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writes:So i met this girl at school through one of my ex girlfriend's friends. We ended up exhanching numbers at one point, we would text often and have lunch as a group at school. We got to know each other over the course of a month and came to learn we want the same thing out of a relationship. But the only problem is she has a boyfriend... And not a very good one,she has told me various stories about him. His rude comments, his opinions about women and even that he left her for another woman then came crawling back. Then one day she told me she is into me, and I said I'm into to her too. One Saturday night we ended up making out because the sexual tension was too strong. She was going to break up with her boyfriend, but he was able to convince her otherwise. I Get she has a boyfriend but its kind of hard when she says things like " I wish I would have met you first. but now she barely talks to me since she got back together with her boyfriend, but on Saturday night she had a fight with him and called me at 2am, but I was asleep.I don't know what to think or do with this situation, I don't understand why she doesn't break up with him. Is this girl worth pursuing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2015): If her boyfriend is as bad as she says what if he finds out about you and goes mad? Although their relationship isn't good he is still her boyfriend and may end up turning nasty with you.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (3 November 2015):
 She has a BF, that should have been your common sense "STOP" sign, RIGHT there. Whether you have TONS in common or not... is irrelevant.
She has MADE her choice- her CHOICE is her BF - no matter how much smack she has talked about him, she still CHOSE him.
So where does that leave you? With nothing but a cheap thrill with someone else GF and maybe some hurt feelings.
You ask: " Is this girl worth pursuing?"
My answer is no. Quite simple.
She is USING you as her "white knight" whenever she is in need of some fantasy involving a guy who treats her lovingly. That is why she called at 2 am. YOU are her EGO rubber par excellence!
I'd advice you to BLOCK her number and avoid her at school. Just simply cut her off, and move on. She has made her bed with him, so LET her stay in that bed and YOU find yourself a SINGLE girl if you are looking for a GF.
I seriously doubt that she is the ONLY girl on campus who wants the same things as you in a relationship.
And if that doesn't give you a little incentive to move on, how about this... IF she is willing to CHEAT on this BF, do you REALLY think she wouldn't cheat on you? And if she walked away from him to be with you, HOW long do you think it would take before he "convinced" her to take him back and DUMP you?
BE realistic.
She knows her relationship with her BF is unhealthy, yet she SILL prefers to BE with him. My guess is she likes the drama, she GETS something out of it, no matter how he acts.
And like most people who cheat they ALWAYS seem to paint their partner/spouse in an ugly light, YET they don't want to walk away.
Why ANYONE would introduce you to a girl with BF is really beyond me.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (3 November 2015):
 The reason she doesn't break up with him is because she doesn't want to. It's as simple as that.
She is using you, and in some ways also playing with you, keeping you dangling with her "come here, go away" behaviour.
When her boyfriend left her, and then came crawling back, she didn't have to take him back, but she did, he is her choice and I suggest you give her a wide berth and find a girl who isn't already attached.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (3 November 2015):
Question...Do you go around stealing other people's stuff? If the answer is no, why are you waiting to collect on someone else's stuff???
Never be envious of what someone else has. If she is not yours, move on...You really want to wait to collect all that baggage??
What if she starts dating you, and he comes crawling back again, and she leaves you for him...what was all this for??
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