I can't get the thought of her one night stand before we were together out of my head, and its killing me!
Q. I met my fiance in college at the end of my freshman year. I noticed her from the beginning. I had a crush on her the entire year but she had a boyfriend that went to a school nearby who she had been with for 2 years. They went to high school ...
A. 18 June 2010: Maybe you could put yourself in her shoes. You're right, you are being unfair to her. How would you feel if she was obsessing over your sexual past history? There's nothing you or she can do about the past.
Think of her ex-boyfriends (and you... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he reply to my texts?
Q. So I've been dating this guy for 5 months. We really like each other but I have a concern. Whenever we text or talk on the phone, the either doesnt reply or it says things like "K" but when we see each other in person, the fun is nonestop. Does this ...
A. 17 June 2010: OH yeah...I *hate* texting. Your guy just might not like it. Or he might be driving a lot and doesn't want to text and drive. Don't sweat the texting thing if he's awesome in person, unless you see him sending elaborate texts to other people.
... (read in full...)
I had sex with my best friend!
Q. I think I'm in love with my best guy friend, we took it to the next level and had sex, now he is all I can think about, we both still flirt and do stuff together, but we still see other people, I get jealous when I see him with other girls and he ...
A. 17 June 2010: Yeah...why not just date him!? What's the holdup? Are you worried that it'll ruin the friendship? Too late to worry about that now! You two have had sex!
Just talk to him, tell him how you feel and see what he thinks of an exclusive relation... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend and I got back together but she's pregnant with another man's child
Q. Iv been with the same girl on and off for about four years, and things arent getting much better. During one of our longer break ups, I was starting to really move on, it took a really long time for this, for me to even stop crying at her name. No...
A. 17 June 2010: You need to break up with your pregnant girlfriend and be single for awhile. You lack the maturity to hold a stable and meaningful relationship.
You're like the little kid in the playground who wants the toy that someone else is playing with, an... (read in full...)
What should I do? Should I stay with him?
Q. My boyfriend says he likes me A LOT. we've been close friends almost 2 years. I love him, but the fact that he still has feelings for his best friend (aka ex girlfriend) bugs the Hell out of me. I know that he's in love with her and he admitted that ...
A. 17 June 2010: You're absolutely right. You just refered to his ex-girlfriend as his "best friend". YOU should be his best friend. You shouldn't have to worry about him confiding in her about issues in your relationship. You should never have to worry about ... (read in full...)
Should I start talking to him again?
Q. I need help..He dumped me once, then came back, then dumped me again, and I found out he had kissed another girl during that time. Now, he's back again,saying he made a horrible mistake, and that he realized what he was missing out on. The reasons ...
A. 17 June 2010: Two things I want to say to you.
1. The guy is immature and can't handle a serious relationship. For him to dump you and run right to another woman is pretty low.
2. You have to learn not to be jealous and insecure with your next boyfriend, ... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I killed his mother by standing up for myself!
Q. I have reached the limit in associating with my in-laws. After 30 years of taking abuse from them, I have decided that I have had enough and I am no longer putting myself at their disposal to allow them to continue treating me badly. I have sp...
A. 17 June 2010: That family was so dysfunctional, and I think you waited 29 years too late to kick your husband to the curb. Not even Tina Turner took this kind of abuse from Ike before she left him.
Your kids are grown and will understand why you're walking,... (read in full...)
How do I tell my online love I want him?
Q. Right so im 19 almost 20. I been talking to a lad online for a long time now and we've met up and everything and we're really good friends and talk to each other about everything, thing is i can't tell him how i feel about him. I have completely ...
A. 16 June 2010: It's a risk, I won't lie. But the best things in life have come to us because of risks. Just tell him how you feel, and tell him that if he doesn't feel the same way, that you still want to be friends with him.... (read in full...)
Back with my ex, and now he dropped the bombshell that he was seeing someone else whilst we were split up!
Q. my boyfriend walked out on me abt four months ago and i was devasted ,anyway after afew wks of depression i picked myself up and started going out with my friends and started enjoying life again but i just couldnt bring my self to start dating even ...
A. 16 June 2010: Technically, he did not cheat on you, and it was actually big of him to tell you about this other girl.
You have to look at this second relationship as a NEW relationship and not as a continuation of the first relationship. Your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Why does he feel the need to tell me everything, like he found a 15 year old girl attractive?
Q. My partner came home from work and he seems to find the need to tell me everything. He is turning 35 next year. He had to tell me that he saw a very, very attractive fifteen year old girl crossing the road whilst he was driving home from work. I ...
A. 16 June 2010: That's weird. Does he say that stuff a lot??
Although that's weird, there's a possibility that he's gotten so familiar with you and feels like you both are close friends that he forgets that you're not one of his guy buddies.
You are good ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'd be taking advantage of this older man if we got together!
Q. I'm 18 and I'm in a bit of a predicament, recently the man I've been seeing has told me that he has never been in love and he thinks he loves me, he has low self confidence despite being very very sexy and part of the reason we hooked up was because ...
A. 16 June 2010: I hate to tell you this, but I think this 46 year old is scamming you. "never been in love?" "Completely vulnerable?" yet he's been divorced??
I do believe that he is actually taking advantage of YOUR youth and naivete to get into your pan... (read in full...)
How do I get him to be romantic and not just a two-minute man?
Q. I am with a new guy that has been in the drug world for awhile and been with a nasty bitch. how do I get him to be romantic and spend good lovemaking like not just jump right in and 2 min later were done?...
A. 16 June 2010: Drug World? Nasty Bitch?? Is this guy still involved with drugs??? Are you sure he's good for you??
If he's totally reformed (which I'll try to assume he is), the only way to get what you want is to tell him. If he's your age and going 2 ... (read in full...)
My ex thinks I am mocking him!
Q. I broke up with my a ex over a month ago. For all this time he had been really romantic and apologetic, trying to get me back but now he hates me and I feel like a horrible person! We had many issues during our relationship because he was j...
A. 16 June 2010: You are not horrible. You aren't unlovable. You don't need to be a friend with benefits in order to get a guy to like you.
Listen to me closely - your ex is lint. He is dirt. He is trash. He is IRRELEVANT to you, and so are his stupid i... (read in full...)
I really like my best friend but he is mean to me when his other friends are around!
Q. hi i am a 13 year old girl hu is having love problems i don't kno if should be asking for advice because im really young nd i dnt kno if a 13 year old be going through this kind of stuff bu anyway i really like my best friend he is the same age ...
A. 16 June 2010: He is seriously immature. He's 13, you're 13. Soon567 is right - he doesn't want to get teased by his friends.
I will add - girls mature faster than guys do. Girls reach puberty first. He might not even be completely ready for a girlfrie... (read in full...)
She's 14 and I am almost 20. How can I postpone sex until she's older, without hurting her feelings?
Q. I'm having a slight problem, and mainly just need some words of advice and support. I'm 19, turning 20 soon and I met a girl online sometime around 9 months ago, at first it was just friendly talk and me trying to cheer her up (she's had a very har...
A. 16 June 2010: YIKES! I have only two words for you: STATUTORY RAPE. She is way too young for you, and as much as the two of you are attached to one another, you have to end the relationship.
Even texting her or IMming her about sexual topics can get you into... (read in full...)
How do you kiss?
Q. my mate knows some boy and she realy likes him and he likes her but she doesn't know how to snog (kiss) i have tried to explain it to her but she keeps saying im wrong can anyone tell her right ?? ...
A. 16 June 2010: Hmm...I have an interesting thought. You could practice with her. That would require a very open mind though.
Otherwise, if you're not open to that, go dig up some Youtube videos of really good kisses and show her so you can demonstrate what you... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 16 June 2010: This one will be tricky for you, because in your wife's mind, you are cheating when you masturbate to other women's bodies. She believes that if you have the weakness to turning on porn and being sexually gratified that way, what's to stop you from ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that I cheated?
Q. Should i tell him that i cheated? i have been with my boyfriend for 11months now and about 3 months into our relationship my ex came over to mine to give me back some old revision notes, i didn't know what was happening but next thing i knew he ...
A. 16 June 2010: He pushed himself onto you? Did you say no? Stop? Did you tell him to get out? Did you try to fight and struggle against him?? If you told your ex no and he overrode you, it's rape! You should report him.
Now, if you simply let him convince... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that I cheated?
Q. Should i tell him that i cheated? i have been with my boyfriend for 11months now and about 3 months into our relationship my ex came over to mine to give me back some old revision notes, i didn't know what was happening but next thing i knew he ...
A. 16 June 2010: He pushed himself onto you? Did you say no? Stop? Did you tell him to get out? Did you try to fight and struggle against him?? If you told your ex no and he overrode you, it's rape! You should report him.
Now, if you simply let him convince... (read in full...)
Is sex on a second date too soon from a guys point of view?
Q. Hi everyone, I just started talking to a guy who I met online about 2 months ago, and things are going great! We talked through e-mails for almost a month, and then he came to visit me and took me out, and we really hit it off and had a great time...
A. 16 June 2010: The answer to this question lies with what you want out of this relationship. If you're looking for a purely sexual fling with no future, then why not?
BUT, if you're looking for a solid long term relationship, the best rule is to take it slowl... (read in full...)
I hate porn! Is it true all men watch it?
Q. I'm a 21 year old girl, and I HATE porn. I really, downright hate it. I think that, because of it, I may be doomed to stay single forever. I had a boyfriend until recently. He watched porn, but I just had to deal with it and it killed me inside...
A. 16 June 2010: The thing that stuck out to me that you've been saying is that you feel that they have better bodies than you, and that you didn't say this, but it sounded like your boyfriend chose the porn over you (hence, the "if you don't like it, there's the ... (read in full...)
Should I trust her?
Q. 2 years ago i started playing a game, Lieange.Well i started it to stay away from my bad habbits, gambling, going to casinos and stuff like that. I just felt that i need to replace that "hobby" with another. Im not the kind of guy to look for girls ...
A. 15 June 2010: She's unsure about you too. Online relationships should go slower than in-person one because of the identity thing. She's from a different country! Give it time. Your mistreatment of her might be making her hesitant too.
You need to learn mo... (read in full...)
Should I forgive my ex?
Q. Me and my boyfriend (whom is my ex now)at the time were perfect in the beginning. the thing is he left his ex to be with me but something was telling me that him and his ex were def more than just friends afterward. id ask him plenty of times and ...
A. 15 June 2010: You and he have BROKEN UP. You don't have a say in who he sleeps with now. There is no longer any "code" that he has to follow. If he wanted to go sleep with the entire Dallas Cheerleading squad one by one, that's his right.
THIS is why exes... (read in full...)
She's much younger than me, is a relationship possible?
Q. please help me! i am in a big confusion recently i fall in love with a girl, who is 10 years younger than me. please suggest to me that i am in a right way? it is possible for this much age difference? please reply. thanks i...
A. 15 June 2010: Please tell me that you're not 22 and she's 12. Even if you're 25 and she's 15, she's in a much different place in terms of maturity than you are.
A 10 year difference is nothing if say you're 35 and she's 25, or you're 50 and she's 40. But 25 a... (read in full...)
How can I start a conversation with her?
Q. There is this cute girl that walks her dog by my house every day and I just dunno how to approach her. I was hoping someone could give me some tips since I'm kinda nervous about approaching her....
A. 15 June 2010: Ahh. Well, what do you know about her? She's got a dog! I'm guessing that she dearly loves her dog, and that's a talking point. As she walks by your house, you could say something like "Hi! That's a cute dog! (if it's small) or Wow! Great ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't see me as part of his future!
Q. I just listened to a voice message left by my boyfriend. I have been bothered by the fact that he doesn't ever talk about having any kind of future with me (this has bothered me for a while). I guess I know why now. He's apparently not planning ...
A. 15 June 2010: Almost six months is way too soon to be talking about marriage or living together. Have you been putting pressure on him or dropping hints or talking about marrying him?
It's especially obvious if he's your age (41-50) and has either
1. Just... (read in full...)
I feel like my husband doesn't love me!
Q. Ok well my husband is a wonderful man who I love so very much and he claims to love me but actions are so much more believable if you know what I mean. First off when he goes to work and comes home and lets say the computer is acting crazy it'...
A. 15 June 2010: I don't want to scare you, but I think your husband is looking for a way out that doesn't make him look like the bad guy to his and your family and friends.
What tells me this?? First, the smoking ultimatum. If you were smoking at the time you... (read in full...)
He said he's not sure that I am "the one" for him
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for close to a year... We already live together with my son. I am going through personal issues... I believe I may have depression or BPD and am in the process of being treated. He's very busy both working and ...
A. 15 June 2010: Yeah, as much as it hurts, him saying that now frees you to break up with him and concentrate on your own healing. Horrible fights are damaging to both of you, and just to get away and stop the fighting can only be good for you.
I personal... (read in full...)
He kept asking me to repeat that I loved him, did he not believe me?
Q. Hopefully you don't find this a really silly question but I'd like to hear your views. I have a lot of trouble expressing my feelings. I grew up in a house where we never hugged or said that we love each other. I'm now in a relations...
A. 15 June 2010: Oh no. You touched him so much that he wanted to hear it from you over and over. You gave him perhaps one of the greatest moments in his life. He truly cherishes your feelings and emotions, and it meant more to hear that from you than you could ... (read in full...)
Why did I cheat on the perfect wife?!
Q. I need help! I got married when I was twenty one. To my beautiful, caring and amazing wife. But a couple months ago I did something terrible... I cheated. I was out of town. My job causes meh to be gone a lot more now and I. Was having sexual ur...
A. 15 June 2010: First thing you have to do is get tested for Sexually Transmitted diseases. Risky anonymous sex is a very dangerous undertaking, and I know that what would hurt your wife more than you cheating on her is you bringing home genital herpes or HIV.
... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get dry after having an orgasm?
Q. I was having sex with my fiance, and yes, I was incredibly turned on. I was incredibly wet, even through the many different positions. I had two orgasms, back to back after we had been in one position (a variant of missionary,) and then I got very ...
A. 15 June 2010: It's a product of the condom, unfortunately. And in the rear entry, it's a whole different kind of friction, especially if you had been using a variant of missionary beforehand.
You might need to keep some KY jelly on the standby for this bit... (read in full...)
It is hard to date when I have herpes
Q. i dunno what to do. well first off i have herpes. but no one knows not even my friends. so when i meet guys i sabotage things really quickly, before it can get to point where id have to tell him and hed be gone. so wherever i meet a guy, example we ...
A. 15 June 2010: Here's the thing. Let's say you didn't have herpes. Let's say that you have flat feet. You wouldn't be able to go shopping at regular shoe stores. You'd have to shop at a medical supply store where maybe the choice in shoes is a bit less, but ... (read in full...)
My man doesn't think I'm hot anymore!
Q. My man thinks im not hot anymore weve been married for 4years and havent had sex for 2years i even got on birth control he still wont touch me unless we break up and he comes back crying and baging me 2 give him a chance cause i feel bad cause hes ...
A. 15 June 2010: Aww man. Porn. Even he realizes that he's in a mess, or he wouldn't be crying and begging for you to stay with him, but would be indifferent and not caring if you walked out the door if he truly didn't think you were hot anymore.
One of the horr... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend I'm still a virgin?
Q. im 22 years old and ive been dating my boyfriend for just over a month now and I really like him, he thinks ive had sex in the past before, he just thinks I have because of my age but I havnt. im not ashamed that im still a virgin at age 22 but im...
A. 15 June 2010: Don't be afraid at all to tell him. Chances are, the opposite effect will happen to him, that that will make him like you even more. For some odd reason, many guys don't mind sleeping around, but it's a bit more special for them to be with a ... (read in full...)
It makes no sense...does he love me or not?
Q. My boyfriend took care of me after surgery changed bandages and drains and still does my laundry and grocery shop and makes special trips to carry stuff. He holds my hand a lot hugs me a lot for a few minutes cuddles after sex for an hour. He takes ...
A. 15 June 2010: He has commitment issues. Saying "I love you" to him is an emotional vulnerability that he is scared of. Saying "I love you" also triggers a lot of responsibilities he may not yet want.
HOWEVER, for him to do all this for you in your time of ... (read in full...)
Do I pull the disappearing act on my ex, or hold hope?
Q. My exboyfriend broke up with me two weeks ago and it's been hard to get over. He still sees me on occasion and it's just like old times when we were together. I try to be cheerful and not bring it up. He wanted his space to deal with his personal ...
A. 15 June 2010: He broke up with you? What do you owe him, that you have to walk on eggshells, stuff your own pain, and act like nothing's happened?
He ended things for a reason with you, and mostly it's because he doesn't love you and wants someone else.
... (read in full...)
Husband in rage, sometimes implies that he will hurt me..
Q. Ok so.. Been married for 3 yrs.. I have 2 kids by him.... He has been physically abusive in the past... Last time was new years.... But lately he been saying alot that if he goes back to jail it wont be for domestic vioelnce it will b for murder.... ...
A. 15 June 2010: You have to assume that he is serious, especially if he has hurt you in the past. Violence is always a cycle, and if he's implying that he'll only go back to jail it's because of your death, take it very seriously.
Maybe you should get away fro... (read in full...)
Fiance can only stay for two days of the vacation with friends, is it ok if I stay for the full term without her?
Q. My fiance and I are going on a mini beach vacation about an hour and a half away from our home for a 3-day weekend with a group of our friends. My fiance has to work the following Monday and I do not. Should I have to go home a day early with m...
A. 15 June 2010: What would be wrong about staying another night?? Sometimes a day away isn't bad at all. She trusts you, you trust her...as long as you're not going to cheat or anything, why not??... (read in full...)
Does 'hard times,' influence people to cheat and say "I love you" to other girls...?
Q. my fiance cheated on by talking to another girl and telling her he loves her and i found out.he said he changed he was just passing through hard times.but im finding it difficult to trust him.i always disturb him and argue...
A. 15 June 2010: Forgive my language, but hard times my ASS.
What's worse than having a fiance cheat on you sexually is telling the person he was cheating with that he loves her. That's a really horrible and hurtful thing. How can you trust him when he says tha... (read in full...)
Want to meet desperately with my online friend of two years...but I have lied about my appearance!
Q. I play online RPG games. One of the ones I play, very little females play. I used some fake photos as these helped me advance in the game. The game has a close knit community, I have played for 2 years, and over this time, I got to know a man ve...
A. 15 June 2010: This one is easier to fix. Tell him that because of the nature of online wackos and possible predators (I know, a bit of BS), you didn't display your actual appearance.
Then show him a picture of the real you. What could you be afraid of?? Wa... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date someone who you have no intention of marrying? Yet they do..?
Q. My girlfriend and i am dating for 8 months but we haven't had sex yet. The reason why we didn't have sex is she wants to lose her virginity ONLY to someone she wants to marry. She is a virgin, I am not. And the fact is that she wanna marry me in the ...
A. 15 June 2010: Geeze, so your girlfriend is there for your physical satisfaction, is what you're trying to say? She's good enough for sex, but you trash her education level? Why are you with her if you have such a low opinion of her?
You don't deserve her virg... (read in full...)
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