He told me that he is falling in love with me but is he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. I've been friends and getting to know this guy for a month now. We hang out and he messages me everyday through text without fail. So two days ago we were texting because both of us were about to go to bed, before he says goodnight he say...
A. 29 November 2016:
"My gut is telling me that he isn't really in love with me but rather he may be infatuated with me."
Most women have very good intuitions :)
Let him prove it first. The longer you wait to get intimate, the more you will know what he is real... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes me feel so bad about myself
Q. I don't know what to do, ive been with my boyfriend for about a year now and we've lived together for about 5 months, he's mostly a really nice guy, but he doesn't show me any emotional support whatsoever, i have told him i need him to emotionally ...
A. 29 November 2016:
In your head...How do you see a man treating you? Is this what you imagine it should be? If none of this is what you want it to be, or imagine it should be...then why are you still in this situation?
Should we blame your boyfriend for making y... (read in full...)
My husband is divorcing me we have a severly disabled son
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 12 years. We have a severly disabled son, he is autistic, with learning difficulties and he cannot speak. he is very aggressive at the moment. Friday he pulled me onto the floor by my hair and head butted me. ...
A. 29 November 2016:
I am sorry to hear about your situation.
However...This is your time to shine. Your husband says you are stupid. Then you are going to show him you are smart enough to get away from such a fool.
I am normally one who fights to save marri... (read in full...)
They're saying I'm too harsh with her little brother who has autism! Advice?
Q. Hello everyone! I need a hand with something concerning my girlfriend's autistic little brother. So this kid is great, I love him to death I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 months and love her very much, I'd do anything for her. He...
A. 29 November 2016:
Sometimes it has nothing to do with you.
Some people forget how to treat people like people, even with a disability, and stop treating them like a handicap.
We look at someone in a wheelchair and automatically feel sad for them. "Oh that p... (read in full...)
Is my online boyfriend hiding something?
Q. i got this online boyfriend we never seen each other yet been in a relationship nearly 2months we always video call, phone call and chat. we exchange password before in instagram. 1st he trusted me his instagram and i get jealous to the girl he ...
A. 29 November 2016:
You are talking online and never saw each other...He could hide the moon from you.
First of all...If he trust you enough to give you his password, why do you not trust him? Most guys would never give out their password to anyone.
You cannot ... (read in full...)
Is she in the wrong more than me?
Q. I have been with C----- for 2 years, engaged for 5 month. Pretty solid relationship, love her to pieces but our communication is off, she yells at/threatens me to get her point across and I just plain ignore her to spite her. This situation is a ...
A. 29 November 2016:
YES...You are WRONG !!! And yes...She is also wrong.
I get the point of how she spoke to you in the car. But tell me what part of your actions were right???
She saw that "her" brother is getting spoiled and wanted to correct it...even if... (read in full...)
I am insecure about how my body looks, its affecting my sex life!
Q. Hello, and thanks for reading. I am very apprehensive and insecure when I have sex with my boyfriend. I wish I had the confidence to initiate but everytime I build myself up to initiate, I clam up. I find myself to be beautiful and I love my body ...
A. 29 November 2016:
Take it from a man...We do not care for the most part. What we care about is you wanting us, not so much what you look like down there.
Let me explain how a man's mind work in this regard...
We men do not normally see a problem with how you... (read in full...)
Making love vs having sex
Q. how do you know when your making love and not having sex,...
A. 21 November 2016:
Making love is about you pleasing her needs and not just getting some for you. It means you take the time to satisfy her in her way, and not your own.
Having sex is more in the heat of the moment. You both want it, go at it, until someone or b... (read in full...)
Why does she call me daddy?
Q. I have a friend who is from South East Asia. She is 4 years older and I'm 25. I've known her for like 2 years now. She's always had this name that she calls me, I guess it's in her native language because I don't understand it. Recently thoug...
A. 21 November 2016:
She likes you a lot... Problem is...she wants you to make her like you, not just her saying it because you ask.
She calls you daddy because it's a sexual role play issue. Like a father would command a daughter to be obedient, and do what she is ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time getting over her
Q. I've posted about this female in questions a few times before. Basically I'm having a really hard time getting over her and I'm questioning my sanity and what else I can do to get over how I'm feeling. To cut a long story short, a FWB that didn't ...
A. 21 November 2016:
Your first mistake....FWB...There is NO BENEFIT is such a friend...Why?? Sex is not a game. And it is not to be played with...lesson learned the hard the way. It is better not to have sex, than to have it and invest emotions in someone who does... (read in full...)
Why do men sexualize women this way?
Q. Why are men so disgusting? I'm not trolling. From what I have seen of men, they are foul. They admit to looking at every woman as a sexual partner, imagining her naked... They think disgusting things. They use disgusting words when referrin...
A. 21 November 2016: HAHA!!! What kind of men are you hanging around???
Any man who is thinking of sex first, is not the man for you. Do we want sex? Hell yes! Should it be the first thing to offer...NO!!!
First of all...there is some truth to what you say, but the... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to forgive and forget events from 30 years ago in our marriage
Q. My story: Married 25 years with 3 children. Like any marriage we had our ups and downs, but I would say it’s been a very solid above average marriage. Recently, in a random conversation I recalled an event over 25 years ago, we were in our early ...
A. 17 November 2016:
As a wife...Has she cheated on you? Has she been a great wife? As you said "I would say it’s been a very solid above average marriage."
So you have no real problems...but you are trying to plant a problem tree...which is watered and fertilised b... (read in full...)
My ex friend is giving out my number to everyone until I apologize
Q. On Halloween I had a falling out with a couple friends when I got kicked out of a frat party for not paying to get in and they ignored me for the rest of the night. For a couple days after that I was angry at them and just completely ignored their ...
A. 17 November 2016:
Change your number...and only real friends get it this time.
When you change that number...do the same with your so called friends.... (read in full...)
Am I "withholding love" and therefore being manipulative??
Q. When my partner and I have a bad fight, she leaves for days, and I'm unable to display love. It feels fake if in the middle of everything I said "I love you so much" or "How are you doing, I miss you". I'm not withholding love as a punishment or to ...
A. 17 November 2016: "she leaves for days"
You cannot give something to someone who is not there to receive it. How can you express love when the person you claim to love, is not there to love?
What does she call leaving when you are mad? The right thing to do? Or ... (read in full...)
How can I face loneliness?
Q. How can I stop feeling so lonely? I have just started the process of getting to know myself yes at 31- meaning finally dealing with my loniloness and not using escape mechanisms such as the wrong crowds(friends) to waste time with or men(bad ...
A. 17 November 2016:
There are billions of people in this world...so no one is truly lonely.
So what is the problem? You want to be in a relationship...okay. How do you get one? Do you just sit there remembering someone you had, or do you get off your butt and go ... (read in full...)
Everytime I turn around she needs money.
Q. I am currently in a LDR and it has become frustrating how financially dependent she has become. We were in this situation when we lived in the same town, however, I was living at home and didn't pay any bills while working. Now I am living on my own ...
A. 17 November 2016:
"Everytime I turn around she needs money."
Then stop turning around...and keep walking in the other direction. You need to live too. So if all your money is going to look after her family...how are you going to look after your own family, if y... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's family is refusing to let me stay with them.
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 18 months now. He is Indian and his family is Muslim. We intend to get married in the next year (not engaged yet) and they know we are serious, but because I am a white blonde girl they treat me completely ...
A. 15 November 2016:
The truth...That will never happen with son or daughter. NEVER will he spend a night at his girlfriend's house, or she at mine. Same goes for my daughter.
WHY!!! A respect thing...Not based on my religion.
If you were married...sure. But ... (read in full...)
Facebook jealousy is making me resentful and bitter
Q. I saw a question posted a while back similar to this, as I seem to have the same problem. I recently had to deactivate my Facebook account because everyone posting constantly about their wonderful lives is making me really jealous and resentful of ...
A. 15 November 2016: What's the point in getting jealous? It has done nothing for you. It has not given you money or a job...so why bother?
When you see people living a good life, it is because they worked hard to get it.
Don't look down on them, but use it to mo... (read in full...)
How do I make my husband notice me
Q. My husband and I have been married for just over a year and together for 4 and I need help trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong. My husband spends all his spare time with his friends. He hangs out with them every single day. I hang out with my ...
A. 14 November 2016:
You are key. Plain and simple.
Your husband did notice you enough to marry you. Then along the way, things got routine, and now his friends holds all the excitement.
When was the last time you went on a date? When was the last time he came ho... (read in full...)
Six years and no proposal; we've lived together for two. Is he stringing me along?
Q. I love my partner of 6 years. A few years into the relationship he suggested we bought a house together (at the time he had just finished his service in the military, and I was finishing University - he had saved up a house deposit during his time ...
A. 14 November 2016:
You are stringing your own self alone.
If you are hungry and want a hamburger, do you go to a place that only sells soup?? Then get upset because they done have what you want?
So if you know what you want in life, and your partner does no... (read in full...)
Can I ever get my thoughts under control?
Q. I wanted to write this to see if anyone has had any success in dealing with this or if there is no hope for me to resolve my issues. I have been in therapy and with medication since I was young I'm 31 now. I was diagnosed with OCD at 12. The last ...
A. 14 November 2016:
I see this as major insecurities.
"I always fantasize about the future or people giving me attention in my head"
Why do you need attention? To the point of fantasising about it?
"what if I checked his phone and saw something"
You seem ... (read in full...)
I’m not exactly sure if he likes me!
Q. You heard of the phrase "If a guy likes a girl, he'll go out of his way to be mean to her", but I'm not sure if that's all that true. I'm having an experience with a guy who I personally am torn with what he thinks of me. I'll call him Jay for priv...
A. 14 November 2016:
""If a guy likes a girl, he'll go out of his way to be mean to her"
Not true at all.
Most guys are just as shy to talk to a girl, as she is as shy to talk to him.
This guy however...You stay as far away from him as you can. Take it from... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to have conversations with people?
Q. HELP! I get so anxious whenever someone starts a conversation with me. Being around people I am totally fine with and I can handle a little bit of a small conversation, but I have issues keeping the ball rolling and I freak out whenever I shoul...
A. 14 November 2016:
Read...That is one of the best things you can do. Reading about different things in the world, different cultures, topics of concern in every day life, will give an arsenal ideas to talk about.
Keep in mind...talking too much is just as bad ... (read in full...)
Our fights have become over the top!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We have had our ups and downs. On occasion, I have had to walk away and take a "break," because the arguments become so personal and heated and so incredibly loud, and I cannot stand the insults any ...
A. 14 November 2016:
You said "Please Help Me"
I am very sure you know what you need to do. What part of this relationship sounds like a loving one?
Are you staying with him because you are afraid to be alone? You do realise he is not your husband right?
B... (read in full...)
Will watching X-rated movies affect my married life?
Q. hey I am indulged in bad sex activities like watching X movies and doing all that stuff …… I want to know will it affect my married life if I continue to do so. please help me...
A. 14 November 2016:
YES!!! Many will try to tell you no, but it does.
Look around on this site, and you will see how many women are complain about their husbands watching X movies, and has caused major problems in their marriage.
Why did you get married if you l... (read in full...)
I don’t to give my girlfriend visible hickies or love bites!
Q. Adults only please; this questions is not suitable for young readers. My gf has grown to love rough sex that leaves marks. I oblige but I draw the line at anything visible - often neck hickies or love bits. I don't want others to either see her a...
A. 14 November 2016:
I agree with you... I would never leave visible marks. She may not be concerned...but there are people who are nosy enough to get into business, and turn it into a nightmare.
... (read in full...)
What do I do about this crush on my neighbor?
Q. I moved into my new house in March on a new-build park. On the day of moving in a guy walked past with his dog and stopped to chat to my Dad who was stood outside at the time. My dad called me from the house to come and say hello. I said Hi and ...
A. 14 November 2016:
You have legs too right? When you see him walking his dog, call out to him, ask him to wait up, and go for a walk as well.... (read in full...)
Can we save things? Or do I just need to give up?
Q. I have a confession. I ruined my family. I talked to other guys, maybe 3 at the most. Things weren't sexual but sometimes they were flirty. One man in particular was very committed to me. I know what I've done wrong. I'm know I'm a despicable human. ...
A. 14 November 2016: "I'm know I'm a despicable human."
How so?? Because you have feelings and needed to be loved???
First of all...If you want to be with the father of your children and make that work, then there is no options...You must stop talking to other... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have two separate Snapchat accounts on one phone?
Q. Is it possible for your boyfriend to have two separate Snapchat accounts on one phone? Just today I went to Add Friends from contacts in my address book and I saw my boyfriend's name under another user name and it said ADD beside his name. I alre...
A. 14 November 2016:
Women have great intuition...I am not a woman, and even I feel exactly what you already know.... (read in full...)
Why do I feel uncomfortable when people say my name out loud?
Q. I've always been this way since I was little. I get very very uncomfortable when someone says my name or if I hear my name. I have a very unique name in the sense that I've never heard it or seen it before and I still haven't encountered it ...
A. 14 November 2016:
I find that people who have this problem feel that way because, their full name means they are in trouble. Your parents would normally only use your full name when you did something wrong, but call you by your pet name otherwise.
For me, m... (read in full...)
How to avoid being tempted?
Q. Hello, Here is an interesting one for you. I am married (with kids). My wife is very beautiful (former Miss), we have great sex - I can get it on demand, whatever I want, I think I love her, surely I wouldn't want to hurt her. Yet, I can't sto...
A. 14 November 2016:
Imagine your "former Miss" laying on bed with some other guy enjoying her in every which way. Imagine her having the time of her life with him, because she wants every thought of you cheating out of her head.
Then imagine you re-reading t... (read in full...)
Girl Is Trying To Make Me Jealous But I'm Not Interested In Her
Q. Met this girl recently, she's hot but I'm not really interested in her that way because I like women who are intellectual. I thought she was a bit too friendly when we first met, laughing at all my jokes etc. I also keep noticing her trying to catch ...
A. 12 November 2016:
Ignore...Please....That takes to much energy. If you are truly not interested...then don't even have a care in the world. You live your life, and let her live hers.... (read in full...)
Why does he never offer to pay for the hotel?
Q. I travel quite a lot and 3-4 times a year I fly through one country where I met a guy who I really like. Sometimes it's a lay over, sometimes it's a couple days stay. We always meet and it's usually just amazing. Sex is amazing and I really enj...
A. 11 November 2016:
You are giving him sex for free, why would he offer to pay for anything else??
Free food...but it will cost you $20.00...Then I don't want it. Free sex, room paid for to have said sex...now it should cost him half the room rate?
NEVER give ... (read in full...)
Engaged for three years but I can't bring myself to marry him
Q. I am trying to understand and realizing what happen in my relationship. Ive been with my fiance for 6 years and soon to be marry. If i accept his proposal 3 years ago maybe now we have our own family which i wish for. The reason why i still dont...
A. 11 November 2016:
This is...and we hope...a forever decision. The last thing you want is to marry him and then regret it after.
Women have very strong intuitions. If you feel very uncomfortable before your marriage, I would say you need to really dig down inside ... (read in full...)
Why isnt he replying the date is 3 days away
Q. I have arranged a date with a man i know ( we dont see each other out its more of a facebook friendship ) the date is set for this weekend . I have messaged him to confirm times and place to meet but he hasnt replied for a week ! why would someone ...
A. 10 November 2016:
"Why do people behave like this any ideas ?"
Because other people let them. Like you...Here you are waiting patiently for someone who is not showing interest in you.
Max for me is 3 days...then good bye and unfriend. I like to do gardening... (read in full...)
I'm in a slump with boyfriend
Q. Hi All, Thankyou in advanced for all of your help. I have a quick question. My partner and I have been together for about a year and are set to move in together soon. I absolutely adore him and know that he feels the same about me al...
A. 10 November 2016: "somewhat unemotional individual (unlike my last partner), where I am extremely emotional, almost over sensitive."
Good thing he is not emotional...Two emotional and over sensitive people would drive each other crazy.
He is not sad about being ... (read in full...)
Would you leave your spouse if you thought they were cheating, or would you wait for evidence or proof?
Q. Would you leave your husband if you thought he was cheating on you? Is that enough? Or would you need to obtain evidence/proof before leaving him? ...
A. 10 November 2016:
Would you like to be falsely accused of something you didn't do, just be someone "thought" you did??
As Honeypie asked...what makes you think he is cheating? ... (read in full...)
Am I confusing love with sex?
Q. I'm in love with my best friend. We have been friends for years and have slept together on and off for a while. Am I confusing sex with love. Should I tell him?...
A. 10 November 2016:
Most people do confuse sex for love at first. They think having sex will bring love...when it should be the other way around. Get committed love first, then reward that love with sex.
Never offer up sex in hopes of a guy stay with or being wit... (read in full...)
My heart belongs to another and I want out of my marriage but I won't be able to support myself/kids
Q. I am married and have been for 10 years. I have three beautiful children that I love more than anything. I stay home to care for them, as one of them is too young for school. Here is my dilemma. I am not in love with my husband. I haven't been for ...
A. 10 November 2016:
Be very sure that your marriage cannot be saved. Because what you do to your husband can very easily be done right back to you.
There is a very true saying...Come and visit me and come and live with me, are two very different things.
Y... (read in full...)
Should I try to seduce my brother's wife?
Q. I'm 19 year old and have a huge crush on my brothers wife she's around 28 and I've been in a relationship with her sister she's 23 and whenever I have sex with her I couldn't stop imagining my sister in law and ejaculate thinking of my sister in ...
A. 10 November 2016:
So you would have no problem with someone having sex with your girlfriend? Any man could have sex with her and you would be completely okay with it right?
If the answer is no...then why the hell would you the same thing to your own brother? Sle... (read in full...)
How do I get a quiet guy to open up?
Q. I've been dating a wonderful guy for about 2 months now. He is kind, considerate, sweet and very supportive. He plans fun dates for us is stable, dependable and always checks in on me. I've been in some rough past relationships, and I still feel...
A. 9 November 2016: "Any advice about not worrying and getting a quiet guy to open up?"
First...You are the one that needs to open up, not him. He is right where he needs to be for someone that is so insecure. If he was more out going, it would scare you even mor... (read in full...)
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