Parasite Girlfriend is running me dry. What can I do?
Q. HELP!!!!! I am in a relationship with a girl I live with and have been dating for 2 years. Ever since I met her I have been paying all her bills. You name it I pay for everything...cell phone, car payment, rent, clothing, food, child support ...
A. 24 June 2011: What kind of question is this?
Its ok when a man takes care of the wife or girlfriend, but I don't understand why you have to pay for everything? Why can't she work and share the bills with you?
You're in the middle 30's and I assume she's about ... (read in full...)
My marriage problems are making me miss my ex!
Q. I am married for more than 1 and a half yr, and as the days are passing i am missing my ex more everyday... I cry hours just remembering his cute gestures of care. he was a very loving man... now you must be thinking why the hell I am not with him ...
A. 23 June 2011: Hi,
I am sorry to hear that you're not happy.
I am surprise that your husband is so cold with you, I mean you've been married for only a year and a half? Shouldn't this be the honeymoon stage? This is a beginning of your lives together as a couple... (read in full...)
I want to see her again. How can I avoid coming on too strong?
Q. I'm just looking for some guidance really. I met a girl over a dating website some time ago and we've been talking for a few months now. We finally had the chance to meet yesterday, so we went out and we seemed to have a very nice evening. We got ...
A. 23 June 2011: Hi,
My friend, you don't need any advise. So far, you are doing everything right.
Meeting someone online could be risk, you never know, right?
You have been communicating online only for a few months, which is great, because you want to ... (read in full...)
Should I let him go, or change like he has asked me to?
Q. I've following your website for quite sometime now and honestly I could relate in anyways. I have problem myself regarding my long time relationship. It's been making me confuse on what to do. My boyfriend has been showing signs of coldness ...
A. 23 June 2011: Hi,
Long distances relationship are hard to make it work. Its takes a lot of patience and dedication. But, if you really love him, besides the fact that you miss him, it shouldn't be a problem.
You said you see each other once in two weeks? M... (read in full...)
My partner treats me more like a friend and not his GF. Can this relationship survive with no intimacy?
Q. Confusing Boyfriend! My partner and I have been together for a year, he used to be quite an afectionate guy, lots of hugging etc and our sex life used to quite good. Things have changed so much so fast, I have confronted him and asked why these ...
A. 23 June 2011: Hi,
Intimacy is not everything in a relationship, but it takes a big part. Its the time when you both bond together and let your guards down. It should be special, its when you both get closer and express the love for one another.
I don't know h... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's best friend is another man. Should I let her go, knowing that she will always be confiding and trusting in another man more than me?
Q. My girlfriend has told me that her VERY BEST FRIEND is another man. They have been best friends for over 30 years. They frequently interact via text, phone calls, email, and Facebook. (He is currently divorced and living halfway across the country) ...
A. 23 June 2011: Hi dear friend,
I was reading your story and I truly agree and understand how you feel. Its almost impossible that a man and a female can be best friends without any other intensions, but for my own personal experience I had to answer ans reas... (read in full...)
My ex used to insult me and ridicule my body to such an extent, that its affecting me even now, in my present relationship.
Q. In 2007 I met my ex, who I was with for 2 years. During the beginning/insanely happy stage of the relationship he was lovely, but then he started to really insult me; no violence at all, but he used to call me fat every day. I wasn't, I was a UK 14 ...
A. 23 June 2011: Hi, I am going to be very honest with you. First of all he's your "ex-boyfriend" and its over and done, thank God! Don't let the past hold you back to your wonderful future. You might have a wonderful guy now and don't let the past affect your fut... (read in full...)
Did I mess up by not kissing him?
Q. Hey, I'm a 20 year old girl with little dating experience and I'm in a bit of a pickle. I went on a date yesterday and it was quite wonderful. It was our second. He took me out to dinner and paid and everything (I offered to pay for half, but he...
A. 17 June 2011: No worries....
You didn't do anything wrong and didn't give him any wrong impressions.
It was only your 2nd date? Don't over think.. Just enjoy your time together and have fun. Don't plan, just be yourself and the romance will envolve natu... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want to have sex after being raped 6 years ago
Q. My girl friend got rapped at the age of 18,and now she is 24 since then she didn't want to sleep with a man again.She is always afraid,that it will hurt her though she feel like doing it.Now it's difficult trying to sleep with her due to her past ...
A. 17 June 2011: Sorry that your girlfriend had to go through such a horrible experience. Must be so difficult for her to feel normal and sorry that she has to live with this pain for the rest of her life. She was very young and innocent. My heart goes to your ... (read in full...)
Married and still have feelings for my ex
Q. About 6 months ago an ex-girlfriend found me on facebook. It wasn't until 3 weeks ago that she finally sent me a message saying to let her know when I'm in her area, because she would like to see me. This message really got me thinking about her ...
A. 17 June 2011: Sorry for judging you. I know you had no intensions to have an affair.
I understand about closure, why don't you meet her one more time to ask her why she ended the way she did without giving you a solid explanation. I know it might sound we... (read in full...)
Married and still have feelings for my ex
Q. About 6 months ago an ex-girlfriend found me on facebook. It wasn't until 3 weeks ago that she finally sent me a message saying to let her know when I'm in her area, because she would like to see me. This message really got me thinking about her ...
A. 16 June 2011: The previous person said this is a difficult situation? NO its not!!!
I understand you have problems in your marriage, but if you are not happy, then get a divorce.
If you think you still love your wife? Then try to fix your marriage. If you... (read in full...)
Would it be a fools hope to think the relationship could be salvaged after 8 years of not being together?
Q. Well I never thought i'd be lowering my standard to ask complete strangers outside of my own circle for an outsiders opinion but current circumstances contact with my own family is irregular and well majority of my closest peers aren't sound for ...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi,
Wow, you're right..days of our lives have nothing on you". The mother in law is a unique individual for the lack of better words. Its not my place to judge since I don't know her.
Not surprise the ex-husband had a stroke? I would too..I... (read in full...)
Do you think I should continue to maintain military silence, maybe respond for him to leave me alone?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I kicked out my abusive ex about 4/5 months ago. The first three weeks of the break-up he called and begged non-stop and I maintained military silence. It seemed to work as he left me alone. Recently he has come out ...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi, Military silence? Lol...when I was reading your title I thought it had something to do with military?.. Another person explaing her story describing as: "royally dumped" I love the fact that women now days are so strong, smart.. Sorry that y... (read in full...)
My ex left abruptly, then completely shut me out. How do I get over him without any explanation or closure?
Q. How do you get over your ex and stop thinking about him? It is especially hard since he completely shut me out of his life and left abruptly with no contact. When I do try to contact him he doesn't pick up or respond to me. I'm not sure how to get ...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi, I am sorry too... Makes me angry just imagining how one human being can be so cruel and cold hearted to another human being. Right now, no matter what people say to you, the advices, nothing will make you feel better. Nothing will cha... (read in full...)
Where to go from here? There's nothing left
Q. where to go from here is what i ask,there's nothing left my husband treats me as if i'm a child what time he isn't he's treating me as if i'm his mother.i really don't know why i stay.there's no affection between us anymore,there's nothing but work ...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi,
I am sorry that you're feeling the way you do. I wish I had one answer that will fix all your problems. I pill that will make all your pain, sadness and loneliness go away.
You've been married for a very long time and this is very delicat... (read in full...)
I think I'm getting to the point where I'm bored with my relationship...
Q. I think I'm getting to the point where I'm bored with my relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and maybe the relationship has run its course. I've tried to suggest new things to do and places to go, but he seems to be focused on his ...
A. 14 June 2011: Meu Deus do ceu...
Eu morava en Sao Paulo e mudei para o estados unidos 22 anos atras. Tenho muita saudades do Brasil
Enough about me. How do you write and I am sure you speak english so well? I took private school to learn english and didn't l... (read in full...)
Why is it so difficult to meet the right person?
Q. After my ex royally screwed me over and I went through a bad breakup. I've tried datinf other people wihtout success. Guy #1 I was crazy about. But he was immature and didn't know what he wanted. He was off and on with me. I got pissed off and didn...
A. 14 June 2011: Everybody is different and don't compare yourself to your coworker or anybody else.
So what if its taking a while to find the right man. So what if you had few little relationships that didn't work. Some people find love at 1st sight, some mig... (read in full...)
"talk to you soon" after a break up? does he mean it?
Q. I made contact with my ex boyfriend today. We broke up a month ago (dated for 5 months) and I know that we aren't going to get back together because his reasons were pretty firm. I still think about him a lot and in the back of my mind I think I'll ...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi,
Break ups are hard, besides loosing someone you love, is the hardest thing one have to go through.
Good news:
1]You're not the only one
2]I know its unfair because you're a good person, didn't do anything wrong, yet why it happened is c... (read in full...)
Should I tell my girlfriend that I use viagra?
Q. Hi I have been in a loving relationship for the past year. We have a great sex life, the thing is, I use viagra because it helps me to perform (I am 39 now and well enough said). I have never told my girlfriend that I use viagra and I am wanting ...
A. 14 June 2011: After being together for a year, I don't think you should worry about her leaving you. I am sure that she loves you more than just sex. Physical relationship don't last, and for woman, we're different than guys, we want it all, specially the ... (read in full...)
She says she needs time to forgive me?
Q. I fell in love with this girl in 6th grade....we're seniors in high school now. i broke her heart in 6th grade and she broke mine last year when we dated for a year.... it took a while to hit me but everytime we talk i miss her more and more, she ...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi,
Tell her that you still love her and miss her everyday. Tell her that you've changed and that are willing to do whatever it takes to get back together. Tell her that you'll wait for her...that you want to start fresh and new. Tell her that you ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for a person's true colors to come out?
Q. Hi, I don't know whether my question is appropriate or not, but I am so lost. I met a guy june 2010, but we didn't get close till january 2011. he was sweet n kind, i got interested n he finally confessed his feelings in april and soon after...
A. 14 June 2011: Rather he's for real or not? Only time will tell. He's been with you for almost a year now, still with you, then why not trsut him, love him, appreciate him, enjoy your time together. Be happyn if you're happy he'll be happy too and you will have a ... (read in full...)
A blast from the past
Q. I have been married to a girl i was with for 25 years ,in the 11th year she gave birth to my son,so I married her and gave my son all the love that a father could,meanwhile not in love with his mother ,I never cheated on her in entire time we were ...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi friend,
You're in a situation so called: pickled"
I really hope from the bottom of my heart that you keep this as a secret and never let your wife know. I've been with my ex for 10 years, just 10 mos ago found out about another woman and 10... (read in full...)
She thinks of me as a brother, not a lover
Q. Am in love with a friend of mine, we grew up together and have known each other from childhood. I told he how i feel abaut her and dat am in love with her,but she said to me that am like a brother to her and she dont know how she will date or go ...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you'll feel sad, but I have to agree with your friend.
You said you've know each other since little kids and grow up together? No wonder she's confused. Through out her whole life, she saw you as a close brother, not a man. You h... (read in full...)
Teacher added everyone but me on Facebook
Q. Hi, my name is Rach and I'm 14 years old... thing is, I have a really huge crush on this teacher and yes, signs are there that he likes me back. Every time I'm near him I catch him looking at me, and there was once my two friends confronted him and ...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi Rach,
Sorry that you're feeling this way. I guess is normal to have crush on teachers? But, you have to realize that it should end as that. Its ok, its cute, but he's an adult and you're not only a student, but minor. Will never go any furt... (read in full...)
Love letters?
Q. Are love letters effective when it comes to letting a guy know that you are interested in him, or is it a childish or high school act? Just wondering. Thanks ...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi, Depends on the relationship, the person and how close you both are. If you're just friends? Then it might be risk, because you don't know for sure how he feels about you. Maybe a nice card, letting him know that you're happy to have him in... (read in full...)
I suspect he's being used for money and I'm really worried about him!
Q. I don't understand what I've done wrong. I'm close friends with a guy an the other day he asked me to send an email for him which i did. I saw another which I shouldn't have and I basically got the idea that hes being played by a girl from the ...
A. 14 June 2011: As a friend, you should really talk to him again. When it comes to money, I am sure this girl is using him for money. Don't let this go any further. Its your obligation as a friend to help him see through.
I feel bad for your friend, because ... (read in full...)
Alcoholic girlfriend - can I trust her that she will stop?
Q. My girlfriend is a self admitted alcoholic. 3 years into our relationship I saw it as a problem, and in year 4, after hidden booze and many booze-induced fights she finally admitted to it. After the initial phase of a breakup in year 4, she p...
A. 12 June 2011: Hi, You mentioned that besides the alcohol issue, she also have personal past issues that have affected her as a person, maybe the past is the reason why she turns to alcohol? Make sense, and easy to understand your gfs behavior. You've been ... (read in full...)
28 years later and I want to know what her sexual past was
Q. hi i have been married to a wonderful woman for 28 years. i met her when she was 16 and i was 20. i was with prostitutes from 18 till before i met her. i could not have sex with girls i went to school with and take what did not belong to me,so i ...
A. 12 June 2011: Honestly? And pls, don't take this in a wrong way and by no means I am not trying to be rude to you.. But, its weird. I feel bad that you've been feeling sad, depress to the point that you're crying? But, I don't understand you. 28 years later?... (read in full...)
Her actions turned me into a monster and now I'm all messed up
Q. Hi all, I'm looking to try and find a way through a recent break up, a very long and painful one so far, I love her with all my heart, and thought she did too, turns out I was very wrong, her actions spoke a lot louder than words, which in the end...
A. 12 June 2011: Hi, I wasn't going to answer, because I don't have a straight answer to give you. I know its hard, painful, makes you angry, hurtful, disappointed. You have all these mix emotions and we all know them too well. You have the right to feel this w... (read in full...)
My friend's girlfriend is a bitch and makes it known she doesn't like me
Q. I am so offended by my friends stupid girlfriends behavior and I am not sure how to handle it. The history is that I have been friends with this man for over 10 years...strictly platonic...we talked about going further and decided years ago not ...
A. 12 June 2011: Dear friend, I feel your anger, when you mentioned spit? Not worth your spit was funny, with all the respect. I am 38 years old, my besfriend is a male. My case is a little different though, we dated for 5 years and 10 years later all together... (read in full...)
Should I take my 11 year old to a psychologist?
Q. My 11 year-old son seems sad these days. Last night he was crying at a family party even though he had some friends over too. When I asked him what was wrong, he replied that he hated school. This strikes me as odd for a Saturday night near the end ...
A. 12 June 2011: Same advice: try talking to him first. His in that age when his not a boy, but not an adult either. Try to approach him when he's more calm. Best thing is to, together with your son, find out the reason why he's so sad and stress about school? ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend slept with a ganster/drug dealer, how do I deal with this?
Q. Hello everyone I've got a real problem with my relationship my gf and I have been together for about a year and ten months but when I found out she slept with another man while we were split up I was crushed The main problem is that fact if her s...
A. 12 June 2011: Hey, Glad you're feeling better. People have different opinions and point of views, at the end, you decide your life. Cheating sucks, definitely shouldn't get back together, but some cases are different and if you feel you want to give another ... (read in full...)
How do I approach my parents to tell them I want to move out?
Q. I'm wanting to move out of my parents house , I'm 16 and have a baby. I plan on living with the baby's father he has a place of his own. He already buys me everything and the baby, it would be better for us and we would finally feel like a ...
A. 10 June 2011: Hi,
You're a smart woman, don't need to think or plan anything. Just wait until they both look relax and in a good mood. The right time is important. What to say? Tell them exactly how you wrote your question. Its perfect.
You're smart and sw... (read in full...)
My friend told my boyfriend I was cheating even though I'm not! Should I end the friendship?
Q. Ok so this girl who is suppose to be my best friend told my boyfriend that i was cheating on him by sending naked photos to some other guy. Truth is, i wasnt cheating on him and yeah she did go through my phone and saw a picture of me in my bra but ...
A. 10 June 2011: When I read your title the answer was easy, end friendship, but you've been friend for a long time, she's almost like a sister to you.
I don't understand why your best friend send messages to your boyfriend? To me is weird, but if its ok with you... (read in full...)
Will he ever realise what he as lost? We he ever come to his senses and leave this girl?
Q. I need some advise, I have recently disowned my brother for cheating on his wife with her mate...her mate was also the bridesmaid at their wedding. I am not the only one that as disowned him, so as my mother and brother and the rest of the family. ...
A. 10 June 2011: Very sorry that your family are going through so much pain and stress..
My family were very close family too. But, 3 close brothers don't speak to each for years because of their wives didn't get along. My brother and I are only 1 year aprt we ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend slept with a ganster/drug dealer, how do I deal with this?
Q. Hello everyone I've got a real problem with my relationship my gf and I have been together for about a year and ten months but when I found out she slept with another man while we were split up I was crushed The main problem is that fact if her s...
A. 10 June 2011: I know how you feel, been there... How do you deal with it? 1st step: need all your questions answered truthfully. Need to know the truth.. 2nd step: let your anger, pain out. Let her know that you feel pain, anger and betrayed. You have to let all ... (read in full...)
Is he playing games or does he still have feelings for me?
Q. Broke up 8yrs ago. I spoke to his secretary on internet and he asked for my number. He calls me to tell me he is getting divorced. He continues calling for the past 3 months. He ask me to go on a date with some friends. He tells me he regrets ...
A. 10 June 2011: I don't think he's playing games with you. 3 mos still very recent. He's probably stress, exahasted w/his ex. Maybe need time to cool off, send him a message, short, sweet, simple..just thought of you and wondering how you're doing? Hope u ok? Kind ... (read in full...)
I still do love her. And I do want her back. So how can I get her to come back to me?
Q. hey my ex broke up with me 2 months ago and we were together for 1 year and a half. Tomorrow is the last day of school. but she completely changed. now all she does is hang around the people I'm jealous of, she sings a lot now and she only sang in ...
A. 10 June 2011: Please?!!! Let her go...
I know you've been together 1 1/2 year, that you still love her, but is more attachment.. You're used to have her in your life, change in any circumstances are uncomfortable and difficult. Right now is very hard for you,... (read in full...)
My husband wont end his affair
Q. Hi, i was hoping someone could advise me on my heartbreaking marriage. 3 years ago i found out my husband was having an affair, he swore he would give her up but he never did. Throught the 3 years ive found upto 30 secret phones - i bin them but...
A. 29 May 2011: Dear friend,
I was just browsing the stories, had no intensions in reply any of the questions, but your story made me so angry that I need to be honest with you.
I understand you completely, I know that you love your husband, 24 years invested... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend and I got into heated argument on the phone. Should I apologize?
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship on and off for about a year and a half! I really care for this person. He only lives about 4-5 hours away and I have yet to physically meet him. He's put me through so much emotional stresses so I never felt ...
A. 26 May 2011: I'll be honest with you... You're very young... Right now you see only one way... But, LDR rarely works... It takes a lot of respect, love, honesty, patience to make it work.
The fact that you both fight all the time, 5 min later apologie... (read in full...)
I don't find my wife attractive anymore
Q. Me and my wife have been living together for nine years and married for the last six we have two children the youngest is four years old throughout our relationship her weight and appearance has fluctuated. in the last few years I have found her ...
A. 26 May 2011: I wasn't going to answer this but, felt obligated to. All the people in here gave you good advice, hope you take it seriously...
Best answer yet, "IRONMAN777" he's been in the same situation... So, try to save your marriage while you can... I... (read in full...)
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