We are both virgins. And committed to each other. But what can I do about my erectile issues?
Q. I'm a 19 year old male and I started dating a girl from my university dorm this school year. Up until then, neither of us had a very serious relationship and both of us are virgins. Things have progressed naturally and we both enjoy spending time ...
A. 18 December 2011: Hi LetThereBeRock,
Have a wonderful time with your girlfriend and don't worry too much. Just relax and enjoy. Remember that you are both lucky to be in love and be each others first...
Happy holidays!!... (read in full...)
My mum might be cheating on my dad with her boss....
Q. Hi,I'm 14,15 in 3 months. Since I was 10,I got a little suspicious of my mother and her boss. He would buy us ice-cream and my grandmother would tell me not to tell my dad.I never liked her boss. I'm pretty sure he's married.She texts him a lot and ...
A. 16 December 2011: Hi,
I hope you are doing well and hope you can find the right solution for your family.
God bless... (read in full...)
My mum might be cheating on my dad with her boss....
Q. Hi,I'm 14,15 in 3 months. Since I was 10,I got a little suspicious of my mother and her boss. He would buy us ice-cream and my grandmother would tell me not to tell my dad.I never liked her boss. I'm pretty sure he's married.She texts him a lot and ...
A. 14 December 2011: Hi,
I've been thinking about your situation.
How about talking to your mom? One day, when she's feeling ok, and you both are alone in the house, why don't you talk to your mom?
Things to consider:
1) does your mom use drugs or alcohol?
2) is s... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out?
Q. I am currently a grad student and was a TA for a course (the semester just ended) The girl I'm interested in is not American born and has trouble with English. However, she seems quiet but really sweet and nice and even sent me an email immediatel...
A. 13 December 2011: Hi,
She seems like a sweet, shy, quiet girl. She's also consider and polite. Instead of asking her on a formal date, ask her if she wants to meet for coffee and just talk? It doens't need to be formal and all serious. Who knows after getting to know... (read in full...)
My mum might be cheating on my dad with her boss....
Q. Hi,I'm 14,15 in 3 months. Since I was 10,I got a little suspicious of my mother and her boss. He would buy us ice-cream and my grandmother would tell me not to tell my dad.I never liked her boss. I'm pretty sure he's married.She texts him a lot and ...
A. 13 December 2011: Hi,
I am sorry that you have to live with this secret in your heart for 5 years. You are a sweet daughter, kind, good person and very strong. I admire your courage and strength. You discovered this at the age 10. You were only a kid. You are stil... (read in full...)
My bf is chatting online with girls... should this bother me?
Q. My boyfriend has that game word with friends and all these girls chat with him an I read one an a girl said she was layin in bed he could join he didn't say anything bad back he just put lol an what? Should this worry me. Or is it just a guy thing ...
A. 13 December 2011: Hi just_me_16,
I know you get jealous, and it's normal to feel this way. In this case I think you have nothing to worry about, your boyfriend just enjoys playing the games and chatting with different people. This girl you mentioned, knows him, and ... (read in full...)
Questions about my sex life on the first date
Q. Today I went out with a guy for the first time- we've got some mutual acquaintances and that's how we got to meet. Date went well enough- the standard movie + eating one. He seems cute, easy going, laid back, kind to people and very good looking. ...
A. 13 December 2011: Dear male anonymous,
I agree with you, nothing wrong about asking your new partner about her/his past. We all do in certain point into the relationship, however not in the 1st date? Not in the first hour you spend with the new person... So much to t... (read in full...)
I broke up with b/f but I want him back even though he lies and cheats
Q. Hello Agonies. I've been going through this situation with my bf for, i'll say almost 3 years. Lately he has been making up excuses to have sex with me, changing his password to his phone, not wanting to talk to me whenever i come over due to the ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you are in pain. I know you've been with him for many years, but sometimes you have to do what's right for you. You need to be strong, respect yourself and run from this way. I know you love him, you are attached to him, but I don'... (read in full...)
I don't know if he's a complete liar or not.
Q. i have been having an affair at work with this man. I am extremely attracted to him and can't get him put of my head. Everybody found out about us at work. His girlfriend also works in the same place she is the only one that does not know. i had ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi,
He's a liar..... But, I don't think that matters anymore... He's married...sorry that you are hurt.... Next time you meet someone make sure he's single and available. Don't waste your time thinking about him, he's moved on and has his own fami... (read in full...)
He lied about another girl and we broke up, how do I cope?
Q. I started seeing this guy in September, although it was never official. We took a break in October, and he gave this like crap excuse. Eventually he came back. I thought we were good, until last night. I wanted to hang out with him since I'll be ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi,
Sorry you are feeling this way...
What are the changes you both end up in the same place? I know you have feelings for him, but unfortunately in this case, I'll advice you to move on and forget about him.
You called him that night? He d... (read in full...)
We've gone from an open and trusting relationship to one where he is secretive and ends up screaming at me if I try to address it!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I am not the type to write something here, but I do not know where else to turn. To start, I never thought I would need to come here, i always thought we would be perfect. everyone around u...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi,
I am sorry that you are feeling this way. It's really unfair, and you don't deserve to be treated unkindly. If you read articles about cheating, the erasing history phone/computer, being aggressive and sensitive, being secretive, mood swin... (read in full...)
Questions about my sex life on the first date
Q. Today I went out with a guy for the first time- we've got some mutual acquaintances and that's how we got to meet. Date went well enough- the standard movie + eating one. He seems cute, easy going, laid back, kind to people and very good looking. ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi diamondshards,
I know he was sweet, charming, good looking, etc... But, just because it looks good and normal from outside, doens't mean it's actually good. To me he's weird and rude. I wouldn't trust a guy like that, also if you get to know him ... (read in full...)
Now that we've danced together, and he seemed to really like me, should I introduce myself to him?
Q. Alright, so I went to what the students call my school's "s^^t dance". I danced with my friends and had a really great time until I danced with a foreign exchange student from the Czech Republic. He seemed to really like me, but I don't know him ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi,
Yes, you should introduce yourself to him and become friends. He's probably shy, because he's from another country. He's from different culture and it's probably unfamiliar with the people here. I am sure he will be happy if you say hi. I am s... (read in full...)
I'm devastated. She hasn't cheated yet, but is our marriage unravelling? She wants to try other men for sex.
Q. After a night of great sex my wife of 20 years informed me that she had begun thinking more and more of sex with other men. I pressed her a little if she meant like a three-way or more, and she said no, just one person. She didn't have anyb...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi,
I agree with the previous posters. You are luck to have such a honest wife.... Like she said, it's just a thought.... She loves you enough, trust you enough, feel comfortable enough to share her feelings. I know that it hurts to know, and the ... (read in full...)
Can a gay guy fall for a woman? He's my flatmate and we are really good friends.
Q. Hi there. I have a problem right now. Recently I moved in a flat sharing with more people and after 5 months living here I have a question about my flatmate. We have become like soulmates, we spend 24 hours together and we love it, it is just happ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi,
Yes I think he really likes you and enjoy being friends with you. Yes, a gay guy could have feelings for a woman, you even mentioned that he used to date women before he realized and admitted he's gay.
But you have to understand that he's ga... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and my family hasn't talk to me since I told them I'm pregnant. How do I get them back?
Q. I'm 15 and having a baby what should i do? i'm keeping the baby but my family hasn't talk to me since I told them. I want my family back, so what should I do? I can't do this on my own, they want nothing to do with me. ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi,
I know it's hard to not have support from your family in a difficult time like this, but you need to understand your parents feelings too. You are their innocent sweet little girl, imagine how they felt when you gave them the news?
I am not ... (read in full...)
My bf is chatting online with girls... should this bother me?
Q. My boyfriend has that game word with friends and all these girls chat with him an I read one an a girl said she was layin in bed he could join he didn't say anything bad back he just put lol an what? Should this worry me. Or is it just a guy thing ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi just_me_16,
No, you shouldn't worry.... He said lol... Because he was just being nice. It doesn't mean anything, and you shouldn't get mad at him. I like when you said: lol...what? It's cute, and you are his girlfriend and have the right to... (read in full...)
Should I contact him? Is he hinting that he misses me?
Q. I have a short term ex I dated for a month and a half. He was very into me: asking me to be exclusive early on, driving multiple times to see me on weekdays (I live a couple hours away from him), buying little gifts for me and for my sister he never ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi,
You seem like a very nice girl. I guess him adding the things you like in his profile means that you've introduce him to new ventures and now he likes them. I wouldn't necessary say that means he misses you.
He was very nice to you, complet... (read in full...)
I need opinions please? Have I been rejected??
Q. I met this girl the other day when my friend took me to another friends house. We all started to play poker, and she didn't know how.being the great guy I am, I volunteered to sit out a few hands and teach her! Now, we began talking as I'm doing so, ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi,
Since you guys see each other at school, approach her as you normally do, make normal conversation and ask her casually that few days ago you made a friend request on Facebook? Ask her, did you see that? Tell her that if she didnt like, or want... (read in full...)
I can't understand why she is acting like this... Is she trying to punish me?
Q. She's 21, and i'm in my late 20's; we're in grad. school together. She was obviously interested in me for over a month. Then, there was some petty drama (frustration--finals). After, she would answer my calls, but then be evasive. Then she started ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi,
I don't know her, but she's a little immature. Vindictive plan? Why and what makes you think this way?
I know you tried to talk to her, but you need to try again. She's obviously angry with you because you did something. She's ignoring you beca... (read in full...)
We are both virgins. And committed to each other. But what can I do about my erectile issues?
Q. I'm a 19 year old male and I started dating a girl from my university dorm this school year. Up until then, neither of us had a very serious relationship and both of us are virgins. Things have progressed naturally and we both enjoy spending time ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi letThereberock,
You guys are so sweet and I am happy that you both found each other to be the 1st time... You both are luck....
Even though you love her, you are attractive to her and not stress I think that the last experiences is making y... (read in full...)
How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me?
Q. How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me? Lately this guy im seein does not want to spend time with me and does not return my txts most of the time, so one night I had a feeling he was with someone else and I had to go past his place to the ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hi Sunshine8508,
This woman gives you dirty look because she doesn't like you. I know you don't even know her, and you haven't done anything to her. She wants what you have.... Your boyfriend........ (read in full...)
Should I move back to Sydney or stay where I am?
Q. Hello, This is not a love relationship question but it would be great if I could get some advice. To cut a long story short- I am currently trying to make a decision about what to do with my life. I left my home town of Sydney 1 1/2 years ago a...
A. 11 December 2011: Hi Cupid lover,
I would move back to my hometown (Sydney). I would finish university, continue painting. There's nothing holding you back to stay where you are now, but at home you can go to uni and pursue your painting as well. You mentioned mone... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me some insight as to what happened with her?
Q. My ex and I dated for 3.5 years. She went out with work and met someone. She started to treat me like garbage the next 3 weeks and then finally broke up with me. This was confirmed that it was the first time they had met. She stayed in contact with ...
A. 11 December 2011: Hi leftforanother,
Lies, betrayal, deceitful, my best friend, that's exactly how I feel...
I am so glad to hear that you are doing well... I think everybody in life will go trough financial hardship once, I am just happy you were strong enough a... (read in full...)
Two women--Should I get back with the first one or keep dating the 2nd one?
Q. Ok, here it goes i dated a woman for 5 months before her mom was diagnosed with lung cancer.So my question is should I get back with her. Her mom is done with treatment and is better now.Five months is a long time of not seeing her.I hung on tight ...
A. 11 December 2011: Hi,
I am glad you both decided to get back together. Remember, being honest is the best way.... Save a lot of confusion, heartache, etc...
I wish you and your girlfriend happiness. I hope life is kind to both of you... And hope her mother gets a f... (read in full...)
So what gives? I don't want to be duped again. Is it because he's too shy and I'm too skeptical?
Q. Hi everyone. I need some advice. So, on Thursday night I slept with someone for the first time in a long time. We briefly dated last year but it ended in disaster. everything felt wrong as our "relationship" started after a drunken one night stan...
A. 10 December 2011: Hi,
Great advice from the previous poster. I just want to add that, I think what happened last year didn't work out under the circumstances on how you both met. It's was a drunken one night stand, you both didn't know each other well, and it's ok b... (read in full...)
He says he'll wait but does he really just want sex and then he'll dump me?
Q. hi everyone,im 17 and my bf is 22 we have been dating for six months now i really love him,we have talked about sex and i told him i wasn't ready,i believe in no sex before marriage and he said he will wait but everytime we are together he asks for ...
A. 10 December 2011: Hi,
I am sorry you had to go through such a horrific experience in such a young age. I hope you read all the answers given prior to mine carefully, very good advice and I hope it make sense.
You are a courageous person and I admire your decisio... (read in full...)
I adore my man! But, will his having kids and a rather controlling ex threaten the relationship in the long run?
Q. Hello! Hope you can give me some advice. I am in a real predicament. I have met a wonderful man. We have been together 5 months and we have such a wonderful relationship. He is kind, caring, respectful and the bond we have is truly amazing. I...
A. 10 December 2011: Hi,
You seem like a lovely lady. Have class and you are a good/nice person. I understand how your parents feel, they just love you and have the best interest in you. All they want is for you to be happy.
I think your boyfriend is a nice, respon... (read in full...)
Should I go through his phone? Or is he even worth another chance?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and it's been a little rocky. The first year or so, although he never cheated on me, he was always texting and calling women he had been with in the past and it always caused problems. He didn't see the ...
A. 10 December 2011: Hi,
This is bad advice, but check his phone for your own sanity. It's frustrating, agonizing to always wonder and it becomes exhausting. He has betrayed your trust many times before, and it's not your fault that you became paranoid about his acti... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me some insight as to what happened with her?
Q. My ex and I dated for 3.5 years. She went out with work and met someone. She started to treat me like garbage the next 3 weeks and then finally broke up with me. This was confirmed that it was the first time they had met. She stayed in contact with ...
A. 10 December 2011: Hi leftforanother,
I am sorry for the pain you are going through. I wish I had answers to your questions. I can only imagine how you feel. I am not going to say, I know how you feel, because each individual endures their pain in different ways. I ha... (read in full...)
Is it right to ignore him?
Q. Hi I hope you can help with my problem. Three years ago I told this guy I had feelings for him and he was in a relationship. He told me he's always liked me. Anyway we left things on bad terms and I got hurt. He got in touch with me two years ...
A. 10 December 2011: Hi,
Poor guy give him a chance...
It happened 3 years ago, and you knew he was in a relationship, so it's not his fault. I am guessing he's single now, so he's trying to reconnect with you. What happened 3 years ago was not his fault. It was just... (read in full...)
I don't want to see the two people that I love more than anything in this world fall apart like this
Q. I'm in such a difficult spot right now, and I don't know where to turn. My parents have been my everything my entire life. They've been my inspiration, my best friends, my counselors, my teachers, my source for strength and comfort, my prov...
A. 10 December 2011: Hi jen1689,
You have an amazing family... I admire the strengh and the love...
Your mom and dad are truly great survivors. They've proven numerous times.... God has given your family all these responsibilities because God knows you can handle a... (read in full...)
I feel trapped within my marriage..
Q. when we were living together , he acted generous, he paid whenever we went out to eat, but now that we're married and have a baby, he's been bickering with me that I should be the one working while he stays at home and watch the baby; he said women ...
A. 10 December 2011: Hi,
I am sorry that you are living this way. I don't understand why your husband is so bitter towards you? I mean, you just had a baby? It's only fair that you stayed home taking care of the baby, specially the first few months is so important as y... (read in full...)
Two women--Should I get back with the first one or keep dating the 2nd one?
Q. Ok, here it goes i dated a woman for 5 months before her mom was diagnosed with lung cancer.So my question is should I get back with her. Her mom is done with treatment and is better now.Five months is a long time of not seeing her.I hung on tight ...
A. 10 December 2011: Hi,
I am sure she misses you and care about you. But, in my opinion, she's probably emotionally overwhelmed taking care of her mom, and on top of that her 2 children. She's being a responsible mother and daughther.
I think you should ask h... (read in full...)
Is 20 years too long to apologize after a bad break up?
Q. Is 20 years after a bad break up too long to apoligize? We had a really bad break up and I cheated on him. We had dated for about 2 years. I was not happy and he was so self absorbed he never caught on. I recently saw him and he avoids me. Turn and ...
A. 10 December 2011: Hi,
It's a long time for someone to hold a grudge?... I am sure you said many hurtful things, but I can't believe that he doens't talk to you when he sees you, specially after 20 years, specially after you both are married with children. You don'... (read in full...)
Considering my parents are both experiencing health and financial problems, should I give them a cash gift for Christmas or dinner and a movie gift cards for a fun night out?
Q. Question in regards to parents Recently my family has gone through a tough time I am 32 and have not lived at home with my parents for a very long time... Both my parents are currently disabled. Dads been on disability for 3 years Mom was w...
A. 10 December 2011: Hi,
First of all, all the three of you are very good people helping your parensts and being supportive and kind. The fun of offering a gift is to unwrap the gift paper, and not know what's inside, however in your situation I think giving them mone... (read in full...)
My partner couldn't be bothered that I miscarried our baby, and he's been busy texting his ex while I'm going through hell!
Q. Hi I've been with my partner for 3 half years. I was due to move on with him next month. In October I found out I was pregnant and was so happy. I'm 41 and my son has left home. My bf wasn't too keen at first but eventually began to get excited....
A. 7 December 2011: Hi noggins,
I am sorry for your loss and I am sorry for the pain you are going through. As I am reading your post I cannot believe? I know you've been together 3 half years. I know you do care for this man. I know it's hard to let go of him beca... (read in full...)
Trying to be the husband she and most would want, but is she losing interest in me?
Q. I have been married now over a 10 years, I really love my wife and have done everything in my power to make her happy to be married to me. In addition to that, I read a lot into what women would like in a husband just to make sure I am better than...
A. 7 December 2011: Hi,
I am just as confused as you are. The way you describe yourself, the things you do for her, help around the house, no money problems, I am very confused.... You also seem like a very nice, smart, kind man....
As we all know, after so many yea... (read in full...)
Can I rebuild after so many set-backs? I desperately need experienced advice on my heart ache
Q. Hi everyone. I have been a dear cupid reader for 3 years now. This is the time of my life I really really need support and advice. I feel I am really ugly and unattractuve. Please I urge you to read cause it is going to get really long but I will k...
A. 6 December 2011: Hi,
I am going to be honest, and give you my opinion. I might be wrong, but this is how I feel...
I don't mind your post being long, but I feel that you are too intense... Meaning, too polite, too nice... You mentioned politely numerous times?..... (read in full...)
He did play me for a fool but he was also interested in me before. Should I now continue talking to him and see where it leads? Or call it quits?
Q. pleasee help me i am overly confused over an year ago i liked this guy and he liked me but he was talking to me and my friend at the same time,i found out and completely deleted his number and everything.after a week or so he got into a relation...
A. 6 December 2011: Hi,
I am going to point out what you said, and I am going to try my best not to be harsh...
1) he liked you before, but chose the other girl over you? So, now you reconnect? This mean you are 2nd choice..
2) you cannot truly believe/trus... (read in full...)
I'm starting to lose trust on my fiancée. She lived with a male roommate and when I visited her, her sofa smelt like sex!!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm becoming not to trust my bride. Tobe. She had a male roommate for about a year he recently moved from her home. Just a few blocks away I live farther distance. I. Viset her and her sofa smelled like sex.I got angrry and left after co...
A. 6 December 2011: Hi,
I think you are being a little unfair on your girlfriend accusing her, stressing her out, giving her pain for no reason. "couch smells like sex"...
Pls, stop... Give her a chance... Do not accuse her, make her feel bad, and sad until you have... (read in full...)
How did you move on from a broken heart?
Q. Hi guys, i just dont know what to do. I am still heartbroken nearly 2 years down the line. I have tried to get over him. No contact, going out with friends. Pampering myself you know all these things, and yet I have a great empty hole in the pit of ...
A. 6 December 2011: Hi,
2 years? Me...15 mos... Lol :)
I did a lot of searching, read many articles, seek help in different ways.
You know what to do? You know what you should do? You know what needs to be done? You tried everything... Nothing works... I guess it's... (read in full...)
15 year long relationship, 5 years of marriage...and now we are divorced because my wife could not be loyal to me.
Q. It has been right 3 months as of today since we divorced, which ended a 15 years long relationship and 5 years long marriage. Now, I am living alone and kept the divorce unknown to most of relatives including my parents and friends except a few very ...
A. 6 December 2011: Hi wan_yxq,
Same story here.
* 10 years together
* discovered aug 13, 2010/ kept secret from me almost 1 yr
* 15 mos fighting / same drama-I want him to tell me the truth and admit- he said:"just friends"... In between arguments during all those... (read in full...)
My Gf got pissed that I dropped some rice in her bowl of soup, that I was angry at her and that I didn't call her, and now we shouldn't see each other till the end of the year! How trivial is that!!
Q. My gf and I are mad at each other. We’ve dated for about 16 months. I’m 27 and she’s 26. We’re each other's first gf/bf. We were eating at a buffet along with her sister. My gf returned to the table with a small bowl of soup and placed it on the...
A. 5 December 2011: Hi Stuckguy,
Now I understand her behavior, and why her sister defended her. It's her dad to blame. " an apple don't fall too far from the tree"....
1st it's in her genes.
2nd it's her character.
3rd she grew up watching her dad being so rud... (read in full...)
How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me?
Q. How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me? Lately this guy im seein does not want to spend time with me and does not return my txts most of the time, so one night I had a feeling he was with someone else and I had to go past his place to the ...
A. 4 December 2011: Hi sunshine8508,
Sorry that are feeling this way....
How long have you been seeing him?
Are you guys officially a couple?
Reading your short post I can tell for sure that he's not being honest with you. The unknown car in his driveway coul... (read in full...)
My Gf got pissed that I dropped some rice in her bowl of soup, that I was angry at her and that I didn't call her, and now we shouldn't see each other till the end of the year! How trivial is that!!
Q. My gf and I are mad at each other. We’ve dated for about 16 months. I’m 27 and she’s 26. We’re each other's first gf/bf. We were eating at a buffet along with her sister. My gf returned to the table with a small bowl of soup and placed it on the...
A. 4 December 2011: Hi,
I know you are upset, but this is kind of funny?... I don't understand why you would argue over this?
You mentioned that this is the 5x that something like this has happened? And her sister defended her? I guess this is how she is? Just a s... (read in full...)
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