My life looks pretty discouraging!
Q. I have just turned 30, and that has caused me to evaluate what I should or should not have acquired/achieved by this age. And my self analysis looks pretty discouraging: Dead-end part-time job with no health benefits ,and no PTO I have just gradu...
A. 6 January 2017: "just a handsome, wealthy, older boyfriend who has given me his debit card indefinitely until I find the job of my dreams. Sure he helps me out but I feel crappy about it because I'm not a gold-digger by nature."
That statement above vs...
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Should I be more angry or just let it go? My wife confessed that she gave oral briefly to a male stripper at a party
Q. Hi, my wife went to a girls party night recently where we both knew there would be male strippers. I was totally cool with it but she got carried away with the night and ended up giving a few seconds of oral to all but one of the stripper...
A. 6 January 2017:
First of all...You the man...a real man!!! Thank goodness there are a few of us left.
You love your wife first...that is why you are not getting a divorce right now. Awesome.
You chose not to let the foolish male pride and ego do the talki... (read in full...)
After my past life I can't face his sexual demands
Q. I am 42 and have been through a lot. I have been rapped when I was younger and beat by my mom and almost every guy I have been with. I need help trying to figure out something. My boyfriend gets mad at me for not wanting to do a 3-some. I ha...
A. 6 January 2017:
Your past is not there to make you weaker. It is there to make you stronger than you have ever been before.
Don't you see? You have been beaten down all your life. But now you have a chance to stand up and say "NO MORE!!!".
You do not find a... (read in full...)
Why do men insist on commenting about other women's looks?
Q. I was wondering if anyone could shed some light in this for me . A guy was seeing went out of his was to make a point to me how beautiful his ex wife was. I have also noticed before that men seem to do this when on dates sometimes . They seem to ...
A. 5 January 2017:
A lot of guys or girls who bring up their ex, are not completely over them. They normally bring them up because they know they were the reason for the break up, and that knowledge is still fresh in their minds.
When they were with their ex, th... (read in full...)
Guy says he doesn't like me, but others say the opposite. What do you think? ?
Q. Question: Every guy I know says this guy obviously likes me, but the guy himself said to me it's not that way? He's close to me since my break up 5 months ago. He's brought me out, treated me to food and movies, would come all the way to my neighb...
A. 4 January 2017:
Then the guy is right....What others say or think, has no power over what the guy himself says.
If you said you do not like a certain guy, but other think and say you do...who is telling the truth?... (read in full...)
I don't want to nag, but my boyfriend won't shower. Solutions? How should I respond?
Q. I'm 26 and I've just got into a relationship with a guy who's just turned 25. We've been seeing each other for months and we've been official for less than 3 weeks. As you can imagine I'm still in the honeymoon phase but he's straight away made him...
A. 4 January 2017: "Am I trying to save a relationship he's not interested in??"
Still you try...why? Because you love him...yet it is one sided.
Boyfriends are like buying fruit in the store. Do you try to save the bad fruit? Do you bring home the bad fruit? N... (read in full...)
I am finding it hard to communicate with my perfectionist BF, especially about studying law. What should I do?
Q. There is so much going on in my life. I am a 21 year old accounting student who wants to change to law. It is quite depressing especially if i tell my bf (23 years old) of 6 months that because he will be disappointed in me. My parents already ...
A. 4 January 2017:
"but my bf is a perfectionist when it comes to academics."
Good for him...So question...Where is he a perfectionist when it comes to your life and how you chose to live it???
Where born for him to tell you what is right or wrong for you?
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My marriage is emotionally unfulfilling and dead. Should I stay or leave?
Q. I'm in a marriage that could be described as comfortable . Both of us treat each other very nicely , the sex is good on a physical level ( although no emotional component really ) and we have built an good life together over twenty year . The ...
A. 30 December 2016:
Hi OP,
Sorry if I misunderstood your post. You said you felt unfulfilled, but not specifically why, until your response.
Yes you are correct. Lack of communication can destroy any relationship. It makes you feel alone and unloved.
I have b... (read in full...)
Is it possible for men to move on so quickly?
Q. Hi, I need some advice. I was in a relationship with a guy for one year. We had a great relationship until September this year then we started to argue because his behaviour changed towards me and I also fell out with my best friend because I ...
A. 30 December 2016:
YES!!! Men can turn off there emotions much easier than women. Especially if they are angry or cheating.
Secondly...There is someone else if he moved on that fast. His emotions have turned off you, and now on to someone else.
Women have ... (read in full...)
He is moving too fast, talking children, houses and marriage. He already has three kids.
Q. I need some advice I met this guy years ago down the pub via mutual friends he admitted he liked me never felt that same way. He then stopped speaking to me due to new gd etc and now has 3 kids with her who is now an ex September those yr he sees ...
A. 30 December 2016:
Get as far away from him as you can. ZERO contact. He is trying very hard to butter you up. He desperate to have a woman in his life, by any means.
If your intuition is not a loving one towards him, then stay away.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I'd like to watch him masturbate
Q. I have a fantasy and I am not sure how to approach my boyfriend about it. I don't want him to think I'm weird/something wrong with me or to embarrass him. I know it is natural for men to masturbate and I have no problem with him doing it. However, ...
A. 30 December 2016:
Sometimes men love it when a woman just does whatever she wants, and shocks the crap out of us.
If you are lying in bed, just start playing with him, and then move into oral or a handjob. Once he is turned on, you could pretty much ask him for ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid the kiss on the first date?
Q. Hi, I have a question and would appreciate your help. I'm not an American and this is the first time I'm dating here, 3 years after divorce. I'm 39 and my date is 42. He is single, indian and educated and moved to the US when he was so young. I'm ...
A. 29 December 2016:
Then offer your cheek for the kiss. You do not have to kiss if you do not want too...and if he really like you, it will not matter. He will go out with you again.... (read in full...)
My marriage is emotionally unfulfilling and dead. Should I stay or leave?
Q. I'm in a marriage that could be described as comfortable . Both of us treat each other very nicely , the sex is good on a physical level ( although no emotional component really ) and we have built an good life together over twenty year . The ...
A. 29 December 2016:
When was your last date? When was the last time you did something flirty to get him fired up? When was the last you got all womanly and sexy??
Notice I use the word YOU!!! If this was your husband writing this post, I would be asking him t... (read in full...)
What should I do to meet the right guy?
Q. Hi everyone, I am feeling like I'll never find someone. I am South Asian American and south Asian guys don't like me, or maybe I think they don't like me. Or I just don't like them. My parents want me to be with someone who shares my culture but I...
A. 28 December 2016:
I am black...I trust me :)
My fav in woman are not from my own culture. Asian, Spanish, White (creamy) :)...almost every culture except my own. WHY???
Simple....LOVE has no race, no colour, and no boundaries.
If you had a dog from Rus... (read in full...)
I can't walk away from my married guy but I can't handle the situation either
Q. I need help to deal with this situation without judgement please. I am having a relationship with my pastor. Well most would say affair but it is more than that to me. I'm 26 and a single Mum and he helped me so much and my wee girl. I ended up ...
A. 28 December 2016:
You know that book you take to church? The book you are suppose to be reading...it has all the answers you need. Obviously neither the pastor or you, are reading that book.
If you look up the 10 commandment...Remember the one that says..ummm..... (read in full...)
The way he treats me makes me so confused. Can we develop our relationship?
Q. Hi all, I have met a guy on Tinder. He is an expat and will work in my home country for a few months. Yes, I had sex with him on a second time we met but we have not labelled our relationship or even set any rules and agreements between us two. ...
A. 28 December 2016:
"we have not labelled our relationship or even set any rules"
Game over.
Next time...BEFORE you sleep with a guy, make sure all the rules and agreements are set. Sex is to honour those rules and agreements. It is not to be given in order to... (read in full...)
I have a serious health issue and cannot have penetrative sex. Will I ever be able to have a normal relationship?
Q. Guys, would you date a 29-year old woman who is unable to have penetrative sex and unable to bear children? I'm wondering because you guessed it: that person is me. I have a really bad case of vaginismus (had it all my life for as far as I can tel...
A. 28 December 2016:
Sure...A woman does not need just penetration to have an orgasm. A man with a good working tongue can fix that problem. :)
You could try dating a single dad who no longer wants to have kids...Has the basic skills in operating a vibrator, ha... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a man to look at and flirt with women other than his significant other?
Q. Is it wrong for a man to look at and flirt with women other than his significant other? Why or why not?...
A. 28 December 2016:
Looking and flirting is one thing...Lusting....Now you are going down a road you really do not want to go.
Lusting will lead to the need to do something about releasing those built up urges.
Once you do...you are done.
Lust is the major f... (read in full...)
Can our relationship work? we have a baby on the way but the father of the baby has an addiction. Should I break up with him and move back with family?
Q. We have a baby on the way and he is addicted to marijuana. I had my own personal addiction to it myself but after realizing I was with child, I don't need it anymore. I want my child to have the extra money instead and to use it to benefit as a fam...
A. 28 December 2016: "He is the father of my child, if that were not a factor I don't think I would have tolerated this for so long."
Sperm does make a man a father. His action and love towards his children do.
You have already shown your ability to be a good mot... (read in full...)
Shy. It's making it difficult for me to develop a relationship with any women I meet. Any tips to help me get over my shyness?
Q. I'm a guy who's grown up very shy and has recently become single. My shyness is only when it comes to taking things further with a girl- I get on with women, I flirt and am even brave enough to ask for the first date, but when it comes to making the ...
A. 28 December 2016:
"but when it comes to making the move (kissing, sex) I am hopeless!"
The statement above is your answer to your own problem.
"I like to be in a relationship."
This statement should be your first and only intent. Kissing and sex will... (read in full...)
Should I marry a man I don't love? Is it time to settle?
Q. Should I marry a man I don't love? I have a friend who really likes me I told him that I really like his company, I think he's a nice person but there is no spark. He told me that despite the fact I don't love him he would wait for me and marry...
A. 28 December 2016:
I am sure you would not eat food you do not like, and that is a simple task. Marriage is much more serious than choosing between which food you like and don't like.
If there is no spark now before you marry your friend, there is not going to be ... (read in full...)
Is my fiance's contact with his ex's normal? He has been married 3 times.
Q. I'm a divorced woman who was married for 27 years. I got married at 17, so I've had little relationship experience. I've been divorced for just under 2 years now. I have a boyfriend who I just said yes to marrying. What bothers me about my fian...
A. 23 December 2016:
"He checks in with his third wife, whom he has no kids with, to see how she is dong and stuff like that, and comments to her on facebook and texts, and probably calls her too."
So three times he did not learn his lesson, and now it's four ti... (read in full...)
How to determine if a woman likes me? How do I let a woman know I like her? How to slow down my orgasm when with a woman?
Q. Moderator note: more than one question combined into this one post. .. . . . . . . . . . . .. . I am a man wanting to know how to go about letting a woman know I like her? I am very shy and have a hard time telling a woman I like them. Once I...
A. 23 December 2016:
A real man does not have to say a word to a woman to let her know anything. Are the words nice to hear? Sure...but his actions will speak for themselves.
What is the point of telling a woman you love her, yet you treat her like crap? So...S... (read in full...)
I've been feeling anxious and I don't know why. I don't know what to do, any suggestions?
Q. Recently this past few months I've been feeling really really sad and I don't know how to fix that?? I am an honours student in university, I have a great life at home, I am well off financially, and I kinda have everything...not to toot my own h...
A. 23 December 2016: "But one thing is I don't have a lot of friends, this has always been my reality and it never really upset me and I'm very used to it."
Christmas is coming and not having a solid friend circle to hang out with or invite over, can make people s... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to let a guy know you are a cheater?
Q. Dear Cupid,I am a firm believer if you do something to somebody it is right to return what has been done to you.I was in a relationship with this guy for years a little over some years.He would cheat,lie,and make babies on me. I would look past it ...
A. 22 December 2016:
NEVER return the favour. You simply get rid of the cheater.
Never lower yourself and your standards to teach some a lesson.
Some people will do things to you, but when it is done to them, they can get very angry. Last thing you want is so... (read in full...)
My disappointment and depression are acted out in tirades
Q. I am in a relationship with a man who is rather controlling and kind of immature. However, he won't change since we are older. I realize that to enjoy all the great things about him (and he is a wonderful companion for many reasons) I must develop ...
A. 22 December 2016: "I must develop coping skills."
Why???
This will never work. Want to know why? For this reason....
"with a man who is rather controlling and kind of immature."
A wise man will know what to say and how to behave in such a way, that will ... (read in full...)
My wife is not interested in group sex. How can I stop having an urge to participate in group sex? I need to stop these urges, but how?
Q. I have always fantasized about group sex. While there is nothing unusual about this, I'mean worried that the degree to which I want it is harmful. My wife and I have been married for twenty years and about a decade ago I decided that it was my o...
A. 22 December 2016:
I hope your wife does get into group sex. Then she can leave you for one of the guys she slept with.
Then you can sit there and regret ever talking her into group sex.
I will never understand the mind of any man who like to watch some other ... (read in full...)
How common is rejection for the first ever date attempt in life?
Q. I've been doing a great deal of inner work lately, and I wonder how much it "wired" me when I was rejected the first time I ever asked someone out, at 17. It would help me to know if this is common or unusual. If you are a guy, were you or any ...
A. 22 December 2016:
Rejection was my middle name growing up. Rejected the first, 2nd, and the next 50 times until I learned what I needed to learn.
My first lesson was...Women are not what they say they are in books or magazines.
You know those magazines that... (read in full...)
How could she have a three year sexual affair with this guy, and still have sex with me??
Q. I recently discovered that my wife has been having a sexual affair with a single friend of ours for the past three years, usually when I was at work.... he is single and has had girlfriends in this three year period..She knew this because he came ...
A. 22 December 2016: "What do you think?"
The question is...What are you thinking???
You seem to want to hold on to this even though you know the truth.
I tell you this how ever...A single screw up affair out of anger or resentment can be overlooked. A three y... (read in full...)
We disagree about matter of religion! Any advice?
Q. Hi everyone! I thought it might be a good idea to hear some impartial opinions on an issue I have been dealing with in my relationship. So my boyfriend and I are both Christian, though I only decided to be baptized when i was 14 while he ...
A. 19 December 2016:
My Dear...Remember this... Luke 3:23..."When Jesus began his work, he was about thirty years old."
So if the son of GOD started that late....No one should try any sooner.
... (read in full...)
I need help to find an outfit for my date!
Q. Help! I have a date on Saturday and I have no idea what to wear. He's taking me to a Christmas concert at a church, it's our second date. And I am totally at a loss. The concert has some really good artists performing, known nation wide. And...
A. 16 December 2016:
You need to wear a dress...with colours...or just a plain colour...one to the knees.
... (read in full...)
Why doesn't anyone want to talk to me?
Q. a little back story: I am an 19 year old girl in university, I currently have a part time job on the side for fun. And over the summer i got very very close with my coworkers and we hung out everyday, but recently we all haven't been talking or they ...
A. 12 December 2016:
Sometimes you have to find friends outside of your normal circle.
Example... I am black, and came from the Caribbean. I had issues with blending into life in Canada. I had no black friends, why? Because I was different and very discipline. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend bought me a chastity belt and expects me to wear it
Q. I have been with my bf for 6 months now. last week we were out, i was sitting at this table and a bloke came over and we were just chatting but my bf was like super mad and he hates me to chat to any guy. He is such a control freek that way. but i ...
A. 12 December 2016:
They actually make those still???
If I were you, I would wear it....And NO ONE gets in...not even him. Let's see how long that will last.
Question...are you a girlfriend or an animal? You a bit in a horse's mouth to control it. You put ... (read in full...)
How can a single mom find a boyfriend?
Q. Im pretty active, I go to school and work 24 hours a week. I have a beautiful 16 month old son. The dad and me are still ok but he lives 4 hours away. It seems like the only guys I can attract now are guys who already have kids, have been in trouble ...
A. 12 December 2016:
The best way for a single mother to get a guy is...Discipline.
No manly man is going to rush into your life if your life has no discipline. If you want this and that, and willing to do whatever to get it...then the only guys you will meet, a... (read in full...)
Does anyone have tips on how to be positive?
Q. I have been going to therapy for a while and the last couple of months it's been a sting of awful evens that have made I guess have a wake up call- from my doctors main issue is that I look at everything in a negative way- life love career - ...
A. 12 December 2016:
"I worry about what they think to the point that its controlling my life"
This right here is your first problem. The only person you need to worry about at the moment is you.
The only things you should be worrying about in life is...Making ... (read in full...)
Love-bombing. How long does it last? Will he replicate his love bombing actions in any future relationships ?
Q. How long does love-bombing by a narcissist last for? My dad is a narcissist (I believe) and he cheated and left my mother for a younger woman. I've heard that there are three stages of a relationship with a narcissist - 1. 'love-bombing', 2....
A. 10 December 2016:
Hate to say it...But yes, he will do it to the new woman as well....why???
One...He blamed your mother for her lack of affection and attention...not himself. What he does not realise as most men don't...You get back what you give. You have to ... (read in full...)
Anxious that my size will put him off
Q. Hello everyone, a few months back I met a man online who I immediately hit it off with. As a little bit of backstory, I'm an avid player of online games and we encountered each other over a shared Teamspeak (similar to Skype in a sense). Over tim...
A. 7 December 2016:
Truth...Meet up...You will know for sure if he is a good guy to keep or not.
If he sees you and lose interest...then you know he was the wrong one. Your weight for your first meet could be a good thing. It will be a lie detector test.
If ... (read in full...)
Could his tongue be different?
Q. This may sound a bit of a strange thing to say but is it possible for people to have big tongues and this would affect them kissing. I've just started seeing this man and when we kissed it felt like he had a massive tongue which made kissing a bit ...
A. 7 December 2016:
You have heard the saying...It's not the size of the tool, it's how you use it.
He may lack the technique in kissing, and knowing how to use his larger tongue properly.
But here is the bright size... It maybe better used elsewhere. :) :)... (read in full...)
How can I stop being addicted to love?
Q. How can one make love not so important? It seems that I'm always thinking about love (I'm single) and thirty 32 but ever since I can remember it's always been 90 percent of my life- I've lost jobs for men - I've gotten into arguments with my family ...
A. 7 December 2016:
LOVE is the most powerful force on Earth. It is the only force that can destroy hate, anger, resentment, and misery. So why would you not want to be addicted to something like that? I am addicted to it too...I crave it. In fact...If you don't come... (read in full...)
I think she might be cheating on me
Q. Hey i just like ask if im wrong in doing this. Me and my partner been together 13years. When we first met everything was great but now its so hard to just get a kiss or a cuddle from her for example. Last night she went to her pool game just lik...
A. 30 November 2016:
"ive got no friends i dont go out. im shy and quiet"
Do you see anything wrong in your statement above? Note what you wrote about yourself...now look at your wife...
"Last night she went to her pool game just like she does every tuesday" ... (read in full...)
He told me that he is falling in love with me but is he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. I've been friends and getting to know this guy for a month now. We hang out and he messages me everyday through text without fail. So two days ago we were texting because both of us were about to go to bed, before he says goodnight he say...
A. 29 November 2016:
"My gut is telling me that he isn't really in love with me but rather he may be infatuated with me."
Most women have very good intuitions :)
Let him prove it first. The longer you wait to get intimate, the more you will know what he is real... (read in full...)
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