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My wife got in touch with her first sex partner and sent him a pic of her's in a bikini

Q.   My wife and I have been together for 6 years, married for 4 years. My wife has been with between 60 and 70 men between the age of 18 and 30. She had one 3 year relationship during that time. About 90% of her past sexual experiences were just ...

A.   4 April 2012: Hi billyrayvalentine, Sorry that you are going through this with your wife after being together for so many years. You are a good guy, forgave her, and promise each other to put the past behind and be loyal to each other for now on. I am going to b... (read in full...)

Why are people so mean to those who are disabled and to those with special needs?

Q.   This isn't a relationship question but me and my 16 years old sister donated A LOT of money to this special needs/disable day care that stay over night etc. Today we was taking the kids to Dairy Queen and people was talking ish about them saying ...

A.   2 April 2012: Hi, First if all, these are not people... See, this world have all kinds of people, so many bad things happen, you see it everyday, everywhere. Why do people get away with murder? Why bad people continue living their lives as if nothing happen? Thro... (read in full...)

Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!

Q.   ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...

A.   2 April 2012: The right thing to do is to tell him, he has the right to know, and he has the right to make his own decision. Marriage is a very serious decision, it's your life in the line, and he chose to spend the rest of his life with you. But, the truth is, ... (read in full...)

How do I tell him I need time to myself without hurting him?

Q.   Ok so before I get into my dilemma, Let me just start off by saying I know what I did was dumb, and wrong, but now I need help... So only those with actual advice answer. Please no judgments... I am currently separated (3mos) from my husband. When...

A.   2 April 2012: Hi, I think you have the answer.... Just tell him what you wrote on your post, " things moving too fast and that you need time for yourself". Since you mentioned he's a good friend, no need to end in bitterness, so just be honest. I am sure he's... (read in full...)

Why can I not move on? What is the matter with me?

Q.   I had a 5 year on and off relationship with my exboyfriend as he was seeing other women. I confronted him with evidence 4 months ago. I walked out for good. He send me email saying that his flat feels big, cold and empty without me. I sent hi...

A.   2 April 2012: Hi, Sorry you feel this way... I am in a similar situation, 10 years and just ended recently. You mentioned, he's not in contact 4 weeks because he's listening to you? Sorry to say, but I have to agree with your friend. He does not care, I know it's... (read in full...)

Was I wrong to discredit all the good we had in our relationship? Did I take it all for granted and basically throw a good thing away?

Q.   Just wanting to know people's opinions.... I asked a question about this before, but there is new information now... My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. From the beginning, he has been very loving towards me, tel...

A.   31 March 2012: Hi, Sorry that you are feeling this way. I have to agree with you that you shouldn't check on your ex-boyfriends privacy, but I understand how you feel, because I did the same thing before. I also agree that it's not his fault for having feel... (read in full...)

I don't like being a laughing stock!

Q.   Dear cupid I am a petite person. yesterday my bf (of 2 years) told me one of our common friends was teasing abt me that how my how short i look when i drive, how tiny my arms feet look and how i look like an egg plant.... I asked him how he ...

A.   31 March 2012: Hi, I think you are overreacting.... He was laughing, but I don't think he was laughing at you, but the simple fact that he probably thinks you're adorable and cute!... Otherwise, if he thinks you are an egg, and don't like your physical looks, he w... (read in full...)

She lied to me about her relationship with her husband, but I still have to see her at work. What should I do in this situation?

Q.   I am married and in love with co-worker since 4 years. We share very intimate relationship like soulmates. Few months back she got married and she started to hide and lie things from me with regards to her relationship with husband inspite of ...

A.   23 March 2012: I cannot believe you are here asking us your question? You are very selfish and not very smart.... Soulmate? You are hurt by the betrayal? To the point where is affecting you mentally, physically, emotionally and daily life? You've been doing this ... (read in full...)

Was I wrong in suggesting that my girlfriend should use botox? She just flipped when I said it

Q.   I know this will make me sound like not a nice person (to some), when in reality I like to think I am decent, and am pretty diplomatic. Thing is, my gf of 3 years is aging badly. I love her to distraction, and that love is more about her lovely...

A.   23 March 2012: Hi, Funny question. I can see that you are being honest, and sincere, otherwise you wouldn't be here asking your question. I do understand that you have the best intensions, but the worst thing you can do to a woman is make comments about her phys... (read in full...)

My wife's brother's ex wife wants to "date" me if possible

Q.   My wifes brother recently got divorced a few months back and I am in the process of a divorce as I speak. The thing now is my wifes brothers now ex-wife is starting to talk to me more and more. We had been friends in the past but never anything ...

A.   23 March 2012: Hi, I understand how you feel. The truth is that it's not wrong, because both of you are now single, but it will be a little uncomfortable for them to know that you are interested in each other. Also, it's a little too soon to get involve with some... (read in full...)

I feel that I am one of the worst people known

Q.   I'm a little unsure of where I should even begin. I am 23 years old and I am married to the most amazing person I've ever met. We've been together for over three years, and things are pretty much perfect. We both have decent jobs, a house, two cats, ...

A.   23 March 2012: Hi, By reading your post, I do believe everything you said... I think you should be proud of yourself for accomplishing so much in such a young age. I think you are almost close to perfect, you are beautiful, educated, smart, sophisticated, hone... (read in full...)

Will I look needy if I give him a call?

Q.   We agreed to be casual friends without sex. one night, we were drunk, and we slept together. The sex was bad on my fault. He didn’t call after that. 5 days later, I sent him a text message asking to hang out and watch a movie. He applied that he is ...

A.   23 March 2012: Hi, I don't think you look needy at all if you call him... I know you both are good friends, but things happened... I am sure you can continue being good friends as long as you both communicate. Maybe you both need to talk and make sure where you ... (read in full...)

Why did my ex hit me? What did I do to cause her to behave the way she did?

Q.   I need some advice, on how I contributed to this problematic relationship. The first 2 years were fine, but the last year that we moved in together was complete hell. She was always very insecure and would accuse me of being interested in ot...

A.   19 February 2012: Hey friend, How are you? You mentioned you moved far away? So, how do you like your new city so far? How long has it been since you've broken up with your ex-girlfriend? Just know that it will take time for you to heal and be kind to yourself ... (read in full...)

He came to visit so we could meet in person, but I caught him talking on the phone with other women during his visit.

Q.   Dear Aunts, I finally met the man I was talking to online, and that was afraid to meet because I am too shy and did not drive. We met in person two weeks ago, and he is the sweetest and most gentleman man I have ever met; he drove the whole time s...

A.   15 February 2012: Hi mafe, Perfect advices and you should take all in consideration because everyone here makes sense and gave you good pointers. I just want to address the fact that he's too good to be true, so take things slow... It was only your first date so you ... (read in full...)

So how do I improve my life? Dad's a gambler, family is at war. Feels like dad ruins my life.

Q.   Where do I start..? This is mostly a rant. My parents divorced when I was one because my dad had and STILL HAS serious gambling issues. My dad isn't mean to me, he's really cool and since I was young and spent every other weekend with him he alway...

A.   5 February 2012: Hi peacelovecandy, I know it's difficult to survive in this kind of environment, when the adults are constantly fighting, they are suppose to give you an example and guide you through out life, yet they are the ones dragging you down. Just reme... (read in full...)

My Gf gets depressed and implies I'm holding her back. What can I do?

Q.   Okay, so here goes. I've been with my girlfriend for over two-years now. We had a bit of a rocky start, and we've taken a 3-month break from each other before. But that was a long time ago. For the last year or more, things have been great. We g...

A.   5 February 2012: Hi geekusa, One thing I can tell you for sure, you are really a nice, patience guy. I know that you love her and have been together for a long time. My advice to you will be a break, but you said you guys took a 3 months break up before? Well, I re... (read in full...)

No double standard - I just want one off sex

Q.   I'd like advice about meeting with a guy I met online. To lead up to this question, I must explain I've only been in long lasting relationships since I was 15. I've never really been single. My ex cheated on me last month and I'm still upset, but my ...

A.   3 February 2012: Hi, Sorry to hear about your recent break up, hope you are feeling better. I think that nowdays many people are involved in the type of relationship so called, FWB. I think that as long as you both understand that you don't want a relationship, it's... (read in full...)

Frustrated, straight, but considering an offer of a bj

Q.   Hey I got a question. Im a 28 year old man living single and my job keeps me extremely busy and always on the travel. Over the last couple years I have developed a male friend shom I met over the internet from a town that is about 40 miles from ...

A.   3 February 2012: Hi, Are you sure you are not bisexual? Don't you think it will feel weird if a guy go down on you and touch you? Don't get me wrong, I totally understand and respect gay people, don't see them differently, to me it doesn't matter and I consider them... (read in full...)

I don't find others interesting and therefore can't get into relationships with people

Q.   SUMMARY: I am depressed because I am lonely because I have no interests and therefore nothing to talk to others about to connect with them. Hi guys. Im feeling kind of depressed and have felt so off and on for a couple of years now. I think th...

A.   1 February 2012: Hi, When you meet a girl that you find interesting, just have a casual smile, say hi and introduce yourlsef. You can ask her who she came with? Do you come here often? Make comments about the location. Ask if she lives close by? If she works or go t... (read in full...)

Which woman do I pick? My long term gf or the new woman, I feel sexually attracted to?

Q.   hi im 32 im a gay woman and been with my girlfriend over a year. dont live together yet but we are engaged. thing is we had some ups and downs and i just no longer fancy her and lost my sex drive months ago. i love her so much and enjoy her company ...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi, I think it shouldn't be a matter of who do I choose? You mentioned that you do love your fiancée, but as bestfriends type of love? Well, I think that if you do care for her, respect her, you should be honest with her. Before you make this enga... (read in full...)

Asked her out on a 2nd date by text and there was no reply! Feeling a bit awkward, so how do I deal with this?

Q.   I went on a date with a girl from work. I liked her and I text her the day after asking for a second date. I have recieved no reply over a week later. I can take this and i know it happens. the problem is that im likely to see her at work. we...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi, If you show weakness, it's far worst. So, it's time to put a brave face and a good acting :) so what? She's not the only woman in the world, and it's part of life... We all had our moments, doens't mean there's something wrong with us. When you ... (read in full...)

What are my chances of seeing her again??

Q.   Ok i was on a date with a girl a couple of nights ago and everything was going well. We were just in this nice bar place, when some guy friend of hers from her school days recognized her and walked over to say hi. I thought that would be it, hello, ...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi, No, you were not stupid at all behaving the way you did. I understand how you felt, and staying 1 hour listening to the friend talk blah, blah, blah, was actually nice of you. Unless one of you asked him to sit, he shouldn't have invited hims... (read in full...)

Can it work with an ex the 2nd time around?

Q.   Is it possible to date an ex and have it work out the second time and lead to marriage? My ex who broke my heart 5 months ago is back and wants a second chance. He says he loves me and i never stopped loving him. We dated 8 months and broke up when ...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi, This is how I feel .... 1) Yes, I do believe in 2nd chances. 2) Yes, it can work and be a happy, successful relationship. 3) Truth is that he was cheating on you. Rather if it was physical or emotional, cheating is cheating. He was... (read in full...)

How do I tackle my loneliness?

Q.   This question/rant starts off with a bit of humor, as I moved to a new apt after selling my late-mother's estate and at the bottom of a box of items from the attic that came with me, I found an unopened box of Trojan condoms with a receit dating ...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi sanitysoul28, Just think this way, nobody knows about your loneliness, so once you are out in the world it's a fair game. When you are feeling down, lonely, go out, get a cup of coffee, go bookstore to relax. I know that feeling lonely is hard... (read in full...)

The affection in our relationship has eroded. Should I stay or leave?

Q.   I am so sad because when I first was with him we were having sex almost daily now 3 years later it is almost extinct and we have a 3 year old son together. We are bored and sit home all the time and watch tv in seperate rooms and we don't like ...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi, Sorry you feel this way. If you are not happy, he's not happy either. There's got to be more than just love fading away? Only a few years back, you and your husband were making love like rabbits? I am sure he's making his own mistakes, by not ... (read in full...)

Was she telling me the truth or just brushing me off?

Q.   Hi, I dated a girl in November we went out a few times and spent a few days staying at my place. Things went really well and we slept together a few times. It was quite intense from the start. We haven't seen each other since the start of December ...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi, I think that she really likes you and enjoyed the time you spent together, otherwise she wouldn't even be talking to you after the message you sent her saying that you will end contact. Why bother, right? The problem is the LDR. It's diff... (read in full...)

Am I Bi or a Sicko? :(

Q.   Hello guy's my name is Dan and i am 20 years old please don't judge. I have been very worried recently over the type of porn i used to watch as a teen 13 - 19(not sure when i actually started) I used to watch normal hetrosexual porn (not for lo...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi, First of all, you are not sicko. I think you are just learning how to discover yourself sexually. Yes, I believe there are many people that are bi-sexual, do enjoy being with man and female. It's really difficult to give you the right expl... (read in full...)

I don't find others interesting and therefore can't get into relationships with people

Q.   SUMMARY: I am depressed because I am lonely because I have no interests and therefore nothing to talk to others about to connect with them. Hi guys. Im feeling kind of depressed and have felt so off and on for a couple of years now. I think th...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi, You are in the prime of your life. As your friends describe yourself, you have all the qualifications to meet anybody you want. I know you are a smart guy, educated and have high standards, but when you meet people, specially girls you just want... (read in full...)

Exit strategy please

Q.   I have got involved with a woman, from my karate club, then i thougt something was going on with her and my instructor, she denied it. As time moved on i felt there was something, eventually she broke down saying there was but he had been ...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi tonym, No much to fuss about. 1) she's a liar. The excuse about trying to keep peace is absolutely rubbish and we both know that. She's lying to you and to this man she's involved (instructor). My advice to you is, "run the other way". She's ... (read in full...)

Talking to mom about the girlfriend

Q.   So for 2 and a half months, almost three I've had a girlfriend and I really like her. The problem is that I don't know how to tell my mom about her. Every time I try to talk to her about it my neck gets hot, my body goes numb and I start to ...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi, This is a new experience in your life and of course it's difficult to talk to your mom, you don't know how she will react? I know she loves you unconditionally and will understand and support you. It's good that you want to share this expe... (read in full...)

Should I tell my boyfriend about my past?

Q.   I am 17, was sexually abused by my last boyfriend, and am in a new relationship. I am hoping that it isnt a huge surprise that the last relationship still affects me, mainly in bad ways. recently i have been having more nightmares, some involving ...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi, First of all, I am really sorry that you had such a horrific experience in such a young age. If life wasn't hard enough to go through as it's, I just have to say that you are a very strong and brave person. Another thing I want to bring it up i... (read in full...)

I want my ex to take me back again!

Q.   So I dated this girl for 4 months and I was really in love with her, we went back and forth a few times, we had our problems, we got into fights, i would get really jealous about other guys and her (turned out i had nothing to worry about atleast on ...

A.   30 January 2012: Hi, Yes, yes, yes to all your questions. Now, the big question is: you want to get back together with her? Before you get back together, you have to absolutely make sure that you do really want to be with her. Not just saying in words, but real... (read in full...)

Why did my ex hit me? What did I do to cause her to behave the way she did?

Q.   I need some advice, on how I contributed to this problematic relationship. The first 2 years were fine, but the last year that we moved in together was complete hell. She was always very insecure and would accuse me of being interested in ot...

A.   29 January 2012: Yes!!! Because you are not the problem, she is. No matter who she's with, she will treat all the same. She needs to acknowledge that she has a anger issues and also needs to learn how to communicate. Ok, she has past problems that made her become ... (read in full...)

My ex wife is upsetting my family

Q.   I'm 43 and divorced 5 years from my ex wife Janet. We have one daughter together Amanda who is 13 and is living with me because she wanted it. We split up when she told me she was having an affair and when i asked her was it me or him she choose ...

A.   29 January 2012: Hi, I am not sure what advice to give you, because clearly your ex-wife is irrational and out of control. But, I can tell you for sure that she's behaving this way because she's a bitter person and unhappy with her life. When she was with her man,... (read in full...)

Why did my ex hit me? What did I do to cause her to behave the way she did?

Q.   I need some advice, on how I contributed to this problematic relationship. The first 2 years were fine, but the last year that we moved in together was complete hell. She was always very insecure and would accuse me of being interested in ot...

A.   29 January 2012: Hi, I hope you listen to your uncle. Whatever issues she has, she's dangerous and have bad temper. On top of that, I cannot believe she has another man living with her after 2 weeks only? It's shocking... she doens't love you, I know you've been... (read in full...)

Advise required on how to keep our affairs on the boil

Q.   i had sex continually with my wife's good friend who too is married for many monthes. we know its wrong but we both want to continue. please advice what we shud do to continue our relationship....

A.   29 January 2012: Oh forgot the advice? Continue lying and playing stupid games. You and your female friend must feel really cool, huh? I bet your confident is up the roof...... (read in full...)

Advise required on how to keep our affairs on the boil

Q.   i had sex continually with my wife's good friend who too is married for many monthes. we know its wrong but we both want to continue. please advice what we shud do to continue our relationship....

A.   29 January 2012: Congratulations on your affair, you are classy guy. Just feel sorry for your wife, she deserves better. ... (read in full...)

People think he's perfect. Yet how do I cope with his secretiveness and fact he may be seeing escourts? He has excuses for everything.

Q.   Hi, I'm married with two kids and have serious trust issues with my husband. We've been together for 12yrs and everyone who knows us thinks he's the perfect guy as he is a great father, helps around the house and is easy going. About 2 yrs ago I ...

A.   26 January 2012: Hi, I've just ended a 10 years relationship. I am in a similar situation, because he was perfect, but lived a secret dishonest life. I cannot accept or tolerate lies... How can you be with someone that is supposed to be your partner in life, but ... (read in full...)

Why would he email me after 3 months of no contact? Should I reply with this?

Q.   Why would he email me after 3months of no contact? should I reply with this? ? I loved my ex boyfriend so much. Thought he was the one. But he dumped me saying he didn't want a relationship then I found out he was cheating all along. He wan...

A.   24 January 2012: Hi Spendy, I have to agree with "male anonymous" the answer is way too much and shows that you are still in pain and anger, which you have all the right to feel, after all it has been only three months, but do not show him weakness. Don't give him ... (read in full...)

Is this love or lust? and how can I get over this? My parents don't approve!

Q.   Sorry for the long story, but I think it is important to say it all. About an year ago, my friend introduced me to a Filipino girl for dating. However, I was reluctant to date since I knew my parents won't approve a non-Indian for marriage (I am f...

A.   22 January 2012: Hi Sid11, You should be happy that you didn't get involved with her. You did the right thing and you should consider lucky. Why? If you feel this way about her now, imagine if you had been physical with her? You would have been more attached and ... (read in full...)

My wife says I should be satisfied with sex once a week or less. I'm not happy. what can I do about this?

Q.   My wife only wants sex once a week or less this has made me so mad angry and upset most of the time I cant handle this lifestyle she has a low sex drive. I'm very sexed up every day I masturbate and need sex... Wife says she will never change onc...

A.   22 January 2012: Hi tony40star, Sorry that your wife cannot understand you, but instead of thinking of sex constantly, why don't you try to be romantic? Maybe, if you are more affectionate towards your wife, helping around the house, taking her date nights once a we... (read in full...)

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