Do women enjoy sex as much as men?
Q. I an always wondering cause ladies have different answers.. Do ladies love sex as much as men if not more?...
A. 24 April 2010: HP's right.
Women with guys who are 2-minute bandits who just go in, unload, and pull out will have frustrated partners who hate sex.
Men who know what they're doing and take their time will have really satisfied girlfriends or wives who wil... (read in full...)
Sneaking around on Adultfriendfinder, what should I do?
Q. A while back and I got the Mail and I just open the credit card bills and I just found out that he was charging by adultfriendfinder and he was telling me that I cancel it . so yesterday, I just found out that he still on it. so I don't think he...
A. 24 April 2010: If you know his ID, you could open an account under a false name on AFF and pose as an interested woman for him. You'll find out lightning quick what he's up to, and you'll have instant proof.
Just having an account on AFF is enough for you to b... (read in full...)
My husband farts on me and thinks its funny
Q. My husband farts on me. He thinks its hilarious, and its really annoying to me. It makes me feel like I am one of his frat buddies instead of his wife, who he might like to have sex with again at one point or another. I don't know how to make him ...
A. 24 April 2010: I would yell in my loudest voice next time he does that.."DON'T YOU EVER DO THAT TO ME AGAIN!!!!"...I mean loud enough to break glass. That shows a lack of respect. Then leave the room.... (read in full...)
I have only ever had 3 girls interested in me! How do I get my self-esteem up off the ground?
Q. im a young adult, have been in a relationship for 3 years and my self esteem is the lowest it has ever been. i feel soo ugly its eating me up and there is very little i can do about it. it never used to bother me before it was just something i could ...
A. 24 April 2010: I'm with Twinlab. Go to the gym! The workouts alone will make you feel like you're on top of the world. And greasy fast food will make you want to kill yourself. It clogs your arteries, your brain, your libido. It's amazing what a change in diet ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, what should I do?
Q. I cant get over him... me and my bf broke up and after 1 week later we got back together.. the reason why I broke up cause I didint trust him cause his some words contradicting with each other.. then we talked and told him that I will trust him... ...
A. 24 April 2010: He's no longer interested in you. You have to let him go. It's not right that he's off playing and doing whatever he wants to do (I'm sure he's got someone else) and you're home in your late 20's pining after him.
Life's too short to waste yo... (read in full...)
Why can't I just forget about this?
Q. Recently, I have been dwelling on something that happened to me when I was a little girl. It started out with me just remembering bits and pieces of it over a course of a few years but, now I could go as far as a few days to a couple of hours wi...
A. 24 April 2010: How old was Marc when this happened? How old were you?
Being forcefully touched is sexual assault. You said no to seeing his penis, and you said no to showing your privates, and he forced you to experience both.
It was a very traumatic e... (read in full...)
My cheating girlfriend got pregnant!
Q. what should I do my girlfriend I was with for 4 years in on and off relationship who wanted to have kids and love each other. recently got pregnant but she cheated but didnt tell me so I thought it was mine. I was with her through the whole ...
A. 24 April 2010: Yikes! RUN AWAY! Get a DNA test to make sure you're not the dad and then take off! That's a crappy foundation to love a girl in. ... (read in full...)
I can't shake the feeling of wanting a baby!
Q. ok im 16 and i want a baby. im really good with them and ive tried to get over it but i cnt shake the feeling. i have this best friend(friends with benifits) and he says that i lite up when im around babies and weve tlkd about if i was to get ...
A. 24 April 2010: Wanting a baby is a good goal to have. But right now, you can't take care of a baby emotionally or financially. You're in school and you don't have a steady boyfriend. Life will get hard if not impossible for you if you have one now, and it's not ... (read in full...)
I masturbated because my husband never wants sex! Is this bad?
Q. So one day my husband was at work and i wanted to have sex so bad and we hadnt had sex for 3 weeks and he never wants to so i masturbated and it wasnt as bad as i thought. My husband would be mad. so am i in the wrong for doing that? Do you think ...
A. 24 April 2010: I guarantee you that he's masturbated 20 times more than you have, and he doesn't feel the least bit badly about it. Sex once every 3 weeks is not that good. I'd ask him why, and maybe look on his computer for porn while you're at it.... (read in full...)
Confused and hurt with a holiday on the way!
Q. Hey everyone, My girlfriend and i have been together for over 2 and a half years and its basically both of our's first proper relationship... We had booked a holiday around 3 months ago and fully paid it off together for our first holiday together...
A. 24 April 2010: Geeze. You need to let her go. Go find a new sweetheart to go on holiday with - one that won't bounce you around like a ball because she knows that all she has to do is snap her fingers and you'll come running.
She doesn't respect you. You need... (read in full...)
I want him back but there's a girlfriend complicating things!
Q. i dont know how to get this guy back i mean we have been talking lately a lot but bad thing is he has a girlfriend.we went out some months back no one really knew because he is 4 years older then me im 13 he is 17.i no he is a little old but we can ...
A. 24 April 2010: Well, tell him to talk to you AFTER he breaks up with his girlfriend. Put yourself in the girlfriend's shoes. How would you feel if your boyfriend cheated on you with an ex.
That age difference is a bit too much though. In a year, he'll be... (read in full...)
Best friend and I like the same guys!
Q. okayyy so my best friend likes two guys and they both like me what should i do cause i thnk i might like them too PLEASE HELP ME!!!...
A. 24 April 2010: Hmm...I wouldn't date someone my best friend likes, but if she likes 2 people, she can't have all the guys! Talk to her about it first and tell her you like one of them, and ask her if she's okay with your pursuing one.
Best friends are really i... (read in full...)
She likes me but doesn't want to end current relationship
Q. she told me that her current relationship wasnt going so well, and that she liked me, but she doesnt want to end her relationship... what should i do?...
A. 24 April 2010: She gave you your answer. Find someone who's available and let yourself develop feelings for them. If her current relationship isn't going well, soon she'll break up with him. But don't sit around pining for her in the meantime!... (read in full...)
Wife constantly text messaging!
Q. My wife and I have been married for almost 5 years, and we have what I think is a mostly healthy relationship. Lately however, she is constantly sending or reading text messages. When we go out to eat, even with our friends, throughout the entire ...
A. 24 April 2010: Yeah! Hide her phone! LOL
Seriously, I may sound callous for suggesting this, but try talking to her about it again, and if she still acts childish about it, stop taking her to dinner. Go out yourself with some friends. When she asks why you ... (read in full...)
I just had a horrible "first time", or what should have been. I'm too hurt to move on, what do I do?
Q. "Wow, hun...You're so much smaller than my ex...I'm sorry." That's what she told me when we were just about to...yeah Then she got up, apologized, and left quietly. I felt so terrible after, I actually cried lol. We don't see each other anymore. ...
A. 24 April 2010: Geeze...that girl who said that to you doesn't deserve a boyfriend. I read that and cringed. That sucks. :(
I will be honest with you - to some women initially, size does matter. But what matters *infinitely* more is technique. How good of ... (read in full...)
1st communication with ex since the break up
Q. Me and my ex will have our first conversation tonight after being broken up for a month and a half and over 3 weeks of no contact but 1 week since she messaged me. I'm trying to use these last 3 hours I have left to gather as much info and insight ...
A. 24 April 2010: Sounds like she's not over you. If you're over her, I wouldn't have these conversations with her and stuff. Just put a period on it and move on.
If she asks you if you still love her, answer her gently, but honestly. If you no longer love her... (read in full...)
Does he still love me, Do I still make him feel great? please help !
Q. My boyfreind and I have been together for just over a year. We had our honeymoon stage and roughly around 5 months things started to get a bit confusing, for one reason or another i started asking him all sorts of questions that I was not even ...
A. 24 April 2010: You said this guy calls you names? I'd drop a guy cold the moment he started that crap. In fact, I did once, and wouldn't take him back no matter how much he apologized. Verbal abuse is just as intolerable to me as physical abuse.
You a... (read in full...)
I'm sneaking out to meet older men
Q. hey :) well i am 15 and i am 16 in about 2 months! i am you generall type of girl like to shop and go out with my friends. But i have stearted to go out into town and meet older men which is not good as something happened which i deeple regret.I ...
A. 23 April 2010: Oh man. How is your relationship with your dad? Sex isn't what it means to a guy that it means to you. Guys don't put the emotional element into sex that you do. You need someone to love and care for you. You can achieve that without having ... (read in full...)
How do you confess your feelings without risking a friendship?
Q. How do you find the confidence to risk a wonderful friendship for something more? I'm in love with a good friend who is in a relationship. I can't work up the nerve to tell her how I feel. Every time I think about doing it, my heart races and ...
A. 23 April 2010: I might be in the minority here, but it sounds like she isn't married to this guy. Life is about risk. It's true - your friendship will be put at risk if you expose your true feelings to her. There is no easy way to do it, and no way you can be ... (read in full...)
Drugs are involved, he's lying..do I leave him?
Q. I have been with my partner for just over 2 yrs. we are living together, I have mate his family but he's not mate mine as I come from abroad. I have recently found out that he has been taking mephedrone and the new drug (cannot remmeber what its ...
A. 23 April 2010: Run, run, and RUN!!!! And don't look back. Stay away from drugs. He's learned to lie, cheat and steal for these drugs. He'll expose you and potential children you have with him to a filthy criminal social scene.
Different cultures have not... (read in full...)
Should I be direct? Or not so direct?
Q. When I ask a woman out in the future, should I use plain language or fancy language? Is it best to be direct, and simply say "Do you want to go out with me on a date?" Or can it make things awkward if I am too direct? What is the best way ...
A. 23 April 2010: Have a destination in mind to go to, like tickets to a concert or a Broadway performance, or a specific movie or nice restaurant. Instead of asking a girl. "Hey, wanna go out sometime" and then fumbling after she says "sure", "yes", or "maybe", ... (read in full...)
Married man having platonic relationship with a married woman?
Q. Is it o.k for married man to have a platonic relationship with a married woman? My husband recently reconnected with a friend whose a girl in high shcool. They've never had any kind of romantic relationship, although my husband had admitted in ...
A. 23 April 2010: I think that they are just friends now, and that nothing has happened. But there is the possibility that curiosity can re-spark a non-platonic one in the future. You have to trust that it won't.
From what you've said, there's nothing being hi... (read in full...)
20 year age gap in a relationship..thoughts?
Q. I'm 21 and he is 44. We have been dating for 3 years. We went to tell my parents together about a year after we first started dating but I got mixed signals from my parents on the subject so I decided to wait until I was 21 to tell them. We'r...
A. 23 April 2010: You're 21 years old. You're old enough to date anyone, whether he's 20 years older or 2 months older. Celine Dion is 26 years younger than her husband, and they're madly in love and have a child!
Danica Patrick is 17 years younger than her... (read in full...)
How do I make a complete break from this guy I was dating? Please help!
Q. My ex boyfriend and I have had many issues, regarding his jealousy and lack of trust because of my past. It's been very draining for both of us, I think. It's been one of those difficult relationships, some of my friends have called it toxic. But we ...
A. 23 April 2010: You broke up with him and followed through! GOOD! His manipulative ways and his breaking up with you over and over was designed to keep you off-balance. It goes along with his issues with you jealousy-wise. Just because you gave a guy oral sex ... (read in full...)
I really resent what my partner's brother did to me...I need ideas on how to cope?
Q. I have 2 children with my man of 12 years. I have given his brother alot of money and he has never paid me back, he has never told me sorry, and he doesn't come around me at all right now. This is more than $250,000.00 - and I am crushed. It has ...
A. 23 April 2010: Money is just money. And family is family. You are under no obligation to give or lend money to anyone, even if they are in your family. Let go of the money - it can always be replaced. You are in a much better position, for you can earn your ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is one sided!
Q. I'm in a relationship of 1 year now I'm 25 and he's 28 we love having sex we have a problem with our sex life he likes when I give him oral sex but when I try to get him to give me oral sex he won't do it and its just not fair and I have stopped ...
A. 23 April 2010: He tells you that he'll get another female to do what he wants. Gross. This guy sounds like a real dog. He's either bluffing so that he gets what he wants from you, OR he sees you as a booty call and nothing more.
Tell him he better save up ... (read in full...)
Perfect relationship apart from the forced celibacy!
Q. My GF and I have been together for six years, I love her so much she is my best friend and I am hers. We do everything together, joke around around, travel, camp, hike, nights out in the city, you name it we do it. Everyone who knows us says that we ...
A. 23 April 2010: Why haven't you asked her to marry you? why is she your girlfriend and not your fiance?
My guess is that your GF is thinking that you won't commit and is therefore starting to physically and emotionally withdraw.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend who is says he is?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months and we're pretty serious...We talk everyday and about everything...He is my first real adult relationship and I've fallen in love with him. The problem is that is older than me (I'm 24), my family ...
A. 23 April 2010: Yep...I agree with Tim. Make him show you his DL.... (read in full...)
I'm tired of playing games with women
Q. Is it a good idea for me to isolate myself from women forever? I don't think anything good can come out of a relationship for me, and I often worry about catching STDs. I have had it off with prostitutes before. I don't think I have any STDs...
A. 23 April 2010: FA - I was making the point that absolutely gorgeous girls many times fall for average looking or less than average looking guys all the time, because the guys either have money or an incredible personality. Look at Sandra Bullock and her ... (read in full...)
I've got a child-like mind, I daydream, and believe in things that aren't real. Is this normal or am I stupid?
Q. I,ve not really had a great childhood when i was five i moved house to the middle of nowere where there were no kids or anythin and I lived on the main road so i couldnt really go out anywere to explore. Now I,m 18 I tink myself I,ve a very child ...
A. 23 April 2010: People like you thought up the movie Avatar. Go with that, and you'll be highly successful! At the same time you have this massive imagination, work on social skills and make the dreams you think of a wondrous thing to hear!... (read in full...)
I only seem to fancy gay men!
Q. Hi I have a problem thats kinda strange but I only seem to fancy gay men. sometimes go out with my friends I see some really gorgeous guys and I go over and start fliting with them but i find out most of them are gay. One of my best friends is Gay ...
A. 23 April 2010: This is simple. You are subconciously wanting the unobtainable. Lots of girls (and guys) go for people who turn out to be gay, or out of their league, or happily married. You have to work out why you're going for unobtainables.
First... (read in full...)
Should I be bothered that my male friend never calls me?
Q. Men please give me your perspective on my situation. I have had a male friend from a dating site that I have been seeing for around 10 months. We both agreed we do not seek a sexual relationhip just yet so exclusivity or commitment is no...
A. 23 April 2010: You're right. It will be difficult later on, and you're selling yourself short. This guy views things on a friendship level (what guy honestly agrees with the "no sex" rule?!), and doesn't have that burning desire for you. If he did, he'd be ... (read in full...)
Should I comfort him in his time of need or wait to see if his girlfriend wants out?
Q. ok so there's this guy me and him went out a couple months back and we recently started back talking . I believe that my feelings for him are coming back and I want to go back out but the problem is he has a girlfriend.he already knows I still like ...
A. 23 April 2010: Question - why did you break up with him in the first place? Do the reasons still exist?
Comforting a guy is no reason to be in a relationship with him. He needs to break up with his girlfriend before you talk to him about getting back tog... (read in full...)
He's been taking me for granted, but now he's talking about how much he needs me?
Q. My boyfriend has been taking me for granted lately and I began pulling away to do my own thing. Last night he told me that I don't love him or care about him anymore. I responded "if this is a break up, just be up front with me and I will go on with ...
A. 23 April 2010: Bravo! You pulling away and being independent and not needing him became irresistible to him. You accomplished what a lot of lonely women in loveless relationships want.
My advice? Keep being mysterious. Don't always tell him where you are ... (read in full...)
I've become very moody -- what's wrong with me?
Q. What's wrong with me??? I don't know iv anyone can help. Over the past 2 years I have become very bitchy and moody. I used to be on antidepressants for panic attack but have been off them just over a year. I went to see my doctor and explaine...
A. 23 April 2010: You have your mind on yourself too much. I think you should see a shrink if this behavior isn't like you. But you are thinking of yourself too much and you know it's not right. You need to make a conscious effort to overcome these urges and ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of playing games with women
Q. Is it a good idea for me to isolate myself from women forever? I don't think anything good can come out of a relationship for me, and I often worry about catching STDs. I have had it off with prostitutes before. I don't think I have any STDs...
A. 23 April 2010: You know, if you want to be good at a sport or a trade or a specialty, it helps to ask an expert. Spend time with them, mirror them, study what makes them successful. Why wouldn't the same thing apply with meeting women?
You mention that you... (read in full...)
He cheated once and I've never been able to trust him since
Q. well i been with a guy for 1 year and a half, and i lost his trust a while ago, he cheated on me with my freind, and that messed ur our relationship since then, i have doubts about him doing the same thing now, he promises me hes not that he only ...
A. 22 April 2010: Once a cheater, always a cheater.
There are men out there who won't cheat on you.... (read in full...)
I just want him out of my mind, and to heal
Q. When you know something is over and you have tried so hard..how the hell do you skip over the crying, healing process..god it just sucks and I have been avoiding it for months..trying to work on a relationship that had no trust on my behalf for good ...
A. 22 April 2010: Yeah, you have to allow yourself to grieve. Can't skip over that part. But what you can do is get involved in a new hobby, or your work, or hanging out with friends. Something to take your mind off of what you've lost. It will get easier every ... (read in full...)
Should I try to hold on to her when she shows little attraction toward me?
Q. Alright, long story short. My girlfriend and I started off as a long distance couple, and moved together for about a year before we had to return to long distance due to schooling and college. However, due to a lifetime of abuse from my father, and ...
A. 22 April 2010: Find someone else. She's kissing your friends (pretty much cheating on you). Just because you had an abusive upbringing doesn't mean you should settle for someone who does this to you. You deserve someone who cherishes you for who you are.
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My boyfriend is jealous and doesn't respect me, but I want to try.
Q. I am undoubtedly a hopeless romantic. I'm kind of traditional in the sense that I want my man to court me and not the other way around as it happens to be so popular these days. I do like to be my own person; be an individual and not a clone. So h...
A. 22 April 2010: You cannot change him. You cannot change him. You cannot change him.
Who CARES if his parents like you?? He calls you names, is ultra jealous, and doesn't love you for who you are. Is he "making an effort" for you?? Is he generous and kind... (read in full...)
Next step: should I run for second base?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 years, i am 14 years old and so is he. We have made out, kissed, cuddle, and stuff but i don't know what the next step should be? Should it be more sexually or something else? i am not sure what to do....
A. 22 April 2010: You are too young to be taking such a huge risk. SEX is a massive risk. Don't engage in it unless you are able and mature enough to take care of a baby. Trust me, YOU AREN'T, and no 10-second orgasm is worth the risk.
You and your boyfrien... (read in full...)
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