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writes:I have been married for 26 years and for the last 3 years my husband and I have been going through a rocky patch. We have always spent our holidays together, and despite not getting on quite as well have still really enjoyed time away together. During this rocky spell my husband has started going on golf breaks with the men. This upsets me terribly as I feel that he should be concentrating on us and our marriage and save his golf breaks until things are better between us. He is angry with me for not wanting him to go and this causes arguments. I just don't understand why he wants to go away when he knows that it is making things worse. Reply to this Question
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (8 January 2010):
Sometimes in a marriage people need "me" time to decompress. If you are sure that he will be with friends then give him some space. Don't always try and control his every move; this will cause resentment
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 How often are these golf trips?.....And are you really sure they're trips with the men?....
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 January 2010):
He knows something is wrong, but like most men is running away and hoping it will all magically get better. You know it won't. However, forget the breaks for the moment (yes they hurt), and work out what you can do as a couple when he gets back so you spend time together. Even if it's just going out for a meal. If you try to stop him from going on these breaks, he'll go on the out of spite. And, if you really wanted, take a break away yourself too. The key thing here is to make sure when he's around, you two work together to fix it.
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