How do I get a quiet guy to open up?
Q. I've been dating a wonderful guy for about 2 months now. He is kind, considerate, sweet and very supportive. He plans fun dates for us is stable, dependable and always checks in on me. I've been in some rough past relationships, and I still feel...
A. 9 November 2016: "Any advice about not worrying and getting a quiet guy to open up?"
First...You are the one that needs to open up, not him. He is right where he needs to be for someone that is so insecure. If he was more out going, it would scare you even mor... (read in full...)
How can I stop beating myself up for making same mistake twice?
Q. I recently was dating an awesome person and long story short, I wrecked my chances with them and turned them off completely. It's unfixable, trust me. If this mistake was something I had never learned about before, I'd just say "I just didn't know...
A. 9 November 2016:
Hate to say it...but you will do it again. May not be the exact same way, but you will. Life always throws you a curve ball just to see if you are paying attention.
However...Sometimes it is not a mistake. Sometimes you are not suppose to b... (read in full...)
How does a single mother heal after a break up?
Q. So, I know what I've done wrong and I know what I've done right. What hurts the most is losing family, the connections you have, the memories, the what could've beens, the lingering feelings, etc. We have a toddler and a baby on the way. He's said ...
A. 9 November 2016:
Every person is tested, and every relationship is also tested. The important thing is to know you are being tested, and live up to the challenge.
"If you are weak in a crisis, then you are weak indeed."
In order to be a good, strong, single... (read in full...)
How can I ever trust my husband?
Q. Hello about 2 weeks ago I wrote about my husband going away for training and me not being able to trust him. For reasons like him texting a escort. But when he came home I felt I should let go and maybe try to trust him. But then 2 days later I ...
A. 8 November 2016:
My dear...Divorce is always the easy the way out. Divorce is control by anger....and any decisions made in anger is NEVER a good one. Sticking around and fighting for what is yours...much harder.
Men and women do exactly what your husband is d... (read in full...)
What to do so I don't feel awkward kissing/hugging her?
Q. I've know this girl for 3 years now as she is on my university course. We've always been friends and hung out a few times outside of uni. However about a week ago I went to hers to have a movie night, it was really nice and we spoke for ages and ...
A. 8 November 2016: WiseOwl said dude...
She was blunt and barely spoke to you because she gave you a chance, and you did nothing with it.
When a girl lets you know she does not want you to go...Well...I means she want to stay and PLAY... With her.
You are ... (read in full...)
I love my stepdaughter is that normal?
Q. Is it common for stepfathers to fall in love with their stepdaughters. Should i tell her she is a grown woman, and im not with her mother anymore.Iam going absolutely insane. I love her so much.what do i do? Am i a pervert for even thinking that....
A. 8 November 2016:
Simple....Let's say you married a woman and had a daughter the same age as her. However, you and your wife got a divorce. She got together with another guy, but things didn't workout.
Then you find out that the same guy who was your daughte... (read in full...)
My fiance lost his job and I'm freaking out about the money
Q. Hai.....my fiance just lost his job. We are supposed to get married next year in June or July (haven't set a date yet). I have a full time job which pays well. My fiance is in school at the same time. He is getting a university degree. The thing...
A. 8 November 2016:
There are people out there who are homeless, no food, cancer, in a wheelchair, sick in bed all day, or just waiting to die.
If your fiance loosing his job is the only concern you have, then you should be giving thanks for what you do have.
... (read in full...)
I'm more emotionally attached to my b/f than he is to me
Q. HI, I dont know why I have this sad feeling that I am more emotionally attached to my bf than he is. We are together for almost 3 years, we dont live together but we are very involve in each ones lives..that is what I think. He has some problems re...
A. 8 November 2016:
Let me ask you this...If you go to a store to buy a pair of shoes, and looked around and found nothing you liked, what do you do? Would you spend three years in that store looking for something that is not there? Or would keep looking in other stor... (read in full...)
I don't want my mom to be pregnant I like being the only child!
Q. I think my mom mother is pregnant she told my we are having a baby but I thought she was joking and I'm scared to really ask her cause I don't want another child I'm the only one and I like it like that...
A. 8 November 2016:
Well I am happy for you...Why?
If you are 16-17 as you say...think of all the advise you have to give to your younger brother or sister. A boy...How to treat a woman. A girl...what kind of boys to stay away from.
Think how it would be if y... (read in full...)
I'm a 19 year old girl and I'm in love with my stepmom!
Q. Should I tell her or Not? I'm 19, and it's sad to say, but I'm in love with my step mom. It's a bad thing because I'm also a female. Every time that I'm around her, I stutter, smile a lot,etc. It's getting to the point to where I can't even hug...
A. 8 November 2016:
I understand how all of this works. I was in the same boat at your age. When we are inexperience with love and overloaded with hormones, we tend to lock on to a person that makes us feel loved. Someone who is familiar to us, who we can see lovi... (read in full...)
When is the right time to introduce my boyfriend to my parents and how do I do so?
Q. Hi. When is the right time to introduce my boyfriend to my parents? I have never brought a guy to meet my parents but with the one I am dating now, I feel the need to do so. We have been together for six months but knew eachother more than three ...
A. 8 November 2016:
If your boyfriend is kind, loving, and respectful of his own parents, then you will have no issues bringing him home.
If he is not kind, loving, and respectful of his own parents, he will eventually do the same to you, and your parents.
... (read in full...)
Do I have cancer? I'm really scared!
Q. So it's been a long journey of worrying myself sick and feeling scared and alone. About a year ago I had sex for the first time. I'm not gunna go into to much detail but yes I did use a condom. Long story short.. I developed a little bump where my ...
A. 8 November 2016:
You could simply have what is commonly called razor bumps. When you shave, the short hairs get caught in the skin and grow under it, causing the bumps.
I get them from shaving my face because I have sensitive skin. You pubic skin area will be... (read in full...)
Why won't he delete his profile on the dating site?
Q. Hi all, Could someone good kind people give their option please on this matter, is it an issue or it that I've got the issue, and I'm being stupid. Please tell me if I am. I'm gay, I met this wonderful guy 6 months ago, older than me, but t...
A. 7 November 2016:
Let me make this simple...
You believe in loyalty...He is loyal to the the dating site, his friends on there, and maybe even the possibility of meeting someone else.
See anything yet? You are loyal to one on one...He is loyal to everyone...... (read in full...)
Ex has started dating an 18 year old guy! How do I deal with this shocking news?
Q. My ex boyfriend (3 year relationship, broke up with me 6 weeks ago due to him feeling neglected due to my depression and OCD) told me this week that he is now in a relationship with an 18 year old boy... My ex and I are both 27....... One week ...
A. 7 November 2016:
Shocking yes...Great for you...ABSOLUTELY!!!
You see this as shocking...WHY!! Not your problem now.
Just imaging... in your fourth year, you got pregnant. Planned to get married, got married, then he divorce you for said boy then...How would... (read in full...)
Why do I get so upset when my husband masturbates??! Help!
Q. I've been with my husband for about a year and a half now, I'm 26 and he's 31. I have to say I am not bad looking at all but I just feel so unsexy when he masturbates! We don't have sex as often as I'd like to and I always initiate. He never does! I ...
A. 7 November 2016:
A man does not have to be lazy in work or in play. But he can become lazy in going to his wife, and making the effort to get what he needs. Porn makes it easy to a wife of her ability to be a wife.
"A man should fulfill his duty as a husband, a... (read in full...)
I'm a 19 year old girl and I'm in love with my stepmom!
Q. Should I tell her or Not? I'm 19, and it's sad to say, but I'm in love with my step mom. It's a bad thing because I'm also a female. Every time that I'm around her, I stutter, smile a lot,etc. It's getting to the point to where I can't even hug...
A. 7 November 2016:
The word "stepmom" has a word that makes having a relationship with her next to impossible..."MOM".It would be like having a sexual relationship with your own mother.
I understand that you need that kind of female bond, someone you can trust, a... (read in full...)
How do I stay optimistic?
Q. It is coming up on two years since my heart was broken. In that time, I've gone on... Maybe 30 dates? I am actively using dating sites, trying to meet people in person, trying to improve myself... In short, I think I'm doing everything right...
A. 4 November 2016:
"I'm not good enough"
Why should any man date you if this is how you feel about yourself????? Ever think how you feel about yourself is the same energy to pass off to us?? Men are not bricks...we sense things too, and yes, we can sense the ne... (read in full...)
Should I ask him the questions I have and perhaps finally get closure?
Q. I would like to seek an advice about an incident that happened way back 1990 when I was 19 yrs old. At age 15, I never had any boyfriend because my parents were very strict especially my father. I am not much exposed to society reason my parent...
A. 4 November 2016:
Nope...How much of your happiness have you lost from holding on to the past? Going back...AGAIN...to ask questions will only hold you in the past even more. Your parents were blinded by their own foolishness.
If your parent were true Christi... (read in full...)
Why do I get so upset when my husband masturbates??! Help!
Q. I've been with my husband for about a year and a half now, I'm 26 and he's 31. I have to say I am not bad looking at all but I just feel so unsexy when he masturbates! We don't have sex as often as I'd like to and I always initiate. He never does! I ...
A. 4 November 2016:
Ask him this...Honey, when you look between my legs, do you see a hand? I though I married a smart man...guess not. Because I thought you would know the difference between a hand and vagina."
Porn makes men lazy...rather than making the effort w... (read in full...)
My husband never agrees with me!
Q. My husband never agrees with me . I will say , you siblings dont like me and he will say yes they do or i will tell him something that has happend and he will say no they didnt but if they say something about me he will do the same thing say i didnt ...
A. 4 November 2016:
Nor will your husband agree with you if all he hears are complaints. Men are fixers...You have a problem, we will want to fix it. You have a complaint...we don't want to hear it.
Siblings....Honey, can you pay attention next time when your si... (read in full...)
I just feel emptiness! How do I bounce back?
Q. Hello people I suffer from anxiety and OCD. In the last 2 years, I found out my girlfriend was cheating, I dropped out of college, changed 2 jobs and currently unemployed. I spend most of my time in my room. My thoughts drive me crazy. I've trie...
A. 4 November 2016:
What do people do when the are depressed?...Nothing. If you sit around doing nothing for to long, how does that make you feel? Depressed!!!
So...get moving. Ever heard that saying "A rolling stone gathers no moss." Let's says moss is depressio... (read in full...)
Was I right to kick it into touch?
Q. I am feeling so crushed and confused right now. I was in a relationship and I thought he was perfect for me, good to me, great to my little girl. I was great friends with his Mum. Then on Saturday I was having coffee with his Mum and his brother ...
A. 4 November 2016:
WOW!!! You heard?????? That is all it took? Who gives a crap about the truth. You heard so therefore...it must be true.
Seem like you have a lot of insecurities.
This is what you said about him...."good to me, great to my little girl." But... (read in full...)
How do I force myself to want to care?
Q. Hey all, I wanna know more about how to be more sociable. I am tired of being the quiet, minding his own business guy. I was a very quiet kid and am a quiet adult today. The problem is not fear or lack of confidence. Infact, in my head, I'm the smar...
A. 2 November 2016:
Your problem is simple...
"Infact, in my head, I'm the smartest, coolest guy there is."
So if you are all that already...you don't need anyone else. You are the best there is. So of course you don't care about other.
The is one word you... (read in full...)
If you find yourself having messed up badly, how can you stop beating yourself up? and will God or the universe send the right person(s) your way without you being prepared?
Q. I met a great guy over a month or so ago and I blew it from the very beginning. I made a mistake by not respecting myself enough and made myself look like a low-value woman in his eyes by my actions and choices. I guess I didn't even realize my ...
A. 2 November 2016:
Speaking of GOD...Look at the lesson he just thought you.
"I made a mistake by not respecting myself enough and made myself look like a low-value woman in his eyes by my actions and choices. "
So now you know what NOT to do when you meet Mr.... (read in full...)
27 and still looking for the guy who wont pressure me for sex!
Q. Hi. I just ended a year long relationship with someone. One of the main issues was that we have different points of views on sex. He told me that it is very strange for someone my age (mid to late 20s) to be a virgin. I know that is true, but is it ...
A. 14 October 2016:
I wish I had known all the headaches that came with having sex to early. I would have wait until marriage...and I hope you do.
Men today are Programmed to believe that sex equals love. So if you are a virgin, then you must not love them.
Wo... (read in full...)
I'm worried he'll disappear when he finds out I'm a virgin!
Q. I've met the guy and things are going well. We've been on dates and get on really well and I feel comfortable with him. However, recently he's asked me to stay over at his and I'm sorta afraid too :/ This is because I feel he will want to h...
A. 14 October 2016:
Virgins are an endangered species right now. Any man would love to have one. So own up to it.
Even those nut bars blow themselves up to go to heaven to get what?? 72 Virgins!!! Check that out...A woman's virginity is so precious, men are blow... (read in full...)
I'm having second thought about marriage
Q. My boyfriend has proposed to me, and even though I said yes, I'm now not sure whether I did the right thing. Last year my boyfriend admitted to sleeping with 3 other girls in the first year of our relationship. He told me that he wanted me to know ...
A. 14 October 2016:
It almost feels like your boyfriend propose to you out of guilt, rather than true love. I am sure he loves you more now than he did when he cheated...but still does not feel right.
Hi honey, I cheated on you not once, but three times while ... (read in full...)
I didn't trust him and it has affected our relationship
Q. I need some advice.... I have been with my partner for just over 1 year but we have known each other for about 3. Generally we get on really well. We both work shifts and sometimes don't see each other for a week at a time. He is 10 years older th...
A. 14 October 2016: "I really really love him"
That statement is not true...at all. If you really really love him, you would not accuse him or have any need to be insecure.
You want to be with him simply because you do not want to be alone...that is more hurtful.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for feeling that I'm not getting enough sex? I am frequently jealous of people who have sex
Q. I lost my virginity at 22 and have been a late bloomer but enjoy sex a lot. I am very selective too. But I feel like I am not getting enough sex? I am picky and have had few relationships, just a few lovers but that fizzled out because we weren...
A. 14 October 2016:
CINDYCARES is right...You need quality sex, not quantity.
You said it yourself "my ex was able to give me a sex high that would last for days"
Masturbation will never help. Yes you get off, but if it truly helped, you would not need sex. ... (read in full...)
How do you end a FWB relationship with someone that you don't want to hurt?
Q. I need help telling my long friend with benefits that I don't want the benefits. Backstory, we've been friends for 10 years, we dated for 3, I broke up with them last year but we remained roommates and it transformed into FWB. I have had my bout...
A. 10 October 2016: You do realize it's your body...Your vagina, right??? So when you say NO...it means what to you??
Never give a man sex for nothing. Sex must come with something..not for now...but for years to come...like marriage.
NEVER give away any part of... (read in full...)
I lost the ring my wife purchased for me. She'll be very cross. What should I do?
Q. My wife left for Paris last week, and instead of going to work, coming home to a lovely empty apartment and playing video games like I been doing, my brother convinced me to hang out with him for the night. When I got there all the boys were the...
A. 3 October 2016:
What people need to understand is this.... A ring does not make you married. Your VOW does.
People act as if the moment you take off or lose your ring, some how you are no longer married. I understand the ring is expensive...But did you get marr... (read in full...)
My partner is afraid of my penis size... and her sister is a little too interested!
Q. I'm married over 3 years, love marriage, never did intercourse with my partner until married, knew her 6 years before marriage, we both want more of it but I have a 11.5inch n 5 inch fat, she is scared every time, I am ashamed of it, I haven't taken ...
A. 3 October 2016:
What do you need help with??
The only reason you are asking this question, is for someone to tell you to have sex with your partner's sister. You want to, but hoping for someone else to agree. Misery loves company...but you will not find that co... (read in full...)
How do I respond to my wife now I know about the affair she had with my (then) best friend behind my back?
Q. I just found out that my wife had a sexual relationship with my best friend and the best man at my wedding. This happened 26 years ago! We had been dating exclusively for 4 months at the time. Even though it was so long ago, I feel like it could've...
A. 3 October 2016: "Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; LOVE DOES NOT KEEP A RECORD OF WRONGS; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and its ... (read in full...)
At 21, should I try online dating or not?
Q. So I am 21 years old and in college. My parents expect me to have a partner and possibly get married after college (although, they do not want me to do online dating but they cannot stop me as a 21 year old girl). Friends of my family and some ...
A. 9 September 2016:
Always get to know people in person. You cannot hide your true self for long.
Dating is easy...Relationships are hard. Why? Because you are no longer dealing with your own personality anymore. Trying to make to different personalitie... (read in full...)
My eight year old son is such a handful. What action should I be taking to address the problems I face?
Q. I just don know what to do. My. Son spends school holidays with his dad who lives abroad, My son is eight. every time school holidays approach i'm exhausted and really stressed because he's such a handful. I have some health problems too and...
A. 9 September 2016:
My Son is 20 years and daughter is 19 years...And they know up to this day, so far and no more.
Love them to pieces...but my love comes with rules.
I have one rule in my house...I am the parent...There is no exception to that rule...now or e... (read in full...)
What if my body turns him off? Should I wait until I’m more comfortable with my own body?
Q. So I like this guy so much, he's very handsome and has asked me out on a date. I really enjoy being with him and things are advancing and all but i am really self aware of my shape, i have always struggled with my body , i am 5'1' and i weigh ...
A. 9 September 2016:
Real love is never based on what's on the outside.
Think of a relationship like a cake. A cake is not made with just flour alone. It take several other ingredients to make it delicious.
However, the most important thing in making a cake is.... (read in full...)
He got a strip dance and lied to me about it. Should I stay or move on?
Q. 29 F dating 1.5 years. We talked about how I did not like strip dances. I told him I was fine with him going with friends, but not get a dance. He ended going with just his best friend and went to a private room and got a dance. He lied to me ab...
A. 9 September 2016:
Listen....First of all...as a man...I would never let a stripper touch me. Why? I have no idea where she was, or who she was with last. Her rubbing that...thing over me, and then coming to you...yeah...NO.
I am not one to say leave him...too ea... (read in full...)
What can I do to make myself feel a little more comfortable and less nervous?
Q. Hey Everyone, I am taking part in the School Show and for my part I have to kiss someone. I don't mind but I have never kissed a boy before so I am really nervous. What can I do to make myself feel a little more comfortable and less nervous?...
A. 9 September 2016:
Tell yourself this...It is my first time...but he won't forget it :)... (read in full...)
I've lost weight and now down to UK size 12. How do I get out of thinking bad about myself when subjected to Fat Shaming?
Q. Im writing this because I'm so tired of being body shamed all of the time. Growing up I was a size 8, but then I left school, started a new career, had a baby and the weight creeped on. At my heaviest I went up to 15 stone size 16 which is very...
A. 9 September 2016:
The only shameful thing here is....You listening to foolish people.
Get this....You can lose weight and look good...but a stupid person will always be stupid, unless they are willing to learn sense.
You were wise enough to see that you need... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband go down on me?
Q. Hello everyone! Thank you for your time reading this. I have a simple, yet extremely embarrassing question. I'm a "happily" married woman with two girls and 4 months pregnant. We live a moderate life,go to church and spend time with ou...
A. 6 September 2016:
As a man...If I know you had some medical issues down South, it would not make me feel too comfortable putting my mouth down there.
You should take him to your family doctor, and have him or her confirm your readiness to receive.
Another thi... (read in full...)
Our therapy dogs don't get along and my boyfriend has issued me an ultimatum. What can I do?
Q. I have PTSD and anxiety due to sex abuse. It started happening when I was in preschool. My boyfriend has Anxiety and PTSD bc of prison bc he used to be an armed robber and he accidentally murdered his ex. He became a dog handler in prison. He has ...
A. 2 September 2016: I am sorry... Are you talking about your dog or your
guy??... (read in full...)
Our therapy dogs don't get along and my boyfriend has issued me an ultimatum. What can I do?
Q. I have PTSD and anxiety due to sex abuse. It started happening when I was in preschool. My boyfriend has Anxiety and PTSD bc of prison bc he used to be an armed robber and he accidentally murdered his ex. He became a dog handler in prison. He has ...
A. 2 September 2016: I am sorry... Are you talking about your dog or you guy??... (read in full...)
Our therapy dogs don't get along and my boyfriend has issued me an ultimatum. What can I do?
Q. I have PTSD and anxiety due to sex abuse. It started happening when I was in preschool. My boyfriend has Anxiety and PTSD bc of prison bc he used to be an armed robber and he accidentally murdered his ex. He became a dog handler in prison. He has ...
A. 31 August 2016:
You ever think the dog knows something you don't??? Dogs can judge character very well...and based on the fact that he does not care about your need to have the dog...I say the dog is right.
A true loving guy would do his best the bond with yo... (read in full...)
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