How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: She isn't the one with the problem. You are. You should be apologizing and validating HER for your obsessive treatment of her past before you. She shouldn't be smoothing your ruffled feathers forever.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: You've gotta chill out. You need to make a serious choice. You can either love your wife UNCONDITIONALLY, or you can get hung up about a choice she made before she met you. If you let this continue to eat you up, it will erode your relationship ... (read in full...)
Am I a man whore???
Q. Okay so people keep calling me these names and I'm just sick of it. I'm 17 and I'm gay. The think is I get turned on very easily and am very friendly and flirtatious. So I tend to flirt with a lot of guys... and some girls too. And even when not ...
A. 1 June 2010: Nah, you've gotta be yourself! Too many people out there have hangups that cause them to be terrified about what other people think. You see it in the similar way that people dress, in the inhibitions that exist without the presence of alcohol, ... (read in full...)
My mom spanks me with a shoe, hairbrush and sometimes a belt. How can I talk to her about this?
Q. Hi its a bit embarassing but I'm still getting spanked by my mom usually with her shoe or hairbrush sometimes with a belt. It hurts a lot and I sometimes have trouble sitting after. She wasnt always like this but after my Dad left she has no patie...
A. 1 June 2010: I was in your position at your age. My mom had no patience and no control over her temper either. In this day and age, it's less acceptable to have that done.
I would recommend talking not to your mom at first, but your school counselo... (read in full...)
Please put my mind at rest!
Q. Okay, so my girlfriend and i were messing around. we don't believe in having sex, however the other day she gave me a handjob... and i got some on my fingers... about ten minutes later i touched her vagina.. Am i safe? Is she pregnant?...
A. 1 June 2010: Hmm...the odds of getting pregnant are slim in this case, but if you touched her with hands full of semen, you might want to consider having her take the morning after pill. Hopefully there is still time. ... (read in full...)
Is being with 6 men sexually by the age of 30 a lot?
Q. okay so this is a very random curious question. I'm turning 30 and have been with 6 men sexually. Is this a lot for a woman of my age to have been with that many men? Sometimes i wonder and feel bad about my sexual experiences. ...
A. 31 May 2010: You're right, Lazy Guy. Guys can lie, that's for sure.
I saw the guy's spreadsheet and saw him chase everything that moved. No, I wasn't one of them. LOL :P ... (read in full...)
Sexless husband at his limit..
Q. My wife and I do not have a sex life. In the past 3 years we have made love once. We don't flirt, no passionate kissing or anything. Pretty much she is like my sister. She is a decent mother and a good friend but the spark is gone. She has g...
A. 31 May 2010: Sex once in 3 years is beyond a case of her moods, and I fear with that long time past, she's getting set in her ways. I recommend nothing less than marital counselling with a third party professional, as it's become obvious that it won't be solved ... (read in full...)
Should he be saying this if he's not my boyfriend?
Q. Well, me and this guy have been talking for about two weeks. He's really sweet, we get along really good. I like him a lot. We constantly text, all the time. He keeps the conversation flowing asks me questions. We have hung out a few times, we've ...
A. 31 May 2010: Ahhh, he might love you! I know it seems a bit early, and I applaud you for being honest and not saying it just because he does. If he's your age, I'm sure he's saying it because he's never felt this strongly for someone else before he met you. ... (read in full...)
After I masturbate, its hard to pee!
Q. I'm a girl, after I masturbate it's hard to pee...Eventually once I do I have to go a lot. Is this normal? If not, I'm too scared to tell my parents. Please give me an answer....
A. 31 May 2010: Don't worry, it's normal! When you become aroused (whether it's solo or with someone), as your clitoris swells and fills with blood, your vulva shuts off preventing the anticipated vaginal fluid and urine from going places it's not supposed to. ... (read in full...)
Is being with 6 men sexually by the age of 30 a lot?
Q. okay so this is a very random curious question. I'm turning 30 and have been with 6 men sexually. Is this a lot for a woman of my age to have been with that many men? Sometimes i wonder and feel bad about my sexual experiences. ...
A. 31 May 2010: Nah, 6 isn't a lot at all! Ask the men on here how many women they've been with by the time they were 30. I heard of one guy who claimed to have been with over 100 women and had a spreadsheet to prove it. I'm assuming you're disease free, so no ... (read in full...)
I don't have an hymen even though I'm not an athelete.
Q. hii!iam not an athlete..but i dont hav an hymen layer..i found this when me and my boyfriend had sex..from that point of time he is suspecting me a lot..!!i was a virgin when i slept with him..but he is not trusting me b'coz of the absence of hymen ...
A. 31 May 2010: Awww, don't worry about it. I lost my hymen before I had sex for the first time. I was too young when I wore a tampon for the first time, and boy did it hurt like heck!
But some girls don't ever have hymens, some lose it because of some acc... (read in full...)
Am I a tramp?
Q. I've been a very bad discusting person well i think so anyway :( ive had sex with two boys in the space of a month, and other sexual acts with them too spreading over 5 months im just realising now that i feel nasty and horrible, im sucha tramp...
A. 31 May 2010: You're no more a tramp than a guy who does the same thing. You're not stealing married guys or cheating on a boyfriend. You're just exploring. Like the others have said, I hope you're being extra safe about it, because whether it's casual sex or ... (read in full...)
How do you break up with a "nice guy"?
Q. I have fallen out of love with my boyfriend. he is a wonderful person, kind, considerate I just dont love him any more. My question is how do you break up with someone who has done nothing wrong? Iv only ever been in messy breakups where i have ...
A. 31 May 2010: Before you break up with him, think about why you don't want to be with him anymore. Are you bored? Is he boring? Are you more in a personal rut in your own life and want to make a change? You seem to know the exact time that you fell out of ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is ignoring my phone calls and text
Q. Hello, My girlfriend left for the weekend with some friends. She told me that she will be staying in contact with me the whole weekend. She kept her promise all the way until yesterday afternoon when she texted me. I replied to her later on but she ...
A. 31 May 2010: Okay, you're being too clingy to this girl. She's gone for a weekend, not 4 months, and she stayed in contact until yesterday. You're smothering her big time.
It's good for a relationship to "breathe", meaning sometimes it's good to take a b... (read in full...)
Help my girlfriend cheated on me and I need to know what to do I'm so sad!!!!
Q. I have been dating this girl for 9 months. I am 16 years old. she is 15. i love her so much as she says she loves me just as much. at the beginning of our relationship she would talk to lots of guys and i would get jealous and tell her not to....
A. 31 May 2010: Geeze. Okay, listen. This girl is NOT good for you. First of all, NO ONE should lay their hands on another person. Her hitting you is NOT right. It doesn't matter that you're a guy and she's a girl. That's physical ABUSE., and she will not ... (read in full...)
Nitpicking everything and turning it into a fight!
Q. I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm nit-picking everything in my relationship and turning it into a fight. Sometimes, I feel like I'm so in love and I couldn't imagine being without my boyfriend, but ever once in a while, I don't want him t...
A. 31 May 2010: What makes you not want to be near him? What does he do that makes you feel smothered? Do you know? Would it help to talk it out here and figure it out?... (read in full...)
When we first started seeing each other, I had just recently broken up with my ex-girlfriend. I stupidly brought her into several conversations we had early on.
Q. Hello, all. I have situation, in which, I could use some advice. I have been dating a wonderful woman for a year and a half, we have a lot in common and there exists a lot of love between us. Now onto the problem: When we first started seein...
A. 31 May 2010: The best thing you can do is invite her to coffee and open your heart to hear about this whole thing. Be as honest and candid with her as you're being with us, and don't sugar coat it or beat around the bush. Tell her you are interested in a ... (read in full...)
Does this mean that I'm gay?
Q. I have only masturbated twice but have tried to much more but just can't, sometimes i have tried for hours and i ejaculate but it's only a dribble. One day after an hour or so of trying to cum i decided to try a new thing and put on some gay porn ...
A. 31 May 2010: Sexuality isn't a cut-and-dry thing. Just because you responded to gay porn doesn't make you gay. Now if you start finding yourself attracted to men, then you might very well have to evaluate.
Don't sweat it. You're young. :)... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, and want him to fight to get me back
Q. i thought my boyfriend was cheating on me he denies it. and i still broke up with him. me and my boyfriend has a on again off again relationship . we just cant seem to stay away from each other .. my boyfriend isnt an emotional person but i want him...
A. 31 May 2010: The short answer is that you can't make him beg for you. I always say - never break up with someone unless you really mean it. Think of a breakup (or a divorce) as a nuclear bomb that levels a relationship to the ground. A breakup is never meant ... (read in full...)
I think I fancy my best mate
Q. I think I fancy my best mate, but I don't want to ask him out in case he says no and it breaks the great friendship we have, I'm so confused. we have been friends for 9 years help me please....
A. 31 May 2010: It's a huge risk, that's for sure, but I don't think it would ultimately ruin your friendship by being open with how you feel. ... (read in full...)
Could the problem be that he's gay?
Q. I saw a guy recently and first time in the bedroom he refused to have penetrative sex or oral sex.Up until then lots of cuddles kisses.Could he be gay?He wanted oral from me all the time.He is from Syria but 44 and travelling around Europe for20 ...
A. 31 May 2010: He could also be carrying an STD he hasn't yet told you about.... (read in full...)
Cheated..and relized how much I loved my boyfreind
Q. I've had this problem for about a year but i almost went all the way by cheating on my boyfreind .we got into this huge fight and end up leaving last nite had a man freind come get me down the street my mind was to cheat on him because i have ...
A. 31 May 2010: Yeah, you did just cheat on your boyfriend with this "man friend". If your boyfriend isn't doing it for you, don't cheat. Break up and find someone new.... (read in full...)
He says he never loved me and just wanted to have sex!
Q. Help! I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago and I feel like im missing something. Its really strange because it always happens whenever i break-up with a boyfriend. also he keeps on texting me sayin that he never loved me and he just wa...
A. 31 May 2010: Listen, this guy is a complete liar. If that were true and that you were too "ugly and fat", he wouldn't have wanted to have sex with you.
The truth was he never loved you but he wanted to selfishly use you and take advantage of you, and inst... (read in full...)
I wish I had the life that my ex does
Q. i feel lonely at times..my ex and i broke up and we had a year of no contact..i still had feelings for him so i contacted him and we have been talking for almost a year now. I make sure if we are on the phone--i sound nice, happy and busy most of ...
A. 31 May 2010: My guess is that he's making himself sound busy to impress you. That's out of the "talking with your ex" handbook you know - always sound busy and slightly mysterious.
You can't compare your life with his or anyone else's. Think about what you... (read in full...)
I need to end this relationship with a married woman!
Q. I have being having a relationship with a married woman for 1.5 years who is a work collegue. Everytime I try to end it I always end up going back.She kind of panics and makes me feel guilty to a extent that I will hurt her. She doesnt want me to ...
A. 31 May 2010: The person who should feel guilty is her for cheating on her husband. You're doing the right thing by trying to end it. One thing you may want to think about if you need help ending it is - imagine YOU were the husband, and she's cheating on you ... (read in full...)
Three days ago everything was good -- what's going on?
Q. hello, I need help please: tree days ago, everything was good between me and my boyfriend, he was caring and very romantic even if I didn't have much time to be with him because of my exams but the last time I called him he was not as he used to be, ...
A. 31 May 2010: That guy sounds like a real winner. He actually did you a favor by shutting you out and posting that Facebook comment. You got to see that he is a confrontation avoider as well as a cheating jerk. Imagine if you had married him or moved in with ... (read in full...)
Can this work?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles... looking for some feedback here! My current boyfriend and I have known each other since high school and have been together for about four months. We moved really fast once getting together, although neither of us were trying ...
A. 31 May 2010: How long have you two been seeing each other, and how serious is your relationship?
Relationships are built on compromise and trust, but they're also built on freedom. Good relationships encourage each other to follow their dreams and become b... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 31 May 2010: First of all, she's not with this guy. She's with you, and take it from me: Sex with an anonymous stranger for a one night stand isn't all it's cracked up to be. I guarantee that she gains 50x more pleasure and meaning from being with you who she ... (read in full...)
After his surgery he thinks I'm going to leave him, how can I sort this?
Q. I have been with my partner for amost 3 years and we have talked about having a baby i already have one child who is 7 but seem to be having trouble getting pregnant so we have gone to the fertility clinic i had to have a operation 2 months ago to ...
A. 31 May 2010: You should leave him for smoking cannabis and exposing your daughter to it. He's yelling at your daughter and looking at other women. Apparantly, he's not happy with his life, and the two of you would be better off not together. You do not want ... (read in full...)
Can't get my boyfriend to cum on my own?
Q. I'll give him a blowjob.. handjob and he'll be like making noises and shaking, and he's all wet.. and you can tell it's genuine and he says he loves it + that i'm the best he's ever had but then he goes 'omg i could cum now' so then he takes hi...
A. 30 May 2010: Oh yeah, he's too used to doing it on his own. There are some guys who can't even finish during sex because they're too used to porn/doing it themself.
You could ask him to do it to himself while you watch so you can figure out his techniqu... (read in full...)
His 'other woman' is a playstation!
Q. Hello never thought id go to a website for help...... Well here it goes Ive been married for 5 years, my marriage was going great. Till my husband bought a play-station 3 he is in denial of his lack of interest in our relationship. I ...
A. 29 May 2010: Yeah, Playstations can be addicting. Your husband does have to learn balance when it comes to playing it. It's usually the way it goes when one gets a new game that there's tons of playing it and staying up until 3am for nights on end.
You t... (read in full...)
Help!!! How do you continue a romantic relationship with someone who is your blood relative?
Q. I just recently found out that my boyfriend of 1 year is my half-brother. Apparantly my father "got around" a lot more than I had thought. My bf and I have talked many times about our family and what attracted me to him was how much we have in ...
A. 29 May 2010: Man, they make Lifetime movies about stuff like this. :P
The relationship will have to end, as legally, you can't be in a relationship with your brother, even a half brother.
But don't beat yourself up over it - you didn't know he was your brot... (read in full...)
He rejected me because I wasn't a virgin, but I don't want to live without him
Q. I was in a relationship for 2 years,but after that we broke up,and i had sex with him,he didn't cheat me but we are not perfect for each other,so we decided to broke up,then after that now i am in a relationship with another boy from last 4-5 ...
A. 28 May 2010: I wonder if HE was a virgin. :P... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is an alcoholic and I want him to not use alcohol to deal with his problems..
Q. well the thing is, my bf was an addict when he was a teenager. and now we have been together for 5 yrs now, now he is 25. It started 2 yrs ago,he used to drink alchohol only with friends...then it got worse, and became a habit. Now he drinks every...
A. 28 May 2010: You will never be able to change him. All of your effort and love and desire that he stop abusing alcohol will not be effective. This guy has to want to change himself, and right now, he doesn't want to.
The real question is - what is good for... (read in full...)
G/f very ill and I have lost my attraction to her
Q. Ok, so here it is...my girlfriend (21) and I (24) have been dating for 4 years now, most of it a long-distance relationship until we moved in together. She suffers from severe ulcerative colitis, and she's had episodes every year we've been together...
A. 28 May 2010: Well, yes, you are being selfish. What is it that you feel you're "wasting"? The ability to attract and sleep with beautiful women?
I guess what's painfully clear is that you do not love this sick girl. That's your choice, and if you're g... (read in full...)
I feel I need to be single but am scared to break with this wonderful man..
Q. I need so much advice. I'm only 20 years old and I'm in this relationship with a wonderful man. He is caring and sweet and I love him very very much. But, I'm unhappy because i feel like I'm growing up too fast. The last couple of years of hig...
A. 28 May 2010: Make sure you let him off really gently and tell him that it's not his fault you need to be on your own. It's going to hurt him, and from what it sounds like, he's a good guy. Make sure this is truly what you want.... (read in full...)
Please help me: After discovering his porn obsession my confidence and life has plummeted, I'm depressed, not aroused and coucilling is doing nothing
Q. Where to start, well my boyfriend of three years looks at a lot of pictures of nude women on the internet. I discovered this almost a year ago, and before I knew about it, I was very confident about the way my body looked, not in an egotisti...
A. 28 May 2010: You hit it on the nail - your guy is addicted to porn. Believe me when I say to you that it's not because you have any problems in any way. There is nothing wrong with your body or your sexuality, and he's not into that stuff because of anything ... (read in full...)
I'm mortified and feel like hiding from the world- I got some braces and they look worse than I thought they would!
Q. I have just got braces and I am 28 and I have never had much confidence and it has taken me a while to do this but they are horrible and I feel really ugly and I am frightened to go out and I don't want to go back to work. I knew they wouldn't look ...
A. 28 May 2010: I had braces too and I hated them. I love what my teeth look like now because of them! I know it totally sucks having to walk about being a metal mouth, and it changes the way you sound when you talk.
The trick is to take them lightly,... (read in full...)
Is my husband cheating or just insecure?
Q. My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and he has a son from a previous and we have 2 kids together.Im a stay at home mommy looking to go back to school. we met right away got married right away then had our first child right after. ...
A. 28 May 2010: No happily married man goes out every weekend and stays out until 4-5am. It just doesn't happen. You have good reason to be concerned.
If he's lying to you, you'll have to get help and catch him in the act. Men who are cheating will often tr... (read in full...)
Hey I was wondering when guys say they don't know why two girls fooling around turn them on do they mean it?
Q. Hey i was wondering when guys say they dont know why two girls fooling around turn them on do they mean it? Iv been just wondering cause like all guys i know say they dont know why it does lol, also cause all the girls i know dont get turned on when ...
A. 28 May 2010: I'm not a guy, but that's an easy one. Heterosexual males are turned on by WOMEN. They're turned on by women doing anything sexual, be it with a man or with each other or with themselves pleasuring themselves. ... (read in full...)
Should I play hard to get, contact him, or just forget him
Q. ok so there is this guy that i used to work with until he was transferred a couple of weeks ago to another store. while we did work together we became friends and eventually our friendship turned into something more. i was in the middle of a ...
A. 28 May 2010: Ahh...playing games is always not a good idea. However, he sounds like a total player. Would you want to date a guy who has no issues with cheating on his girlfriend? I wouldn't! ... (read in full...)
Is it odd for a girl to go clubbing with groups of guys?
Q. I was just wondering what people (guys and girls!) think about a girl going along on a night out with mainly guys? Twice in the past I have gone out for drinks/clubbing as the only girl in a group of guys - the first time it was pretty good fun, ...
A. 28 May 2010: I actually feel more comfortable with guys than a group of girls, but that's because I'm a tomboy who grew up with exclusively brothers and played video games and Transformers rather than My Little Pony and Cabbage Patch Kids.
Do what feels co... (read in full...)
Why do men like fake breasts so much?
Q. I just think they look so silly, I mean, it's rare you get a slim woman with naturally big breasts, yet men seem find this so sexually attractive. Just wondering why? Breasts aren't supossed to defiy gravity! And big ones on such small women look ...
A. 28 May 2010: Ahhh...I don't have a lot informational to say about this, but I really liked the men's comments on this one. I've often wondered myself what the fascination for silicone was! :)
Thanks, guys!!... (read in full...)
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