How can I give love bites without actually hurting my partner?
Q. my partner asked me to give them a love bite as they gave me 3... But i told them not yet because im scared il hurt them how to i make sure i dont hurt them?...
A. 5 June 2010: It's all a matter of *where* you bite. You used the pronoun "them" and "they" so I'm going to give you advice for both genders.
For a girl, the biting has to be very gentle and not in a place that is conspicuous, like the upper neck, face, or... (read in full...)
I think my son is having an affair
Q. My son is 22 yrs old his best friend since high school has been a girl called Laura, everyone always said they would be the cutest couple if the both of them weren't too shy to make a move. We knew he always had a crush on her but they just remained ...
A. 5 June 2010: Hmmm...yeah, he's having an affair. I wouldn't talk to him about it, as I'm sure he knows what he's doing is flat wrong. If he brings it up to you (which he WILL once Laura's husband finds out she's screwing around on him), tell him what you ... (read in full...)
He says nothing's going on but won't let me read his emails!
Q. should I be concerned if my boyfriend of 12 years will not let me see his emails? I just recently found out he was telephoning and emailing a female coworker and as he admitted became "too close to her". He insist nothing is going on, but when I ask ...
A. 5 June 2010: He's cheating on you. There's a reason why he's not committing to you after 12 years, and you just uncovered it. You don't need to see proof. You have the proof in his refusal.
Go kick Mister Double Life to the curb. There are plenty of guys ... (read in full...)
Is getting turned on by your reflection normal?
Q. Just a quick one: When I look at my body in the mirror (mainly torso) I sometimes get slighly turned on... (I have recently (read: last 6 months) been working out, so my physique is pretty good), but how common is that, I'm curious....
A. 5 June 2010: Heh, I actually laughed out loud when I read this. You're not the only one this has happened to. I've heard of one guy who was also a musclehead actually get turned all the way on and jack off to his own appearance.
You admire beauty, any beau... (read in full...)
Help! I freak out when I feel good!
Q. This post has turned out to be really long, I’m sorry, I just started writing and didn’t realise. I’m a 25 year old girl who has a mental block during sex/fooling around. I’m starting to think I’m not normal. I have the loveliest boyfriend. I sho...
A. 5 June 2010: Something happened to you when you were younger. You need some extended therapy/counselling to find out what happened to you and try to unlock what's going on. Don't worry about the stigma of therapy, you're fixing what's broken in your psyche, ... (read in full...)
Will I ever love him again?
Q. My husband had an affair...3 years ago..he is trying everything to make it up to me.... I just can't find the passion anymore, will I ever love this man again..?? He keeps telling me I will love him the same way just needs some time....Im lost.. :...
A. 5 June 2010: Aww man. That's devastating. :(
The issue you're having now is that you're trying to restore the previous relationship. That relationship is dead, the one your husband trashed with the affair. He can't will you to forget what happened, and you ... (read in full...)
How can you seduce a guy?
Q. I kinda want to know how can you make a guy want you back cause I want my ex back I just rather not talk to him right now, but better said he has me locked out of his life. Our break up was a random one, he one day said he just didn't love me ...
A. 5 June 2010: Geeze, the guy sounds like he's got issues. Why not enjoy being single for a bit and get into a fun hobby or activity, or enjoy partying with friends. You'll be naturally attractive just by living life to the fullest! You won't need any cheap ... (read in full...)
What is it with men and pride????
Q. My boyfriend and I of two years - he lived with me for 1.5 years... We were perfect for each other.. We had our share of ups and downs but seriously we were the couple that everyone envied.. both attractive and totally lovey dovey smitten with ...
A. 5 June 2010: Well, I may have a different approach to this situation.
Yes, you calling him a "financial moron" was harsh, but if he is going to have such a bruised ego and be *that* defensive when it comes to money, you're better off apart, because when you... (read in full...)
Says he wants me back but won't leave her
Q. {Moderator note: edited for punctuation and such} Me and my husband seperated in January of this year cause of somehthing i supposly done but havent. But he was telling me he wanted to get back together that he missed me and our kids. So well i f...
A. 5 June 2010: You guys are separated for a reason. It is a total disrespect to you and your marriage that he is cheating on you. Why do you want to go back to that??
You want to go back to him because he is the comfortable life. That's understa... (read in full...)
I really like him, but sometimes I need my space
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now. It's been a kind-of rocky 5 months, but we've still been pretty happy. Just sometimes, I go through these phases, where I just need space and time away from him, but I put his happiness before mine. ...
A. 5 June 2010: It's not just him, it's your whole life. You're taking WAY too much on! You're accepting too much stress, and instead of being a haven where you can go vent to your boyfriend or at least be at peace from stress, he's adding his problems onto your ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to act normal in a relationship
Q. three months ago I was really good friends with this girl and I decided to ask her out so I did and she said yes. This was my first girlfriend so I tried to be as normal as possible but I think by trying to act normal I changed. So two months a...
A. 5 June 2010: Aww...you and she are so young and just learning how to be boyfriend and girlfriend. The best way to act is like yourself. Kind, caring, and loving. Listen to her as she talks, encourage her to follow her dreams, tell her of yours.
The way to n... (read in full...)
Single... or settle???
Q. I am 19 years old and me n my fiancee, who is 25, have been together for a year and a half and we just had a baby, we have been talking about marriage for over a year now and i am not sure if we should. i am doubting if he is the one for me. I'm not ...
A. 5 June 2010: If you're not physically attracted to the guy, how did you guys reproduce?? What were you thinking? You two have been through a lot, and now, your relationship is all responsibility. You're young and have a young girl's desire for adventure, and ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend's ex!
Q. ok, well im in love with my best friends ex, i've always loved him even befor they went out i just dont understand why he chose her over me, she had a boyfriend when he asked her out and then she broke up with her boyfriend for him and the day she ...
A. 5 June 2010: Talk it over with your best friend. It's important that you keep the relationship right with your friend. Ask her if she's okay with you dating her ex, and respect her feelings on it. Your BF might indeed be 100% over this guy.
One question... (read in full...)
How to be the one to be chased and not to become the chaser
Q. In relationships I'm always the one to make the moves and to get hooked by the girl, but I've met a girl now, and we get on and that, but I don't want to come across easy to get, I don't want to be the person to text her, and that. She called me ...
A. 5 June 2010: I must correct myself:
Often, *many* girls who chase are labelled "needy" or "clingy". I don't hold that viewpoint that girls who chase are needy or clingy. I hope I didn't offend anyone by making it sound like that's MY judgment. Far from it.... (read in full...)
How to be the one to be chased and not to become the chaser
Q. In relationships I'm always the one to make the moves and to get hooked by the girl, but I've met a girl now, and we get on and that, but I don't want to come across easy to get, I don't want to be the person to text her, and that. She called me ...
A. 5 June 2010: Why do you want to be chased? Isn't the point to get the girl, and not wrangle or play games about who gets chased?
Girls aren't usually the chasers because girls who do chase get labelled as "needy" or "clingy". Why do you want to chance t... (read in full...)
Is an orgasm important in a healthy relationship?
Q. Hey, to keep it short and simple i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half.. when discussing relationships with my friend the other day she said that orgasms were needed to have a healthy sex life and considering i've never ever ever ever ...
A. 4 June 2010: Well, the thing is, the key to you having an orgasm is to work on it - ALONE. Sex is about the closeness, the tenderness, and the togetherness even more than the orgasm.
However, the orgasm is AWESOME, AMAZING, and yes, it'll keep the spice an... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend I want to spend the rest of my life with him?
Q. okay i this guy i knew when i was like 13 in school we just started back talking and now i am 22 and i think i am falling in love with him. I think about him all the time 24 hrs a day, however it seem like he is not feeling me the same way. while he ...
A. 4 June 2010: Well, remember that you've had time to cultivate an incredibly intense feeling for him. If you overwhelm him with those feelings, even if he likes you back, you'll scare him away with their intensity.
However, for your own health's sake, you shou... (read in full...)
Does not liking French kissing make me weird?
Q. Hello im 19 and ive had many boyfriends and im confident but when it comes to french kissing i always say no..because i dont know how and its embaressing to ask at 19...its makes me nervous..ive did it before but i didnt know if i was doind it right ...
A. 4 June 2010: Ahh, don't worry about that! I don't care for french kissing either! It's all about preference. I've done lots of French kissing too...some guys have been excellent at it, but others made me want to throw up by either ramming their tongue so far ... (read in full...)
Help! How do I get over my abusive ex?
Q. I want nothing more then to have my ex beat to hell and I want to cuse him the f*** out soo bad. BUT we have kids together and that would be just the wrong thing to do. I dont know how else to get over him. I feel like I am at times when im with ...
A. 4 June 2010: This one is actually easier than you think. This answer will be in two parts.
1. How to deal with him in regards to the kids: You do not have to see an abusive guy. You can get a friend or a relative (mother, father, sister brother, friend, ... (read in full...)
As a working mom, do I need a maid?
Q. Dear Moms, I was wondering how you can be a working mom and raise your child on your own without having a house maid or a nanny full time to help you.. Im a soon to-be-mom and hope you can tell me about raising children on your own , as well as ...
A. 4 June 2010: Well, a lot of it is not having too much house. Also, if you're a working mom full-time and your husband is also full-time, why not split the chores 50/50? It's not just you who's responsible.
However, you mentioned you were going to raise a ... (read in full...)
Why is this guy taking advantage of me?
Q. I feel really stupid. And a little hurt. I work with this guy, he is and has always been very nice to me. The thing is when I told him I liked him, in more than a friend way, he didn't say anything, he just smiled and gave me a hug, which is the ...
A. 4 June 2010: Oh yeah, he's taking advantage of you big time. You are his meal ticket, and he's using you because you have feelings for him but he doesn't reciprocate.
NEVER lend a guy $. Ever ever ever. The fact that he's asking to borrow from you and use ... (read in full...)
How should I deal with my abusive ex?
Q. I am so puzzled by my bf..I just finally came to my senses and broke up with him after 5yrs of Physical and mental abuse. I want to clarify that he still believes that at least he has never beat me literally but has tried to choke me 2 times in the ...
A. 4 June 2010: No, you're used to him. That's why you think of him. He's the FAMILIAR, even though he's got serious issues. A breakup is tough on people, that people would even be willing to go back to the abusive because it's what they know.
You need to ... (read in full...)
What if my boyfriend wants a vasectomy?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't want marriage or kids. I don't know what I want. I think I more want a fairy-tale relationship / marriage, not the realistic kind. Since he doesn't want either. because condoms bother him and are very desensitizing (yes eve...
A. 4 June 2010: You know where this relationship will be headed with you and him. If you are wanting the family/kids thing, and he's neither wanting marriage nor kids, it's going to end badly for you when you'll waste time you don't have on your biological clock ... (read in full...)
How long before I should suspect he's not that serious?
Q. How soon into a new relationship (approximately) would you expect things like love and commitment to come up? I know every relationship and person is different, I'm just wondering if there's a point when I should think hmm, maybe this guy isn't ...
A. 4 June 2010: It's different with every guy, but sooner or later, you know. You've had several dates, he's pressing for a physical relationship, yet not talking about exclusivity.
He's wanting physical, yet not wanting to connect emotionally with who you ... (read in full...)
Friends with benfits? Yes or no?
Q. Hey everybody, i was wondering what your opioion on friends with benfits is. I have a male friend to who i am sexually attracted to, he shares these feeling as well. We want to start a friend with benfits type of relationship that includes ...
A. 4 June 2010: Friends with Benefits always ends badly, especially for the girl. You don't want to set the FWB standard for the guy if you actually have feelings for him that run stronger than that.
You're also young, and sex has a lot of risks. A FWB rela... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have an orgasm just from being tickled?
Q. Am I strange? My new boyfriend has a fetish for feet. A few weeks ago I indulged him for the first time and allowed him to tie me to my bed. He proceeded to tickle the bottoms of my feet for a long time. I’m a very ticklish person and I laugh...
A. 4 June 2010: SWEET!!! That sounds awesome! The biggest sex organ is the brain, and apparantly, the entire "tied up, helpless, tickling" thing set you off! You were aroused and didn't even know it, since it was not the usual way you've heard it done.
It ma... (read in full...)
How can you get over the feeling of being lied to from your boyfriend about his porn watching habits?
Q. How can you get over the feeling of being lied to from your boyfriend about his porn watching habits? I've been obsessing over this for the past few days. I almost left him for me being suspicious of him lying after finding sketchy files on his c...
A. 4 June 2010: He's watching porn and pulling your chain about the stuff you see to avoid your reaction. He's into porn, maybe not like your ex was, but he's watching it.
What you do is up to you. You can either accept it or leave him. You do not have to ... (read in full...)
My ex asked me to choose between him and my baby's dad
Q. i am 19 years old. i have a little boy. i am not currenly married but i am living with my boyfriend, my babys dad. we have been together for 3 years and i love him.he also has a good job and he supports me and his child. however, an old ex-boyfriend ...
A. 4 June 2010: There's a reason why you broke up with the old ex. You don't think that reason wouldn't come up again if you go back with him? Stay with the baby's dad, who seems to be a really good guy.
You will make the biggest mistake of your life by going... (read in full...)
Is it true that if a woman confides in you as a friend for a long time, your chances with her romantically are shot?
Q. Is it true that if a woman confides in you as a friend for a long time, your chances with her romantically are shot? That's what some guys told me. I've never really believed in silly rules like that though. A friend and I were interested in each ...
A. 4 June 2010: Okay, I mean this in a gentle way, but you seriously need to grow up. You have a girl who you have feelings for, and you have the precious gift of being able to have her confide in you, which for many MANY long relationships/marriages, the romance ... (read in full...)
Dating a narcissistic man
Q. I've been dating a narcissistic man and have broke it off he is pursuing a women that is half his age and doesn't want a relationship with him. He still sends me e-mails like It was good to see you, you are like a bar to a recovering alcoholic. I ...
A. 3 June 2010: Ugh, he sounds like a complete toolbox. Don't just break it off, wipe him off your shoe like you would wipe off any excrement you stepped in. He's charismatic and magnetic because he's been cultivating that persona. So now he wants to stroke his ... (read in full...)
Too devoted???
Q. My girlfriend says that I am "too devoted". Not exactly sure what that means. What is the best way to behave as a boyfriend?...
A. 3 June 2010: Yep, like everyone else said, "too devoted" means "clingy". You should concentrate on other hobbies and interests in your life. You should take some time away from her and pull back, which will have the desired effect of her wanting more of you. ... (read in full...)
The new guy is perfect, so why can't I get over my ex?
Q. I've been getting friendly with a guy (man 1) since March. We've got to the stage now where we act like we're a couple, but we aren't going out.. and have done everything apart from sex, which he would like to do. I'm friendly with his family, and ...
A. 3 June 2010: You were hurt, and that's causing you to protect yourself. As far as your ex is concerned, you two are over. Your ego was bruised by the breakup, and as a defense mechanism, it's putting you in denial that it's truly forever over, thus not ... (read in full...)
Cheating and "forgetful" boyfriend goes away on a guys vacation. Can I trust him?
Q. My boyfriend has just gone on holiday with his friends.. We were having a few problems but we sorted it all out before he left. I love him so much and I'd hate for us to have left it on a bad note. He's been away with his mates before and I sho...
A. 3 June 2010: Yeah, if he was undfaithful to you before, you have reason to not trust him. So my real question to you is:
Why are you stil with him?
Relationships are built on trust. Without it, it's all lust and flakiness, and the partner who did not chea... (read in full...)
My friend's ex made a pass at me. Do I get involved or run away?
Q. My story is like this. Before this, i was in a college, i havev lot of friends there. Then, i moved to a better college, this college is where one of my friend (not my best friend but she is really nice) boyfriend’s college. My friends ask me to ...
A. 3 June 2010: Your friend is the important thing here. If your friend isn't over this guy, then you're doing the right thing by not accepting his advances. If your friend might be over the guy, get in contact with your friend and tell her what's going on and ... (read in full...)
I'm married, but now I want to have my fun with strangers. 3 down and counting, should I feel guilty?
Q. Ok here is my situation I have been married with my husband 5 years, I was a virgin when he took me, he had his fun before me. But just recently I started this appetite of having sex with other guys just to try it out. is that normal? should ...
A. 3 June 2010: How do you think your husband would feel if he found out? You're putting him in danger of STD's by running around with strangers. You're also putting yourself in danger of pregnancy. NO birth control saves you from that. What are you going to ... (read in full...)
My wife's sexual past has made me lose respect for her.
Q. cant seem to stop thinking about my wifes past past sexual history.In1972I met my wife New Years Eve in an Old Boys Rugby Club we kissed the new year in although she told she had kissed 80 others that night.To cut a long story short that evening I ...
A. 3 June 2010: Umm...1972 is 38 years ago! What is wrong with you? So she was a player before she met you. The real issue is whether or not she's been faithful to you, and it sounds like she has. What is this the middle ages, where the men can go screw around ... (read in full...)
Older boyfriend lives next door, I'm cheating on him and want out. But will he make a scene?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 years. We have a 17 year age difference. I'm almost 27 and he just turned 44. I used to be turned on by him at one time. My bf has a good heart and he means well. He has good qualities and that's what I lo...
A. 3 June 2010: You need to just do it. Cheating is wrong, as you know, and you need the courage to just end it with your BF once and for all.
After you break up with him, if he pulls any psycho behavior, call the cops and don't answer the door. If he is dumb ... (read in full...)
Is it materialistic of me to give him an ultimatum?
Q. If his excuse for not moving forward is because he cannot afford a ring, what do I do? Isn't it materialistic of me to give him an ultimatum in this case? If he says he cannot afford a ring, I would not totally believe him because of o...
A. 3 June 2010: Something sounds off here. I've known a bunch of guys who got engaged and then saved up for their rings. I've known others who got one from a pawn shop, and still others who "inherited" rings from loving family members.
What would your ultimatu... (read in full...)
He put it in me, am I still a virgin?
Q. Okay well tonight me and my boyfriend were fooling around and we decided to try do IT for the first time, i was a virgin he wasnt, well anyways he only put it in a bit but it really hurt soo i told him to stop, my question is am i still a virgin?, ...
A. 3 June 2010: Nope, even the slightest penetration is enough to end your virginity. You are officially no longer a virgin. It most likely will not hurt so bad next time.... (read in full...)
He says I'm a good friend but I love him!
Q. I ask him if he likes me the I like him and he said idk but I am a good friend what does that mean? And what should I do I am really good friends with him and can't stop thinking about if....
A. 3 June 2010: Awww...yeah, he thinks of you as a friend. I know it hurts, but you will feel better soon. :(
Sorry he didn't reciprocate your feelings for you.... (read in full...)
I was crushed by my crush!
Q. Ok, so I like my best friend's cousin, and i thought he liked me to. My friend seid she was pretty sure he did and then his friend texted me and seid that he thought my crush liked me back. After that 2 of my crush's friends asked me if i liked him ...
A. 3 June 2010: You blew off his friends and then asked HIM if he liked you. Of course he's going to crush you. He heard from his friends that you thought of him only as a friend. The fact that it took 15 minutes for him to answer you means HE LIKES YOU!!!!
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