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writes:I know this isn't a problem regarding relationships or anything like that but I really need advice. I recently started my first job about 6 weeks ago, I've just turned 18 a few weeks ago. Everything was fine until I got friendly with a girl at work who is my supervisors favourite. My supervisor got jealous and ever since has been giving me the dirty jobs. For example, every time I've worked the past 2 weeks I've been on washroom and garbage duty along with cleaning the seating area and stocking up. Nobody else on my shifts do anything. Their secondary jobs are usually covering breaks or just blank. But mine will be full up each and every time. My supervisor has made 2 other girls walk out, and those are only the ones I'm aware of. I've also spoken to another girl who has been there a while and she's even said that my supervisor has been spoken too a number of times and she is known to bully but nothing has changed. It seems she is untouchable. I don't feel like I can talk to the manager because she seems so close to my supervisor and let's face it, I'm expendable. I just don't know what to do. I don't sleep nearly as well as I used too and my diet has gone to shit. I just feel completely helpless. I've spoken to my mum and she's said point blank that I can't quit because she can't afford it. But jobs aren't exactly easy to come by either so I feel like I'm stuck in this bullying environment. There isn't anyone at work I can speak to either because they're either untrustworthy or never on my shifts. Please, I need help. I'm desperate.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (17 October 2011):
 I would honestly keep a log of the extra chores she makes YOU and no one else do. If it continue, go above her.
Could it be that she is "making" you do all these things because you are the newest and most inexperienced?
As far as the "bullying" is she rude to you or does she just make you work?
If you need to job, just do the jobs you are told to do. And start looking for a new job.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (17 October 2011):
 Hi,
Sorry that you are in this situation. So unfair, i know it must be difficult, and also it must be so uncomfortable, and stressful to work in such an environment, knowing that you have no one to support you. Unfortunately, you are right, talking to manager will not help you.
As your mother said, you cannot quit, but meanwhile just do your work, and avoid talking to this girl. As a matter fact, don't talk, or even look toward her direction. Just go to work, do as they ask, try not to feel sad, stress, and do it in a positive attitude. You have no choice, because I'd you feel down, it will only makes things more difficult for you. You have to work, so do not think too much, compare yourself why you work so much, and others don't. Become a robot, let your feelings out, do the work, come home, and don't think.
Also, your spare time, apply for other jobs, I know it's hard to find job nowdays, but it's not impossible. Apply for new jobs, the sooner you do, the more places you apply the sooner you can go away from these people.
This is an unfair situation, but know that happens more often that you know, you are not alone. Work hard, do not hold grudges, and life will repay you back. You will find a better job, you will be happy, and know that God is watching... I believe in karma, I believe in life, and I know that now things seem so unfair, but it will get better, and bad people might be happy now, but won't last forever.
Concentrate in yourself, your future, work hard, be successful, and do not waste your precious time with no class people like that. Do not let people like that put you down, weak.. Think of as a lesson, this will only make you stronger, and wiser.
Best wishes/ good luck
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