 2012: Hi,
You have 2 options:
1) stay in this relationship, support her and never bring up the past an forgive her. Make sure she's absolutely positive that the relationship with the ex is definitely over and care on with your lives as a normal couple. ... (read in full...)
I talk regularly to an ex, but he never told me he got married. Now he wants FWB with me. What do I do?
Q. I need some advice, I dated my boyfriend for 4 years, I am still in love with him but,we broke up in 2009 and every now and then I email him just to say "HI'. My friend told me he recently (2010) got married, I was shocked. I asked him if he was ...
A. 21 January 2012: Hi Denise67,
You know that he's married now, so it's up to you what you want from him. If you do get involved with him, you know it's only going to be an affair and he's not leaving his wife. Basically, yeah he's using you for sex. The thing is, ... (read in full...)
I don't know the cause of his shut down.
Q. I recently met this guy late last year like November who according to me, we were friends then perhaps began dating but he wanted a full relationship with me being his girlfriend which I accepted this January. We had a small misunderstanding with me ...
A. 19 January 2012: Hi,
I think your boyfriend is a little insecure person and he seems to have trust issues, why I say that? For instant, picture incident? He didn't like them, so it means: jealousy, insecurity, controlling. When you asked him why he was dist... (read in full...)
I found out she cheated, should I stay or go?
Q. I have been with that girl for over a year now, but I feel like she has a little problems with the word commitment. She has two kids for two different fathers, and the second one when she had it, she was not even divorced. I have found out she has ...
A. 19 January 2012: Hi,
Sorry to say, but I think your girlfriend doesn't care much about loyalty. Yes, some people might change, but if you have the gut to cheat once, what can assure you that it won't happen again. I think it has more to do with the persons char... (read in full...)
I've gained weight and loss myself confidence
Q. I feel I am loosing myself confidence, I use to be able to go outside wearing my pj's and no make-up, and now I wouldn't dare, at least not without feeling like crap. This is all because of my weight, I can't seem to get control of myself, I am the ...
A. 15 January 2012: Hi,
Life is busy, stressful, and you get tired so that can affect your weigh. If you can afford financially try to join a gym. Exercise can help you lose weight, help you mentally and give you energy. Do not pressure yourself loosing the weigh fast... (read in full...)
He is focussed on how lonely he is
Q. Dear Cupid, What's the best reply to a man that says he's lonely. We've just started dating and he says that he can't live life alone. I used to live in this romantic town in Spain and after I had left he visited the same town, he told me that he ...
A. 15 January 2012: Hi Tula,
You gave your friend perfect answers. It's about making him feel better, give him hope and motivation. Why don't you suggest him to join a gym, start exercising and hopefully he can meet people. I think when someone says they are lone... (read in full...)
He tells me to get out, but when I start to pack, he starts to cry
Q. Hi I have been married for 23yrs thought everything was ok, 4yrs ago i found out that my h/b had been cheating not just once but all though our marriage on and off.To cut a long story short we stayed together to work out what went wrong he said he ...
A. 15 January 2012: Hi,
I am sorry that you are going through such a difficult time in your life. I think that since you said you don't love your husband anymore, you should stop asking him or talking about the past affairs and the cheating. To me, what's impo... (read in full...)
I've done it again, put my life on hold for another man
Q. I've done it again, put my life on hold for another man What's it all about, this dating stuff? I don't call him ever, new rule for me, he calls once a week to hook up. It's all very very good stuff, but now I find myself lost in the newness, ...
A. 14 January 2012: Hi msIntegrity,
I am so happy to hear that you are doing better and that you both decided to give the relationship a new chance. Why not? If he's willing to compromise I don't see why not give another chance. I am just happy that you took hand... (read in full...)
I don't see what she gets out of this 'friendship' with this other guy and it is ruining our relationship...what should I do?
Q. Here it is, been with my girlfriend for coming up to five years now, she has recently started talking to an old guy friend of hers, they never had a relationship but he liked her. I aren't usually too bad with my jealousy but this time feels ...
A. 13 January 2012: Hi,
I don't want to make you feel worst than you already feel, but to be honest they are a little too friendly to each other. I do agree with you that even though you are in a committed relationship, it's ok to have female and male friends, but text... (read in full...)
Why would a goodlooking guy find ME attractive? I have low self esteem!
Q. I can't wrap my head around why a good looking guy would like me or even find me attractive? He could get a really gorgeous girl, so why me? When we met in a bar a week ago, he said he thought I was attractive and had to get my number and see m...
A. 13 January 2012: Hi,
Just know that you are beautiful, attractive and deserve a good, nice, good looking guy. Just enjoy getting to know him, he obviously likes you and see many qualities in you, besides looks... We all have been through bad experiences in the past... (read in full...)
Tentative steps in our new relationship. What's a reasonable timeline, before we decide to have sex?
Q. When is the right time to have sex in our relationship? We are both widowed. I'm 68 years old and he is 72. We have dated four times. We do care about each other. ...
A. 13 January 2012: Hi,
Please don't wait! I am so glad and happy for you to have found love once again.... You are both lucky to have each other... (between you and me, if you are sure he doens't have STD and if you really trust him) why not? :)
I wish you both hap... (read in full...)
My life, what do you people think?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm a solitary man, i live alone and i'm a workaholic. I have a routine lifestyle, i work almost every day go home, eat something, clean the house and watch some tv. In my free time i go swimming and have sex with prostitutes. I don'...
A. 13 January 2012: Hi,
Hey everybody have their own preferences and their own life style. I think you are too young to get married and have children. You might not want that now, but as you get older you might change your mind. Meanwhile, I think you should go out,... (read in full...)
Why can't I say "I love you" to her any more? Should I end things?
Q. Hello, I've been with my girlfriend a little over two years, but recently I have been considering properly for the first time to myself whether I should end things. We go to college together, and have had a great couple of years - ups and downs ...
A. 13 January 2012: Hi,
It's not your fault that you feel this way about your girlfriend, but it's not her fault either that you don't love her the same way as before. You've been together for 2 years, and you said that during this time you guys are like best... (read in full...)
Why is so little love and affection in our relationship? Is this just a phase?
Q. Please help. I have been reading Dear Cupid for a number of years, but I finally need to turn to it for advice. I apologize for how long this will be. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three and a half years. He is almost 27 and I am 22. We ...
A. 13 January 2012: Hi,
It's true that after a few years being together the relationship tends to fade away a little, but it becomes a new stage, when both of you start getting comfortable with each other. It becomes less physical, but more emotional. Of course, not ... (read in full...)
Should I end it or try to win her back by fixing my insecurities and jealousy issues?
Q. I have been dating this girl for about 7 weeks, she just recently broke up with me because I kept complaining to her about her time being spent more with her friends (mostly guys) than me. It seems to me that the only time she wants to spend with me ...
A. 13 January 2012: Hi exguardian,
I hate the fact that she was having lunch with a friend and made you wait for her? Then she calls you angry, blaming you that it's your fault that you didn't wait and that you both could've been together having fun? Wow!.. It's conf... (read in full...)
Should I end it or try to win her back by fixing my insecurities and jealousy issues?
Q. I have been dating this girl for about 7 weeks, she just recently broke up with me because I kept complaining to her about her time being spent more with her friends (mostly guys) than me. It seems to me that the only time she wants to spend with me ...
A. 12 January 2012: Hi xguardian,
Reading your post, I don't think you are jealous or insecure person. This relationship is fairly new and already you have issues that bothers you and your girlfriend is not willing to compromise. We all need balance in life, mean... (read in full...)
Should I encourage my friend to work on his marriage or support him to leave it?
Q. A friend of mine is going through a lot of pain. His wife cheated on him a few years back for 3 years. The affair ended in 2008 when he found it out. It was so bad that he is not sure that his son is biologically his. There is a 50% chance. He is a ...
A. 12 January 2012: Hi,
What hurts the most about affairs is the betrayal. Once you lose trust it's hard to be able to trust again. We all know that things will never be the same as before, now your friend is faced with this situation and he should consider few thin... (read in full...)
The elephant in the room wont go away
Q. I wrote several months ago about my husband's old secret destroying both a marraige and friendship. Friend turned out to be an uknown to me old lover who was trying to destroy my marraige over the years by saying nasty things. I was so called ...
A. 8 January 2012: Hi,
To be honest, nothing can change what happened in the past. I think the best thing to do is to take your time to let the anger calm down and you need to make a decision. You have mentioned that your husband is nice and polite now? My ques... (read in full...)
His crazy ex endlessly contacts him and now knows our address, and sent him a card, what should I do?
Q. Hi aunts... I need some help. My boyfriend of two years had a very mentally unstable girlfriend about 6 years ago. He still cares about her and wants to help her be happy, but they aren't talking atm because she is inappropriate when it comes to...
A. 5 January 2012: Hi,
I don't think that throwing the card away will make any difference at this point. 1) she has the address 2) I guess your boyfriend gave the address to her.
I understand that some cases people keep in touch with the exes, but what she's d... (read in full...)
I want to become a surgeon, will this be possible with my qualifications?
Q. Hi all! Ok so my Question isn't really about relationship/ life related but I quite like the advice given on here anyway. So I'm 23 years old and just recently moved back home to the UK after living abroad for 7 years. After much debating an...
A. 4 January 2012: Hi,
You are absolutely not old to still go to medical school. I am actually impress that you've decided to pursue your goal and do not let anybody or nothing stop you.... I am not sure if you are qualify to go to university right away, however you ... (read in full...)
Husband (also doctor) addicted to teen porn...just told me he hates me for asking him
Q. My husband has admitted to being addicted to porn years ago but it was never a real issue because he hid it. I recently borrowed his laptop and he had over 89 bookmarks of 'teen' porn and he used the name like 'morgage payments' to hid the sites. On ...
A. 30 December 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you are going through a difficult time in your marriage. Don't have much details to give you a deeper opinion, however he has a serious addiction and he needs help. As we all know, it's normal and may even be consider healthy for men ... (read in full...)
Ex cheated on me saying it was a one night stand, I find out now it was a friend and he is dating her!
Q. This may be long but advice and motivation from anyone would be really appreciated! So just a couple months ago my bf of three years confessed to me he cheated on me. He told me it was some random girl he hooked up with a party and I believed...
A. 21 December 2011: Hi,
You are most welcome....
I hope you feel better soon, and if you need more advice let's us know. It helps a great deal just to let all your feelings out.... Have a wonderful holidays.... Merry Christmas!!!!!
Best wishes...... (read in full...)
How do I stop overthinking everything?
Q. at the moment my ex boyfriend and i are working things out to give it another shot. we were together for about two years and then decided to go on a break and that just turned into a break up. we have been seperated for about 9 months now. i can ...
A. 21 December 2011: Hi cmm,
I am glad that you are feeling better and trying to work things out with your boyfriend. You need to understand that is not your fault for being thus way. You love him and trust him with all your heart. Whatever he did to you, the cause of y... (read in full...)
Ex cheated on me saying it was a one night stand, I find out now it was a friend and he is dating her!
Q. This may be long but advice and motivation from anyone would be really appreciated! So just a couple months ago my bf of three years confessed to me he cheated on me. He told me it was some random girl he hooked up with a party and I believed...
A. 21 December 2011: Hi,
I know you are hurt and need some closure to get over your anger. I know you hate the fact the he lied to you so many times, even after the discovery. That means he's a selfish coward. But, if I were you I wouldn't send email or any contact at a... (read in full...)
We are both virgins. And committed to each other. But what can I do about my erectile issues?
Q. I'm a 19 year old male and I started dating a girl from my university dorm this school year. Up until then, neither of us had a very serious relationship and both of us are virgins. Things have progressed naturally and we both enjoy spending time ...
A. 18 December 2011: Hi LetThereBeRock,
Have a wonderful time with your girlfriend and don't worry too much. Just relax and enjoy. Remember that you are both lucky to be in love and be each others first...
Happy holidays!!... (read in full...)
For years women disappear on me after 3 weeks.. why?
Q. Okay guys and gals, here's one I'm confused on. The background will take a minute. All about me: I'm a 28 year old guy and the last time that I was really involved (ie. relationship) was when I was 20. My adult life I've dated a lot of women, but ...
A. 16 December 2011: Mr mememe,
For the life of me" that was funny...
I wish I could give you an answer. In the early stages of dating all girls want from the new guy is attention and meet as many times as they can. Seems like you do that.. Why don't you become f... (read in full...)
I think my body is numb! No matter what I can't feel anything
Q. Please don't laugh or anything, but I don't think my clitoris works. I have tried to reach orgasm through sex and masturbation but nothing works. I know where my clit is and what it is so I don't think im going wrong there. I can't orgasm through ...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi,
I think you are trying too hard and missing what's supposed to be fun, enjoyable, pleasant. The way you describe is like you are forcing things down there to feel pleasure. You need to take slow, take your time, try different things, be roma... (read in full...)
Wife Cheated with my Cousin/Best Friend! Don't know what to do!!
Q. It's a little long. I apologize in advance. But there is so complicated. So confused and don't know what to do. I found out my wife cheated on me 1 year ago today. Needless to say, I was devastated and still am. Traumatized. For the first 10...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi hurthubby,
I am going through a very similar situation. (10 years relationship, discovered and ended 16 mos ago) but the difference is that I could not forgive... I am stubborn, I just don't have the ability to forgive, forget and move on. It t... (read in full...)
Am I being controlling, or am I just being cautious and protecting my marriage from further destruction?
Q. Hello, I need some advice and opinions. My wife and I have been married for 16 years and its been a pretty tough marriage from the beginning. We have both been faithful over the years, but not real happy. I just recently realized that I've been a v...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi,
Sorry to say, but you are a little controlling. I am glad that you now have acknowledge. Be nice to your wife, give her a break. Instead of controlling, learn how to communicate, be equal.... Compromise, nobody have a perfect relationship, ever... (read in full...)
Just curious or bisexual?
Q. Hi, I'm having some trouble dealing with something that happened with a work friend. We went out with the rest of work for our Christmas do and I ended up kissing a boy from work called 'Ryan'. We were really drunk but when we were at the tabl...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi,
I have to agree with "ciar". He's confused... He's having all these feelings that he never felt before, he's using his moms as an excuse, blaming the alcohol, he clearly doesn't know.... Imagine, all his life he knows he's a straight man, sudd... (read in full...)
My friend has breasts like a lady! Is this normal?
Q. Hi Can anybody help me? i know a guy whose got breasts like a lady's and he was asking me why is his left breast bigger than the right one and is it normal? I hope to hear soon. He's so worried. Can anybody help?...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi,
There's a reality show in the US and a man came to the office because he had lady breasts. He was uncomfortable, couldn't wear certain kinds of clothing, etc. He had plastic surgery and had they looking more like a mans chest. They actually show... (read in full...)
My friend has breasts like a lady! Is this normal?
Q. Hi Can anybody help me? i know a guy whose got breasts like a lady's and he was asking me why is his left breast bigger than the right one and is it normal? I hope to hear soon. He's so worried. Can anybody help?...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi,
There's a reality show in the US and a man came to the office because he had lady breasts. He was uncomfortable, couldn't wear certain kinds of clothing, etc. He had plastic surgery and had they looking more like a mans chest. They actually show... (read in full...)
I think something strange is going on with my husband and his former boss's wife!
Q. My husband used to work for someone and he always had a questionable relatiolnship with the boss's wife. It was so bad that his co-workers used to kid him about inheriting the business and that the boss's kids were really his. He eventuallty ...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi,
I am sorry you are feeling this way. So far you mentioned about your husbands relationship with his former bosses family, but how is your husband at home with you? Is he romantic? Caring? Good husband? Do you both spend time together, talk, do t... (read in full...)
Ex cheated on me saying it was a one night stand, I find out now it was a friend and he is dating her!
Q. This may be long but advice and motivation from anyone would be really appreciated! So just a couple months ago my bf of three years confessed to me he cheated on me. He told me it was some random girl he hooked up with a party and I believed...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you had to end your long relationship this way and sorry you feel so much pain.... You are classy girl, after what he has done to you, not once you cuss or called him a bad name. Also, you are very mature for your age. You are taki... (read in full...)
My mum might be cheating on my dad with her boss....
Q. Hi,I'm 14,15 in 3 months. Since I was 10,I got a little suspicious of my mother and her boss. He would buy us ice-cream and my grandmother would tell me not to tell my dad.I never liked her boss. I'm pretty sure he's married.She texts him a lot and ...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi,
I hope you are doing well and hope you can find the right solution for your family.
God bless... (read in full...)
My husband is chatting flirtatiously with a girl from his office. Should I be worried?
Q. So, I have had some trust issues with my husband in the past. Some of it he deserved, and some of it can be attributed to the fact that I tend to be a jealous person. I am having a similar issue tonight. He and I have been doing pretty well late...
A. 15 December 2011: Hi,
Hope you are ok... I replied to your request....... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate to bring gift for my colleagues from my country?
Q. This is my first carrier in the US. I’m going back to my country and when I come back I want to bring some chocolate and goodies from my country for few of my collegues that I don’t know them well and also more gifts for two executive directors, ...
A. 15 December 2011: Hi,
I know that different countries have different cultures and I think it's very thoughtful of you to ask, think and consider. In my opinion, gifts are welcome in any language or country. It's very nice gesture. Since you don't know these peop... (read in full...)
My husband is chatting flirtatiously with a girl from his office. Should I be worried?
Q. So, I have had some trust issues with my husband in the past. Some of it he deserved, and some of it can be attributed to the fact that I tend to be a jealous person. I am having a similar issue tonight. He and I have been doing pretty well late...
A. 14 December 2011: Hi,
I am glad that you are doing well with your husband now. Just know that nobody have a perfect relationship, and you being his wife have the right to be jealous sometimes.
As you know, this is nothing serious, and your husband didn't meet ... (read in full...)
My mum might be cheating on my dad with her boss....
Q. Hi,I'm 14,15 in 3 months. Since I was 10,I got a little suspicious of my mother and her boss. He would buy us ice-cream and my grandmother would tell me not to tell my dad.I never liked her boss. I'm pretty sure he's married.She texts him a lot and ...
A. 14 December 2011: Hi,
I've been thinking about your situation.
How about talking to your mom? One day, when she's feeling ok, and you both are alone in the house, why don't you talk to your mom?
Things to consider:
1) does your mom use drugs or alcohol?
2) is s... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out?
Q. I am currently a grad student and was a TA for a course (the semester just ended) The girl I'm interested in is not American born and has trouble with English. However, she seems quiet but really sweet and nice and even sent me an email immediatel...
A. 13 December 2011: Hi,
She seems like a sweet, shy, quiet girl. She's also consider and polite. Instead of asking her on a formal date, ask her if she wants to meet for coffee and just talk? It doens't need to be formal and all serious. Who knows after getting to know... (read in full...)
My mum might be cheating on my dad with her boss....
Q. Hi,I'm 14,15 in 3 months. Since I was 10,I got a little suspicious of my mother and her boss. He would buy us ice-cream and my grandmother would tell me not to tell my dad.I never liked her boss. I'm pretty sure he's married.She texts him a lot and ...
A. 13 December 2011: Hi,
I am sorry that you have to live with this secret in your heart for 5 years. You are a sweet daughter, kind, good person and very strong. I admire your courage and strength. You discovered this at the age 10. You were only a kid. You are stil... (read in full...)
We are both virgins. And committed to each other. But what can I do about my erectile issues?
Q. I'm a 19 year old male and I started dating a girl from my university dorm this school year. Up until then, neither of us had a very serious relationship and both of us are virgins. Things have progressed naturally and we both enjoy spending time ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi letThereberock,
You guys are so sweet and I am happy that you both found each other to be the 1st time... You both are luck....
Even though you love her, you are attractive to her and not stress I think that the last experiences is making y... (read in full...)
I've done it again, put my life on hold for another man
Q. I've done it again, put my life on hold for another man What's it all about, this dating stuff? I don't call him ever, new rule for me, he calls once a week to hook up. It's all very very good stuff, but now I find myself lost in the newness, ...
A. 19 November 2011: Hi, I guess he's one of those people that wants to take things slowly? I don't think that there's nothing wrong with you. I just think that he doesn't want the same things you do. You should never put your life on hold for anyone. You should a... (read in full...)
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