Is it normal for a 27 year old guy to get upset when he doesn't get sex?
Q. Dear cupid... Me and my boyfriend has got a few problems that we can't seem to overcome. This makes us both very frustrated. He obviously think that we not having enough sex. I don't always have that urge to have sex for some reason I don't e...
A. 26 May 2010: Thanks for getting back to us. He's upset because you're not having it more than 2-4 times per week, and he's demanding it every other day or else he'll "not get upset"?
Wow. You're not his "sex receptacle". I'm with the other guy on here who... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 27 year old guy to get upset when he doesn't get sex?
Q. Dear cupid... Me and my boyfriend has got a few problems that we can't seem to overcome. This makes us both very frustrated. He obviously think that we not having enough sex. I don't always have that urge to have sex for some reason I don't e...
A. 25 May 2010: How much sex are you having now, if I can ask??
There is no "normal" and there is no amount of sex you *should* have. If you're only having sex once every 3 weeks or so and he's upset, that might make sense. But if you're already having it 5 tim... (read in full...)
She said "He dreams about me" and its true but I can't tell her that!
Q. Hi I'm a guy, 19 years, in the last six months have been in a class for adult education to improve my maths. In my class is a girl (21 years) who I think is really cute, nice and intelligent. Today when we were at the school to fetch some pap...
A. 25 May 2010: Yeah, you could turn this to your advantage. Joke or not, just tell her one day..."Hey, I dreamed about you going out with me this Friday at 7. Let's say we make it reality?" She was telling you she liked you when she said that you dream about ... (read in full...)
He keeps saying love me but I do already!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 9 months now, and love each other deeply. The only thing that he confuses me with is this random saying he says."Love me..." I tell him i love him, but what is he expecting when he ask?...
A. 25 May 2010: That's a bit strange. Sounds like he's got a bit of insecurity happening where he needs constant reassurance. Is his home life a bit chaotic? Was he adopted?
If it gets to you, have a talk with him. Just tell him "you don't need to tell me ... (read in full...)
Is his 'size' effecting us not getting pregnant?
Q. Im with a guy that is above normal in size. he goes in all the way but i can't get pregnant. can him going in real deep affect me from having a child?...
A. 25 May 2010: His size can't affect your fertility. If you two want to have kids, you should both make an appointment to see a Dr. to figure out what it is.... (read in full...)
It's not you it's me? Should I leave before he does?
Q. I'm 22 and have 2 kids 3 and 1 years old. I've been with my boyfriend who's 19 for 1 year and 4 months and they think of him as their dad. He told me last night that he doesn't love me as much as he used to and he's only staying to try and make ...
A. 25 May 2010: Yeah, this relationship is done. Just end it and let him go. It sounds like he's living with you...end it. He's very young, and most young guys aren't serious at that age. He's wanting to date other people, if he isn't doing so already. Best ... (read in full...)
My step- children don't respect me what should I do?
Q. My husband and I have 6 kids. Three are his and three are mine. I am at home with the kids the most so I deal with their behaviour issues and just day to day stuff making sure they get their responsibilities (which are very minimal) taken care of. ...
A. 25 May 2010: Yep, it's your husband's job to back you up. He can't sit and listen to them and undermine you. You're not the kids' mother, but when they're with you, you're their guardian. Don't be afraid to lay down the rules. If they try undermining you ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that the sex hurt me without hurting him?
Q. Usually when my boyfriend and I have sex, I have an orgasm quite a long time before him. He lasts for quite a long time. The problem is that after I've come, I start to get sore if he carries on, so by the time he finishes, I'm in quite a bit of ...
A. 25 May 2010: It won't hurt him to tell him you're getting sore. You're losing lubricant. If you had a bit of KY, it'll be more comfortable for you. Also, if he's drinking before sex, he might want to cut back because that tends to delay things.
You won't hu... (read in full...)
Making A Fool Of Myself perhaps?
Q. I have just returned from a lovely cruise ( third this year) and already booked this ship again for two month time many of the apssengers have been on this ship loads of times as its small and gfriendly I am worried thaqt I might have made a fool...
A. 25 May 2010: Nah, you're not making a fool of yourself. You actually made me laugh because you reminded me of high school when people would leave notes for the boy they like in their lockers. Just blow it off, even if he is there. Chances are he sees tens of ... (read in full...)
Wrongfully confessed?
Q. I have this friend who i have known for 10 years,he wanted to date me when we were younger but I kindly declined because he was involved with someone and did not break it off before pursuing me.We remained friends.Now so many years later I feel as ...
A. 25 May 2010: Well, there was nothing that could be gained by confessing the feelings. And feelings are fickle things - by next year, they could have faded away, and no one would be the worse. You had the right idea in mind by not wanting to cheat on the other ... (read in full...)
Nervous about 'the next step' because of past expereince
Q. Hi. This is a bit of a weird one... I'll start from the beginning. I think things with my girlfriend are getting close to moving to the 'next stage' ie sex lol. BUT I don't think I can just yet, and probably not for a long time because I'm scared o...
A. 25 May 2010: Well, no, you don't say "How's your dinner dear, and by the way, I have penile control issues". LOL
In an intimate setting where you two are alone, just tell her that you find her really beautiful, and that you are really attracted to her and ... (read in full...)
He wants me in his life even though he has a g/f
Q. i know this guy for over 2 years, we hangout everyday he introduced me to his friends i met his mom he met my mom and my sister. he tries hard to make me part of his life. he even told me he likes me but when it comes to actually being together he ...
A. 25 May 2010: He's lying to you and stringing you along. He tells you he doesn't want to date, but at the same time he has a girlfriend, yet he's still talking to you?
How would you feel if you WERE his girlfriend and he's out stringing other girls along? ... (read in full...)
I'm trapped as long as my sister refuses to pull her weight
Q. This is more of a family question, hope you guys can help. I'm 27, and both my parents and I are immigrants. I have two college degrees and have been working for the past 3 years. I live with my parents and younger sister. I bought the house...
A. 25 May 2010: You aren't chained to your family for the rest of your life. Your sister can't sponge off of you for the rest of her days, and you have done more than enough. Eventually, a kid leaves the nest and makes a life for themselves.
Give your parents ... (read in full...)
Did I mis-read the signals?
Q. Its silly, I've been married but I've never really been on a normal "date". I met my ex on the internet - our relationship was somewhat abusive and I was socially isolated for most our relationship so I tend to be socially behind my peers, and even ...
A. 25 May 2010: You did the right thing by being direct with him. You're 30-35, and I suspect the guy is about the same age you are. At this point in life, it's good to not play games. He has social anxiety disorder or what have you, and by now, he should have ... (read in full...)
Nervous about 'the next step' because of past expereince
Q. Hi. This is a bit of a weird one... I'll start from the beginning. I think things with my girlfriend are getting close to moving to the 'next stage' ie sex lol. BUT I don't think I can just yet, and probably not for a long time because I'm scared o...
A. 25 May 2010: C Grant is absolutely right.
I can add to that and say that if you're nervous about talking to her about it, just let yourself be vulnerable. If she loves you, she'll want to help you out and will be very patient and understanding. It's whe... (read in full...)
Should I call him on his birthday?
Q. 25th of may is his birthday but I cant get the courage to call and i don't know If I should. We broke up on the 9th of may, he said he didn't love me anymore from one day to another (literally, cause the day before he grabbed my hands and looked...
A. 25 May 2010: Yeah, I know this hurts, but you should let it go and not contact him. The last thing you want to do after he dumps you is do something that he will perceive as you throwing yourself at him.
Instead, let yourself do a little grieving for him ... (read in full...)
Attracted to my cousin, what do we do?
Q. im 20 years old and i have a cousin who is 21 and she's very attractive which i guess was the first thing i noticed about her and we weren't close at all, before all of this happened we had seen each other about 5 times in our whole life and we met ...
A. 25 May 2010: Well, if this was the Victorian Era, your parents would have already arranged your marriage before you both turned 16 years old. But nowadays, relationships with cousins are ILLEGAL. Personally, I'm not passing judgment because you both are of age ... (read in full...)
I want that first kiss -- should I just go for it?
Q. Me and my bf have been dating for a little over 3 months. He had been in a bad relationship before that and it really affected him. He tells me I'm not like her but you can see he was really hurt by her. We go to the same school (but we don't have ...
A. 25 May 2010: Aww, he's scared as heck, and you're kinda shy too!
You gotta "ambush" him, meaning without letting him know about it, set it up so that you two "find" yourselves in a really romantic setting, like under the stars, or in a tunnel, or by a lake. ... (read in full...)
Does he still have feelings for me?
Q. So my ex and I broke up about 2 years ago, it was difficult at first, but we managed to maintain a pretty close friendship... But now things are a little different. The last few months, we have been hanging out alone a couple times a month, a...
A. 25 May 2010: Before I let you know what I think, can you tell us WHY you two broke up in the first place? That has a TON of bearing on my advice and is a missing element in this story. Also, have you or he dated since you broke up 2 years ago, and are either ... (read in full...)
How do I regain his trust and interest in "us"?
Q. Well i have a problem, my ex broke up w/ me a few weeks ago he has a really bad perspective of me, he cant stand me. Until today he thought we might still have a future but now he doesn't believe that anymore. He tells me he wont ever change the ...
A. 25 May 2010: As much as he's trying to convince you and himself that you're the problem with your relationship and that he tries to make you feel bad about yourself, this is really about his inability to grow up and face the responsibility of his soon-to-be-here ... (read in full...)
Wow! He wants to have sex with me but I feel I'm too young... Help!
Q. i was going out with this boy it lasted 2 weeks and then he dumped me. i re asked him out a few months later and he said yes and it was all ok but now he has asked me if i would have sex with him. (but not forcefully) i just laughed and changed the ...
A. 25 May 2010: You are TOO YOUNG! You will seriously regret it, it won't be as fun as you think, and you could get pregnant or have a disease!
You're too young to deal with the RISKS of sex, and you don't have near the level of commitment from this guy to warra... (read in full...)
Hot one minute, Cold the next!
Q. So I was practically with this guy and we were living together (im using past tense because I am in the process of moving out) and when we get along its awesome and great. He's a funny person and loving and affectionate. But then there are days when ...
A. 25 May 2010: He could have bipolar disorder, where he's hot and cold with wild mood swings. You're doing the right thing by getting away from him, because you can't be responsible for someone else's moods. ... (read in full...)
Job interview help needed!
Q. I have a job interview tomorrow for the position of a receptionist. I really need a job cos I'm just out of school and this one is perfect for me. I will be devastated if I don't get it. Only thing is, I have no experience in this field of work. Or ...
A. 25 May 2010: Okay first, you can't go into a job interview saying that if you don't get the job, you'll be "devastated". Interviewers can smell desparation a mile away. Also, people are rejected in job interviews more than they are accepted, so don't hang all ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bleed after fingering?
Q. well this is a little awkward but i let a guy finger me a couple days ago i started bleeding! it was gross...is this normal? what happened? and will it happen again????...
A. 25 May 2010: Tell your guy also that the best sensations for you isn't to insert his finger way up your vagina. Show him where your clitoris is...and for heaven's sake be GENTLE! LOL... (read in full...)
"When guys says he loves a girl so much....do they really mean it?"
Q. "OPs own title" when guys says he loves a girl so much ..... do they really mean it? when my boyfriend is saying me I love u more than you love me ...that's because (I don't allow him to kiss me or hug me) he says me I love him less? its going to b...
A. 24 May 2010: He's pressuring you into being physical. I know that it's frowned upon in your culture to be casually physical. Be as nice to him as you can, but be firm on what you can and can't do in a relationship. He needs to respect your wishes without ... (read in full...)
How to handle a childhood crush
Q. Please help! I’m a 54 yrs old male and just heard my granddaughter's aunt who's only 15 say to me, I love you! and I know she's not talking about love in the general sense. ...
A. 24 May 2010: Remember, you are the adult. You are the adult. You are the adult. If she starts acting inappropriately towards you, avoid being alone with her at all costs and notify her mom of what happened. You have to cover yourself.
If she was just bei... (read in full...)
Can a girl be too sexual? Should I accommodate his fantasies?
Q. I like to hear guys thoughts and from girls who have had personal experience. My bf and I have been together for quite a long time now (9 months) and are experimenting with hand-jobs. I let him give me one for the first time a few days ago. We ...
A. 24 May 2010: Q1605 - only if he starts quacking like Donald Duck. LOL! :D... (read in full...)
"I want to blow his mind"
Q. I have known this guy since September. We met online and only chatted up until about 2 weeks ago. Well, a few days after we met, I went to his apartment to watch a movie, and things got carried away. We didn't talk about what happened, until ...
A. 24 May 2010: He actually SAID that you??!? That you were like all the other girls he's been with and that he wasn't blown away by it??? Sorry, but if a guy ever said that to me after the first time we made love, that would be the LAST time we ever made love. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the bitterness I feel towards the other woman?
Q. My partner cheated on me and this is not a question about him. I've been dealing with it with him. It's about the girl. I have taken so much anger out on him but she walked away with having no affect in her life and ruining mine. He knew her, had...
A. 24 May 2010: First of all, I'm really sorry this happened to you. I know you want to get back at her and make her suffer. I wish that life was fair and that anyone who cheats like that should go through a lifetime of emotional agony. I'll say this to you ... (read in full...)
New boyfriend won't let me see old boyfriend and I don't want to lose either!
Q. Hi, Six months ago my boyfriend, "E" of four months had to move to America after his parents divorce. We initially planned to stay together while he was away, but after two months we agreed to split as the situation was so impractical. I was preg...
A. 24 May 2010: Chigirl is right. This new guy is NOT being controlling, and in fact, I think you're labelling him controlling in order to try to massage your conscience. If you're with a new guy, J, then you're with him. You can't go see the old guy E and ex... (read in full...)
4 years younger... Is it OK to date?
Q. Dear Cupid... i really like this guy who is 4 years younger than me. Just now we are in high school. But we both like each other. People are saying its bad for us to start dating but, do you think its ok? or Shall we wait until we have both left?...
A. 24 May 2010: You're 16-17, which means your guy is 12-13?? How would you like a big fat STATUTORY RAPE felony on your criminal record? That's what would happen if you're dating him when you're 18. Have about 5 years of patience for this guy, and if yo... (read in full...)
I'm really in love with him, but he doesn't seem to want alone time for us
Q. I've been with this guy for somewhat close to 3years now. I'll tell you how I screwed up the first 6months of the relationship. I cheated on him thrice. Or actually, left him for my ex,thrice. I don't know why I did it but I did. I used to think I ...
A. 24 May 2010: Two abortions, weed, unprotected sex, wild living, alcohol. I think you should stop thinking about guys in general and completely change your life. New friends, new surroundings, new job, and I think you should spend some time with a professio... (read in full...)
I miss him, but don't want to take him back too easily.
Q. I finished things with my boyfriend after over 2years because he was texting another girl and I wasn't comfortable with it, he was flirting, he's done this before and we got past it without it being a big issue but this time I felt he needed to know ...
A. 24 May 2010: If you want to take him back, then take him back. Don't emotionally punish him or make him pay. If he's truly regretful about texting another girl (he wasn't cheating with her!) and will respect your wishes and not do it again, then what's so ... (read in full...)
Can a girl be too sexual? Should I accommodate his fantasies?
Q. I like to hear guys thoughts and from girls who have had personal experience. My bf and I have been together for quite a long time now (9 months) and are experimenting with hand-jobs. I let him give me one for the first time a few days ago. We ...
A. 24 May 2010: Creativity is FUN! Just be safe and make sure there's nothing being done that one of you aren't comfortable. Otherwise, as long as it's not illegal, the sky is the limit. Let your imagination run wild. Study up on new techniques and making old ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to return affection and improve our situation?
Q. I want to start out by saying that I have been with this man for over 6 years, since I have been 18. I feel he doesn't want me anymore, he shows no affection. Sex is just get in and get out, seriously lasts 15 minutes. Other than that only time he ...
A. 24 May 2010: Sounds like you two are in a rut. Yeah, you don't have to "become perfect" in order to get affection. You have to gently and clearly tell your guy what you need. No hinting, no expecting him to read your mind. It's easy to get mad and thin... (read in full...)
He's making subtle comments about commitment -- should I press him?
Q. Hi, I am 26 and my boyfriend is 31. We have been together with for just under a year. We have discussed marriage once before in this time seriously about 3 months ago. At that time I wasn't ready and I didn't know how to express it so I got real...
A. 24 May 2010: Well, he brought it up last time a few months ago, and you were not receptive to the idea. He's sorta hinting around now with you, and the ball is in your court. When he starts sorta talking about it, go ahead and bring it up, and instead of ... (read in full...)
My husband sister had an affair-how do I get over it?
Q. i think i need to start at the beginning, i was thirteen when my sister was born, she was like my baby. i loved her like she was mine. when she had marital problems i took care of her i made an apt. in our second home for her and her 2 children. my ...
A. 24 May 2010: You can't forgive your sister because she BLABBED it to a friend??? That's it??? She did you a favor by doing that, not because she betrayed you, but because she exposed your husband for the dog he is.
How would you have prefered that your hus... (read in full...)
My husband sister had an affair-how do I get over it?
Q. i think i need to start at the beginning, i was thirteen when my sister was born, she was like my baby. i loved her like she was mine. when she had marital problems i took care of her i made an apt. in our second home for her and her 2 children. my ...
A. 23 May 2010: It's interesting that you are more angry at your sister than your husband. Your sister was the one in the vulnerable position, with the small kids and no husband. Your husband took advantage of her, yet you can forgive him.
I would be mad at b... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bleed after fingering?
Q. well this is a little awkward but i let a guy finger me a couple days ago i started bleeding! it was gross...is this normal? what happened? and will it happen again????...
A. 23 May 2010: Yikes! Is he fingering you with a jackhammer? :P
Okay, if it's not your time of month, than he's being way too abrasive with you. He needs to realize that he should handle a woman like he's handling a bubble he doesn't want to break. Some KY ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when your boyfriend never seems to want sex?
Q. What does it mean when your boyfriend never seems to want sex? I only see him once a week - usually determined by him. Its been 3 full weeks since we've had sex. I actually saw him 3 times in a row which is very rare and not once did he try, or r...
A. 23 May 2010: Well, has he started a new job or something in his life that's tiring him out?
Next time you see him, jump his bones! Some guys get into a rut where they're so focused on work and whatever he's into that his "romance" meter gets off. Some guy... (read in full...)
Is he insecure about me leaving him?
Q. okay ive been having some weird feelings about the guy ive been with for about a year now. i know for a fact we are exclusive and make plans for the future (holidays, having kids one day). one day we were chatting and he was talking about ho...
A. 23 May 2010: Those comments he's making are manipulative. Not maliciously manipulative, but he's REALLY insecure. I'm thinking that he's thinking that you're out of his league, and he's thinking that someday, you'll wake up and say to yourself "I can do so ... (read in full...)
I don't understand my body and having alot of trouble having sex
Q. I'm so upset and i feel like i'm weird or something. I'm 26, and my boyfriend is 25. We are both virgins, and want to lose our virginity together. The thing is, he goes mad at me for certain things. I feel embarrased to say this , but i dont know ...
A. 23 May 2010: First things first. Ignore his getting mad at you. *HE's* embarrassed that he doesn't know where to go on you. Just worry about the biggest hole in the front, and you'll be fine. Remember, there's a hymen too that will most likely break. If you ... (read in full...)
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