Some of the things I've found out about this guy make me wonder if I should date him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months and I have learned some things about him during this time that concerns me. Keep in mind that we are both in our early thirties. Here are some things about him: -Never been in a serious relation...
A. 13 June 2010: One thing about relationships is that it will never grow beyond the lowest common denominator. The one who's more mature, successful, and emotionally stable will be dragged down by the one who isn't.
Him asking you to help him be a better m... (read in full...)
Why do men like fake breasts so much?
Q. I just think they look so silly, I mean, it's rare you get a slim woman with naturally big breasts, yet men seem find this so sexually attractive. Just wondering why? Breasts aren't supossed to defiy gravity! And big ones on such small women look ...
A. 28 May 2010: Ahhh...I don't have a lot informational to say about this, but I really liked the men's comments on this one. I've often wondered myself what the fascination for silicone was! :)
Thanks, guys!!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex broke his heart, she seems to want him again, should I worry??
Q. my boyfriend's ex girlfriend really hurt him when it came to the end of there relationship and now she is starting to talk to him again and i really dont like it but i know he wont do anything and if she made any form of move he would tell her to go ...
A. 28 May 2010: Oh yeah, you're not being paranoid at all. Exes are always bad news.
The key here is in your trust in your man. He sounds like a great guy, and if you trust that he won't let her get one inch into his life, you've got nothing to worry about. ... (read in full...)
My best girlfriend's boyfriend is withdrawn, but seems to like her a lot, is this reasonable?
Q. My best girlfriend has been seeing this guy but it's been really hard for him to open up to her. Whenever she ask him questions, he chooses not to answer them. He seems to really like her. What do you think?...
A. 28 May 2010: Boy, it's hard to advise you without more info.
There are two different kinds of difficulty opening up.
If he's just shy with his emotions, that's one thing. If he really likes her and is just emotionally shy, that's okay. He'll open up to... (read in full...)
Did I mess things up by sending a pic?
Q. My ex and i were with each other for almost 4 years and a year of no contact after the break up..no one cheated..i think we did really love each other..it was petty stuff that i think we can get over from just learning from mistakes etc..i know what ...
A. 28 May 2010: Man, you might not like to hear this, but it sounds like the guy has moved on from you. :( Things that means a lot to you now and used to mean a lot to him no longer mean the same to him. And it's been a year since you dated.
It's nothing ... (read in full...)
He's hanging out with his friends and is so different when he's with them
Q. me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship , we havent been the whole time and it is only for another few months, but every weekend hes been hanging out with his friends and he acts completely differnt when hes around them and the only ...
A. 28 May 2010: Hmm...what is he doing with his friends? Once in awhile, no problem. Guys need time with their guy friends. But every weekend, and I'd be wondering just what he's doing with them. If it's sports stuff or fishing or guy stuff, there's nothing to ... (read in full...)
Sharing a man -- should we live together?
Q. My lover's wife and I have become very close. Somehow we have accepted this shared relationship. I told her I want children (I am the younger of the two) and she told me that I should move in. It will be better for the three of us and the ...
A. 28 May 2010: Interesting! Well, it wouldn't be a conventional relationship, that's for sure. If all three of you are 110% for the arrangement, why not give it a try.
There are some long term possible snags in the proposition. What if you (or your soul mat... (read in full...)
Disappointed by my sister. What do I do?
Q. Wow, okay I need help. I found a note written to my sister from her friend. It was saying how my sister was lucky she wasn't positive and the friend was. And how she wasnt gonna get an abortion. Well, now I know my sisters had sex and for so long ...
A. 28 May 2010: I know it's tough. It sounds like your sister was someone you looked up to, and now it seems as though she has let you down. That's going to happen in your life by a lot of people who you look up.
While it may feel like the natural response... (read in full...)
I asked him to forgive me, but now, he won't contact me! What can I do?
Q. I met my boyfriend from his cousin, my sister was married to her husband's brother. He hired me to clean his house almost 3 years ago. He wanted to ask me out last summer, but he didn't know how i would feel about it. I live with my sister and last ...
A. 28 May 2010: I'm confused. What brought on your panic attack? You didn't say why, and it seems out of the blue. What happened?... (read in full...)
I've agreed to wait to have sex with her until she's 18! Will she refuse after that?
Q. Im 16 and I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months, and we are actually sticking with each other for hopefully ever. But there's a minor implication in the way. She wants to wait until shes 18 until she has sex. Which is completely fine, shes ...
A. 28 May 2010: Sounds like she's being clear about what she wants. If you truly love her and she truly loves you, you can't worry about the sex. She will want to be with you in every way, and that means physicaly. But you can't get hung up on whether she'll ... (read in full...)
He's super jealous! How do I prove to him that I didn't cheat?
Q. Ok i have a boyfriend and today may 27 we were going to be 6 months but he broke up with me 2 days before, What happen was that my friend invited me to the beach but he is a guy and i went with him but my little brother came to, i didn't tell my man ...
A. 28 May 2010: How much older is your guy than you?? You said "way way way older". If that means over 18, it's illegal for him to be with you, and the balance of emotional power in the relationship is kinda scary.
Also, you have nothing to prove to him abou... (read in full...)
Some of the things I've found out about this guy make me wonder if I should date him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months and I have learned some things about him during this time that concerns me. Keep in mind that we are both in our early thirties. Here are some things about him: -Never been in a serious relation...
A. 28 May 2010: Thanks for following up! I like the answering in numbers, so I'll continue that:
1. Education - you're absolutely right to question that. While I agree that education isn't "everything", it is a measure of ambition and life vision. Also, yo... (read in full...)
Coping with loss; is counselling the answer?
Q. So, I've had a pretty bad couple of years. This year my uncle that I was really close to passed away from cancer and my friend committed suicide. Other things have happened in the previous years all in a row that are just as terrible. The death of ...
A. 28 May 2010: Hey there. You've had a rough year, and I'm sorry for the loss of your friend and uncle. Your mom is right - talking with someone (a counselor or a psychiatrist) is an excellent idea.
If you break your leg, you'd think nothing of going to the d... (read in full...)
I love her, but she cheated! How do I let this go?
Q. I have a question i love my fiance alot but she cheated on me about 7 months ago and i cant let it go what can i do to move on i love her i want to make it work but i alwasy think about it what do i do???...
A. 28 May 2010: Ahh man, that tough. Unfortunately, that won't easily go away, because betrayal is one of the most devastating things to happen to a relationship. Trust is shattered and many times never ever regained to its former strength. The thought of the ... (read in full...)
Could this "friends with benefits" thing work? And is this a bad idea?
Q. Ok so here's my situation. A few months ago my husband and I were going through a really rough time. There was this guy that i worked with and we became good friends. One night he invited me out for coffee and we wound up having sex. This guy had a ...
A. 28 May 2010: Ugh. Friends with benefits always winds up hurting someone (usually the girl) when they start getting emotionally attached. Also, that's a very risky behavior due to the multiple partner thing and the STD/pregnancy standing risk.
You can't ex... (read in full...)
B/f's friend is there for me when my b/f isn't. What do I do?
Q. so i've been with my boyfriend for a while now and i love him dearly, i just recently had a miscarraige and ever since then things have just become horrible. it went from almost perfect to a complete disaster, he rarely comes to see me and all i do ...
A. 28 May 2010: You are very vulnerable right now. You are depressed and sad and grieving over your miscarriage, and it sounds like your boyfriend is grieving in his own way by withdrawing, which doesn't help you any.
Don't cheat on your boyfriend with this fri... (read in full...)
My brother terrifies me and is getting away with it
Q. A couple months ago I got pregnant. I am 14 years old and the pregnancy was in a way my fault. My brother has been doing stuff to me since I was young. i had a misscarrige and the doctor said it was because brothers and sisters arent meant to have ...
A. 28 May 2010: Oh no! :( You have to go to the police, and tell your parents (at the same time you talk to the police) and get to Child Protective Services to put your brother away and protect you. The system in place is a lot better for helping people who are ... (read in full...)
Why Do I Feel So Crazy?
Q. I am 14 year's old and I feel insain. I know what i've done is wrong and grosse. I am in love with an older man and things have happened to me in my past that make me this way. He doesnt live here and I probably should'nt trust him... I really ...
A. 28 May 2010: YIKES! You are in danger, girl! There is no reason an older man should have anything to do with you unless it's to use you for sex. You ARE loveable and don't need to have sex or have a baby to be loved! Don't fall for that trap, or there will ... (read in full...)
He's a lovely guy, but I can't help wondering if I'm being played
Q. I can't quite make up my mind about the guy I've been dating lately. I suspect he was something of a player in the past and I can't decide whether he's different since meeting me (does that even happen?!) or whether I should be really wary of ...
A. 28 May 2010: It's possible that you might be *the one* for him, and that he really does feel for you more than he does for the others. However, men don't change. In every single relationship, there comes a point where the "lovey dovey" mutual obsession for ... (read in full...)
Is online release horrible?
Q. So here is my situation. I have a really high sex drive. Much higher than my wife's. And sure, it's been a bit of a problem, but I've accepted that people are different and since everything else about our relationship is great, I'm deali...
A. 28 May 2010: People use the same wording, reasons, and justification for *actual* cheating as they do with online cheating.
Let me ask you this, if your situation was reversed, how would you feel if your wife was online cybering with other men? Would you be a... (read in full...)
Was this somehow inappropriate?
Q. So today i was called down to the principals office because apparently i have an innapropriate relationship with my teacher. I made her a picture that she even hung up, it was a joke like two people in a sunset and says always and forever! ok,so ...
A. 28 May 2010: Ahhh...this is the age of Mary Kay Letourneau. Right now, teacher/student relationships are the whole craze now, so schools are swinging the pendulum way too far the other way. Kids have been giving their teacher gifts (like apples) since the dawn ... (read in full...)
Was this somehow inappropriate?
Q. So today i was called down to the principals office because apparently i have an innapropriate relationship with my teacher. I made her a picture that she even hung up, it was a joke like two people in a sunset and says always and forever! ok,so ...
A. 28 May 2010: Ahhh...this is the age of Mary Kay Letourneau. Right now, teacher/student relationships are the whole craze now, so schools are swinging the pendulum way too far the other way. Kids have been giving their teacher gifts (like apples) since the dawn ... (read in full...)
Need some good advice on oral sex techniques, want her to have an orgasm?
Q. Hey. Me and my girlfriend have recently started to go down on each other. Neither of us have gone this far before. We started by me going down on her first, and when I did I used some techniques I found online (using both fingers and tongue, writing ...
A. 28 May 2010: First of all, you are awesome for wanting to make it good for her. That is great, and hang in there and keep learning and getting better!
You're right, some women have to learn. The best way for her to figure out how it works is to spend so... (read in full...)
We laugh and joke around, but does she like me as a friend or boyfriend??
Q. I have a coworker she really cute and funny, we talk and spend our breaks even scream to talk to each other shell ask me where am I going we joke with each other she does this alot does she like me back as a bf or friend ...
A. 28 May 2010: No way to know. I guess you could ask her out and find out! You may get rejected, but that's the thrill of asking!... (read in full...)
Any problem with dating your dead wife's aunt??
Q. is it alright to date your dead wife's aunt...
A. 28 May 2010: Nope. No law against it. :)... (read in full...)
Some of the things I've found out about this guy make me wonder if I should date him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months and I have learned some things about him during this time that concerns me. Keep in mind that we are both in our early thirties. Here are some things about him: -Never been in a serious relation...
A. 28 May 2010: Hmm...based on what you said, I would personally run for the hills. Here is why:
1. The education difference. While education doesn't make someone a better person, what it does do is give them a difference point of view. Your friends also ten... (read in full...)
I'm 34 years old and I've never had a boyfriend
Q. How do I find a boyfriend? I'm 34 years old and I've never had one. I took care of my mother until she died last year and that took up alot of my personal time.With working and going to school part-time i didn't have time left over for fun.I don't ...
A. 28 May 2010: Sounds like you need new surroundings. Online is a good place to meet guys. If you're interested in e-harmony or chemistry.com, that's a nice place to find guys who may be as shy as you are.
You also might benefit from talking to a counselo... (read in full...)
Was distance really an issue or was he just letting me down easily?
Q. Last September I met a guy online and we had a real connection, we chatted for 3 months- just flirting, but I really developed an intense connection with him. He even asked me out, but then for some reason it never happened. We lived far apart, and ...
A. 28 May 2010: I'm thinking that the distance issue wasn't a real issue. My guess is that he was chatting to more than one person online and settled on someone else. That tends to happen in online dating and correspondence.
I know it's tough on you, but keep... (read in full...)
She loves me but she doesn't want to date!
Q. dear cupid im a 27yr old male and i meet this girl whos 22 we dated twice which i broke up her the first time cause i felt i wasnt ready to date and i think thats because i had just had got a divorce from my ex-wife, we stayed in touch after that...
A. 27 May 2010: From what it sounds like, this girl is taking great pains not to ever let herself be hurt by you again. She has feelings for you, but she's keeping a major wall up to you and trying to keep things emotionally balanced with the flirting.
Have ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my boyfriend about this without making him feel bad?
Q. Hi! I saw that you gave some great advice to a a girl a while back I believe about getting fingered and I didn't know if you could help me out. I am 19 as well as my boyfriend. The other day for the first time he fingered me. I was sitting up...
A. 26 May 2010: Ahh, your guy gets points for asking you how to be better. That's good! Listen, don't worry about whether it'll bother him that you don't like the way he did it to you. You'll be doing him a favor by being very specific about what's comfortable ... (read in full...)
My manager brings her baby to the office every week but doesn't allow anyone else to bring in their kids!
Q. Hi guys, My manager at work had a baby 4 months ago and since it's been born she has bought him (the baby) in to the office practically every week! 1 week she came in 3 times. She came in to show off the baby- not for anything work related. ...
A. 26 May 2010: Yeah, this is when we bring out the saying "life isn't fair". Eyeswideopen has a point when she says that "rank has its privileges".
However, if the manager's kids interfere with your ability to do your job, you could bring it to HER superior... (read in full...)
How can I ask my parents to let me sleep over at my boyfriend's house?
Q. hi, i see my boyfriend nearly every day. he shares a house with his housemate and is 26. iam 20 and i have asian parents who are not too strict, they will let me go out till very late with him and let me spend a lot of time with him. i would very ...
A. 26 May 2010: Ahhh that's a tricky one. It's one thing to not be strict, but it's another for a father to hear that his little girl's going to be spending the night at a guy's house. So you're right, it's quite delicate.
I think the way to do it, if there is... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 27 year old guy to get upset when he doesn't get sex?
Q. Dear cupid... Me and my boyfriend has got a few problems that we can't seem to overcome. This makes us both very frustrated. He obviously think that we not having enough sex. I don't always have that urge to have sex for some reason I don't e...
A. 26 May 2010: Thanks for getting back to us. He's upset because you're not having it more than 2-4 times per week, and he's demanding it every other day or else he'll "not get upset"?
Wow. You're not his "sex receptacle". I'm with the other guy on here who... (read in full...)
I'm disappointed that my boyfriend doesn't masterbate
Q. I know this probably gets asked all the time but hre goes. I found out earlier that my boyfriend, (we're both only 16 and have never had sex), doesn't masterbate. I'm sure LOTS of guys don't but it really bothered me that he doesn't. With my...
A. 26 May 2010: LOL... I bet the conversation you had with your boyfriend that brought up this subject was interesting. :D
You: "Dear,*kiss* what do you want to do this weekend?"
Him: "Oh, I don't know hun, how about we go to a movie or out to Italiana Restaur... (read in full...)
How do I tell my soon to be ex-boss to call me if he wants to, without being rejected?
Q. I have had a huge crush on my boss dispite the fact that we have gotten in to some heated discussions on the way the company is running. Some so heated that I really don't know why he didn't fire me. Lately we have been getting along, but he has ...
A. 26 May 2010: Well, I am assuming that both you and your boss are single and ininvolved with anyone else, so there's no cheating or affairs happening here.
I guess there's no way to tell him you like him without the possibility of rejection. You're doing it... (read in full...)
We broke up because of a misunderstanding. How can I get him back?
Q. We dated for a week and at the end of the week there was a school dance. I had expected it to be the night of my dreams i was hoping to get my first kiss. Instead my friends wouldnt let me get within a foot of him the entire dance(ny friends did not ...
A. 26 May 2010: Now I can see why your friends don't approve of him. He's grinding all over another 8th grader the night of the dance, and then blames it on you? He had the ability to go to you and ask you to dance, or at least tell you he's feeling ignored ... (read in full...)
Have not had sex yet, invited to his house alone, what should I expect?
Q. Yeah we are both in our early twenties and we only just made out (passionate) and some light touching. We've been seeing each other for a while and only just got physical. Now he's inviting me to his house no one there. Does he think we are...
A. 26 May 2010: That's good he's a gentlemen. If that's the case, he won't be assuming anything by inviting you over. Sounds like he's really into you and wants some uninterrupted face time. :)
If you're comfortable with sex, make sure you are both prepared... (read in full...)
Should I end this relationship if she doesn't want to settle into to our new place?
Q. I`m 32,my gf is 20.we have a 3 month old girl together.We have been living together for the past year mostly at her mothers until she kicked us out.So for the past month I have been trying to get my trailer situated.She has been staying with me all ...
A. 26 May 2010: Unfortunately, this time it is the age difference. she's 20, you're 32. You're ready to settle down and build a future, and she's not even ready to leave her mom's house. She hates your family, and I'm thinking that since her mom kicked you out, ... (read in full...)
Have girlfriend, having sex, not attracted to men, but penises excite me, advice please?
Q. currently in a relationship with a girl, sexual. no problem getting it up etc, always turned on by her. Yet get turned on when i see penis. but no attraction to men. help.?...
A. 26 May 2010: Luckily, sexuality isn't a cut and dried thing. Don't worry about what turns you on. Some people get turned on by water faucets and patio tables!
You are okay! :)... (read in full...)
I recently found out that my wife cheated on me when we were engaged.
Q. I recently found out that my wife cheated on me when we were engaged. We've been married over 10 years and before me she had this boyfriend named Jim. Right after we got married we moved about 3 hours away to another part of the state for my job...
A. 26 May 2010: Oh man, guy, I'm sorry you had to find that out. I know that it was 10 years ago, but I'm sure it just hit you like a fresh slap in the face. She did cheat on you and keep it from you for 10 years, and I know it most likely would have changed your ... (read in full...)
Phone sex and feeling self conscious about it
Q. Hey, well i just turned 18, also iv never had sex and the most iv done was making out. My boyfriend is alot more experience though becuase he has had sex and messed around before. We do sext though (not pictures but stories) and im ok at it but not ...
A. 26 May 2010: First things first - don't do anything you're not comfortable with! Also, just because this guy has a bit more experience means absolutely nothing.
bunnytee is also right - make sure nothing can be saved, like pictures and texts.
All you... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 27 year old guy to get upset when he doesn't get sex?
Q. Dear cupid... Me and my boyfriend has got a few problems that we can't seem to overcome. This makes us both very frustrated. He obviously think that we not having enough sex. I don't always have that urge to have sex for some reason I don't e...
A. 25 May 2010: How much sex are you having now, if I can ask??
There is no "normal" and there is no amount of sex you *should* have. If you're only having sex once every 3 weeks or so and he's upset, that might make sense. But if you're already having it 5 tim... (read in full...)
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