I make all the money, take care of the children, and clean the house. Should I go for my office mate whom I love?
Q. I am married for 11 years now, and my husband doesn't work, he works on his own art which is good but makes little or no money. He is dependent on me for 10 years now. He has many issues like he cannot talk to people who are in a respecta...
A. 29 March 2011: Hi,
Sorry you couldn't read my answer..
Mainly what I said is that you're a wonderful person, wife, mom. I respect you for being so strong for your family. You're a career mom, smart yet have a beautiful heart.
I admire your principals, won... (read in full...)
I make all the money, take care of the children, and clean the house. Should I go for my office mate whom I love?
Q. I am married for 11 years now, and my husband doesn't work, he works on his own art which is good but makes little or no money. He is dependent on me for 10 years now. He has many issues like he cannot talk to people who are in a respecta...
A. 27 March 2011: Hi,
My question? Do you still love your husband? Can you see yourself being with him for the rest of your life? 10 years is a long time & I don't think your husband will change his life style.
Its your decision.
1) Be with your husband & l... (read in full...)
Do I wait for him to figure things out or move on?
Q. I started seeing a guy about 5 months ago,during that time we were both going through a divorce. my divorce just came official while he is still going through one,his is more diffcult cause there are assets involved. we both have kids from our ...
A. 27 March 2011: Hi,
As you know, divorce is a difficult time for anybody. That's a lot of energy, its a serious decision, specially when there's kid involved. I believe his being honest with you when he said, problems with family, work, etc..
Seems like yo... (read in full...)
He has 3 other women in his life, I am pregnant and he doesn't want anyone to know about the baby!!
Q. Okay! I am a divorced professional with two children. I started dating an independent contractor who came to my house to do some work. It started as an innocent friendship and over time, became intimate. During our platonic friendship he mentioned ...
A. 27 March 2011: Hi,
You seem like a lovely lady. Smart, working mom, have 2 children & a beautiful baby on the way.
Like I said, you're a smart lady, but I understand you. When it comes to matters of the heart its difficult to make the right decision. You kn... (read in full...)
We are emotionally sick from fighting
Q. Hi, I am close to breakingup with my boyfriend the reason is that we fight alot. It got to a point that we are emotionaly sick . The hardnest thing is that we have a child and we truly wanted the relationship to work cause we wanted to have a ...
A. 27 March 2011: Hi,
I am not sure what advice to give you, because you didn't explain the reason why you & your boyfriend are fighting so much..
But you explain clearly that is affecting your relationship to the point of damaging emotionally & physically, so i... (read in full...)
I thought I was happily married until this....
Q. I'm in a program that takes me away from home several nights a week and I'm with the same group of people each of those nights. I feel like what started off as simple flirting is escalating. I thought I was happily married until this. I find ...
A. 27 March 2011: Hi,
I am sure you're a good person & it was never your intensions to develop feelings for another man.
I've been in the other side of the fance, I was w/my partner 10 years. Its not nice to lie, your husband cares about you, love you, trust y... (read in full...)
Trust betrayed, but he is the best boyfriend I have ever had.
Q. My boyfriend got caught sending sweet messages to about three different women. They all seem to not know I am in the picture because they seem to be in love with him. If I haven't stumbled on his email I will not feel indifferent about this guy ...
A. 27 March 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you're feeling sad & insecure. I've been there so I know..
I don't know how long you've been dating your boyfriend, but you seem happy with him & you said he's the best boyfriend..
So far there's no need to panic, he said those... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants us to be together forever but I am very insecure about her past
Q. hello. i am currently in a relationship which seems fine... and nothing seems to go to wrong and not many arguments are had. but i have a huge hang up about it. i was a virgin when i met my current girlfriend. and ... she isnt. in fact i believe ...
A. 22 March 2011: Hi,
You shouldn't judge your girlfriend, worry about the past, the guys she has been intimate with. That was her past! She didn't know you..
Just like you, she probably did because she thought she was in love w/the guy or guys just like you..do... (read in full...)
G/f says she will stop lying but how do I trust her again?
Q. Hi: My girlfriend recently went away, and while on her trip "bumped" into her ex boyfriend. I asked if she had emailed hi to which she replied "no". I later found out she did in fact email him but the email bounced back at her. Her claim was th...
A. 22 March 2011: Hi,
Sorry that you're feeling this way..no one should live life wondering, stressing, checking on ur partner to see if they're lying. Its wrong, its sad, its unfair...
May I say few words through my own experience. My ex-partner/e... (read in full...)
I have destroyed my own marriage, my life is a mess...all for my lover who refuses to leave her husband. How do I get her to come to me?
Q. All, I have been reading this post for about 6 months now and can see that what I have been involved with is Wrong! However, I found my soulmate in a younger woman and If circumstances were right she would be my wife. Nearly 2 years ago, I met...
A. 22 March 2011: Hi,
Cheating is wrong!
But I don't know you, so wouldn't judge you.. I guess people fall in love l fall out of love..
If I may say a few words about "cheating" not you ok? Its selfish act! Destroys a person as a whole. Its cruel, its disho... (read in full...)
Ex says he wants to see me once more and tell me the truth.Should I go?
Q. Your Open Question: What should I do? text my ex bf or not? am really hurt:(? ? ? My ex boyfriend cheated on me, lied to me and dumped me:( he's hurt me so much, I loved him so much and he always told me he loved me. He broke up with me...
A. 22 March 2011: Hi,
Sorry that someone that you love hurt you...I know the feeling..
Shocked, confused, angry, pain is all part of the proccess, will take time & somedays will be better than others. Might take weeks, months..just be patience..re... (read in full...)
I'm on 14 and I'm scared he'll dump me if I don't have sex
Q. I met this guy and we have been going out for a while now. I think I am falling in love with him. He is so good to me and makes me so happy. The thing is he wants to have sex and im not ready for it. I have never done any sex stuff before. I am...
A. 22 March 2011: My dear!
I am just upset reading your story! OMG!!!!
1) You shouldn't be dating in the first place
2) If you're not comfortable don't do it
3) Ur 14 years old??? Under age to have sex & my dear YOU DONT KNOW WHAT LOVE IS!
4) Pls read all the a... (read in full...)
She's married but her attachment to my BF upsets me. What can I do?
Q. my boyfriend of over 3 yrs has a friend who is a girl. I also have male friends, but I am becoming slightly alarmed with the amount of defense he puts up for their friendship. I have expressed my uncomfort for a while now but I have got nowh...
A. 10 March 2011: Hi,
I am upset just reading ur story...OMG! Is she crazy? Honestly your boyfriend & this female friend friendship is not normal...
I notice you are very mature, understanding & open about having female friends, but this "female friend" is just ... (read in full...)
How do I increase my sense of security in my relationship??
Q. I am extremely jealous of my boyfriend's ex. We have been going out for a year now and have lived together for 6 months. It all started before we were living together she came to his house at 4 in the morning and made a huge scene cops were called ...
A. 5 March 2011: Hi, Sorry that you have to feel this way.. Nobody deserve to feel imsecure, worry about your boyfriend. Its really unfair, specially when you haven't done anything to deserve this... Sounds like she's still not over your boyfriend, maybe... (read in full...)
I'm trying to stay 'cool' about this online dating thing, but I'm just a nervous, crazy wreck right now!!!
Q. My stomach is in knots and I've got a nervous energy that just won't go away and I keep on asking myself 'How can I like a guy so much that I've never met?' Ok, for those that aren't mind readers: I was 'communicating' with a guy on eharmony and ...
A. 5 March 2011: Hi! You are the cuttiest apple pie! Its ok and normal to be nervous, specially when you haven't date anybody serious before.. Well, its not date, but its a start of something that could be great.. Either way, don't be nervous, but if you are? So w... (read in full...)
I have let myself be "molded" into what hubsand wanted in a wife,and now I don't know who I am or how to find me.
Q. I am turning 30 in a week. I cant help but look back at my 20's and think the only good that came of them were my 2 kids. My relationship has been more rocky than happy lately. I only have a high school diploma no further education,no job in the ...
A. 5 March 2011: Hi! Let me start by saying that 30 its not old... You are still very young lady.. Sounds like you have a perfect life, 2 beatiful children, a husband that loves you and most importantly support you. I bet many women out there will do anything t... (read in full...)
After my girlfriend told me about her sexual past, I am disgusted! Should I have sex with her and leave her, or lose my virginity to another?
Q. Hi, I have been dating this girl that is crazy in love with me. However, she started talking about her past. She told me that she didn't want anything between us and that she needed to tell me everything, because she trusts me and so on and so forth...
A. 28 February 2011: The previous answer is 100% correct. You both are sweet, young and very unexperienced in love andrelationships. I also believe that she is very innocent, she really likes you and she was very honest w/you.. My 1st time was disgusting and I just did ... (read in full...)
Does a sociopath know that he or she is a sociopath?
Q. For those who have dealt with sociopaths, I have a question: Does a sociopath know he or she is a sociopath? In other words, a person who lives off using other people, seeing them as tools and objects, feeling no guilt...do they know they are...
A. 28 February 2011: Hi! It hard to answer your question, because you don't describe what really happened.. But sounds like you are frustrated and angry.. I believe that some people are just selfish.. Could be lots of reasons why they have certain kinds of behavio... (read in full...)
Iv stood by this girl in every way, yet now she's back to her ex who used to abuse her physically and emotionally!!
Q. Hello, I have been dating this girl for about 6 months, when all of a sudden she started to ignore me. The relationship was going great, we got along great, we had fun together, nothing was going wrong. She had been ignoring me for about 2 week...
A. 28 February 2011: Hi! Sorry you feel this way..its very confusing, this girl is very much attached to her ex boyfriend, whatever happened in the past its obvious that she still have feelings for her ex..honestly, love is blind and we don't choose who to love..I ... (read in full...)
How can I gain clarity about my situation?
Q. This is my life. I live with my girlfriend. I get up for work at 6am everyday and return around 7pm. My girlfriend does odd jobs and persues her creative work. We have not had a sexual relationship for well over a year. I don't really know how this ...
A. 26 February 2011: Hi, sorry to hear your story... You sound like a wonderful man & deserve peace & happiness in your life...
I understand things are difficult right now, but you need to put your mind in peace to deal w/ur problems.. All the advices giving to you a... (read in full...)
I dated a heartbreaker and now he wants nothing to do with me!
Q. I just recently became involved with a guy and I thought I really liked him. He was known as a player but always told me I was different. Three weeks into our "thing" we had a date alone at his place. We did all sorts of stuff but when I said I'd ...
A. 25 February 2011: Hi! :-)
Sorry that you're hearbroken.. I know its painful, hard, makes you feel angry, affects your self esteem, all sort of emotions, but be glad that happened now than later.. Imagine if you had deeper feelings for this guy? It would've been hard... (read in full...)
My wife cheated on me 2 days ago, would you agree?
Q. It hurts so much to write this right now. I never imagined being even remotely close to cheated on but from the investigating I've done, the mere thought appears to be the inevitable... I've been with my wife for 9 years. She's 26 and I'm 30. ...
A. 23 February 2011: I am in love with you...JK.
Sorry I am joking & sorry about your wife. I also found out my bf/boyfriend of 10yrs cheated on me. It was 7mos ago & still hurts. I know how you feel, I also lost my mom around the same time I met him, so I am sorry abou... (read in full...)
Why do men that cheat have to lie about it? Why not just tell the truth once found out?
Q. Dear ladies out there who's been cheated on.. I've been w/my best friend for 10 yrs. Aug 13 2010 found out he was seeing a girl last dec. Its has been 6 mos now, I am done w/the relationship.. But after 10 years I believe I deserve to know the ...
A. 11 February 2011: @ashley187 - thank you! Have a nice day & great weekend!!! ... (read in full...)
Why do men that cheat have to lie about it? Why not just tell the truth once found out?
Q. Dear ladies out there who's been cheated on.. I've been w/my best friend for 10 yrs. Aug 13 2010 found out he was seeing a girl last dec. Its has been 6 mos now, I am done w/the relationship.. But after 10 years I believe I deserve to know the ...
A. 10 February 2011: Hi!!!! I just want to thank each one of you that have taken the time to read my story..thank you so much for the comments, advices..today for the 1st time in 6 mos I didn't cry at all..
Funny thing? This wasn't supposed to be a question I posted? ... (read in full...)
How do you forgive yourself?
Q. How do you come to grips with regret and guilt? say you had the love of your life, and you knew it, but you were either immature, ignorant, or just not wired to be a good partner at the time, and after being with many other people, trying out many ...
A. 25 January 2011: If you love this ex so much, why can't u try to get back together.. Making mistakes made u a better person.. Believe me, u regreat now, but it was something u need to do, explore, whatever reasons u had.. I am sure if u were w/this person, now u ... (read in full...)
How will I forget her if I leave her
Q. heeey....i knew a woman...loved her...met a lot....then i knew that she was married...she told me... we are in the same age....she is married for 6 months....her husband works abroad...only come home twice a year...i believe that she loves me...i ...
A. 25 January 2011: I don't know u or ur friend.. I am sure both of u are good people. I am not judging u both at all, but honestly what u & ur girlfriend are doing is wrong....
Maybe her husband is doing the same thing? Who knows?? A man & woman cannot be just fri... (read in full...)
Should I leave my abusive marriage
Q. I need advice as to whether it is a good decision to leave my marriage: i have been married for 6+ years and on my first year my hubby hit me and again on the second year with no apology on both cases and even now when we talk about the issue i ...
A. 25 January 2011: Hi!
Hope ur feeling better!
I am very sorry to read ur story. Made me so angry. Ur a young woman. Still have so much life ahead.
Ur husband doesn't deserve u at all. I wish u stayed away from him the 1st time he put his hands on u..
I know ... (read in full...)
I left out details to spare my girlfriend. Was that ok?
Q. My girlfriend of 1 year and I have moved into together and gotten pretty serious. I've always been the guy to be honest and not have things catch up with me in the later stages of a relationship. My girlfriend and I met on a Friday night, ...
A. 20 January 2011: Yes! You were honest.. I can see you really love your girlfriend..
Its ok, u knew ur gf 1 day, I understand what ur saying, but u didn't do anything wrong, thoughts we all have thoughts. Single, married, even very religious people & they pray :-)... (read in full...)
Am I be controlling by not wanting my boyfriend to meet up with his ex?
Q. I went out with my boyfriend the other night for something to eat and a couple of drinks, we ended up having a heart to heart and he said to me 'If (his ex) ever asked me to hang out with her one day would you mind?', I was a bit tipsy at this ...
A. 20 January 2011: Hi!
Let me start by saying that he's a great boyfriend for letting you know, be honest, talk about it & ask your opinion before doing anything... I give ur bf so much credit.. Very admirable of him, shows character & respect..
Why I say that? I ... (read in full...)
I can't get a new guy because I'm too fat. I lost my ex over it. Best dieting tips please?
Q. I want to diet but if I don't satisfy my hunger, I get migranes! Also, if I'm nervous or bored my stomach growls so loud, it's embarrasing!. I want to diet because my ex refuses to say I'm hot, or sexy because I'm so fat. And I can't get an...
A. 20 January 2011: Sweety makes me so mad that you feel this way.. Broke my heart when you said ur stomach makes noise so loud u get embarassed..
Your're very young & have a full life ahead.. Love yourself the way ur & pls don't let people tell u otherwise. What's i... (read in full...)
Who is the best choice for me out of my two suitors?
Q. i have two suitors. one is a doctor the other suitor is a successful chinese businessman. the doctor is nice, sweet and passionate.but he has bad breath. While the chinese is caring and sweet. He has no bad breath and the chinese is very hygi...
A. 19 January 2011: Poor you! :-)
Just kidding.. I am happy for you that u met 2 wonderful men. They're financially stable which is great!!! However its very important to have chemistry, things in commom, enjoy spending time together, go out nice places as well as a ni... (read in full...)
I lied and told my boyfriend I was the same age as him, but the gig is up when we celebrate our birthdays!
Q. So I've done something stupid and need your advice on how to fix it...I've been with my bf for 3 months, he's amazing and I am falling for him. Now, the problem is that I told him I'm 29, but I'm actually 30 (he's 29). I didn't intentionally lie, ...
A. 19 January 2011: Silly you...
Its only 1 year apart. Its not like ur 40 & u told him ur 20? Its a new relationship, 3mos.. So just talk to him, right place, moment & just be honest w/him. I know he was excited cause he thinks u both are same age, but its ok, he'l... (read in full...)
Mom, it's all about her!
Q. Hi guys again! Ive been struggling a little with something and I just wanted to get some more brainpower at work on this, maybe you lovely aunts can help me out again. I’ve come to realize I really don’t much like my mother. She’s manipulative and...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi!
Let me start by saying that I lost my mom may 2002 through pancreatic cancer. I was 29 years old. She was my best friend, we used to do everything together. We used to argue a lot about everything, we were more like friend than mother daug... (read in full...)
I have ED, how common is this over 40? WHY do I have it? Am I the only one?
Q. How common is erectile dysfunction over 40? I, m having ED since 43,and now,Im 47.. My doctor did not find anything wrong with me medically. He just says,it is aging. I CAN'T ACCEPT THAT.I really don't want to complain, but it is such a bad ...
A. 18 January 2011: The more stress you get the worst.. I see you got a lot of wonderful advice.. Its normal, happens to everybody. We're all unique & its only matter of time that we're all going to be in the same boat.
Your doctor said that medically ur fine, so... (read in full...)
Sick of being gay...is there any way I can be straight??
Q. I'm tired of being gay, and I just can't take it anymore. It's going to kill me. I'd do absolutly anything to be straight. (or atleast like girls more than guys) Well, I just don't find gay men very attractive, in fact, if they seem too fruity, it ...
A. 18 January 2011: Pls don't waist your time feeling this way, hating urself. Be happy, proud... By the way most gay guys are very handsome & sucessful. Also u might not like drama queen gay guys but its just preference & some like conservative, others loud. Some are ... (read in full...)
I'm not physically attracted to my mate
Q. Not physically attracted to my significant other, but not sure what to do. I love her in other ways. What do I do?...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi, its very simple... You need to tell her.. Break up & keep good friendship
Honesty is the best way.. Its not fair to both of u to live life this way.. Both of you deserve to find someone completible in all ways.. Be happy... The sooner y... (read in full...)
I feel bad for cheating on my partner but feel this is something that I have to do!
Q. I have been with my partner for just over two years now, but its always been a very rocky relationship. He has an issue with other women, well he did until the last 6 months. He has cheated on me 7 times and had other little things with a few other ...
A. 18 January 2011: I understand how u feel, this is one of those things that u feel, know its not right, normal, but still have to to??? Through out the years you have shown numerous times that ur a very kind person & that u really love ur boyfriend..
Do what u h... (read in full...)
My wife wants to come back to her married life, do I allow this to happen?
Q. i am 33 yrs young man living in copenhagen and married 10 yrs ago and have got one 3yrs daughter and my wife has cheated on me for 2 times since last year and she told me she had 8 times sex with her lover ,,,,,,,,,,,but still she is in love with ...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi dear friend, sorry that you are going through this difficult time. You're great husband for having forgive her 2x already. I am sure lots of details but the fact that she admitted 8x is huge..
Anyways, my best advice is that you should d... (read in full...)
I only talk to her for friendship, but I cant help but feel this could be something more! Should I tell my girlfriend about her?
Q. Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for two years, and I have always loved her, I have since the day we got together and I do to this day. However, I have recently been talking to another girl, purely for friendship, but I really can't help but f...
A. 18 January 2011: dear friend,
Aug 13,09 friday I found out my bf/best friend of 10 years was cheating on me. He also started talking to this girl purely as a friend. I believe him, but I guess things progress & I found pics & 1 vid of them together. 1pic kiss... (read in full...)
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