Can you love someone with bad skin?
Q. I have really bad skin. I don't mean acne or some dry skin, I actually mean eczema and chronic dry skin. On top of that I suffer from allergies and hay fever, so all year round I just have horrendous skin. I have rough hands, dry flaky nose and ...
A. 2 May 2010: There are people who have amputated limbs, deformities, blind, hearing impaired, misanthropic, and terminally ill people who find someone and fall in love. There is someone out there for you. I'm thinking that you are far more conscious of your ... (read in full...)
I think my room mate's ex was hitting on me
Q. My roommate and her boyfriend broke up a week or so ago after a little over a year together. They still talk to each other, but are not officially "seeing each other." Last night her ex IMed me on facebook and we started talking, and it seemed ...
A. 2 May 2010: Ugh...he sounds like a real winner. :P
Yes, if you and your roommate are friends, and they're still talking, you should tell her what happened. ... (read in full...)
Awkward situation with Boyfriend as I cant get to the orgasm!
Q. I am in a long distance relationship since last 2 years. After a rough ride, things are finally smooth. Both of us are happy and satisfied and we love each other a lot. We make every effort to stay as much in touch as possible now. We casually ...
A. 2 May 2010: You have to take the pressure off of yourself to perform for him. You're a very honest person, and that's awesome.
I'd recommend spending some time with just yourself without him and learn more about how you work. Get some books about how to d... (read in full...)
At 14, am I too young for sex?
Q. I'm 14 . my bf is 17 . one question , is this wrong ? we are both in love w / each other ( told each other in october ) and want to have sex . both our first time . question # 2 , I too young ? we've been together for the 2 nd time in august ....
A. 1 May 2010: The real question you should ask yourself is:
Am I old enough to handle the RISKS of sex?
Meaning, are you old enough to be a mom? Are you old enough to deal with the burden of herpes or another STD?
Are you old enough to handle the emo... (read in full...)
A 26-year old man is beginning to fall for me after his fight with an ex; how can I solve this?
Q. Hey, I know this may sound weird, but i'll give it a shot: My best friend's boyfriend's brother is almost 26 years old. He recently found out that his girlfriend had an affair with his brother, and was freaking out. Since my bff, her bf and i always ...
A. 1 May 2010: You are too young. Goowes said it - it's illegal, and you're not in the same place in life as he is. Don't let him use you as his rebound safety net. You will get seriously hurt.... (read in full...)
I don't want to give up if there is still a chance! Should I talk to her again?
Q. There's a girl in a few of my classes who I've liked for a few months now. We talk occasionally (class) and have had a couple good 30+ min one-on-one conversions (field trip/class) Also it may just be me but a few times we have met eyes and she ...
A. 1 May 2010: Yeah, asking someone to prom as a first date is awkward, and she probably did set it up with a friend to take the awkwardness out of it.
Sure you can ask her out, but find out what she likes first before you ask, so instead of the old "hey, wa... (read in full...)
I'm very upset that boyfriend spent money he didn't have to buy a gun!
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 8 months just recently went on holiday with a little money he saved up. He wanted to do something nice for me and both of us don't have much money at the moment as we are unemployed, so I thought it was a kind gesture. Whil...
A. 1 May 2010: You're not married, and I assume you're living together? If he's holding up his end of the bargain and paying his half of the bills, he can get whatever he wants.
Joint saving is something married people do, and unmarried people are under ab... (read in full...)
I feel used and abused. I thought he was a considerate boy.
Q. I was with my boyfriend for a month and a half, it went so well and everything, he was spoiling me rotten, after a month and a half, I ended it with him because: he started lying to me, not giving me money back which I gave to him, never asked me to ...
A. 1 May 2010: He did you a favor by showing you his real self, which usually happens after the "honeymoon" period in a relationship fades. Some women are so unfortunate as to not see this until after they marry the guy or have kids by them.
Feel sorry for this... (read in full...)
I don't mind if my husband watches porn but he lies to me about it!
Q. i have a problem,i think.my husband loves porn and so do i but i dont tell him that.my problem is when he watches it he lies to me about it,and i have told him several times that i dont care just dont lie to me about it ya know.and another thing is ...
A. 1 May 2010: Yeah, don't feel insecure about porn stars. They don't exist in nature, and most women aren't obligated to stuff themselves with silicone and shave themselves to look like 11-year old girls. Most of those porn stars are NOT having fun.
With ... (read in full...)
I told her she'd have to wait 8 years for us to be together!
Q. I am a 18years old guy in a relationship with a girl of 21years for over a year now. I really do love her,and she does love me,not for my money[which i dont have] or anything. Her parents are in support but i dont know if we can be together in ...
A. 1 May 2010: You'll be okay! It's in the best interest of you and her (or someone else, if she doesn't wait) to plan your future carefully. ... (read in full...)
How can I back down and tell my daughter I am sorry?
Q. My only daughter has always been my baby girl. Ever since she was just a little girl she talked about beign a princess on her wedding day. I always told her that I would make her a princess on that day, I just didn't think that day would come so ...
A. 1 May 2010: She's a grownup! Not long ago, women were marrying at age 14-17! Your pride and ego are screwing up your daughter's relationship. This isn't about your opinion, it's about your daughter's happiness, and your behavior will stay with them and you ... (read in full...)
I think I have blown all my chances with her by standing back
Q. Hello im looking for some help with a situation with my best friend who is a girl. We have known each other since we were 15 and were now 25, we were always really close but never anything more, i knew she liked me but at the time i was young and ...
A. 1 May 2010: I think you answered your own question, that you blew your chances by standing back. This is a huge lesson for your next love relationship. If you feel for someone, SHOW IT! Women bond by emotions - touching, kissing, holding hands, long talks ... (read in full...)
My sister seems to have it all ...
Q. Have you ever been envious of your sister? I am, all the time. She always gets more attention than I, is way prettier and richer than me. Even though she is already 35 and married, every one still adores her youth and beauty. I know I'm being me...
A. 1 May 2010: You know, you're 18-21 and she's 35. I wouldn't wonder if she's writing a letter similar to yours saying that she's jealous of YOU. You don't need plastic surgery. Life isn't about competing with others for permission to love yourself. This is ... (read in full...)
His actions don't match his words of love
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship for almost eight years, married the last three. My husband had a couple of bad relationships and has difficulty trusting anyone. One relationship resulted in a child he paid support for and never saw pa...
A. 1 May 2010: The husband "not trusting" is a lie from him. If he didn't trust you, he wouldn't have married you. The "couple of bad relationships" is his excuse for furthering his porn addiction, which has taken over his life. I know that part hurts, but ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has become Jekyl and Hyde
Q. Hi, My boyfriend really isnt himself lately, we're on a break because he needs to finish college and stuff we've been together for 4 months and up until then its been perfect then the other day he decided he wanted a break so he could finish c...
A. 1 May 2010: Unfortunately, the whole "We're on a break" thing is really a permanent breakup, but he didn't have the guts to just come out with it. He's now saying it with his actions. I don't think talking it over again with him will help.
The best thing yo... (read in full...)
How can I find a guy who wont mess me around or just want a bit of fun?
Q. hey, i know im only young but im fed up of being messed about by boys and want to find someone that is tidy for a change. when i go out i do get boys numbers but they always just want a bit of fun and nothing else. someone have suggested dating ...
A. 30 April 2010: Skova is absolutely right. Go for guys who get YOUR number. And it's possible that you're in the wrong place to get the good ones.
People may laugh, but church or a good hobby or the gym might be a good place to find someone interest... (read in full...)
If I have not had sex for a long time, will doing it again feel like the first time?
Q. I haven't had sex for a long time now.When I do it again,is it going to feel like the first time?...
A. 30 April 2010: Heh. Depends on how your first time was. If you're with someone better than who you had the first time, I'd say it would be better. If you're with some jerk, I'd have to say it wouldn't.... (read in full...)
How can I stop my boyfriend from being so scared of sex toys?
Q. Hi, My bf is scared of sex toys... He says he feels intimidated by them, and that he has had a couple of women tell him hes dumped they bought a dildo and showed him the door, one of these girls (i used to know her and she wasnt terribly freindl...
A. 30 April 2010: Ahh...the plight of the male ego. And your mom said that on a post-it note? What's she doing going around sniffing your stuff? Ew.
But back to your boyfriend. Tell him to keep an open mind, and you'll promise not to make jokes or smack hi... (read in full...)
Why cant he just be happy with kissing me?
Q. I seem to have a bit of a problem with a guy, everytime we get together and kiss he always asks me to give him a blow job, the thing is we have just started kissing, it's really starting to annoy me because I like him a lot and I have said to him ...
A. 30 April 2010: I understand you being annoyed. The guy views kissing as a cumbersome means to an end, and you want him to see kissing AS a pleasure in itself. Your guy is way too impatient. You don't have to do anything you don't want to, and guys *can* help ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive my ex and continute to hope she will come back to me one day?
Q. I love my ex, we were together for almost 4 years. We were always arguing for probably 6 months (which was 1 of the reasons to me getting depression). The problem mostly was we never gave each other space, especialy her as she in very clingy. It ...
A. 26 April 2010: Okay, as long as you keep thinking that you can't "forgive" your ex, you will be in emotional prison.
As long as you hold out hope that she will return to you, you will be in emotional prison.
As long as you continue to nurse your depression ... (read in full...)
Porn is taking over his life! What can I do?
Q. My husband spends more time looking at and downloading porn than he does with me. He wont even let me watch it with him. What do i do? ...
A. 26 April 2010: It's an addiction for your husband, much like heroin or meth. He can't break away even if he wanted to. And it doesn't sound like he wants to. To put you at ease, it's NOT because of you. You didn't do anything wrong, and it's not because you ... (read in full...)
Will masturbating make my penis bigger?
Q. Hi! I am Gay and in my Teens and have an issue that I need help with. The thing is that I am unsure about the results of masturbating. I have a regular size penis but I want to know if masturbation or time will change my penis to regular size for my ...
A. 26 April 2010: Nope, it won't change your penis size. However, you being 13-15 means that you're not finished growing and maturing. Your penis will grow larger, but not because of masturbation.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I like him as a person and would love to get to know him more?
Q. OK. So good news is, i finally took the guts to end things with my ex-bf in a good way.-Been Four months and i finally decide to do this. Done also, i stopped contacting a guy who's just using me as a booty call. i accepted his flaws and all ti...
A. 26 April 2010: Well, tell him you broke up with your BF for crying out loud! However, he was willing to have you cheat on your BF and sneak off with you. It's possible he was more into the sex and intrigue than he was with you.
Don't have sex so quickly ... (read in full...)
Why was my ex so eager to talk to me but now she has made no more attempts to talk again?
Q. I talked to my ex for the first time Friday after almost 2 months since we broke up and a month of not talking even though we were in NC for over 3 weeks. I have some earlier post on this site where I mentioned how she initiated contact with me,...
A. 26 April 2010: Well, you might not like to hear this, but seeing you probably brought to her mind and emotions why you two broke up in the first place. I'm sorry to have to tell you that. She probably is getting advice from friends of hers too that she's talked ... (read in full...)
Is she interested in me even though I always have to initiate contact with her first?
Q. I got a facebook page and I put this one girl who I went to school with I think she liked me any way I. Put her as a friend now we friend we texting back and fourth it going good the thing is she does not really texts first she waits tell I texts to ...
A. 26 April 2010: Ahhh..she is interested in you. And she's keeping YOU interested. If you like her, ask her out! Life is about risk! Text her a bit more, find out her interests, whether it's sports, concerts, movies, museums, the mall, and ask her on a targetted ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cheated on me and told me he does not love me anymore, but he will stay with me and pretend he has feelings for me!
Q. What do you do when your bf of over a year tells you even when he doesn't love you anymore, he'll keep you and lie that he still has feelings for you. Later on you find out that he's cheated on you with a girl from his university. ...
A. 26 April 2010: What do you do when your BF doesn't love you anymore and cheats on you? Then he says (pretends) he still has feelings for you?
He has more feelings for HIMSELF. Tell him to shove his feelings where the sun doesn't shine. Tell him you're t... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my brother want me to visit him?
Q. i am 19 and my 13 year old brother has anorexia and he has been hospitalized as his heart rate is very low so he has to stay in there for 2-3 weeks. I was going to see him today but he told my mom that he didn't want me to go. I know he is unwell ...
A. 26 April 2010: Aww...just give him time. He's ashamed and feels not himself. You two are best friends, so I'm sure he looks up to you and feels like he's disappointed you somehow. Poor guy. Don't worry, he *will* want to see you and talk to you. Just give him ... (read in full...)
What did he mean by this comment?
Q. What does this mean?? sex question..x? when a guy and girl have sex and the girl enjoys it herself does that mean the guy did as well?? cos when i have sex with my bf i really enjoy it..he'd would be smiling would seem alot happier.. hmmm weir...
A. 26 April 2010: Hmm...you know? The "going quiet" is interesting! You know what that means? I think it means he has feelings for you that he doesn't yet feel ready to express. When guys get feelings of love (or extreme "like") for a girl, sometimes they hold it ... (read in full...)
How can I tighten my vagina
Q. i m 29 years unmarried girl and lost my virginty 2 years back.i m still having sexual relation and my vagina become very loose.now my parents fix my marriage with another guy so how can i tighten my vagina faster....
A. 26 April 2010: Look up Kegel exercises on the internet. Those will help you greatly. What it pretty much means is, the next time you go to the bathroom, stop and start the urine flow several times. That will tighten and strengthen your muscles.... (read in full...)
He acts interested but then always leaves without saying goodbye!
Q. I met this guy in January through a good friend of mine on a night out clubbing. He kept eyeing me and made a pass at me but I was quite shy at the time, and even though I was attracted to him I stayed away. After that I added him on facebook but we ...
A. 26 April 2010: Good grief. Who cares if he has "groupies". If he can't put the effort into something as simple as a goodbye, then he's not worth it. Maybe once can be excuseable, but more than once? Nope. That's a character flaw.
You should never have a r... (read in full...)
Ex texted me acting as though we never split up. WHY?
Q. I have an update to a previous situation with my now ex girlfriend. I'm seeing a new girl, she's more my own age and really nice, we're getting on well and I'm optimistic. There's none of the games that my ex played but I put that down to the age ...
A. 26 April 2010: Yeah, she's missing you. You're doing the right thing by cutting her off. Sometimes, the old denial thing sets in by ex'es when the dust settles on a breakup. The "he was just mad" thing. And, unfortunately, this is one reason why the "let's ... (read in full...)
I ripped the shirt off his back and he broke up with me but I want him back!
Q. boyfriend of a year and a half doesn't want me anymore :( everything was perfect when we first got together but he was doing all of the running as i could take it or leave it but now it's the other way around. he's really down and depressed and take...
A. 26 April 2010: You two are finished. You have to move on. You can't change him, or lift him out of his depression. And why on earth would you want to stay, knowing that he takes jabs at you and doesn't respect you? Every time he verbally kicks you like a... (read in full...)
I'm scared, but I do want to talk to him
Q. hi, i need a help. i love a guy from past 3 years. i don't know if he is aware of it or not because long back i was came to know from other people that it has been known to him about me. and till now we haven't yet talked with each other. i love him ...
A. 24 April 2010: I'd just look him in the eyes and tell him. I know it's really scary, but you've been waiting for 3 years for him. Just smile at him and ask him to dinner!... (read in full...)
Could the bleeding be from a broken hymen?
Q. Okay Im a virgin I used a dildo today for the first time,. Afterwards I was bleedin and still kinda am , did i break the hymen ? please help thanks. x...
A. 24 April 2010: Yeah, it sounds like that's what you did. You either broke it outright or you tore it. You could go see a Dr. to confirm it if the bleeding doesn't stop. Some girls have broken their hymen riding a bicycle, riding a horse, or using a tampon for ... (read in full...)
My dad's best friend is becoming too forward with me
Q. I am unsure of what to do in an increasingly complex situation. Theres this man who works for my dad, has done for the last 5 years. He has lived with us for 2, as his 'home' its too far to travel every day to work, he goes home to his wife at the ...
A. 24 April 2010: YUCK! What a dirty old man. You don't have to put up with it. You must not be chastising him strongly enough, and by all means tell your dad and maybe this dirty man's wife, who will not like the idea of this guy perving all over you.
You m... (read in full...)
Just to be sure I'm not pregnant...
Q. I’m 19 and I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time…my period came about the 6 of April and I think I was ovulating about the 22. My question is that I did bleed a bit and I still am but light. We used a condom (it did not break) and he pull ...
A. 24 April 2010: I think you covered your bases. Your boyfriend pulled out AND wore a condom, and you took the plan B. The pill is good, but make sure you don't smoke and don't have high blood pressure. Pills can screw with a woman's hormones and make her feel ... (read in full...)
Dealing with a bratty girlfriend?
Q. The more I learn about my girlfriend, the more I get turned off. In short, my girlfriend is bratty, and I feel is borderline gold-digger. Ironically, she knows that I think this, and will try to clean my image of her up by saying things like, "I ...
A. 24 April 2010: Hmm...sounds like she's lost sight of the reason for the dresses and the rings - your marriage and happy life together.
Unfortunately, society stresses so much on the perfect wedding, where it's all about the bride being queen for a day. The wedd... (read in full...)
Why does my ex girlfriend keep contacting me?
Q. Hi - can anyone help? A year ago my girlfriend ended our relationship after 2 years. I was certain that she was meeting someone else but could never prove it - she says that she wasnt - but a couple of days later I spoke to her and she said to ...
A. 24 April 2010: Yep. Tell her never to contact you again. You need to erase these feelings for her from your heart. That's possible, you know.... (read in full...)
I get excited by other boy's bums more than I do over girls
Q. hi, im sorry if this gets a bit long. so im very very confussed about my sexuality. everyday i go to college and i cant help my self i look at all the bums of the boys. i imagine them naked, and in sexual situations. but with girls i dont do ...
A. 24 April 2010: Sounds like you could be gay. You're young, and youth is all about exploration. Find a guy who's got the same feelings you do and see where it might go. Just don't date a girl and play around with guys on the side. Be who you know you are.... (read in full...)
I wonder sometimes if I should be more bothered by his cheating
Q. my boyfriend told me last night that he cheated on me 3 times with 3 different guys. like any other boyfriend, I sorta freaked out. But an hour later, it didnt really phase me at all. Before I got with him, I knew he had a history of cheating with ...
A. 24 April 2010: This guy will never change. He was a cheater before he met you, and he'll be one after you come to your senses and break up with him.
Here's one thing to get upset about: Cheating puts the non-cheating partner at grave risk, especial... (read in full...)
Do women enjoy sex as much as men?
Q. I an always wondering cause ladies have different answers.. Do ladies love sex as much as men if not more?...
A. 24 April 2010: HP's right.
Women with guys who are 2-minute bandits who just go in, unload, and pull out will have frustrated partners who hate sex.
Men who know what they're doing and take their time will have really satisfied girlfriends or wives who wil... (read in full...)
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