I don't find my wife attractive anymore
Q. Me and my wife have been living together for nine years and married for the last six we have two children the youngest is four years old throughout our relationship her weight and appearance has fluctuated. in the last few years I have found her ...
A. 26 May 2011: I wasn't going to answer this but, felt obligated to. All the people in here gave you good advice, hope you take it seriously...
Best answer yet, "IRONMAN777" he's been in the same situation... So, try to save your marriage while you can... I... (read in full...)
He's a lovely guy but his clothes are not stylish and he smokes. What do I do?
Q. Ok, i feel quite bad asking this because its all common sense but we all have preferences. I met this guy last weekend, I wasnt even meant to be going out, I was just meeting my sister in the pub for a few. Her boyfriend was in there watching t...
A. 26 May 2011: When you said 90's it was funny....
You are very sweet and very polite.
As for now, since you barely know him, this is the beginning of a realtionship, you don't know him well enough or are not comfortable enough to talk to him about the cl... (read in full...)
My GF thinks I cheat on her and is subjecting me to immense physical and mental abuse!
Q. hey guys n girls, longer story....help me.... im sorry if im not typing correctly to be honest im so depressed and sad. ok 3 yrs ago me and my gf got into a very big fight and she smacked me in my face then later she hit me with a bottle. I left h...
A. 26 May 2011: 1st of all sorry for your loss, my condolences, I too lost my mom 2002 and its very difficult..
The best thing for you is to end this toxic relationship! She's destroying you mentally, physically, emotionally.
You said you have a 2 year ol... (read in full...)
Can a woman give herself completely to a new love, despite having had many lovers in her past?
Q. I am 31 years old and dating this girl (27 3rd year surgical residency) which I absolutely love we are both very sexual beings. The problem is that we have different views on sexuality, even though she says that we don't. I have only had one sexual ...
A. 26 May 2011: Dear friend, My answer will be short and sweet...... The fact that she's willing to talk to you about her past means that she loves you and respect you. So she just want to start clean and fresh with you. You should be happy that she's honest.... (read in full...)
Should I leave my marriage or tough it out?
Q. Hello, This is gonna be long. So if you don't have the time, you might want to click through this one, lol. My wife and I have been married for 12 years and together for 14 years or so. To start from the beginning, initially we got along...
A. 26 May 2011: Dear friend, I would definetly take in consideration all the advices that have been given to you in this post. As you can see, they were not bias at all. These were good advices and all of them were very honest with you. I could see that you l... (read in full...)
Is my wife of 21 years cheating?
Q. Well here goes. I suspect I already know the answer to this question but here goes anyways. I suspect my wife of 21 years is cheating on me. Over the last 2 years my wife has really changed. She is from the Philippines and the last time she went ...
A. 23 May 2011: Dear FISHMASTER, I am glad to know that you did what's best for you and its the right thing. Sorry that it had to end this way... I know its very difficult, I know that you have many mix emotions, many questions, trying to understand,... (read in full...)
Is my wife of 21 years cheating?
Q. Well here goes. I suspect I already know the answer to this question but here goes anyways. I suspect my wife of 21 years is cheating on me. Over the last 2 years my wife has really changed. She is from the Philippines and the last time she went ...
A. 19 May 2011: Dear FISHMASTER,
I know its a very difficult time for you right now... But you're doing the right thing.
I know 21 years of marriage is a very long time, however when trust is broke in a relationship, its hard to continue being together. ... (read in full...)
Is my wife of 21 years cheating?
Q. Well here goes. I suspect I already know the answer to this question but here goes anyways. I suspect my wife of 21 years is cheating on me. Over the last 2 years my wife has really changed. She is from the Philippines and the last time she went ...
A. 16 May 2011: Dear friend,
Sorry that you are going through this.. After 21 years of marriage...
I agree with "ODDS" 100%!!!
He gave you the best advice possible... Please, don't let this go any longer...
You sound like a very good man, don't waste t... (read in full...)
I do not want to live the rest of my life never being french kissed and having that closeness and intimacy!
Q. I am 29, and have been dating a 40 year old for a little over 6 months now, when we first got together, he joked all the time about sex, but never made a move. Said every other relationship he was in, he was in bed in the 1st week and he really ...
A. 15 May 2011: I am sorry to say, but your relationship is not normal!
He's not being completly honest with you and in a relationship, trust and communication is very important as I am sure you already know.
He says: he loves you and wants to take things s... (read in full...)
What are my chances of getting my husband back?
Q. Hey need some help here guys, my question is what do you think my chances are of getting my husband back and us being a family again? We split up 8 weeks ago after he cheated on me with my good friend, he is in a relationship with her and living w...
A. 15 May 2011: Hi, I am sorry that you are going through a difficult time right now. Reading your story, I am very impress how strong you're, never once said a bad word about your husband. You are a great mom too. I am so happy that you're not using your child to... (read in full...)
I lied to this hot girl and told her I've had sex but I haven't
Q. Hi dear cupids I m 18 and I don't really have any sexual experience. I tried to have sex with a girl like a year ago but I had no acctual idea what I was doing and my penis couldn't fit in her. We tried it 2 other night but I still counldn't pu...
A. 15 May 2011: Don't worry..
Don't think too much, I am sure there's nothing wrong with you...
I think with the other girl you couldn't because you didn't feel attractive enough, you just tried to do for sex.
Positive about this new girl:
*you are ve... (read in full...)
Should I confront her about this or should I distance myself from it?
Q. Alright. I've been very close friends with this girl since the beginning of junior year. We've always been there for one another, and she is quite patient with me and my trust issues. I had an old friend since middle school who dated my ex, lied to ...
A. 15 May 2011: Dear friend,
Sorry that you had to hear such harsh words from your best friends?
Its hurtful that they talked bad things about you behind your back. I am much older than you, so I would say that their behavior is very immature, but gi... (read in full...)
Having some concerns to whether my friend is true to me or not!
Q. I'm having some concerns, weather my friend is true to me or not. I'm going frew a bit of an emotional time and i txt her, upset, saying that i felt like she wasn't that botherd with me. I mentioned in the txt that some times i will ask her how she ...
A. 15 May 2011: Dear friend,
I understand that you are hurt and frustrated, but its your fault to expect anything from her...
Just because you are the way you are, doesn't mean she has to respond to you the same way..
I agree with you that she's a little ... (read in full...)
Why do some nice people get exploited?
Q. Why do some nice people get exploited? I am a nice person and I've been walked on all my life. People take the piss out of me because they think i'm to stupid to notice and when i'm having a laugh and a joke, i always end the butt of it. I lived i...
A. 15 May 2011: Dear friend,
Unfortunately you had some bad experiences in your life.. Its part of life, there are many bad, self-fish people, cold hearted, immature people, however there are many good, wonderful people out there.. You just haven't met the righ... (read in full...)
Do sociopaths attach strongly to their victims--even if they don't feel empathy?
Q. I was with a girl for a long time who I believe was a sociopath. I dont wanna go into the details, but she had all the characteristics: she lied constantly, said very sweet things to me--as well as a bunch of other guys, was promiscuous and viewed ...
A. 15 May 2011: Dear friend,
When you mentioned sociopath I thought it was funny!
Reading your story, her behavior is not sociopath, but I think, since you mentioned she's good looking! She's just spoiled.. Maybe started as a child? this is the only way she know... (read in full...)
How do you respond to someone telling you they no longer find you attractive?
Q. So I'm a gay male that has been in a LTR with another man for over 10 years. We are both in our early 30's and are monogamous. At various points in our relationship, my partner has emotionally and mentally been exploring the idea of being with ...
A. 15 May 2011: Dear friend,
I know that right now you feel overwhel with all the things happening w/ur partner...
Let me start by saying that, the fact that he's honest w/you he's showing you a great amount of respect & he really loves you & cares about you...... (read in full...)
He cheated and then proposes with a $6000.00 ring?
Q. I just caught my boyfriend cheating on me. He took me on a trip a couple of months ago and took his side chick on the same trip a month ago, and I busted him down to the city and the hotel they were staying in. He appologized of course and said it ...
A. 14 May 2011: Dear friend, I know what you're going through..I know the feeling, the pain, the shock, the anger... Now that you know you're probably trying to make sense of a nonsense situation... I know its hard breaking, but for now, take the ring.. I believ... (read in full...)
I wanted to make her first time special but I couldnt keep it up! Help!
Q. Hi, I'm 19 m and in the most perfect relationship I've ever been in, it's been 6 months now and I am madly inlove with her. But- I was molested about 3 weeks ago.. and since then alot seems different, i have anxiety and can't really leave the...
A. 16 April 2011: Hi dear friend, Thank you for your kind words, but I was just being honest with you. I am so glad that somehow made you feel better... Life is full of challenges, I know what happened to you was something that hurted you, but its the past and tim... (read in full...)
She was unfaithful and has been with the new guy for 2 months, but I still cant shake the feeling that we are meant to be together.....
Q. This is my story. I am not sure exactly which questions I would like to ask, perhaps they will emerge during my writing. I was/am together with my partner for one year. She is 39 and I am 41. I have a child from a previous marriage, a love...
A. 4 April 2011: Hi,
I would like to tell you that you "don't need conseling". I don't understand why someone that loves you would tell you to get professional help? You have the right to feel this way. You have the right to be angry & in rage. You trusted her & wh... (read in full...)
After all this time, is it normal to feel so lost?
Q. I am having problems coping with the breakup of my marriage, and am worried that I still can't get over her completely. She was my best friend above all else, and it was a tremendous loss. It has been a year since we broke up and while I feel out ...
A. 4 April 2011: Hi,
Only you can answer that. If you still in love?
There's a difference between "love" & "attachment". As you mentioned, you've been together long & she was your best friend.
You always had her by your side to comfort you for a long time.... (read in full...)
Why is my ex boyfriend acting like this?
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me a year ago after a on-and-off relationship. I moved on quite soon afterwards. The thing is this past year has been a nightmare for me. I tried to be friends with my ex but he was always bitchy and resentful and blam...
A. 4 April 2011: Hi,
Very simple... He still have feelings for you & he's not over you...
I understand that he's the one the broke off the relationship, however I think he regrets & was hoping that you'll come back to him, so that's why he's acting this way, be... (read in full...)
Should I move away in the hopes of finding a partner?
Q. I have been single now for 18 months and I just don't meet any potential partners anywhere. I can't even get a date using online dating and with the net the rsponse is always because I don't want kids and there seem to be very few women in their ...
A. 4 April 2011: Dear friend,
I understand how you feel, but 18 mos its not that long.
I am around your age & its difficult to meet someone compatible in all ways. I've been single longer than you & I never visit any online dating.
I guess people are dif... (read in full...)
Should I believe him? Or believe my gut instinct?
Q. It's about 6 month that I am in relationship with my boyfriend. but I think he's cheating on me.I found some text messages from girls saying romantic things and sometimes he answered them the same.And every time I tell him about it, he says it's ...
A. 4 April 2011: Hi dear,
Nobody deserves to live life with doubts, specially from the one that you love.
You love & care about your boyfriend & is only fair to expect the same from him.
I've been there & done that. I know the gut feeling. It takes all the en... (read in full...)
My mother is dating my ex behind her husband's back!
Q. Im a 26 year old mother of one and a daughter to a 47yr old woman.I was dating a guy it started to get quite serious so after a few months of us dating,we moved in together.We were living together for a year before things started to change,i ended ...
A. 4 April 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you're in pain. Your story is unheard of..just when you think you know it all..
Your ex still have feelings for you now, but is dating your mom? He's studying to become a minister?
I hate to judge people that I don't know, b... (read in full...)
How can I overcome the hopelessness and low self-esteem I feel due to being called ugly?
Q. How can I overcome with the hopelessness and low self-esteem I feel due to being called ugly? I remember being a very happy, confident and fun child growing up. However, everything started going downhill since grade 3. During grade 3 I moved to a ...
A. 4 April 2011: Dear friend,
I agree with [honestman] 100%. This is funny, but he's really being honest with you.LOL!
About the kids in your school, its irrelevant, unfortunately this is reality of school life, thousands of kids are being harrass at school fo... (read in full...)
Lost my my girlfriend and our 3 month old baby girl in a car accident...How can I get through this?
Q. So on January 10th of this year, I lost my girlfriend and our 3 month old baby girl in a car accident. At first it wasn't really effecting me that much, a few weeks went by and it finally hit. All I can think about is them. Today I saw this little ...
A. 4 April 2011: Dear Rafa,
I am deeply sorry for your loss...there are no words to express the pain & no words to make you feel better.
I lost my mother due to pancreatic cancer 9 years. My mom was diagnosed few days after sept 11, 2001 & after 8 mos she pass... (read in full...)
My G/f has fallen for a much younger man,lies to me about meeting him and she has an alcohol problem. I don't know how much more of this I can take....
Q. I have been living with my girlfriend for 6 years now. I love her very much and she says she loves me too. She has a bit of an alcohol problem, not an alcoholic, she just gets pretty weird after a few glasses of wine, bit mad really. Times have bee...
A. 29 March 2011: Hi,
What do you think?
Your lady is dishonest, when having few drinks cannot control herself, cheats infront of your face, what else do you need to understand?
You did good calling the guy & telling him to back off, however you should also tell... (read in full...)
Should I confront my ex about his cheating?
Q. I recently split up with my boyfriend of 7 months since we were constantly at odds with each other due to his controlling and possessive behavior towards me. I recently found out via facebook that he was cheating on me (or vice versa) with the ...
A. 29 March 2011: Hi,
Just be glad you found out after 7 mos. Sorry that you have to go through this ridiculous situation. I know how you feel, happened to me 8 mos ago. These kind of men are loosers, immature, selfish & will never be happy.
As per your questio... (read in full...)
I don't want to overeact and ruin this relationship, but I am having a hard time trusting him!
Q. I am in a long distance relationship. The last time I slept with my boyfriend he gave me a yeast infection and now I am finding my self getting tested for all std's. I am finding so many inscurities rising to the surface as I think he also has given ...
A. 29 March 2011: Dear friend,
After failed relationships, its hard to see things clearly. Pls don't blame yourself, just because other relationships didn't work, doesn't mean its your fault.
I noticed you're being very careful, patience with your boyfriend, ... (read in full...)
I wanted to make her first time special but I couldnt keep it up! Help!
Q. Hi, I'm 19 m and in the most perfect relationship I've ever been in, it's been 6 months now and I am madly inlove with her. But- I was molested about 3 weeks ago.. and since then alot seems different, i have anxiety and can't really leave the...
A. 29 March 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you're feeling this way..
Don't be too hard on yourself.. What happened 3 weeks ago affected your life tremendously, so its only fair that you have anxiety, stress, hurt, confused, angry, etc..
You need time to heal! Need to tal... (read in full...)
Why did my ex un-friend me on facebook when she found out I was dating someone
Q. I date this girl for about 4 years. We broke up in August very amicably. We both loved each other but knew because of our circumstances could not get married. So I found out on fb 2 months later that she had met someone then she got engaged to ...
A. 29 March 2011: Hi,
All the answers above!
Its very simple. You both were in a relationship for 4 years (its a long time).
Even though she has moved on, she still have feelings left for you, its hard for her to see you have new someone.. I know its confusing be... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend says its ok for him to have sex with call girls since its just "meaningless sex"
Q. Hi Me and my bf are in LDR for the past 6 months. I'll be going back within 3-4 months. My bf wants to have sex with some callgirls, since there was no sex for the past 6 months. I dont like the idea, when i said even i didnt have any sex for 6 mo...
A. 29 March 2011: Hi,
I agree with person12345 & everybody else here.
Its all "bs" excuse my language. I understand man have needs, but so woman. You're faithful to him, its not right. Besides, callgirl? Ugh! How about all the diseases out there? What if you get s... (read in full...)
I hate feeling like his sugar son!
Q. Hi all, I've been in a relationship with my partner (also male) for the past 5 years. He's done a lot for me, i.e been very supportive of my new career, moved to a new part of the country to be with me etc. When we first moved in togethe...
A. 29 March 2011: Hi,
I hear your frustration & its only fair to feel this way. Many people go through the "no having a job process", but its hard when you don't see the person trying hard..
I don't want to be rude, but this is your fault! You spoil him, let him... (read in full...)
What should I do? Ring him or wait for him to call?
Q. What should I do? ring him or wait for him to call? My ex boyfriend broke up with me saying he doesn't want a relationship, I later found out he'd been cheating on me for 2months. I told him I know about his other girl, he begged to see me and...
A. 29 March 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you had to find out that your ex-boyfriend was cheating on you.
I know exactly how you feel. Its hard & its going to take some time to heal.
As per your question, you can send him a "short text" just asking if "are we st... (read in full...)
Her breath smells bad during fingering and sex...why?
Q. Hi everyone. I want a little help on something. This question got rejected 2 times and I am again editing it. I hope it gets published now. Ok so here it is. Whenever me and my girlfriend have sex, as soon as I start fingering her, I smell a strang...
A. 29 March 2011: Hi,
Sorry, I don't want to be insensitive, but Its funny!
The people here tried very kindly hard to answer your question & the answers are funny too!
Maybe check webmd? I personally never experienced or have known anybody with this kind of pro... (read in full...)
Married 4 years and we have never had sex
Q. i have been married for four years but have not had intercourse with my husband. he is little shy n in the beginning never took an initiative but he masturbates on regular basis. he even refuses to see a doctor. with much pressure from my end we ...
A. 29 March 2011: Hi dear,
Its very not normal.. I see you did everything you could, talk, see a doctor, conseling..
4 years is a long time, if he doesn't open up to you, I am pretty sure you should move on.
You're very young & still have so much to live & b... (read in full...)
I make all the money, take care of the children, and clean the house. Should I go for my office mate whom I love?
Q. I am married for 11 years now, and my husband doesn't work, he works on his own art which is good but makes little or no money. He is dependent on me for 10 years now. He has many issues like he cannot talk to people who are in a respecta...
A. 29 March 2011: Hi,
Sorry you couldn't read my answer..
Mainly what I said is that you're a wonderful person, wife, mom. I respect you for being so strong for your family. You're a career mom, smart yet have a beautiful heart.
I admire your principals, won... (read in full...)
We had a fight and he just walked out! Can I stay with someone who would leave like that?
Q. Please help me! My husband walked out on my 6 days ago after a fight. He said he was going to stay at his mothers. I don't like a husband can just up and leave like this I never would do this to him. He has try to call but I'm to hurt to answer I ...
A. 27 March 2011: Hi newlywed,
(Congratulations!)
I agree with jonas & the female anonymous that you need to have patience & (I don't want to be rude) but you're being a little selfish. I understand you are newlywed & wants to enjoy time with him. Its exciting... (read in full...)
How do I get my long distance boyfriend back? He has not texted in several days.
Q. I need advice on how to get my ex boyfriend back. This is a long distance relationship. We haven't exactly broken up but he has not returned my texts in a few days. I have heard that not texting him is the way to go but I just need some advice. ...
A. 27 March 2011: Dear friend,
You explain that both have a lot of problems, but no matter how bad its no phone call or text for days is no excuse..
Something is not right & you deserve to know.. If I were you, I would call or send a text. Talk to him nicely, a... (read in full...)
My husband has tuned out of our marriage in every way. What are my options now?
Q. Dear Friends, Please guide me. I am alone in this country and have no friends to discuss my problems. my husband and i were in love and married 10 yers ago.. now we have a daughter of 4 years. My husband is annoying with me all the time. .. he ...
A. 27 March 2011: Dear friend,
I am sorry that you're going through such a difficult time alone. I know that 10 years is a long time, but clearly this man don't have compassion or feelings for you.
What you describe is not a normal married life. Usually, cou... (read in full...)
I make all the money, take care of the children, and clean the house. Should I go for my office mate whom I love?
Q. I am married for 11 years now, and my husband doesn't work, he works on his own art which is good but makes little or no money. He is dependent on me for 10 years now. He has many issues like he cannot talk to people who are in a respecta...
A. 27 March 2011: Hi,
My question? Do you still love your husband? Can you see yourself being with him for the rest of your life? 10 years is a long time & I don't think your husband will change his life style.
Its your decision.
1) Be with your husband & l... (read in full...)
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