How do I get past my strong feelings for her because she's married?
Q. I wrote a couple weeks ago about this girl whose married and have pretty much been having an emotional affair with. Her husband was out of town this week for business and I spent 5 days at her house with her. It was pretty much a nonstop party for ...
A. 14 October 2011: Hi lonelyguywb,
I know this is a difficult situation, you never plan this to happen, but here you are, and you just have to accept reality. I am glad that you are being strong, and I like the way you are handling the situation. Keep in touch, but ... (read in full...)
How do I get past my strong feelings for her because she's married?
Q. I wrote a couple weeks ago about this girl whose married and have pretty much been having an emotional affair with. Her husband was out of town this week for business and I spent 5 days at her house with her. It was pretty much a nonstop party for ...
A. 14 October 2011: Hi,
I felt so sad reading your post. You sound like a great guy... Have morals, character, integrity, and I am so proud to know that you, and your friend did not cross the line. Something that is so easy, but difficult to resist nowdays. It take... (read in full...)
Will it last with this new woman? I want my ex back!
Q. My ex husband and i got divorced 2 years ago today.....it was my fault i asked for the divorce and he was gutted and in great pain. i started seeing someone else. But realised i loved my ex who tried to get back with me...i was confused and rejected ...
A. 14 October 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you are going though a difficult time, feel so much pain, lonely. Also, it must be heartbreaking to have your own daughter behave this way? How long is your ex-husband and this new woman together?
Your daughter behavior sho... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I don't want to be friends anymore or should I just ignore him?
Q. I have been friends with a guy for about 9 months and I don't think I can be friends with him any more and would like advice on whether I should say this to him or just ignore him. I have already tried to explain and been met with a very sarcastic ...
A. 14 October 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you are going through a difficult time. Just want to let you know, you are not alone.
I agree with the previous advice. You already made it clear to him, and I also have to agree with you that you have been nothing but, lovely l... (read in full...)
We both have put on weight and I really don't like my wife's belly fat, should I take the first step in getting fit? Will she follow suit?
Q. Hi guys, i'm here to ask for help about something is bothering me to much. After my 4 years marriage me and my wife got belly fat. We are not fat, lean, but have it. My wife's belly bothers me to much, even if she's too hot and gorgeous. I keep ...
A. 14 October 2011: Hi,
Yes, best way is for you to start giving her an example. And, PLEASE, DO NOT TELL HER TO DO ANYTHING, or make comments about her physical appearance, even if you tell her nicely, like I am concern about your health, she won't take it nice... (read in full...)
Wife's sexual past is tormenting me
Q. I was a virgin when I met my wife. More than that, I didn't even have another serious girlfriend before then. Meanwhile, she had a bit of an adventurous past. At the time we first dated I didn't really care. However, once we fell in love it reall...
A. 14 October 2011: Hi, I am about the same age as you, and I am very old school in terms of relationship. I am 38 years old, and I have been involved in two serious relationship, and had sex with only those 2 men. As far as I know, at my age, I am the only person t... (read in full...)
My 12 year old daughter kissed a boy. A little shocked, wasn't expecting it! Even though I knew it would! Big deal or not so much??
Q. My daughter is 12 almost 13! I know what I'm getting ready to say ppl will think I'm nuts. Yes what I have to say is normal, but I am a single mom, I work and go to school! I have my own buisness so I could always be home with her! I have done this...
A. 9 October 2011: Hi, Told you everything was going to be ok... :) I am so glad that you had the talk, and that you and your daughter are closer than before.... So happy, so glad, you did well, I knew everything was going to be ok, your daughter is a smart girl, be... (read in full...)
Cheated on my girlfriend and I didn't tell her, but I want her back!
Q. About a 2 months ago I cheated on my girlfriend. I then broke up with her but didn't tell her why. We had been together for about a year and a half. I can't stop thinking about two things: 1. How much I love this girl and want her to be my wife 2. ...
A. 9 October 2011: Hi,
Instead of being agonized by this guilt, why don't you just have a honest talk with your girlfriend, and see if you both can give this relationship a second chance?
You made a huge mistake, happened once, it's very regretful, knows now that you... (read in full...)
I've been there for her. Yet she doesn't want others to know about me. Is there anything worth waiting for in all this, for me?
Q. what does my ex want from me? my ex and I broke up years ago, we decided to stay friends, but it seem to me at cost. it seem ok at first but i began to wonder, over the years, she dated other people, and so have i. but i think i put myself in toubl...
A. 8 October 2011: Hi, By reading your post, I can tell that I feel this "friend" is upsetting very much. You sound frustrated by everything she's doing, and what has happened. I think that it's time to let her go. She's married now, she's selfish, because she only... (read in full...)
I'm scared of my daughter's father
Q. i was with a bloke for 3 yrs who is the father to my 2yr old daughter when i first met him he was lovely, caring then after 6 months he changed used to beat me up giving me black eyes i tried to split up with him but he kept saying i will change but ...
A. 8 October 2011: Hi, Sorry to hear that you are going through such a horrible experience. I am glad that you left him, and no matter what he tells you, promises, do not believe him, and never give him another chance. Unfortunately, as you know he won't change, ... (read in full...)
Let me give you the tools to beat 'Retro jealousy' I now possess them!
Q. I write with excitement and hope that my experiences might help others that have had similar problems. You may remember a post I made back on the 15th Oct 2010 titled: Girlfriend was a prostitute and slept with over 350 men before I paid for h...
A. 8 October 2011: Hi J,
I am so happy to hear a happy ending. I am glad that you are both together, that you overcame all your problems, and that you are happy & feel better about yourself.
Honestely, shows a lot of strength, and kindness of the heart to for... (read in full...)
My 12 year old daughter kissed a boy. A little shocked, wasn't expecting it! Even though I knew it would! Big deal or not so much??
Q. My daughter is 12 almost 13! I know what I'm getting ready to say ppl will think I'm nuts. Yes what I have to say is normal, but I am a single mom, I work and go to school! I have my own buisness so I could always be home with her! I have done this...
A. 8 October 2011: Hi, I don't have children of my own, but I am same age as you, so I can sympathize with you. You are a wonderful person, mom, hard working, and I can understand how this have affected you. Of course, you knew this day will come, but I don't blame yo... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly stop texting?
Q. I've been dating a guy for about a month now, he works away Monday to Friday and comes home on Fridays. For the first two weeks we would text constantly and they would be sweet and I'd be smiling constantly. Last Sunday he left early coz I had ...
A. 4 October 2011: Hi,
Thanks for the follow up. Ok, I have no idea what is his intensions? Clearly he tells you good things, that he doesn't want to loose you and all, but his actions tells differently. To be honest with you, no matter how busy he's, doesn't have... (read in full...)
I finally figured out his game -- and want to stay strong
Q. Hey everyone! Okay, so heres the thing... Ive just gotten out of a long term on-off relationship (5 years to be precise). It was a great relationship to begin with but then soon the love started to fade from him, (hence it was on-off cause he kept ...
A. 30 September 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you had to go through so much with your ex boyfriend, 5 years is a long time, and I am glad you decided to end, and stay strong about your decision. I truly believe he loves you, he knows that you love him unconditionally, and comi... (read in full...)
Trust issues between bf and I, don't know why he still doesn't trust me, and don't feel I have any reason to trust him.
Q. Hi, so I'm in a going on two years relationship, we live together and we are both serious. Problem is, in the beginning of our relationship, he did some stupid things and lost my trust. He lied a lot in past relationships and is trying to stop ...
A. 30 September 2011: Hi,
You and your boyfriend have been through a lot of trust issues in the past. I will suggest you to sit down with him and talk about all the things that have been bothering you.
The things that need to be address are:
1) disclosure all the lies... (read in full...)
I'm shocked at how ugly I look in our home-made porn film
Q. I know this will sound like a stupid problem, but here it goes. My boyfriend had an idea last weekend, to record ourselves having sex with his phone. He sent me the videos, because he said they were a huge turn on and that he loved them. But I ...
A. 28 September 2011: Hi, You are so silly..... When I person admit they are ugly, means the contrary, and I think you are just making a big deal out of nothing. Are you so ugly people stop in the street to look at your ugly face? I don't think so, so stop being silly... (read in full...)
If I leave it means moving back in with my parents and having no money with 2 young children, but I know he will never change if I stay.....what should I do?
Q. Hi, I have been with my partner for 5 years and married for 2 months, we have two children together ages 1 and 2. He is in the army so when we got married i moved in with him, 3 hours drive away from my home, i gave up my home and to be near m...
A. 28 September 2011: Hi,
Honestly, if you are not happy, and feel he will never change, then I think you should end this marriage. I don't understand, you've been together, and know him foe 5 years? Was he always this way, or change after having the children?
Jus... (read in full...)
Empty nest, trust issues, communication issues ...
Q. I have been in a rocky marriage for 24 years, broke up last year for 8 months and returned to him. But now he is texting a woman that he admitted have a sexual relationship with. I confronted him after finding the text messages and now he angry at ...
A. 25 September 2011: Hi, I just ended a 10 years relationship with my ex partner/best friend about a year ago. I found out about his affair 2 years ago, but he promised me that it was over. During the year after, my gut feeling wouldn't go away, just by his behavior... (read in full...)
Should I leave this guy or should I stick with him?
Q. i have been going out with a guy for past 9 months and has fallen deeply in love with him. last month he went to thailand on a holiday and it was his second visit to thailand. he wanst going out with me when he visited thailand for the first time ...
A. 25 September 2011: Hi, I know how you feel, I just ended a 10 years relationship a year ago because of cheating. I couldn't forgive him.. But, my situation was different. I believe people can change, and its ok to forgive, and stay together, there's no shame at all. ... (read in full...)
The love of my life has been online cheating. I've never felt sadness like this before. Please help.
Q. Last night my heart was broken. I found out the girl that I planned to marry and live happily ever after with, has fallen for some online with someone else and spends hours each day flirting with and getting emotionally close with him. I'm in shoc...
A. 25 September 2011: Hi Mindful,
Hope you are feeling better....
I read your responses, sounds like you are controlling your feelings pretty well. Please, be strong, you will get past this, but right now you need answers, so hopefully the next post you will give us... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took another girl to a hotel but swears he didn't cheat. What shall I do?
Q. sorry about this being so long ... i met my boyfriend at the age of 16 and weve been together ever since, weve had a lot of ups and downs and now i need advice. After been together 6 months, it was just a pritty average relationship then...
A. 25 September 2011: Hi, I see you've been with your boyfriend a long time. You know him well, and only you can decide what's best for you. You mentioned he cheated on you in the past, you made your decision to forgive him, and give him another chance, which is ok, beca... (read in full...)
Should I try to trust him?
Q. Me and my fiance have been together just over a year now. Our relationship has been awesome, we rarely fight and we enjoy so much of the same things and just have a lot of fun together. I recently gave birth 2 weeks ago to our son, but 4 days before ...
A. 25 September 2011: Hi, I know how you feel. Been through a similar situation. First of all, what he did was wrong, and it's going to take time, and effort to regain the trust back in your relationship. I will be honest though, I will give him credit for being hon... (read in full...)
I get turned on hearing about my girlfriend's exes...how do I get her to talk about it for me?
Q. I really want my girlfriend to tell me about her past sexual experiences during sex. After hearing a little bit about her previous relationships, I want to hear more. It's not that I want her to sleep with another man, just that I want her to use ...
A. 25 September 2011: Hi,
Friend, I will tell, this is so weird????...
I am sure that if she doesn't completely open up to you, or if she doesn't tell you more details is probably that she cares about you, don't want to hurt you, and also she's probably embarras... (read in full...)
Should you stay in a relationship if the one you love, only likes you?
Q. Hi.Need some answers to this please, Should you stay in a relationship if the one you love only likes you.Even though you have been together for yrs. There's no fighting or bickering just a lack of love on one's part.when you say I love you, and ...
A. 24 September 2011: Hi,
Not sure what to tell you, because I don't see a real problem for you to end with your partner. Ok, he cannot say the "L" word (I love you), but doesn't mean he doesn't. I know few men that have difficulty saying those words, being affe... (read in full...)
My bf never texts me or asks me to come over on his days off. What does this mean for our relationship?
Q. I hardly see my boyfriend anymore because we work different schedules now. He works mornings/afternoons, and I work evenings (both work at different companies). I am trying to get a different job that will allow me to work morning hours. That way, ...
A. 24 September 2011: Hi,
I personally don't know your relationship with your boyfriend, so I can't tell you exactly what's going on, how serious he's, what's in his mind?
But, I can tell you one thing though. When you are in a relationship with someone you truly lo... (read in full...)
Help! I'm falling in love, seriously, in love with someone else's boyfriend? What do I do?
Q. Help me please!. I'm pulling my hair our here! I go to church every Sunday. Now I've known this family at church for a few years. Mates with the mom. Has three gorgeous boys. I have always liked the middle one. Except he has a gf since I've kno...
A. 24 September 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you are so desperately in love with him, but he's taken. He has a girlfriend, and I know how difficult must be for you to be in silence so many years, and not be able to be with him, and express your feelings.
I know this is not ... (read in full...)
The love of my life has been online cheating. I've never felt sadness like this before. Please help.
Q. Last night my heart was broken. I found out the girl that I planned to marry and live happily ever after with, has fallen for some online with someone else and spends hours each day flirting with and getting emotionally close with him. I'm in shoc...
A. 24 September 2011: Hi,
I was in a 10 years relationship with the man I love, respect, and more importantly trust with all my life, and soul. To me he was not just boyfriend, but i consider him my best friend. Just found out a year ago, until this day he never admi... (read in full...)
Its easier for us to be mean to each other rather than nice!
Q. i have been woth my boyfriend for 4 years and we have a 3 year old son. recently i dont want to have sex with him and dont like it when he tries to kiss me. we argue alot about nothing and i cry alot.we both say very hurtful things to each other and ...
A. 24 September 2011: Hi,
It's hard to help you, or give you any advice not knowing what the problem is. You mentioned you both argue a lot about nothing? You need to find out why? Why are you guys arguing so much about nothing? What made the relationship become what... (read in full...)
Should I move on? am I being played? He's re-opened his dating profile. What could possibly be going on in his head?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am so upset and confused. I really appreciate any and all advice that you guys offer me. This might be a bit long, but I will really appreciate it if you stick in there and help me out. Thanks ahead of time. I've been dating my b...
A. 23 September 2011: Hi,
If you really want to know? Have questions? Just call him, if he doesnt pick up, leave a message, or text, or Facebook, whatever you feel more comfortable, and ask nicely that you would like to talk to him. Tell him that you respect his deci... (read in full...)
I am setting myself up for another disaster.
Q. Part-Two.... I wanted to thank everyone for what i knew would be said but was trying to ignore the truth. I went home yesterday after posting my 1st question and had a long talk with this man. Despite his obsessive lies and denial this man can and...
A. 22 September 2011: Hi,
I know you truly love this man. I know he tells you many promises, and tells you that he loves you. But, if what you are telling us here is true, then I think you gave him too many chances. He keeps lying to you, cheating, and he knows you will... (read in full...)
I won't give up my guy, but his ex keeps getting in the way!
Q. So I met a guy 4 years ago and we immediately hit it off, like really hit it off in all departments. Fun to talk to about religion, politics, romance etc., liked the same shows and great cuddle buddies, insanely attracted to each other and great ...
A. 22 September 2011: Hi, Why you call yourself pathetic? You were in a relationship with this man, had your reasons to break up, few months has gone by, and now you are together again. I do t think you are pathetic, and I don't think you are doing nothing wrong. I... (read in full...)
Should I move on? am I being played? He's re-opened his dating profile. What could possibly be going on in his head?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am so upset and confused. I really appreciate any and all advice that you guys offer me. This might be a bit long, but I will really appreciate it if you stick in there and help me out. Thanks ahead of time. I've been dating my b...
A. 21 September 2011: Hi, Many people before me gave you good advice. I hope you make the right decision. Yes, you sound like a lovely lady, and I don't think you are clingy at all. I believe the things you've been asking him for is very reasonable. I might be wrong,... (read in full...)
She has a boyfriend. Should I say nothing? Or try to confess to her my feelings and get rejected and move on?
Q. Hello, I'm 18 years old currently in college freshman year and I have feelings for my younger cousin she's 15 and currently in freshman year of high school. Here's the thing first I was only physically attracted to her. I mean I didn't think about ...
A. 21 September 2011: Hi,
You mentioned she is your cousin? Isn't it wrong to have a relationship with own cousins? She's a family member, right? If there's even a possibility, how would your family feel about this? I think you should consider that before making any deci... (read in full...)
We have clicked as soul mates. She's married but doesn't like her spouse. Do I tell her I have feelings for her?
Q. Well it's a hard situation. I work with this amazing girl and we talk all the time and can tell each other anything about anything. We hang out alot outside of work, text each other and can talk for hours. Unfortunately she is married and has been ...
A. 21 September 2011: Hi,
Thank you for letting me know how things are going. I just want to let you know that you are a gentleman. For the first time, I want you (the other man) to be happy, together with her. Hope you have a lovely time.
Best wishes ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant by my fwb, and I'm terrified to tell him!
Q. Hiya everyone I posted a question a few days ago saying I think I could be pregnant by my fwb I have today just done a pregnancy test and it has came back positive I have done three diffrent brand tests how do I tell my fwb I'm terrified I'm 25 and ...
A. 20 September 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you are feeling this way. Don't get scared, everything will be ok. Just know that this is not your fault. You are both adults, knew what you were doing, and now both of you are responsible for this pregnancy.
Don't wait another... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom hates me
Q. Hey guys.. I've been with this guy for 2.5 years. He's a great man and we just feel connected. He's 35 yo and I'm 26. But somehow, his mom hates me and his dad's at his mom's side even tho he doesn't really know the true story. He's the only so...
A. 20 September 2011: Hi, I like you already. The fact that even though his mother cause you so much pain, and stress, you still consider her feelings. You feel guilty for making your boyfriend fight with his parents. I also can tell you for sure that he truly loves yo... (read in full...)
I need some insight into the female mind!
Q. I need some insight into the female mind. I am away from home right now. Been away for about 4 weeks, and I have two more to go. My wife and I video chatted today, but the whole day she has been short on calls/texts. She seemed super tired (yaw...
A. 20 September 2011: Hi, I am completely opposite of your wife. I am very open about my feelings, when something bothers me, I need to talk immediately, and solve right away. I am the kind if person that can't hold any feelings inside, drives me crazy, but that's j... (read in full...)
First love drepression, any advice?
Q. HI, I just came back to the site... I am really sad... My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for about 2-3 months and I deactivated my facebook, blocked him from sending me e-mails to my hotmail and yahoo account and even changed my phone...
A. 20 September 2011: Hi, So far you are doing all the right things. You took the first step, which is breaking off, accept the situation and moving on. It has been only 3 months, you have to be kind to yourself, and don't feel pressure to move on over night. It's unr... (read in full...)
On/Off/On/Off - What is her problem?
Q. i was with my girlfriend for two years, lived together for one. i loved her so much. well she started cheating on me and left me for another guy a few months back, and it crushed me. i eventually moved on and started seeing another girl. well ...
A. 20 September 2011: Hi, I just ended a 10 years relationship a year ago, so I know exactly how you feel. The pain, disappoint, shock, betrayal, anger, etc. I know it all. After a year, I am still trying to put the pieces together, to heal, and as soon as I feel I a... (read in full...)
My ex who has been flirting with me, wants to come by and pick up her stuff. Is she using it to come see me or is she trying to end it completely?
Q. So my ex of about 3 weeks (whom I work with) and I have been getting along great for at a week and a half or so. She has started flirting with me and teasing me. Big, smiles, playful, all that jazz. Then today in the middle of a nice convo, she says ...
A. 20 September 2011: Hi,
I think that if she was flirting with you lately, to me she's making an excuse to see you. Whatever it's, rather you both get back together or not, you need to talk to her about what has happened, and see if there's a chance to get back toge... (read in full...)
We have clicked as soul mates. She's married but doesn't like her spouse. Do I tell her I have feelings for her?
Q. Well it's a hard situation. I work with this amazing girl and we talk all the time and can tell each other anything about anything. We hang out alot outside of work, text each other and can talk for hours. Unfortunately she is married and has been ...
A. 20 September 2011: Hi,
I am glad you finally had the chance to talk to her, and things went well. Very good!!! Whatever you both decide, if you feel this will lead to something else, please you, and her make sure that her husband is ok... Always respect, and cons... (read in full...)
Did he ever care? How can I move on from all this ?
Q. Three years ago my now ex and I broke up. we were from different cultures and religions and he decided that his family would disown him and things could not go further after three and a half years and the best part of our younger days together. Fo...
A. 19 September 2011: Hi, Sorry that you are in pain for so many years. Let me start by saying that I was in a 10 years relationship with a man with different culture, background, and religion. Like any other relationship, started as friends, and I never imagine that... (read in full...)
We have clicked as soul mates. She's married but doesn't like her spouse. Do I tell her I have feelings for her?
Q. Well it's a hard situation. I work with this amazing girl and we talk all the time and can tell each other anything about anything. We hang out alot outside of work, text each other and can talk for hours. Unfortunately she is married and has been ...
A. 18 September 2011: Hi, Thank you for keeping us post in your situation. I really don't know what to say, it's really confusing... I don't blame you to feel this way. I can't tell either if she's into you as romantic partner or friend? Whatever you do, do the right... (read in full...)
We have clicked as soul mates. She's married but doesn't like her spouse. Do I tell her I have feelings for her?
Q. Well it's a hard situation. I work with this amazing girl and we talk all the time and can tell each other anything about anything. We hang out alot outside of work, text each other and can talk for hours. Unfortunately she is married and has been ...
A. 14 September 2011: Hi,
So far you are handling the situation well, like a honorable man. Just make sure to talk about her and her husband first. I am sure she needs your support and advice. She's sad, confused, scared to make any decisions. Its important to make sure... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly stop texting?
Q. I've been dating a guy for about a month now, he works away Monday to Friday and comes home on Fridays. For the first two weeks we would text constantly and they would be sweet and I'd be smiling constantly. Last Sunday he left early coz I had ...
A. 12 September 2011: Hi,
I agree with the previous answer.
Don't stress yourself with minor things, seems like the relationship is going pretty well, I really think he's interested in you, and have real feelings for you.
Good luck... (read in full...)
We have clicked as soul mates. She's married but doesn't like her spouse. Do I tell her I have feelings for her?
Q. Well it's a hard situation. I work with this amazing girl and we talk all the time and can tell each other anything about anything. We hang out alot outside of work, text each other and can talk for hours. Unfortunately she is married and has been ...
A. 11 September 2011: Hi,
I am glad that you both didn't take the next step. I respect you for that.
You've been having these feelings for the past 2 years. You both are great friends. She is not happy with her marriage, but doesn't do anything about it. It must be ... (read in full...)
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