How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 11 June 2010: Miamine, you're absolutely right about Christians being more zealous over what other people do in their bedrooms than what they themselves are doing for the poor and hurting.
However, Jesus himself gave perhaps the most scathing remarks about lu... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 10 June 2010: Actually, the passage of scripture that dealt with Onan "spilling his seed" has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with masturbation. Onan wasn't masturbating. If you want to get legal, it has to do with pulling out during sex, or "coitus ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and feeling unloved!
Q. I am 30 years old. I have been married for 5 years and am currently pregnant with my second child. My husband has refuse to have sex while am pregnant. My husband is one of those husbands that does'nt share his feelings or say much. He comes home ...
A. 10 June 2010: When you caught him getting off to porn, did you walk in on him, or did you slink off and let him finish?
You need to not be so nervous around him. Like Celia said, you need to confront him and tell him exactly what his behavior is doing to you. ... (read in full...)
Too much body hair, how much will he care?
Q. Hello, I am a 16 year old girl with too much body hair... My back and stomach. I have a boyfriend, he's amazing. He thinks I am so hot and I have the perfect body. When he goes to rub my tummy or my back, I pull my shirt down. He always asks why...
A. 10 June 2010: Unless you're Chewbacca, I'm sure that your self-image is a bit more extreme than you really are. We all have features whose ugliness we exaggerate.
If you're just not able to break away from the self-consciousness, you might want to go get w... (read in full...)
How to start a conversation with this lovely lost boy?
Q. Dear cupid There is this boy in my computing class and we sit and the same table and i try everything to start a conversion with him sometimes hes up for a converstion but other times he totallys blanks me ! when we are on the computers i sit ...
A. 10 June 2010: Just be persistant and keep talking to him. Listen to his conversations for something you both have in common, and start a convo around that! Sorta like "Hey, I overheard you talking about being into Lady Gaga" or something like that. Just be ... (read in full...)
What should I do now that I lack a destination?
Q. Howdy all, I'm writing because I've reached the conclusion of one particular chapter in my life and...I'm utterly lost as to where to go next. I'd go into detail as to how I arrived at this crossroads but I'd rather not bore anyone to death. The ...
A. 10 June 2010: You're 16-17, and you've had a 6 year relationship with a girl?? You started this story of this girl when you were 11-12?? That can't be right, can it??
What do you do now that you have "no destination"? That's actually easier than you think. ... (read in full...)
Delicate situation
Q. If i want to eat a girl out but her vagina smells, what should i do?...
A. 10 June 2010: Hmm...you know, you're the one making her smell that way! She's getting aroused and her juices are flowing. That's her response to you, you stud muffin!
Seriously, consider suggesting a shower together! That'll help reduce it some!... (read in full...)
Best friend's boyfriend likes me and I want to break up with my boyfriend but not end the sex part.
Q. My best friends boyfriend told me that he likes me and that he wished he had met me before her. I have no idea what to do. I kind of have feelings for him but I don't know what to do about them. I don't want to mess up my friendship with her but I ...
A. 10 June 2010: BEST FRIEND LAW #1: Boyfriends are OFF-LIMITS. Doesn't matter if he looks hotter than a movie star, Don't even think about it if you value your friend. Make even one move towards this guy, and you lose your best friend for good. She's the one who ... (read in full...)
Trapped in a big mess!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together on and off for four years. She has cheated on me, many times, and slept with people while we werent together. I have slept with one other person when she had moved to get away from me, and I really thought we ...
A. 10 June 2010: Why can you "not leave"? Are you afraid of her? Do you have such low self-esteem that she can kick you around, cheat on you, and treat you like an insignificant maggot, yet crawl back to her and hand over the reins to your life?
Without meeting ... (read in full...)
I don't want this relationship to end due to distance!
Q. I am very much in love with my boyfriend, and he is in love with me. We've been together for over a year and in a few months I will be leaving for college. I'll be attending a university in New York City, only a few hours away from where we live. He ...
A. 10 June 2010: The relationship CAN work, but you have to ask yourself which is more important, your relationship or your educational and professional future?
College is a very intense and crucial time in your life. Your FIRST focus can't be on your relation... (read in full...)
Having problems with his daughter who is two years younger than I am.
Q. my partner and i have a massive age difference - 32 years to be precise. we've been together over a year now. he has a 17 year old daughter who he sees sundays - she's always hated me for the obvious reasons but is really close to his ex who is only ...
A. 10 June 2010: Wow! This may sound totally out of left field, but I have to give respect to that daughter for what she's doing. I'm guessing that she's doing it consciously, but she's PISSED at her father for dating girls her age, so she's driving home the point ... (read in full...)
This guy tried to provoke a fight! Should I have let him get away with it?
Q. hi everyone , well i have decided to give up drinking once and for all mainly because i am tired of the hangovers and the shit that seems to happen when im out drinking ie,getting into fights and things like that , its funny though because in ...
A. 10 June 2010: Well, you've already made two mature decisions in this paragraph. Giving up drinking and partying is great! Not letting some asshole pick a fight with you is even better! The guy's face is not worth you breaking your fist on.
Good luck in conti... (read in full...)
Exboyfriend interested in the physical, current boyfriend doesn't seem to mind!
Q. I have an ex- boyfriend who is still interested in me for the physical stuff. We fell asleep together and he told me that it felt right. Im confused, plus i have a new boyfriend right now. I told my new boyfriend that i fell asleep with my old ...
A. 10 June 2010: What are you doing?? You have a new boyfriend who loves you, almost too much!! He was really hurt by what you did, but turned it on himself. That breaks my heart and should be breaking yours! You shouldn't be with anyone if you can't be faithfu... (read in full...)
Do you think a person is being too picky and missing out, or should they embrace singlehood?
Q. So, when do you realize you're just picky and when do you realize you're better off alone? I've never been able to stay in a long term relationship because I'll bail for reasons I think are completely legitimate. However, my friends are n...
A. 10 June 2010: Well, you should always embrace singlehood when you're single, as a married person should embrace being married. It's when you're never happy and think the grass is always greener that you'll never be happy. I don't think you're being picky, but... (read in full...)
Why would my guy friend make out with me while I was trying to hook him up with a another friend?
Q. I recently made friends with this incredibly nice guy who is one of my clients at my work. He explains to me that he's had no luck in the L.A. dating scene and so being the nice girl that I am, I suggested that he should date one of my other ...
A. 10 June 2010: Was he drunk when he did this?? I'm thinking that you were his interest all along! I'm thinking he's wanted you all along, yet he said what you wanted to hear and was willing to wait until the alcohol took down his inhibitions.
Yeah, that's k... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant and it seems she doesn't want sex or even to be touched lately.
Q. I have a concern that I would like some advice with. I have been with my Girlfriend who is 28 for just a little over two years now. We planned to have a baby and have succeeded. She is now about 9 weeks pregnant and we have also found out that we ...
A. 10 June 2010: Oh yeah. It's total hormones. In the first trimester of pregnancy, hormones are WAY out of whack, she's sick and out of sorts. Her breasts may be too tender to be touched, and she may be reacting violently to smells/tastes. She might be feeling ... (read in full...)
I want this married woman to fall in love with me!
Q. I want this woman that i have been good friends with for over two years now, I want her to fall in love with me and have sex with me on a regular basis, but the problem is that she is married and has a daughter and has been married to the same guy ...
A. 10 June 2010: Have you thought about how this affects her husband and daughter? Has she? 6 billion people to go have sex with (and I haven't heard anything in your post about love, just sex), and you choose a married woman?
I know, you'd say "We can't co... (read in full...)
Girlfriend isn't ready for sex!
Q. We've been together for 6 months now, but my girlfriend still isn't ready for sex. I've been patient, and respected her opinion, but my patience is running thin. The problem is that she wants me to pleasure her, I do it, but she never reciprocates ...
A. 10 June 2010: Aww man. Well, that's not fair, unless you're telling her that the only way she CAN pleasure you is through out-and-out sex. Have you given her different options, or are you trying to get her to give in, so to speak?
Either way, it's good tha... (read in full...)
Why did he lead me on?
Q. i just got out of a relationship for a yr and a half, we have been having problems for a while. I started talking to somebody else about a week before i broke it off with my bf and i ended up cheating on him with this person. We talked for about two ...
A. 10 June 2010: You were played, unfortunately. He liked the illicit feeling of stealing another guy's girlfriend. He didn't want to commit. He wanted to conquer, and once you became "free", so to speak, he wasn't interested.... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with my blowjobs?
Q. How to arouse my husband when giving fellatio My husband loves me giving him bj before we actually have intercourse. He likes to have a dim light on and looks at the mirrior while I'm giving. He says he enjoys my bj but he doesn't like to ...
A. 10 June 2010: Aww...nothing wrong. It's just his preference, and probably he doesn't want to let go in your mouth for your sake. You're doing it right! He just likes what he likes!
Any tips...hmm....you could tie him to the bed...that way, he has no say i... (read in full...)
How do I fight for love?
Q. ok so I was seeing this man for about 9 months. We never planned on having feelings for each other or dating...we were just looking for sex. We had amazing sex, the best i've ever had. I was going through a divorce and he had a girlfriend that he ...
A. 10 June 2010: And this is just another reason why Friends with Benefits is a very bad idea. You're lucky that he chose the girlfriend. Would you want a guy who cheats?? No way, man! How could you even trust him when he has no remorse about going behind his ... (read in full...)
I made out with another girl drunk should she give me another shot?
Q. Ok I got drunk... black out drunk and ended up making out with another girl. The truth is I dont know why I did it, It didnt mean anything to me, and I have no desiers not even to look at another girl. We have only been together for 5 months but she ...
A. 10 June 2010: Like I was telling someone else, she should leave you unless you totally change your lifestyle. You can never say you're sorry with just your words. You can only apologize with your actions, and that takes a LOT of time to rebuild her trust.
... (read in full...)
Long term relationship for 8 years but am thinking of others
Q. I just want to find out if this is normal or... something else? I have been in a long term serious relationship for the past 8 years but lately I have been thinking about other people. One person in particular. It is someone I used to like and we ...
A. 10 June 2010: Hmm...an 8 year relationship. I assume you're not married? Sometimes if a relationship doesn't go forward (i.e. marriage), it can grow stagnant.
You have a choice. It's a gamble, and a big risk. In order to indulge your feelings for this guy... (read in full...)
Why does my wife lie?
Q. Why does my wife lie? This started a while ago, but it's getting worse and worse. For some reason my wife doesn't trust me. I've never strayed, never even looked at another woman in our 5 years together. She's given me two beautiful childr...
A. 10 June 2010: There has to be more to this story. Something isn't adding up. How do you know what she is telling her friends about you?? Where are you getting this information?? Are you breaking into her emails? Having discussions with her friends?
If I ... (read in full...)
Can you please explain to me the meaing of mature love and settling down?
Q. hello to all the relationship experts :) i am 24yrs and my boyfriend is 27yrs old. earlier tonight he said it's nice knowing we have mature love and is on the settling down stage of our relationship. Please explain to me the meaning of mature l...
A. 9 June 2010: Mature love and settling down means being in love with one woman, being committed, and working towards a future.
Immature love aka "sowing your wild oats" or "playing the field" is all about one's selfish experiences and momentary gratific... (read in full...)
Terminate pregnancy by unknown father?
Q. hope i can get some advice here as hav no1 to talk to and am a bit embaressed...i am a singal mother ov 2 kids who are 9 and 6 we have a great life go away all the time and very settled i work as an escort to pay 4 our gud life as there dad left us ...
A. 9 June 2010: That's an extremely personal decision that to be honest, in my personal opinion, no one can help you with. Consider the long term impact that any decision you make will have on not only your living situation and relationship with you and your ... (read in full...)
Is he getting sprung?
Q. Okay so my bf always wants me to give him head I give him head more then we have sex, he say's he loves they way I do it, Is he getting sprung????...
A. 9 June 2010: The question is - does he give YOU head as much as you give it to him? If the answer is "no", he's not sprung.... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 9 June 2010: Ahh, I thought you were a churchgoer. :)
In that case, I will tell you - one of the most powerful scriptures in the Bible that deals with what you're thinking about is in the book of Job 31:1. "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfull... (read in full...)
How can I stop masturbating?
Q. So, I really want to get married some day. I know deep down that if I'm going to have a successful relationship with my wife, I have to be the best I can be. That is, I know I have to end my addictions, such as porn and masturbation. Parasites like ...
A. 9 June 2010: You're right, a porn addiction can destroy a marriage, and it's good that you're wanting to do something about it.
It's best not to do it alone. There are a lot of places that help in dealing with sex addictions, as well as counselors (and pas... (read in full...)
Do I have any right to say anything to my ex about his drug taking?
Q. hello everyone. i'm in need of a little help. i am currently in a relationship but i've recently found out my ex boyfriend has been doing drugs. we've not been together for about 2 and a half years now but i still worry about him and to t...
A. 9 June 2010: This one's a tricky one. Your ex is someone you used to care about, and your motives are certainly pure enough. However, how would your current boyfriend feel if you got back in contact with your ex?
I'd leave him be. With all of the educatio... (read in full...)
How can I make him realise I am the one for him?
Q. I've been involved with someone for five years I love him soooooo much. He loves me too but we've never committed to each other. In the beginning we were amzing friends that grew deeper now five years later we barely speak. Ive been fighting for us ...
A. 9 June 2010: You both are very young, and if you're 18-21, he's known you since you were 13-15. If he's the same age, most guys at these ages aren't ready to commit to anyone.
You can't fight for him. You have to let him choose for himself. You also hav... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband accept I just don't enjoy anal?
Q. My husband is obsessed with anal sex. We've had it twice. He refused to use any lubricant and it hurt very badly. I told him that I'm not interested in doing it again. I only did it with him because I felt pressured. His female boss is ...
A. 9 June 2010: GROSS! I'm so sorry. I don't understand why he was discussing his sex life with his boss in the first place. That's the first thing that would infuriate me to no end. Some subjects are OFF-LIMITS. Why is he discussing what you will or won't do ... (read in full...)
Cant talk to boyfriend about this because he said he will leave me if I do? Help please!?
Q. Ive been seeing a guy for about 5 months now, long distance. Ive always felt a bit untrusting of him. He voluntarily told me the other day that his ex who recently got out of a mental hospital contacted him and wanted to "get ice cream with him". H...
A. 9 June 2010: Heh, what a way to reassure your nervous girlfriend, by threatening to break up with her over the ex. I can see why it would bug you. You ask the guy to ignore an ex that's trying to insinuate herself back into his good graces, and he has to ask ... (read in full...)
I feel helpless because my boyfriend has cancer.
Q. Hi, I just found out that my boyfriend has cancer and isn't sure how long he has left. I don't know what im supposed to do or say. I feel helpless. I just wanna keep him here as long as possible. Please help...
A. 9 June 2010: Awww, I'm so sorry about your boyfriend. I know it's devastating to hear about this.
You are part of your boyfriend's fight. You didn't mention what kind of cancer he has, but there are people who have survived it and live good lives. You're ... (read in full...)
Single, pregnant and my ex hates me! Help!
Q. i would like to let everyone know that i'm not 13-15 but im unable to change it on my profile, i am 21. i am 5 months pregnant by exboyfriend (26 y/o). at the moment i live in california and he lives in argentina, he has not been with me during m...
A. 9 June 2010: You have nothing to feel guilty about. He can't handle being a man and taking responsibility for his kid. He is an emotional infant who can't handle being with anyone else. You do not want him. You were intimate with him, and now he's scorned ... (read in full...)
Lost my first love after two years. Confused, hurt, and scared. What in the world do I do?
Q. Recently the girl I've been with for two years, minus a four month period in the middle, left me. Up until a few weeks ago she was telling me she needed me, was in love with me, etc. Then one night, she just said we can't be together. The very ...
A. 9 June 2010: Geeze. You guys almost sound like you were made for each other. Instead of "Until Death do us part" it's "Until confusion do us part!". You're dumping her over commitment issues. She's dumping you for the hell of it.
Seriously, you both are... (read in full...)
My sex drive is way up!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 1.5 years and have a great sex life, usually 6-8 times a week and we both are always satisfied. Neither of us masturbate because it feels better when we do have sex. Lately though, my sex drive has ...
A. 9 June 2010: Your boyfriend must LOVE you! :D
Why ask why?? You're successful, happy, feeling better since getting off the pill with all of your hormones coming into whack.
Ever have a craving for a food that for a while, you just can't get off of? You... (read in full...)
Why does my ex treat me like dirt and should I move on?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago. And I know it was a good decision, yet I still think about him a lot. He holds grudges and it's so apparent in the way he treated me. I want us to be together. He has his good and bad traits just like me. ...
A. 9 June 2010: You broke up with him 2 months ago. Why would you hold on? Why??? He acts like a jerk, yet you come crawling back to him with your tail tucked between your legs. Apparantly, you base your self esteem on what HE thinks of you. Your brain knows ... (read in full...)
Should I cry my eyes out or just act like I don't care?
Q. I started seeing my ex again about 5 months ago and i found out a week ago that he is still with his girlfriend and she is now 10 weeks pregnant !! Wow i cldnt tell u how sad and devistated I'am... I really loved my ex and thought that maybe he came ...
A. 9 June 2010: Oh boy. This guy did you a favor. Apparantly, you were seeing him, and for whatever reason, you broke up with him. Then all of the nostalgic, romantic feelings welled up, and you went back with him. Now, he's gone and done something for which ... (read in full...)
2 questions about my relationship: Is it wrong due to our age difference and why does she not get horny around me?
Q. i actually have two questions. one is im 17 gonna be 18 in september 5 and my girlfreind is 15 gonna be 16 on september 1 is there anything wrong with us being together even with the age difference? like honestly where i live its legal even if we di...
A. 8 June 2010: The age difference is fine, so don't worry about that!
As for the horniness factor, I know that when I get "rubbed up against" like you mentioned, it reminds me of a dog dry humping another dog and actually puts me off.
If you want to work on ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says if we have a baby he will settle down with me and stop hanging out on the streets, what should I do?
Q. hi i'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18 and wants to have a baby but he is alway out in the streets he say's if we have a baby he will settle down with me. What should i do?...
A. 8 June 2010: Do NOT have a baby with him!!! He won't live up to his word. You have children with men who are already MATURE, not one who isn't.... (read in full...)
Why is it that when men don't get their way they always go off in a mood?
Q. Is it just me or when men don't get something to do with sex they go in a mood and blame their partner. My boyfriends likes bum fun, we tried it but it really hurt me. but he doesn't seem too realise that cause of the pain i dont want it. and he ...
A. 8 June 2010: I think next time you should say "Yeah, let's do anal!" and then ram a huge dildo up his ass. :P... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: She isn't the one with the problem. You are. You should be apologizing and validating HER for your obsessive treatment of her past before you. She shouldn't be smoothing your ruffled feathers forever.... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 1 June 2010: You've gotta chill out. You need to make a serious choice. You can either love your wife UNCONDITIONALLY, or you can get hung up about a choice she made before she met you. If you let this continue to eat you up, it will erode your relationship ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 31 May 2010: First of all, she's not with this guy. She's with you, and take it from me: Sex with an anonymous stranger for a one night stand isn't all it's cracked up to be. I guarantee that she gains 50x more pleasure and meaning from being with you who she ... (read in full...)
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