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*unkissed29
writes:I think I'm getting to the point where I'm bored with my relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and maybe the relationship has run its course. I've tried to suggest new things to do and places to go, but he seems to be focused on his own stuff- work, gym, friends. I kind of just feel like giving up trying to keep the spark in our relationship, and it seems like the more I try, the more boring it gets. Should I consider breaking up? Trust me, we had/have a great relationship, we've both been faithful to each other, we went through a year of long distance, and we've had so many good times. We are also each other's first love. I don't want to throw all that away just because this might be a temporary rough patch. Help!
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Meu Deus do ceu...
Eu morava en Sao Paulo e mudei para o estados unidos 22 anos atras. Tenho muita saudades do Brasil
Enough about me. How do you write and I am sure you speak english so well? I took private school to learn english and didn't learn anything at all. I am happy for you.
From how you describe about your relationship, sounds like he's a great guy. You've been together for a long time, through long distance, which is a hard thing. Also, seems like you both still love each other.
I feel that it might be something in your head. Maybe you love him, but not in love with him. Sometimes, people grow apart and love fade away. There's something we call attachment. Attachment and love might appear the same way and when you're together with somebody for so long is hard to distinguise.
Don't make any decisions and don't think too much. Right now, all your energy is focus on him and you already decided that he's the problem and that you are unhappy and bored. Try to clear your mind. Think about you, how you're around him. Are you nice? Pleasant? Fun? Just give some time to let things settle and don't blame him only. Maybe you really need time away? But don't do anything unless you're sure and won't regret later.
Boa sorte!
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