Is it wrong to date someone who you have no intention of marrying? Yet they do..?
Q. My girlfriend and i am dating for 8 months but we haven't had sex yet. The reason why we didn't have sex is she wants to lose her virginity ONLY to someone she wants to marry. She is a virgin, I am not. And the fact is that she wanna marry me in the ...
A. 15 June 2010: Geeze, so your girlfriend is there for your physical satisfaction, is what you're trying to say? She's good enough for sex, but you trash her education level? Why are you with her if you have such a low opinion of her?
You don't deserve her virg... (read in full...)
Pleaseee help me!!! was she a virgin or she lied to me?? I'm really confused
Q. Allrite, im kinda freaking out right now.... I was a virgin until today... Supposedly my girlfriend was too and i really believed that. Right now I am VERY confused... We were gonna have sex soon because we were very comfortable wit each other and ...
A. 15 June 2010: What I'm trying to say is - you are "freaking out" (your words) about thinking she lied to you about being a virgin, yet you had sex with her all the way to orgasm, so obviously, it didn't bother you enough to not have sex with her. You got yours, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps reading my journal
Q. "OPs Own Title" My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months, and we've grown extremely close to each other. He's a wonderful guy, and we've talked seriously about marraige. However I have a small problem: he's read my journal twice now. The ...
A. 14 June 2010: OMG. It doesn't matter one bit if he's insecure, or has no confidence, or low self-esteem. What he really has is no respect for YOU, especially if he's digging up your journal MORE than once.
I would have ripped his head off the first time, an... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I have the urge to masturbate all the time?
Q. hi i am 17 years old i masterbate all the time. i can not help it i love the feeling. but i have tried everything that i can think of to give my self an orgasam and nothing works anymore. can you please give your advice on how i can get that ...
A. 14 June 2010: As long as it's not interfering in your school/work, social life, or intimate life, it's fine.
One of the best ways to get the "ultimate" orgasm would be to see how long you can go without masturbating. One day? One week? Three weeks?? THEN, w... (read in full...)
Pleaseee help me!!! was she a virgin or she lied to me?? I'm really confused
Q. Allrite, im kinda freaking out right now.... I was a virgin until today... Supposedly my girlfriend was too and i really believed that. Right now I am VERY confused... We were gonna have sex soon because we were very comfortable wit each other and ...
A. 14 June 2010: I hardly ever get upset at a question enough to go back and add to my answer, but this one really got to me.
Let me ask you this, woeizmex, when you entered her for the first time, realized that she wasn't hurt, you got right in, and noticed ... (read in full...)
I don't want sex to hurt the first time!
Q. i have never had sex before and fear that the first encounter will be painful.what can i do to prevent the pain...
A. 14 June 2010: The others on here have given excellent advice and I can only echo it all.
I suggest something in addition to their advice. Schedule a visit to your doctor to have him or her remove your hymen, which is the source of the pain on the first ti... (read in full...)
I haven't kissed my BF yet and we have been dating for 2 months
Q. "OPs Own Title" btw I am on my friends account . Me and My Bf Have been dating for 2months now and we Still haven't Kissed ! people are now saying omg why haven't you kissed?!? but no one replys just an awkward silence. My bf has kissed girls be...
A. 14 June 2010: Well, this might call for what I would refer to as the "setup". Meaning, you get him to a place (i.e. maybe a car, or a lookout, or some other romantic private place) look into his eyes, give your most seductive look and whisper breathlessly "I ... (read in full...)
I have gone from being this totally confident, happy, ambitious person to an emotional wreck!
Q. hey everyone, kinda new to this so it might be a long question but i'll work with it.. basically, a couple of years ago i had a short fling with my best friend (we're both girls) which lasted about 2/3 months and ended when she got a boyfrien...
A. 14 June 2010: I think I'm kinda getting an idea of what's going on with you, but before I answer, I have a question:
Why EXACTLY did you break it off with your friend? Did she break it off with you when she met the guy, and did she cheat on you?
Also, y... (read in full...)
Should I just go have fun without getting in a relationship??
Q. Ok well I have just came out of my first proper relation ship it was nearly a year long. She ended it because she doesn't think we are compatible but we both loved each other and she would talk about marriage and kids a fair bit. I still want to be ...
A. 14 June 2010: Sure! Go ahead and have some fun! You're single now, so the sky's the limit. Just make sure you do it under correct pretenses (i.e. not telling the girl you want more than casual fun), and prectice SAFE SEX! Casual encounters are RISKY ... (read in full...)
I'm 28 but look 16 and people judge me for my young looks
Q. A million thanks for this site i look so young for my age i always get offended by people always looking down on me. recently i found a similar thing on this site to which i even replied to,but i av been looking for that page to no avail, kindly ...
A. 14 June 2010: Oh geeze. Listen - it's all in your presentation and the way you dress. If you dress like a 28 year old and carry yourself with the confidence and poise of a 28 year old, there will be no issue of respect. If you're dressing like you've been ... (read in full...)
Do other girls rub there smell on the lips for there b/f?
Q. I been dating my g/f for 5 months and we been intimate. She said she is bi and I knew that when we met. She had a long time g/f then but just broke up. On Satuday my friend text me and said he saw my g/f with her ex going in her house. I met my ...
A. 14 June 2010: She's lying her head off. I know no one who rubs their own vaginal fluids all over their mouth at random. I've heard of lipstick, perfume, and even scented flavors, but vaginal fluids?! Come on.
I'd believe your friend on this one. YUCK. C... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to have sex with my boyfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for one month now, he really turns me on. Is it right to point out to him that he didn't finger me right yesterday? I think i am the first girl he has ever attempted this with but I don't know how to as...
A. 14 June 2010: Do NOT have sex with him. REPEAT - DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM!
You're too young, he's too young, and he's running around with all of your friends and has no sense of commitment. You are not mature enough to handle the consequences and risks of... (read in full...)
When does sex feel good after losing your virginity??
Q. When Does Sex Get Good? I Have Had Sex Several Times So Far But Still It Just Feels Weird Not Nasty Not Nice Just Boring... Is This Normal...
A. 14 June 2010: This is another reason why I hate porn. It depicts that all that has to happen is for the guy to whip out his penis, stick it in the girl, and she'll start moaning like a dying wildebeest for 20 straight minutes while the guy thrusts and grunts and ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! Am I a lesbian?
Q. hi. i think im a lesbian because i keep dreaming and thinking about the same sex, but im really confused can you help me....
A. 14 June 2010: Hey there! I wouldn't worry one bit about labels! You're young, and your hormones and tastes are not set in stone. Even if you were older, people find that they have different desires over time.
The big thing is to not worry about how you feel... (read in full...)
3 years after emotional affair and we still don't seem to have moved on much
Q. *OP's Original Title* My partner had an emotional affair 3 years ago and it has been a rollercoaster since - she cut off contact fully perhaps 6 months ago and I have since discovered that she sent her an email during Easter. It's like living w...
A. 14 June 2010: Aww man. First of all, I'm sorry you've had to deal with this. I may be in the minority, but I think an emotional affair is even more damaging to a relationship than a physical one. It hurts to know that your partner holds back a part of herself ... (read in full...)
In a new relationship, but not over ex
Q. "OPs Own Title" Ok first of all, i would like to say this a wonderful site that gives help to people who need it. I hope you guys take time to read through my story and let me know what you think of it. I met my first love about 7 years ago, whe...
A. 14 June 2010: It's easy to romanticize a past relationship, just as it's easy to romanticize younger times in our lives. Our minds tend to forget the struggles, burdens, and imperfections that were happening at the same time.
You have a case of not letting ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend twice should I tell him?
Q. I had cheated on my bf twice but not really had to boyfriends at once it was just a kissing thing that happens with two different guys in February and March.I was wondering if I should tell him or not. He's the love of my life I'm sure and I think ...
A. 14 June 2010: You're young and not ready for a relationship. I'd break up with your guy and stay single if you feel you can't have the self-control to remain faithful. Imagine ho you'd feel if your boyfriend and love of your life were cheating with other women.... (read in full...)
Help needed!
Q. "OPs Own Title" So I am 19 years old and I don't think that I have ever had an orgasm. I lost my virginity when I was 17 and it still all feels the same to me. Just recently though, I was having sex with my boyfriend of almost a year now and I had ...
A. 14 June 2010: Yes, that is a possible sign of orgasm is pressure on your bladder.
You're right about never having an orgasm. If you had had one, it would be unmistakeable and unforgettable.
I would recommend taking some time by yourself to explore your ... (read in full...)
E How do we tell our friend that we're pregnant after her miscarriage?
Q. I just found out that I am pregnant and my husband and I are thrilled! We are still very early on in the pregnancy but wanted to share the news with our best friends, who are also married and were expecting their second child. Unfortunately, ...
A. 14 June 2010: Awww, you're a good friend, I'll just say that!
Give it a couple of weeks to a month. Tell your immediate family and people who aren't in contact with your friends now, but then wait a bit.
After a month or so, they will be in a better frame t... (read in full...)
Was he following me or was I being overly cautious?
Q. Sorry this isn't a love question but I need some answers.. I usually walk to work and back and this evening I got slightly scared because I thought I was being followed... This guy was on his bike in front of me he the spun his bike around a...
A. 14 June 2010: Yeah, he was most definitely watching you. And yes, it was creepy. But, he may have only been an older guy rubbernecking you (extended checking you out, like construction guys do with ladies walking down the street).
I know it made you feel lik... (read in full...)
"Trying for a chance at love"
Q. "OPs Own Title" Hi Everybody...I'm new here so go easy on me...Where's my situation...I hope it makes sense to you all!!! I've been "seeing" this guy for 3 yrs next month...I'll call him "Hank"...We both have been through a lot of the same things ...
A. 14 June 2010: I'll go easy on you, but I must point out a few things that you might not see. First of all, why are you doing all the work in this relationship? You're supporting him financially and emotionally. You're bending over backwards and lavishing him ... (read in full...)
Pleaseee help me!!! was she a virgin or she lied to me?? I'm really confused
Q. Allrite, im kinda freaking out right now.... I was a virgin until today... Supposedly my girlfriend was too and i really believed that. Right now I am VERY confused... We were gonna have sex soon because we were very comfortable wit each other and ...
A. 14 June 2010: Look, relax. Some girls in fact ARE different, just like some guys are different. Girls can have different sized vaginas just like some guys have different sized penises. Also, she could be using tampons, which that or athletic sports could have ... (read in full...)
Splitting the bill on a first date?
Q. I was on a first date with this guy and we went to see a movie, then had dinner at a Chinese restaurant. We're both students. He is a year older than me. So, he bought the movie tickets online, then announced the price out loud - "so it's 22.50 f...
A. 14 June 2010: The big question for me is, who asked who out on this date? Did you ask him out, or did he ask you??
If you asked him out, I would tend to overlook it a little, but if he was the one who asked you out, it's totally unacceptable. On the 20th dat... (read in full...)
Why was he so hesitant to take my key?
Q. I have been involved with a man for nearly 6 yrs and recently has started leaving some of his things at my place. Nothing special just a couple of changes of clothes for when he chooses to stay over. When I saw him over the weekend I told him ...
A. 14 June 2010: Yeah, 6 years seems like a very long time to wait until you're at that stage, and it's a symptom of the same hesistation to commit as the key thing. Taking a key is a nod to a new commitment to each other.
Given your age, I'm assuming that he'... (read in full...)
Almost no sexual contact in 8 months of dating, advice?
Q. Okay, I met my lovely girlfriend a few years back, and we dated previously, but i can hardly call it dating, it was the middle school flirting type of thing, never anything sexual, We recently started seriously dating, (This being many years later) ...
A. 14 June 2010: Well, I was about to yell at you until I read that you give her oral sex multiple times. However, you're not off the hook if you have to say "she likes it from what I understand". If you were doing it right, you'd say something like "She's blown ... (read in full...)
Is this considered part of an eating disorder?
Q. okay, well this isn't a relationship question, it's on diet and I really need help from any professional or not even a professional! Anyway, basically, our end of year ball is coming up and I have a black silk dress I really want to look good in!...
A. 13 June 2010: When you get too thin, your body starts leeching energy from your muscles, brain, and organs. Your body will eventually shut down on you. Your bones will become brittle, and your metabolism will reduce to nothing.
Your friend is being a good fri... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my insecurities about his lies about drugs and other girls?
Q. Hi everyone, im kind of new to this website and internet chatting but needed some advice. My boyfriend of a year and a half has been caught out lying to me numerous times about a drug problem that he's trying to overcome. But now i caught him out ...
A. 13 June 2010: You listen to me. You are absolutely NOT to blame for his actions. Do not even begin to take that on yourself, and don't let him push it on you either. He is a liar, and he would have been had you been there or not. Don't ever take that on ... (read in full...)
Some of the things I've found out about this guy make me wonder if I should date him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months and I have learned some things about him during this time that concerns me. Keep in mind that we are both in our early thirties. Here are some things about him: -Never been in a serious relation...
A. 13 June 2010: One thing about relationships is that it will never grow beyond the lowest common denominator. The one who's more mature, successful, and emotionally stable will be dragged down by the one who isn't.
Him asking you to help him be a better m... (read in full...)
No birthday call from my wife's son
Q. My wifes' birthday was Friday and as of Sunday morning is still waiting for a call from her son. I hurt for her and feel a bit helpless as neither one of us inclined to bring it up for fear of alienating him and his wife. I just don't understand ...
A. 13 June 2010: A stern talk with her son might be the best thing. You're absolutely right. There is no excuse for not thinking of your family on important days like birthdays and holidays.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's mum caught us having phone sex, what can I do?
Q. Girlfriend's mum caught us having phone sex, what can I do? Well, yesterday my girlfriend's mum caught us having phone sex and she had a go with her, and believed that we were making out in her room when I stayed around hers some weeks ago. Sh...
A. 13 June 2010: Nothing is harder on a parent than to realize that their kid isn't the little girl she used to be. It was a shock to her system to hear her daughter speak like that. One part of her thinks that her daughter shouldn't even have learned that stuff, ... (read in full...)
He is in love with me, but I am a lesbian! He continues to insult me and my girlfriend, is he worth keeping as a friend?
Q. So, hey everyone. I just want to say that I've never asked something like this, and this is gonna be a pretty long question, but here goes... Before we start, I'm fifteen and the guy is eighteen. So I was seeing this guy for about two months a lit...
A. 13 June 2010: Before I give you advice, I need to compliment you on your writing. You write and express yourself in writing better than many 15 year olds I have seen! That's great!
Okay, to your question. This one is a very simple one. This guy is motivate... (read in full...)
What did he mean when he said I should "sleep with my shoes on"?
Q. One of my friends asked me if I wanted to go to a party. We were around a few other people, and one of them told me to sleep with my shoes on. I have no idea what he meant. I have not gone to any parties, and I am 15 years old. I am now honestly ...
A. 13 June 2010: Oh yeah, that means shoes stay on, pants stay on. Meaning, don't get drunk, black out, and get wild with someone!
It could also mean that they could be doing things at the party for which the cops could come in and bust up, meaning you'll n... (read in full...)
I never see my boyfriend anymore and I am starting to feel like money is more important than me!
Q. My boyfriend is 37 and I am 27. My parents dont like him. But the real problem is for the last 4 weeks I have not seen him. He says he loves me and everything but I may not hear from him for days. Then when I do hear from him it is because I am ...
A. 13 June 2010: How did you two meet up in the first place? You might need to go back to that point in your lives and remind him of that too. He's goal oriented, which is why he's a workaholic. Owning a business is also one of the most all-inclusive things he ... (read in full...)
How can I get my friend's trust back?
Q. okay, so i said to my friend i wouldnt tell something to anybody the a couple of days ago i made a mistake and told someone. my friend found out and so i lost his trust..i really love him (i'm a girl just so you know) and i want to fully regain his ...
A. 13 June 2010: Oh boy. It takes a long, long time to build trust, and one instance of breaking confidence to blow it.
It's only going to take lots and lots of time to regain that trust. In the meantime, I'd suggest "opening the kimono" so to speak, which me... (read in full...)
She wants me to pay her bills yet we don't even have sex!
Q. if im in a relationship with my girlfriend, and she wants me to help her pay bills, but doesnt want to have sex or sleep together, what is my best resolution??...
A. 13 June 2010: Geeze, doesn't sound like you're in a relationship. Sounds like the both of you use each other, or at least, you want to.
Never lend a girlfriend money. Keep money out of the relationship if you want it to survive, and keep sex out of it being... (read in full...)
Boy trouble! Please help!
Q. okay it started with me liking this guy lets call him "bob" he was perfect for me and i really liked him but i never talked to him, time went by and i found myself talking to him. my love for him grew even more and i became more and more obsessed ...
A. 13 June 2010: Ask your best friend if you can pursue Bob. If she doesn't like him, she doesn't like him. I know, you're irritated that you like Bob a lot, but he doesn't see it. Yet, he's going after your friend, who couldn't care less.
You all are young, s... (read in full...)
My girlfriend makes excuses not to have sex with me!
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for three months now and at the first month she told me we are going to have sex in two months time and its two months and she tells me that she is not used to me and we met every single day and kisses.what ...
A. 13 June 2010: You can't push her. And if you're 13-15 and so is she, you both are too young! Do you realize the risks involved in sex? Take your time!
If you're just wanting sex from someone, she's probably not the right one. Best to stop pressuri... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from being clingy and pushing my boyfriend away?
Q. My boyfriend is turning 20 in July and i'm 18. To keep the story short i will just say that he doesn't know where he wants to live because he doesn't want to miss a big opportunity. He has a choice of living in the state we both live in, or a state ...
A. 13 June 2010: Many people have been in your shoes. Your dilemma is caused by you unconsciously expecting your boyfriend to meet your emotional needs. You need him like an addict needs heroin - more and more and it's never enough. He could tell you he loves ... (read in full...)
What to do with my best friend dating my brother?
Q. So let me tell you information first: My best friend of almost 20 years is married but her relationship is rocky and they have been talking divorce for 2 years now..and then they try to work it out ( a lot of back and forth). They have a two ...
A. 13 June 2010: There's a real problem here. You have a very low opinion of your best friend, and you have a very low opinion of your brother. Shouldn't your best friend be...your best friend??? And your brother was mean to you, so you feel betrayed by your best ... (read in full...)
I'm not sexually attracted to my boyfriend!
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now. We never had sex until a year after started dating. I didn't want to at first because I wanted to wait until we get married, but he couldn't. Somehow I could understand that and so we started ...
A. 13 June 2010: That's the thing about living together. We see things about our partners that we didn't during the initial rush of attraction. If people move in before there's mutual true love, how can the attraction last the bodily noises, tempers, snoring, ... (read in full...)
My bf thinks I cheated with my ex, but I didn't! Help!
Q. my boyfriend is in the airforce and while he was at basic military training my ex got a tattoo. my ex and my boyfriend are enemies. i asked my ex th come over so i could see his tattoo one day and a few weeks later he came over with my brother but ...
A. 13 June 2010: Okay, why are you even communicating with your ex? Why are you inviting him over to look at his tattoo? Why are you letting him stay at your house for no reason for an hour alone??
Let's reverse the situation. If your boyfriend had an ex who w... (read in full...)
Some of the things I've found out about this guy make me wonder if I should date him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months and I have learned some things about him during this time that concerns me. Keep in mind that we are both in our early thirties. Here are some things about him: -Never been in a serious relation...
A. 28 May 2010: Thanks for following up! I like the answering in numbers, so I'll continue that:
1. Education - you're absolutely right to question that. While I agree that education isn't "everything", it is a measure of ambition and life vision. Also, yo... (read in full...)
Some of the things I've found out about this guy make me wonder if I should date him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months and I have learned some things about him during this time that concerns me. Keep in mind that we are both in our early thirties. Here are some things about him: -Never been in a serious relation...
A. 28 May 2010: Hmm...based on what you said, I would personally run for the hills. Here is why:
1. The education difference. While education doesn't make someone a better person, what it does do is give them a difference point of view. Your friends also ten... (read in full...)
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