Next step: should I run for second base?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 years, i am 14 years old and so is he. We have made out, kissed, cuddle, and stuff but i don't know what the next step should be? Should it be more sexually or something else? i am not sure what to do....
A. 22 April 2010: You are too young to be taking such a huge risk. SEX is a massive risk. Don't engage in it unless you are able and mature enough to take care of a baby. Trust me, YOU AREN'T, and no 10-second orgasm is worth the risk.
You and your boyfrien... (read in full...)
I really like him but... he's got a girlfriend.
Q. So I've been really having a serious crush on this guy.. I have been told that yeah he is flirting with me and seems to be interested in me. There's only one problem he has a girlfriend. I don't know how long they been together or anything. These ...
A. 22 April 2010: Krazy - the point is is that you know now. Many guys will keep valuable information (the fact that they have wives/girlfriends) hidden when they want to stray. Others will lie and say they're single, or separated. The responsibility is still ... (read in full...)
I lost a bit of respect for him when he didn't defend me
Q. While hanging out with my boyfriend and his friends. one of his friends, who is usually a nice guy, was drunk and chatting with me about his girl problems. Out of nowhere, he lifts me and slaps my butt in front of everyone. I felt offended of ...
A. 22 April 2010: Yes, I agree with Fierce. You need to have a long discussion with the guy about this. You need to be absolutely direct and detailed about how you feel, or it'll be a thorn in your relationship.
Remember Taylor Swift and Kanye West? When Kan... (read in full...)
My emotionally unstable ex-girlfriend wants to get back together, how do I say no without crushing her?
Q. Okay, so, I ended a long distance relationship that I had with a girl the next state over from me, we were together for 3-months, I ended it in February. I ended it for a number of reasons, the main one being that I couldn't cope with the distanc...
A. 22 April 2010: The best way is honesty. Tell her you're not interested, and that if she's feeling suicidal thoughts, that she should see a professional, because you are not what she needs, nor are you responsible for her happiness OR sadness.
As for notifyin... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and I'm in love with my teacher 30 years older than me. Please help.
Q. I've been in 3 long relationships, all of them lasting longer than a year and a half... Plus many many before that. So I've experienced quite a bit. The feeling I get when I think of my teacher, well, it's much different. It's like a platonic ...
A. 22 April 2010: This teacher has a girlfriend. Maybe if he breaks up with this girlfriend, but until then, you don't want to be the person who steals guys.... (read in full...)
It was just supposed to be a rebound thing, but she might be pregnant
Q. i need help, a girl i started going out with a few days ago(less than ten) might be pregnant because of a burst condom and i don't love her, this was just suppose to be a rebound thing, last a few weeks at max, she cant have an abortion or anything ...
A. 22 April 2010: It's time to grow up dude. Yes, if it's within 3 days, get the morning after pill. Why are you having sex because of a "rebound"? Sex is one of the greatest high risk things out there. For a 10 second orgasm, you're willing to ruin your life. ... (read in full...)
He's trying to talk me into a threesome
Q. I need some advice on something girls an guys... me an my boyfriend been together for 3 years we have a 8 month old baby together and he has been asking me to have a 3 some with another girl! I don't what to do I feel it can ruin our relationship ...
A. 22 April 2010: The anonymous guy is absolutely right! :D
But his reason "I won't look at another girl" after having a threesome...LMAO!!!!!! That's like a 2 year old saying "Please give me a cookie! I'll never want one ever again!" The kid will want another ... (read in full...)
I just want to spice things up
Q. I been wanting to spice my relationship up with my boyfriend. I bought a couple of lingerie outfits but everytime I say I want to get dressed up for you he just says WHY ... I ask what man wouldn't want that he just says he dosent so how do I get ...
A. 22 April 2010: I had a boyfriend who sounded very similar to what you've described. Guess what? I found out years later that he came out as GAY. :)
Dressing sexy to a red blooded guy? That's their dream! The only thing to make it better is if you just mad... (read in full...)
Teacher avoiding me like the plague
Q. ...Okay im confused. Suddenly one of my teachers that i talked to all day almost each day is avoiding me like the plague...I know it, its obvious. He wouldnt talk to me anymore. He just nodded to me and hurry and walk away, when I called his name. ...
A. 22 April 2010: Serenade - put him out of your mind. You are jailbait to him, and a career killer if he crosses the line with you. In teaching, even suspicion is enough to end a career.
Wait until you graduate high school. In your case, that's two lousy li... (read in full...)
I don't know if I want my wife back but I want revenge!
Q. I have posted here before and have liked the advise, I'm giving it another try since I'm still having issues with my wife. I am the original poster of "should I confront my wife or let destiny run its course" To minimize I caught my wife c...
A. 22 April 2010: Listen - you do NOT have to take any sort of revenge on her. Here's why: She's taking HERSELF, her lying, cheating, self into the new relationship. Once the elicit nature of that relationship goes away, it's going to become work, as all ... (read in full...)
My friend is putting alot of rules on me making it difficult to see my boyfriend
Q. Ive posted quite a few questions about this guy...well things flourished between us and we are now a couple. He is about 6 years older than me and has two kids and an ex wife. He also works with me. I never thought we would see each other out side ...
A. 22 April 2010: Listen, your friend knows more about you than probably anyone else in the world. She knows your weaknesses, she's heard your confidences, and she probably saw something in this guy that is not a good idea. She also knows you might be emotionally ... (read in full...)
I really like him but... he's got a girlfriend.
Q. So I've been really having a serious crush on this guy.. I have been told that yeah he is flirting with me and seems to be interested in me. There's only one problem he has a girlfriend. I don't know how long they been together or anything. These ...
A. 22 April 2010: What else can be said? Put yourself in the girlfriend's shoes. Would you want a guy to treat you like that? No, it's not like he's married, but he shouldn't be flirting and exchanging phone numbers with other girls if he's got a girlfriend. That ... (read in full...)
I need an opinion, does he miss me?
Q. I was seeing this guy for a few months and I really really liked him but all of a sudden things weren't going too well in his life, he quit college (where we met) and told me he didn't want to see me anymore because he wasn't ready for a relation...
A. 22 April 2010: I can see where Lexie is coming from, and I usually feel the same way. But in this case, the guy quitting college and looking sad and breaking up with you sounds like he could be going through depression. You can't save him from it. If he wants ... (read in full...)
I'm a day late!! Could I be pregnant?
Q. I just lost my virginity on sunday, it is now Wednesday of the same week, i am on the pill and have been on it for quite a while(for my skin and cramps) im supposed to get my period today! however i dont have it! we didnt use a condom because i...
A. 22 April 2010: Yes! USE PROTECTION! It's not just for pregnancy. What if he has genital herpes??? The pill doesn't protect against that! Do not ever let a guy talk you out of condoms. no way, no how, not EVER. The "it feels too good" argument is NOT a good ... (read in full...)
I get so scared and nervous around him!
Q. So for back ground information, I"m a 16 year old gay male and my boyfriend is 17. We've been together for 4 months. Well everything is perfect with our relationship, he's the perfect bf. We could spend hours talking about nothing. Hes smart, f...
A. 22 April 2010: The answer to your first question: Yep, it's love, or more to the point, it's infatuation.
To answer your second question, you need to read this very carefully: YOU ARE WORTHY OF A MAN LIKE HIM. Don't be afraid that he'll realize that you're n... (read in full...)
Guys, how would you feel if your girlfriend dumped you?
Q. Guys this question is for you, how would you feel if your girlfriend dumped you, if you really loved her?...
A. 22 April 2010: I'm not a guy, but I'm sorry it happened to you. :(
I've been dumped before (as a girl) and it sucks.... (read in full...)
He likes me but he won't make any moves! Ugh!
Q. The guy I like at school is pissin me off! He likes me but he won't make any moves. I guess I've been complaining to my friends too much because now they're on his case. It's so awkward around him now because he used to txt or call me everyday...in ...
A. 22 April 2010: Well, forget about labels and "seriousness" and grab him, throw him up against the locker and kiss his brains out. Then walk away as if you don't care.
Seriously - you are giving off clingy vibes. Don't even mention to him that you want him to b... (read in full...)
Would you date someone like that?
Q. my boyfriend has a high school diploma ad he does not know if he wants to go back to school, while i am getting my bachelors. he does not have a bank account, he is not that intelligent meaning he can not really read or spell that great. ...
A. 22 April 2010: Good for you for thinking long term! The part about him spending money stupidly and a "chronic borrower" is the huge red flag with this relationship. That will bring MASSIVE problems when a relationship gets serious, as he'll start sponging off of ... (read in full...)
I'm about to be a dad for the third time and don't know how to tell my parents!
Q. When I was 17 I got my then gf who was also 17 pregnant. We were young and didn't use protection. A few weeks after my son Shade turned 1 we broke up and she left Shade with me and moved out of town. My parents were really supportive and helped out ...
A. 22 April 2010: You know...vasectomy is a good option for you, Mr. Fertile. SEX is RISKY, dude! Your dad *will* lose it. First time is a mistake because of your age, but after that, you knew what you were getting into every time you dropped your drawers. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has started to sleep on the couch instead of in bed with me!
Q. I have a concern about my relationship with my boyfriend. We been involved for four years now, we do live together. I have a problem with him when he sleeps on the couch instead in the bed with me. He has done this in the past with another ...
A. 17 April 2010: That's good, Candace. I'll tell you what my husband and I worked out, since it's me who stays up later than he does.
I agreed to go to bed with him most nights, and I hang out with him until he goes to sleep, then I'll get back out of bed and ... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair with this man or would my ex-boyfriend think badly of me if I did?
Q. Well,my problem is somewhat weird. I broke up with my bf few months back. I thought i would never get over him but i guess i am over him though not completely. During this time,i met a guy online. I have known him for years. He asked me about my...
A. 16 April 2010: If you've broken up with your ex, it's not an AFFAIR to be dating someone else, unless the new guy is married or in a serious relationship with someone else.
If he's also free and single, then GO FOR IT! Who CARES what the ex thinks? My guess is... (read in full...)
Will my married former lover contact me sometime down the road? I never even got to say goodbye!
Q. I've been dating a guy for almost a year. Things started to get more serious the past few months, but then we had to stop seeing each other. Apparently, he was married this whole time and I never knew about it. She just recently found out about us, ...
A. 16 April 2010: Okay, you have been done a favor. The guy was a dog to step out on his wife for you and not tell you he was married. If I was in your position, I'd never want to see him again. He is where he should be, and that's groveling at his wife's feet for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has started to sleep on the couch instead of in bed with me!
Q. I have a concern about my relationship with my boyfriend. We been involved for four years now, we do live together. I have a problem with him when he sleeps on the couch instead in the bed with me. He has done this in the past with another ...
A. 16 April 2010: Okay, questions:
Does he fall asleep on the couch and then wake up in the middle of the night to join you in bed? Or is he spending the ENTIRE night on the couch and staying completely away from the bed?
Sometimes, the person in the couple wh... (read in full...)
He wont marry me!
Q. So, I've been with my BF for 4 years now. We lived together for 2 years and now I bought a house and i live there by myself because I only want him to live there with me once we're emarried. Right, married. Whenever I bring the marriage issue up he ...
A. 16 April 2010: Yep. He will never marry you. And time is wasting.
Listen - you will not be alone. Don't be worried that he's the only guy for you. Even in a small village, there's more than one single person, and there's more than one village, you know! T... (read in full...)
Causes and treatments for psychological impotence?
Q. What is the treatment and the causes of psychological impotence? I'm 47, and few years ago I lost my sex drive and my erections. Suddenly. Went to doctors,but they have no idea,what is going on, as Im not sick. All tests are normal.. My marriage is ...
A. 16 April 2010: A huge question for you: Do you masturbate still? Do you watch or look at porn? That's a drawback of porn - you get so used to masturbation and the porn imagery that conventional sex doesn't do it for you.
Otherwise, if the answer is "no", I'... (read in full...)
Am I asking for disappointment if I ask this "lad" out to the pub?
Q. Recently I hooked up with a guy who I would call a bit of a "lad" he's older than me (20) and is very confident ad doesn't stay with one girl very long if any time at all really! I was considering asking him out to the pub or somewhere as I quite li...
A. 16 April 2010: Okay, I'm going to say this once: You are a MINOR, and he is an ADULT. You shouldn't even talk to him until you are 18. Otherwise, you are jailbait, and it's considered Statutory Rape for him to have a sexual relationship with you.
But let's pr... (read in full...)
Some doubts, his penis has a bend in it, does this have anything to do with his feelings for his aunt?
Q. i am little shy to ask. but want to confirm. my husband's penis is dark and has a bent. is this normal? his sexual desire is very much, that he used to have sexual relations with his paternal aunt. does his penis particularity got some thing to do ...
A. 16 April 2010: His penis shape has nothing to do with his sleeping with his aunt. And EWWWW...can you say ILLEGAL?!??!
There HAS to be more to this story than what you've written. Was he having sex with his aunt while you two were dating??? I feel like I n... (read in full...)
Broke up, now lost in emotion and don't know what to do
Q. *Op's own title* A few weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend. We had been together for six years. I have gone through so many emotions I am now lost and have no idea what to do or think. I broke up with him mostly because he was so uncomfortable...
A. 16 April 2010: Concentrate on what it was that made you break up with him in the first place. Don't get nostalgic and lonely, and don't sell yourself short. Think of the resentful trapped feeling he put you in, and the control he wanted to exert over your every ... (read in full...)
Why does he send his ex vids of us having sex?
Q. Why does my boyfriend do this? He is still in close contact with his ex. They had a long distance relationship for 3 years and they still talk and text pretty regular. I know he sometimes sends her vids and pics of US having sex or...he does thi...
A. 16 April 2010: That's horrible, sending an ex videos of you two having sex. That's not "standing up for you". That isn't loving you! And doing things to you while you're asleep is RAPE, because it is not consentual.
I'm sure you're not a whore who stays wi... (read in full...)
I want to have my cake and eat it too.
Q. *Op's own title* So I have been in a relationship for about a year in a half. We have been living together for almost a year, but I'm only 19 almost 20. We started dating right after i got out of a bad relationship and moved in when we were only toge...
A. 16 April 2010: How would you feel if you caught your boyfriend doing what you're doing now? Would you think that he was being selfish?
If there's truly nothing between you and your current BF, then move out, call it quits, and do it honorably. Don't use the ... (read in full...)
Will she ever trust me and stop punishing me for the actions of her old boyfriends?
Q. Dear Cupid, I’m having problems with my girlfriend. Let me start by saying that I love her very much and can’t imagine living my life without her. However, she has a lack of trust in me that I find very upsetting and hard to tolerate. In ...
A. 15 April 2010: Why do you have to make comments about other women's attractiveness to her? Seems to me like you want to keep her emotionally off balance in order to keep the upper hand in your relationship. It's implied that you'll leave her for someone else if ... (read in full...)
Rumours that he is a pervert!
Q. well me and ds guy started talking 1 month back things were fine till 1 week then he suddenly started behaving strange he asked me to give him some time i agreed to it then on 1st april he snt me a text saying that he misses me and he will contact ...
A. 15 April 2010: That's an easy one: GIVE UP. You're better than to be one guy's afterthought. Find someone who cherishes you and puts you FIRST. You are worth it!... (read in full...)
In love with an ex from 20 years ago!
Q. I think I'm going crazy.... I am madly in love with my ex from 20 years ago. Did I mention we are both married with children? This has been going on for over a year now and it's not getting any easier. I can not stop thinking about him. Know one ...
A. 15 April 2010: Your ex represents a carefree younger time in your life. It's not fair to your respective spouses to carry on an affair behind their backs. Put the effort into your marriage.... (read in full...)
What is normal...how much is too much
Q. Quick question, is it normal for a guy to call his girlfriend of 3 weeks, 10 times in 23 hours for a chat, lasting between 4 mins to 1 hour at a time? ...
A. 15 April 2010: It's a bit much unless you're into it. :) Everyone who falls in love wants to be together 24/7.... (read in full...)
His phone. Her pics.
Q. While I was vistiting my boyfriend at college i decided to check his phone while he slept. I know it was wrong but i couldn't help myself. He had all his messages erased but i found in his pictures 2 pictures of a girl naked. when i confronted him ...
A. 13 April 2010: Why were you checking his phone????? Is privacy dead? You're in a conundrum because this is a trust issue, and you broke his trust by snooping, and he broke yours by playing around with some other girl. I'm not sure if there's a future in this ... (read in full...)
Was he cheating with this emotional affair?
Q. I have discovered that my husband has been having what people on here seem to call an 'emotional affair'. I have got proof that it was not physical although they were egging each other on with sexual innuendo and lovey dovey stuff. Given that it ...
A. 13 April 2010: Your assessment of the situation is lucid, though instead of running off to flirt with the naughty line of affairs, he should have been honest with how he feels and vice versa. This is what happens when people who are married let themselves get ... (read in full...)
Relationship with a lawyer?
Q. Can I have a relationship with my lawyer after my case is settled?...
A. 13 April 2010: Why not??? It's not like he (or she) is your teacher! You're both red-blooded human beings. Being a lawyer doesn't set him (or her) apart from "normal" people! Go for it girl! :D... (read in full...)
Is it fair to say that if she won't do it for me, I won't do it for her?
Q. my girlfriend had a lot of sex before she got with me. She was well known for giving blow jobs. We have been together a year and she won't give me one. When I asked her to do it she refused. She said that when she was younger she did it ...
A. 13 April 2010: Sure it's reasonable, if you're reciprocating, and that means that you are giving her oral until she climaxes, not just a couple of licks and then it's your turn. Blow jobs to some women are gross, and can be grosser if she came across a guy who... (read in full...)
He is in a band and 10 years older than me! I like him..should I date him?
Q. I have a problem. I think I like someone who is in my cousins band. We have met before but that was a couple years ago and we saw each other a while. But now I added him on myspace and I just have a feeling that I like him. I don't know what I ...
A. 13 April 2010: That STILL makes you jailbait to him. If you're 13, then he's 19. If you're 15, that makes him 21. STAY AWAY until you're 18. Just ask Celine Dion - she was MAJOR jailbait to his manager, so they waited until she was of age. If it's meant to... (read in full...)
I'm addicted to a cold and selfish woman who lies, cheats and accuses me of everything! Advice?
Q. Did anyone, male or female, ever come across this type of partner? We are seperated now. She lies about an affair and when lies couldnt' work anymore, she went on the offensive and blamed me for 9 years of not loving her and meeting her needs. I...
A. 13 April 2010: I think you haven't gotten over her. I also think that you can't move forward with your life until you do. The fact that her stories about her new lover is getting to you is a tactic for her to keep maintaining the balance of power in your ... (read in full...)
He is in a band and 10 years older than me! I like him..should I date him?
Q. I have a problem. I think I like someone who is in my cousins band. We have met before but that was a couple years ago and we saw each other a while. But now I added him on myspace and I just have a feeling that I like him. I don't know what I ...
A. 13 April 2010: You're 13-15? That makes him 23-25. Listen to me very carefully. YOU ARE JAILBAIT. Ever heard of the show "To Catch a Predator"?? He can go to JAIL and register as a SEX OFFENDER for so much as soliciting a relationship with you. If you t... (read in full...)
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