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writes:so what do i do when my husband thinks i have cheated because of talk from friends with a mutual aquaintance (i didnt by the way) its obsurd but my husband has locked me out emotionally and other ways claiming not being able to get past the thought 2 kids together and i do love him and never would cheat. been struggling with emotional rollercoaster for quite some time. help...thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): What if you actually had cheated? Would you be expecting him to "just get over it" then? Well don't forget that this is what he is experiencing right now.
You've gotta convince him that you didn't actually cheat. Don't even try to convince him that it shouldn't be a big deal just because he can't be sure it happened. That just sounds like you are denying & justifying it, which will sound worse than if you were just apologizing for cheating.
I know you didn't do it. You know you didn't do it. Now find a way to convince HIM that you didn't do it. Polygraph, whatever it takes. That's the only way to make any progress here.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (8 January 2010):
Offer to take a polygraph test. Centers in every major city
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 You have to ask yourself two questions. Why would your friends tell him something like that? And why was he so quick to believe them?....It doesn't sound like your marriage has a solid foundation. Perhaps there are other issues we are not aware of...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): well you have to find out what was said and confront every one together.. play the end game. Although I have to admit some of this sounds fishy...
I mean lets think on it, My friends said something i cant get over?.. sounds to me like he is playing the I did it but i will put it on her game.. i may be wrong, but without more information its hard to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): Okay,
I hate when stuff like this happens. If your husband won't believe no matter what you say, then you should definitely go to your friends and tell them to straighten this out. this wouldn't have happened if they didn't instigate it. Also, remind him that you have been married for x number of years, had two kids, and give him some good reasons why you would never cheat on him
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