I don't understand my body and having alot of trouble having sex
Q. I'm so upset and i feel like i'm weird or something. I'm 26, and my boyfriend is 25. We are both virgins, and want to lose our virginity together. The thing is, he goes mad at me for certain things. I feel embarrased to say this , but i dont know ...
A. 23 May 2010: First things first. Ignore his getting mad at you. *HE's* embarrassed that he doesn't know where to go on you. Just worry about the biggest hole in the front, and you'll be fine. Remember, there's a hymen too that will most likely break. If you ... (read in full...)
He won't talk to me because his new g/f tells him not to
Q. if you have lost some one you loved and they have now got a girlfriend and they dont wont nothing to do with you because there girlfriend has told him he carnt have nothing to do with you how do you win him back and tell him how much he really meens ...
A. 23 May 2010: If I were his girlfriend, I wouldn't want him chatting up his ex either. That's just the way it is. Why did you break up with him?... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my boyriend to want to hang out with other women without me??
Q. So, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 8 years. He doesn't believe in marriage, so, we're not married but we own a house together and have always been very close; the only thing a married couple has that we lack is a ring. After all ...
A. 23 May 2010: And that's why people should never commit to guys who won't commit. They're leaving open the possibility that something better will come along.
It's NOT normal for a married/committed guy to go hang out with single girls. How would he feel if ... (read in full...)
Help I think my boyfriend is losing interest
Q. [Two questions merged] what would you make of a relationship like this? i think my bf is no longer interested. 1. i see him once a week only 2. he never calls me 3. there could be days with out hearing from him 4. haven't had sex in a few we...
A. 23 May 2010: Yeah, your BF is no longer interested. Strong feelings for someone wouldn't allow them to go days without talking to you. Unfortunately, the best thing right now for you is to also lose interest in him. It's quite possible that he's taking you ... (read in full...)
I'm going out of my mind being away from my new girlfriend! What's wrong with me?
Q. Hi, Cupids. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 weeks and we were seeing each other for about 2 weeks before that. Everything's going well...Only thing is, I'm going out my mind that I'm not with her right now! I mean, what the heck? ...
A. 23 May 2010: Three weeks is too soon to start worrying whether or not you will fall in love. Take it slow and build the friendship with this girl. You have all the time in the world, so no need to rush it or get clingy. You can keep her interest!
Why n... (read in full...)
Developing feelings for my male best friend
Q. I am a guy, and I have a male best friend. He had nowhere to stay and we've been sleeping in the same bed for about a year and a half. Recently he moved out as he found a place but at some point before that, something weird happened between us in a ...
A. 23 May 2010: Yeah, he's got misgivings about his sexuality, and you can blame the homophobic society on that. Just be calm with him and tell him that what happened happened, and nobody's going to put labels on anyone. He has interest for you, that's for sure. ... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to start a relationship with this guy after his GF dumped him?
Q. This guy I know, he's a friend of mine and recently was dumped by his GF. He says he loves her, but she treated him as crap after he had trouble in his finances over some bad decisions he took. The thing is the guy is broke and he realizes he has ...
A. 23 May 2010: You do not want to be a rebound with this guy. Nothing hurts more than when you fall for someone who isn't yet over an ex. Just give it some time and patience. Be warm and interested in him, but do not push the issue. You'll both when when he's ... (read in full...)
I'm going out of my mind being away from my new girlfriend! What's wrong with me?
Q. Hi, Cupids. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 weeks and we were seeing each other for about 2 weeks before that. Everything's going well...Only thing is, I'm going out my mind that I'm not with her right now! I mean, what the heck? ...
A. 23 May 2010: Oh yeah, you've got it bad. :) Especially at this stage of the relationship, where your feelings for her are way up.
Just enjoy the feelings, and the better you'll feel when you two are back together again! What you can't do though is keep her... (read in full...)
What should my Parner's child call me?
Q. I need a name for my other half's two-year old child (boy) to call me. My own name isn't an option (the child's Mother would find it annoying to keep hearing my name). My other half and his ex had split up 6 months before I started seeing h...
A. 23 May 2010: You know, your name is one of the most personal things a person can call you. If the kid wants to call you that (or maybe a fun nickname of your real name), let him or her! It's about the child, not the child's mother.... (read in full...)
All I want is to feel special and loved
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years he is 22 and I am 21. He has never been an extremely affectionate person but lately he hasn't been affectionate at all or anything. He recently started working 2 jobs so all he does is work and ...
A. 23 May 2010: Okay, there could be a couple of things going on. Part of it is that he is indeed exhausted. You say he's working two jobs? That's a lot to deal with! He may be feeling pressure from you, which is making him feel self-conscious and resentful ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be sad about losing your virginity; could I be pregnant?
Q. Moderator's note: two questions combined So I just started taking birth control. I've been on it for about a month now. Me and my boyfriend are usually really good about having safe sex(condom) but a couple weeks ago he didn't use one. He said tha...
A. 23 May 2010: Sad and depressed - yeah, you're really young, and you only lose it once. If this guy is your age, guys at that age have awful self-control, and it's quite possible that he let a couple of squirts go by before pulling out.
You may be depresse... (read in full...)
Fiance is posting ads for bi sex
Q. I snooped into my fiance's (of 8 months) emails and discovered that he's answering and posting sex ads as a bisexual man (he posted as such). He's never discussed this with me. I don't have a problem with it as I realize that sexuality comes in ...
A. 23 May 2010: Yikes! Why would you want an open relationship? Aren't you worth dating someone who only has eyes for you? That behavior, of getting anonymous sex from multiple partners, puts you in danger of STD's. If he has to cheat with random people, he's ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps contacting me but behaves very distant.
Q. Me and my ex have been broken up now for 2 1/2 months. 3 1/2 weeks after establishing NC she contacts me telling me she's been thinking about me constantly and has been missing me incredibly. Well I kept my guard up by not acting desperate and ...
A. 23 May 2010: She's testing you to see if you will revert to your "dependent" ways. But, I'll say this, you shouldn't go after anyone who won't let you be yourself. Next time she contacts you, you make HER carry the conversation by asking her questions. ... (read in full...)
My father is disgusting
Q. Recently I accidentally came across my dad's pervert folder. No, this is not normal, this isn't just a few X-rated videos. Let me put this in perspective for you. My dad is the nice guy of the family. He's everyone's favorite relative. I fou...
A. 23 May 2010: Oh man. No one is going to believe you if you simply TELL them what's going on. You'll need to get that tape and SHOW your mom. That way she can't deny it and get mad at you.
Your dad needs major help.... (read in full...)
Feel so lonely and broken hearted
Q. I just wondered if anyone has any advice for feeling lonely. I'm a 32 single female and it does not help that I am new to the city, and also very shy. I don't know anyone here and am an introvert so I find it really hard just to go up to people and ...
A. 23 May 2010: You're grieving about what you've lost in your guy, and grieving about the life you had when you were with him. It hurts worse because he left you for someone else. It's normal to grieve, and I'm sorry you have to go through this. You may still ... (read in full...)
Could my weight be holding him back?
Q. I'm overweight, and i've liked this boy for a while now and i talk to him all of the time, he's usually flirty and says he loves me, and i've kissed him before but only when drunk. He offers to walk me home on a weekend and he tells me i'm pretty. ...
A. 22 May 2010: I'm with Moo's mum. You shouldn't be drinking at your age. It's dangerous, and next thing you know, you'll be pregnant with an STD. You're at the age where you should be focusing on school and your dreams for the future, not drunk and worrying ... (read in full...)
I need some advice on flirting, please?
Q. Hey, I'd appreciate any advice, especially from any guys, about how to be a good flirt. I'm back in the game after getting over a break up with my ex (we were together for 9 years, broke up Nov '09 after I found out he cheated AGAIN, cried my ...
A. 22 May 2010: First thing, you should be proud, and I mean PROUD of yourself for dumping the cheating loser. It's not YOUR fault he cheated, and his behavior is a reflection on how ugly HE is, not YOU.
Second, yeah, you'll have to get used to being free and... (read in full...)
My husband told me I stole his money
Q. "OPs own title" Please I really need help. I met my husband 2 years ago. We were in different states. We marry in Islamic way with out any paper work. after that I was still in my state. my husband gave me his checking card to use for money. I ...
A. 22 May 2010: When you get married, all property, from money to possessions to houses are COMMUNITY property, which is why when you divorce, you can get half of a 401(k) and stock equity and house equity. Also, the debts are split too.... (read in full...)
I don't understand the things he said when we were making out
Q. I let my boyfriend of 3 weeks finger me yesterday. Before he did he asked if it was okay and I said yes, if I was allowed to touch me. He said "I'm not as exciting." What did he mean by this? I ended up just kind of rubbing him through his jeans ...
A. 22 May 2010: Believe it or not, he's even more nervous than you are! Even though you're a virgin, put him at ease and tell him what you like, and what feels good. :) Experiment with yourself without him so that you can figure out how your own body works.
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Do I believe my male mates who say he's trying it on again!
Q. Ok i meet this guy slept with him twice but since this all happened he has since got a gf anyway he still has work 2 do at my house, i had bought him something and he said to me over txt that have i still got it, i replyed yeah still have it want ...
A. 22 May 2010: Well, he did you a favor by showing you what he's really like - someone who cares nothing for women, especially the one he's with. If he does it WITH you, he'll do it TO you. He should take his wild oats and shove them where the sun don't shine, ... (read in full...)
I still love him, but we are now both involved, what should I do?
Q. 2 years ago, this guy told me that he was in love with me. And before I knew it, I was slowly falling for him. We had the most amazing, loving relationship and we made each other unbelievably happy. Our friends thought we were great together - ...
A. 22 May 2010: You've got to look forward, not backwards. You've already said that the guy you're seeing now is better than the one you're pining for. It's easy to romanticize a past relationship, especially when it ends so tragically and romantically as yours ... (read in full...)
She makes it seem like I'm the bad guy and says stuff like "you're my bestfriend, my only real friend" which is true.
Q. Long story short, I've been with my girlfriend for 2.5 years. I have found out one year into the relationship she got bored of me and thought I didn't care anymore and started flirting with guys and eventually a year later she leaves me for a guy ...
A. 22 May 2010: She does not respect you. She wants the security and benefits of you without the commitment. If it were a guy exhibiting these behaviors, most girls on here would be yelling "He's a player!". You are dating a female player who cares NOTHING for ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to act as his girlfriend?
Q. My 2 friends like eachother but the girl wont admit that they are a couple. They guy is completely in love with her and would do anything to make her happy. Is it far to the guy for my friend to act like a girlfriend but not admit that they are a ...
A. 22 May 2010: If they're your age, they're really young to deal with a relationship. Let them deal with it in their own way. The girl may not be emotionally ready for a relationship. Tell your guy friend to be patient. :)... (read in full...)
Druggie ex has no interest in our baby
Q. Well me and my bf just broke up about a month ago and he is 18 im 15, and now im pregnant. i just told him like 2 weeks ago, and he says he doesnt want anything to do with it. I havent told my parents yet, he wont help, and on top of that he was a ...
A. 22 May 2010: This guy sounds like a real winner. Why on god's green earth did you sleep with him?! Drugs, way older, and abusive. If he's into drugs and getting girls pregnant, he deserves to pay the consequences of these actions.
As for you, you're p... (read in full...)
Would a girl say yes when you ask her out and give you her phone number if she weren't interested?
Q. I finally got the courage to ask out this girl I've had a crush on for a while. She said yes but said she was busy this week but maybe we could get together next week or this weekend sometime. I asked for her phone number and she gave it to me no ...
A. 22 May 2010: ChrisC, you need to chill out! If you go into this date already annoyed at women for not accepting you with enthusiasm, you're going to brow beat every woman you come in contact with because they're not behaving like you want them to. A DATE is to ... (read in full...)
Troubled marriage and I need space to think clearly!
Q. I don't know what to do. I've been married for 2 years; together for 7. I'm not happy with my husband anymore but I can bring myself to be committed to leaving. We've tried counseling and things didn't get better. His temper is out of control to ...
A. 21 May 2010: You have to do the hard thing, which is to end it. It's a scary thing if his temper gets out of control, he demands no "talk back" and puts his hands on you in any way. Without help, he will not change, but will only get worse. If I were in y... (read in full...)
Would a girl say yes when you ask her out and give you her phone number if she weren't interested?
Q. I finally got the courage to ask out this girl I've had a crush on for a while. She said yes but said she was busy this week but maybe we could get together next week or this weekend sometime. I asked for her phone number and she gave it to me no ...
A. 21 May 2010: She wouldn't have said yes if she wasn't interested, especially if she's in the same age group as you are. By the late 20's, we women tend not to want to waste our time. ;) Don't worry about *how* she said yes to you and find out what lights her ... (read in full...)
My job, car, and house suddenly don't seem good enough to ask for her hand!
Q. Hi, I am under a little bit of stress over my relationship. We have been together for 3 years and had plans real soon of asking for her hand; however all of the sudden my job, car and where I live gets brought up. Funny thing is that it wasn't ...
A. 21 May 2010: Hang on - are you saying that SHE is putting these conditions on you, or are you putting them on yourself? If SHE is saying all that to you, and you're 36-40, she should be content with who you are and your place in life. Marriage is abou... (read in full...)
Things were great until my friend told him about a fling I had before we were together!
Q. Hi, I have been in am amazing relationship for the past 1 and a half. He is loving, caring, more than perfect, appreciates me, notices me..most things i have never even heard of. He is also pretty emotional but hes the type of guy that needs to ha...
A. 21 May 2010: This guy calling you names for a past relationship? What a jerk. You do not need to be punished for HIS insecurity. You have nothing to "fix" with him. It's none, and I mean NONE of his business who you dated before you went out with him, just ... (read in full...)
Desperately in love with the devil!
Q. "OP's OWN TITLE" Ok so I have been in a realtionship for over three years, and my girlfriend always playes these mind games, and hold our relationship over my head. she consistantly tells me that i am sooooooo mean to her, aqnd that all I do is walk...
A. 21 May 2010: There's a huge difference between you and your parents. Your parents were MARRIED. You are not married to this girl. I may be in the minority here, but I'm thinking that BOTH of you need professional help. You need to get away from her. You can ... (read in full...)
Is lending him money a good enough reason to get married
Q. Hi All, Here's the situation. My SO and I have been in a relationship for nearly a year and a half. We've lived together for a year now and are preparing to go off to grad school this fall. The thing is, he's asked me to cover his living expenses...
A. 21 May 2010: Listen - Money ruins relationships. There are two things at issue here: 1. He has no problem asking you for money. That is taking advantage of his relationship with you and using you to get where he wants to go. Why can't he take out a loa... (read in full...)
Can't enjoy sex until she's tested and I wear a condom.
Q. I love sex but nothing spoils the mood more for me than when she suggests we do it without a condom. I instantly lose my hard-on and it's not getting back up after a comment like that. I don't want to get an STI. I trust her but how can I trust ...
A. 4 May 2010: You're absolutely in the right, and I agree with the ones who say that you should suggest being tested together. Never trust your own safety and reproductive responsibility with anyone else. You are being responsible, and that's great.... (read in full...)
We fight every time husband's ex wife calls!
Q. I am having an issue with my husband's ex wife. They have kids together and I understand that they have to talk about the children. I don't like the fact that she calls him at work and he calls her from work or when she calls him at home, he does it ...
A. 4 May 2010: He has to keep up a relationship because of the children. She is the mother of his children. That being said, their conversations should be strictly business (i.e. parenting and schedules). A good working relationship is healthy for the kids.
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I'm scared of throwing away someting really good, but why can't I commit?
Q. I'm scared of throwing away the best thing that has happened to me but on the other hand I'm not sure if I'm 100 percent committed to this guy. We been together a few years now (not living together), we live a couple hours away from each other. The ...
A. 4 May 2010: I don't think I could advise you without knowing more of the story. Is it that you can't say "I love you" to just him, or have you not been able to say it to anyone? Was there a relationship that really hurt you causing your hesitation?
I wil... (read in full...)
I want to give him my virginity but there's a problem..he already has a gf!
Q. im 19 and i found a guy that i want to lose my virginity to. We have been together for a month and i feel 110% ready. The problem is that he has a girlfriend on the side....
A. 4 May 2010: Giving someone your virginity should be something cherished between you two and ONLY you two. Giving your virginity to someone who has a GF is like giving money to a compulsive gambler. He won't appreciate it, and you will regret it.
For y... (read in full...)
Depressed and lost my way
Q. I don't know where to start here... I'm a 15 year old guy and my life is really messed up. A few years back I was an out going boy, top of my class and loving life. Now my days consist of going to school depressed and hangig out with my friends, ...
A. 2 May 2010: Geeze...okay, something happened to you. What happened to you? People who are outgoing and warm, friendly and happy don't just become super-emo and depressed overnight. Usually, that happens due to trauma, like divorce of parents, sexual assault, ... (read in full...)
Married for 8 months, but no longer feel close to my husband
Q. I am 33 and have been married for only 8 months (been together 5 years). I love my husband, but we have nothing in common and I no longer feel close to him. He has very bad credit and cannot save money. I pay for everything, including the we...
A. 2 May 2010: I'm curious - why did you marry him knowing all of this stuff? Did you think you could change him??
Yes, you should cut your losses, and whatever you do, DO NOT have children with him.... (read in full...)
What does "I'm physically attracted to you" mean?
Q. What does it mean when a guy says he is physically attracted to you?...
A. 2 May 2010: It means he thinks you're good looking. You make his heart beat faster.... (read in full...)
Why does the man blame the woman?
Q. why does a man do something wrong and then try to turn it around on the woman instead of making up?...
A. 2 May 2010: That isn't gender specific. Men do that and so do women. :P... (read in full...)
How should I go about dating this girl?
Q. so there's this girl i really like who goes to my university. i asked her out to lunch a week ago (and it went well) which i paid for even though she offered to split the bill. I've been txting her every couple days just to see how shes doing and ...
A. 2 May 2010: You're doing the right thing, and I'm thinking she's thinking that there might be something to this for you. You're doing great by taking her to specific places, especially if you've talked to her and figured out what lights her boat.
Just ... (read in full...)
Can you love someone with bad skin?
Q. I have really bad skin. I don't mean acne or some dry skin, I actually mean eczema and chronic dry skin. On top of that I suffer from allergies and hay fever, so all year round I just have horrendous skin. I have rough hands, dry flaky nose and ...
A. 2 May 2010: There are people who have amputated limbs, deformities, blind, hearing impaired, misanthropic, and terminally ill people who find someone and fall in love. There is someone out there for you. I'm thinking that you are far more conscious of your ... (read in full...)
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