Her training to fight makes me feel insecure.
Q. I'm in a fairly new relationship with a woman I adore. Our courtship lasted a bit long but we didn't want to get into a relationship just after a few weeks of admitting we liked each other. After a little over a year, we became happily official. T...
A. 22 January 2014: You know what? I actually understand your insecurity. Gentle or not, you're a man, and seemingly your woman is "tougher" than you. This IS an unusual sort of gender role reversal, and maybe it subconsciously makes you feel a little inadequate or ... (read in full...)
Tired of my boyfriend's crap!
Q. Not sure where else to post this but hoping for some advice. My boyfriend, who is 34, and I have been living together for 3 years and I have asked him to clean up after himself in the bathroom many times. Specifically, he sits on the toilet in su...
A. 19 January 2014: Just be glad you aren't the poster from the other day whose boyfriend leaves poop on the bed. :-)
Kidding, he is clearly out of line here. This would be a dealbreaker for me since he isn't willing to address it.... (read in full...)
Oral sex doesn't make him hard?
Q. why cant my man get hard even when he is down eating me ?...
A. 19 January 2014: There actually are men out there who find giving oral to a woman a little distasteful. Maybe he's one of those and just does it because he loves you, or maybe he just can't multitask very well, lol.
Those are my two suggestions. ... (read in full...)
What should I do to avoid making the biggest mistake of my life ???
Q. I have been married for 6 years and I have the best husband in the world but I recently met someone ! We are very close friends but somehow I am attracted to him ! I feel like he is the perfect match for him ! He is married too but I know he is ...
A. 19 January 2014: The feelings you're having are normal, and the timeframe is close enough that I feel comfortable referring to it as the infamous seven year itch. Just because you're married doesn't mean you'll never be attracted to others, and after several years a ... (read in full...)
I want to marry a female and have children but I am a gay male.
Q. I want to marry a female and have children but I am a gay male. Please help. ...
A. 19 January 2014: Great advice as always, Wiseowle. OP, you're very young, I would sit on these feelings for a number of years and see what happens. It may be possible to find a woman with the desire to marry and have a family who is also very open minded and... (read in full...)
I hate feeling like a hypocrite and a loser! Any insight is appreciated!
Q. I'm 25, and my boyfriend is 25 too. We've been dating for a couple months now, so it's still a "new" relationship. everything's great, except from time to time, I feel insecure because he was really promiscuous in the past (ie. up until right before ...
A. 17 January 2014: Second Tishas advice. You have to work on you and build your own confidence. It isn't fair to either one of you to continue to be so jealous about the past. My own husband and I are in our 40s. We've been together for four years. He is very hands... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend doesn't say he loves or misses me anymore!
Q. Why is he so irritated with me? I'm so upset:( My boyfriend has been acting weird lately. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now. (We haven't had sex yet). He's 28 and I'm 24.. Is a long distance relationship. He's so...
A. 17 January 2014: I think it's already over, he's lost interest or found someone else. Getting mean and rude is a common tactic for those who lack the courage to do the breaking up-he's trying to get you to do it for him.
LDRs are very hard to maintain, especial... (read in full...)
How do I stop these desires?
Q. After weeks of self help books reminding me I'm a strong independent woman and I'm beautiful and I don't need a man (which is all entirely true!!) I would normally take these 6 months in my early twenties to love being single with no attention ...
A. 17 January 2014: Are you opposed to casual sex? If you want to stay single and can trust yourself to not get attached, AND are not morally opposed to it, this can be a good option as long as you take steps to stay safe. I know some people may be opposed to that ... (read in full...)
I can't deal with the poop streaks he leaves on the bed!
Q. This is a gross question but I really need advice. Sorry to be graphic. Basically Ive been seeing this guy for 3 months and on 3 occasions when he has stayed over at mine he has left poop streaks in my bed. He did it lastnight and I felt sick. He is ...
A. 17 January 2014: I've had this happen! I've had this happen! Not only did he leave the poop streaks, but every single pair of his underwear I saw had skid marks. So foul! Also, his showers were literally under two minutes, he insisted that was due to being in the ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get the girl?
Q. I'm a freshman in high school and I've got a wierd issue of being rejected and/or friendzoned. I've heard that guys that leak confidence get the girl, but I've tried everything. I try to ask a girl to the movies or something but I always get denied. ...
A. 15 January 2014: The nerdiest guy in my high school is now one of the most well known ski and snowboard instructors in my state, and has women FALLING all over him. True story.
Be patient, work on developing your social skills. Look up some information on how t... (read in full...)
Do you say goodnight to each other or do you sometimes forget?
Q. My fiancé got upset that I didn't say goodnight to him. He wanted me to work on my project which I did late into the night. He was still up and in another area of the house when I decided I was really tired and I went to bed. He woke me up and s...
A. 15 January 2014: What the hell is wrong with that guy?
Is he really so insecure that one instance of "failure to say goodnight" warrants a complete tantrum and an assertion that you don't love him?
Red flag. HUGE red flag. Be on the lookout for others, and ... (read in full...)
Why can't men treat a good woman right, be faithful and stop that wondering eye?
Q. I am a 49 year old woman married 25 years and two children. I married my high school sweetheart, who was a flirt... He cheated on me 17 years ago, and last year... I don't know about all the other years, but I have doubts. He will never admit that ...
A. 15 January 2014: Wise Owl is indeed wise, and has given you great advice. It isn't fair to compartmentalize all men based on your very limited experience. In fact, it's downright insulting to the millions of good, faithful men out there who treat their spouses ... (read in full...)
I found his ad on casual sex sites but thought he was against it!!
Q. Hi everyone, I have been with my current boyfriend for about 7 months now. About a month ago, I was using his iPad to purchase Christmas presents and I found a site bookmarked called "Forgetdinner". I was curious so I entered the site and it turn...
A. 15 January 2014: "I don't know what to believe".
Well, I can tell you what NOT to believe- him. Pretty much anything he says, at this point.
He's manipulating you and lying to you in order to be with you. This is common-people with no integrity will p... (read in full...)
He thinks I have anger issues but no one else I know does!
Q. I just wondered if any women have had a situation where a man has accused them of being 'angry' as in inherently angry, when almost no one else that they know has ever said anything remotely like this? I recently had a situation in which a man w...
A. 15 January 2014: Entirely possible. (Your friend's theory, that is.)
Unfortunately, lots of people carry baggage from old relationships right into new, or even potential, new ones. Think of those (and we all know them!) who have uncontrollable jealousy and use ... (read in full...)
I want to satisfy all his needs but not with a threesome!
Q. Ok so i know this is a probably a typical silly question to ask but i want to know your opinions on having a threesome based in a relationship!! Small bit of background Im with my partner just over 6 months now we are both similar people and even ...
A. 14 January 2014: Threesomes can be lots of fun. My husband and I got it off the bucket list when our relationship was very new, so it turned out fine.
If you are not 100% on board, it will turn out very, very badly, though. Do not, I repeat, do not go there un... (read in full...)
His two best friends havent reacted to his FB post about us being engaged!
Q. My Fiance proposed to me 2 weeks ago. We were away at the time so he put it on facebook. Most of his friends wrote a message or called him but his 2 BEST friends of 30 + years who he's travelled the world with etc are still yet to contact him. I ...
A. 14 January 2014: Maybe it didn't show up in their news feed.
Myself and another mutual friend both recently missed a post from one of our longtime, dearest friends about losing her fiancee in a horrible car crash. We felt awful when we realized what happened... (read in full...)
Why on earth do women agree to an FWB situation?
Q. After reading so many posts here and seeing what girls and women do around me, I have a question, why on Earth women agree to FWB situation?? I understand if casual sex just happens once, in a heat of a moment, once very rarely and it's not a no...
A. 14 January 2014: Well, FWB isn't a term that existed when I was young and single. I did, however, have plenty of one night stands, some of them with fairly good friends, and never felt demoralized or degraded as it was quite mutual.
Personally, I never was able... (read in full...)
Ladies -- what terms do you use?
Q. Curious question for the women: how many of you call your vagina a "pussy"? What do you think of the word "cunt"? I like the word pussy...I think it's sexy but the other word seems harsh and derogatory to me. Yet, I've heard that word used by ...
A. 14 January 2014: Hah! Well, pussy has a much more pleasant nuance of sound than words like cunt,snatch, or twat. They just don't sound pleasant or sexy, except maybe during dirty talk in the act of sex. So, yes, pussy and boobs or tits.
Also, I felt kind of silly... (read in full...)
How to find a balance between social media and real life?
Q. This is more a coping with stress question than a relationship one, but they're both linked. My cellphone is stressing me! It's taking a toll on my emotional wellbeing. It started after my 4 best friends created a group chat on WhatsApp. It was ...
A. 14 January 2014: That's a tough one when you're so young and there's peer pressure.
That said, if these girls really are your best friends, and not overreacting drama queens, they should understand when you tell them exactly what you've told us here. Some of ... (read in full...)
I have a fantasy, but is it too 'out there' to share with her?
Q. I have a strong desire to cum in my girlfriend's long hair, but I know it will be really messy and difficult to get out. How can I bring this fantasy up to my girlfriend? Do you think she will think I'm weird? If you are a woman would you allow a ...
A. 12 January 2014: No, it's not too hard to clean out (water soluble, you know). No, I wouldn't mind a bit, and have allowed it many times. If she loves you, this is a VERY tame fantasy and she shouldn't have any issues with it.
Cumming on the face: Boy, you've b... (read in full...)
I find my boyfriend's dry humping annoying. How do I deal with this without offending him or putting him off?
Q. This is a really stupid problem, but my boyfriend is always dry humping me... When I'm cooking dinner, when we're in bed, etc. It is kind of annoying, but I worry that I am thwarting his masculine sexual urges or something by telling him to stop and ...
A. 12 January 2014: Those of you saying "stop complaining and enjoy it" have obviously never had to deal with a guy that does this ALL. THE. TIME. I have, so I understand what OP is going through, and no, it isn't ok, and I'm sure she has asked him to stop. Blech, if ... (read in full...)
What would you consider as being needy?
Q. Hey everyone, what would you consider as being needy? I am just curious about cause in my case, we haven´t seen each other for over six weeks and then I just wanted to spend a couple days with her. It was great for two days and then She claime...
A. 11 January 2014: Eesh! She sounds like a handful, OP!
The only advice I have is this:
If you really want to be with her, then *accept* her little oddities and that she's going to be this way, don't push, and be very patient.
If you aren't sure, then again,... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my parents' divorce?
Q. My parents are getting a divorce, and it is the most painful thing I have ever experienced in my life so far. How do I deal with this? Both of them have used me, and I have been the messenger, and while one of them has tried to keep being a pa...
A. 10 January 2014: That sucks!
I will say that at your age, you are old enough to set some firm boundaries. Your parents probably don't realize how much their using you is harming your emotional well being.
I'd sit them both dis individually and tell them fi... (read in full...)
What would you consider as being needy?
Q. Hey everyone, what would you consider as being needy? I am just curious about cause in my case, we haven´t seen each other for over six weeks and then I just wanted to spend a couple days with her. It was great for two days and then She claime...
A. 10 January 2014: Doesn't seem to needy to me, BUT, it does seem that you want different things out of the relationship. You want more than she does, and this may be a dealbreaker.
Are you pressuring her? I don't know, you very well may be. How often do you brin... (read in full...)
Found out boyfriend looks at porn and gay porn. Does everyone do this?
Q. really need some good advice as this problem is really upsetting me . ive been with my partner 3 years and have lived together for 6 months with our baby . i recently found that he had looked at gay porn on the internet. he says hes not gay and ...
A. 10 January 2014: Don't worry! Yes, it's normal, and sadly it also seems to be normal for women to freak out about it, though I wouldn't recommend it. No, he probably isn't gay. The vast majority of human beings have some attraction or curiosity towards the same... (read in full...)
Girls, what is your own preference with regard to your own pubic hair? Full bush, trimmed, landing strip or completely bald?
Q. Dear Moderator, I went through the questions. Most are what about what the other sex likes but I can't find one where the women answered for themselves. I shave myself smooth because I like it that way myself (not because my man requested it). Jus...
A. 8 January 2014: I'm very hairy. VERY. Doesn't matter if I shave or Nair or wax, my thick dark hair makes it obvious. I get painful ingrown hairs, itching, etc. Crazy to maintain. So, I hate shaving even though I did it for years due to societal standards.
Elate... (read in full...)
Do I still have a chance at winning a good guy turned bad love back?
Q. A good guy fell in love with me and pursued me for years. I resisted him and gave him the cold shoulder for years. He wasn't my typical type of guy and was much older. Fast forward now that I am grown and matured and have tested the waters over the...
A. 7 January 2014: Ah, we always want that which we cannot have, don't we?
It was true for him, and now it's true for you, too.
I wonder if his newly found noninterest is at the root of your own newly found interest?
A little self reflection is needed. ... (read in full...)
Brother's best friend wants to marry me but I don't feel that way!
Q. My brothers best friend loves me and wants to marry me....i just like him but dnt have feelings for him...now am bewildered cos i have a bf currently,what should i do?...
A. 7 January 2014: Tell him you're flattered, but you don't share his feelings, and to please leave it be.
If it escalates, come back and seek our advice again!
Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. Don't lead him on. Do NOT mince words. Just say it.... (read in full...)
Why can I give a one night stand oral sex but not to someone I am in a relationship with?
Q. I don't know why I am like this but in the past I have not been able to give a guy a blowjob who I am in a serious relationship with - which included my ex husband. Yet I have had no problem doing that with a couple of one night stands since. The ...
A. 7 January 2014: Honestly this sounds like a therapy issue to me.
I can't presume to know what might have happened in your past to cause you to feel this way- what I DO know is that this is very much an issue worth trying very hard to get over!
Sounds like i... (read in full...)
Why is it bad to send ex a hate letter?
Q. I wrote a 3 page letter telling my ex how much I hate him. He had records of cheating and every time I forgave him and took him back. He's a liar and never changed. I'm so pissed and don't deserve after what I've done for him. So people said don't ...
A. 7 January 2014: The other Aunts nailed this one-
because it will make you look silly and insecure, unable to move on, and because it won't affect him in the least.... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a married man to text or chat with other woman?
Q. Is it ok for a married man to text or chat with other woman? I have been married for 7 years and from the beginning I have expressed to my husband how I feel about this subject after reading a conversation between him and another women about how ...
A. 7 January 2014: Well, I hate to say it, but he has a point. I'm a married female, same age range (I'm 43), and my husband and I both have very close opposite sex friends that we text and/or chat with. Yes, we share close personal details with these friends. ... (read in full...)
Why are women so judgemental about guys who want to or have experimented with other guys?
Q. Why is it seen as such a HUGE deal BY WOMEN if a guy wants to experiment with another guy? Girls can already agree that that most, if not many guys LIE and CHEAT, is it so hard to believe that they can fuse those two together and TRY, just TRY an...
A. 1 January 2014: I don't know why, but it's sad. There's such a double standard. Add to that the fact that most women freak the hell out if God forbid they find a little gay porn on the hubbys PC...no wonder men hide it and cover it up. It's creating more ... (read in full...)
Do women ever regret breaking the good guy's heart?
Q. Hello, why is it when men meet what it seems a nice women, they start to like they find out that their, exs treated them bad, abuse them, beat them , they say they want to be treated good, but when you do, they dump you an go back to the guy, who ...
A. 1 January 2014: It's very very hard to leave an abusive relationship, and abusive men are very good at sucking the women back in.
As a woman who was in abusive relationships through my early 20s, dated a couple of "nice guys" then went back, I can say HELL YES... (read in full...)
He met his ex behind my back and now I don't feel like I can trust him!
Q. I've just found out my bf of a year has met his ex behind my back. He's been split from this girl for 3 years and has had 2 relationships inbetween, both of which he cheated on them with this girl. He told me about it when I was getting to k...
A. 1 January 2014: I'm very sorry. The truth is that he is still stuck on her. You can't trust this guy. I have no issues with exes that remain friends, but that isn't what this is, as they keep having sex.
"Clear the air"? I'm sorry, but what kind of BS is that?... (read in full...)
Has anyone used a 'safe' option to reclaim self-esteem and then dumped 'safe' for 'hot'?
Q. Hello, Have any of you ladies on here suffered with some depression, low self esteem and insecurities to the point that while seeing a hot man, you can't enjoy it for the endless worrying that he will dump you for someone better? So, you end up d...
A. 20 December 2013: No, honey. You need to work on your insecurity issues by looking within yourself, not by hurting someone else. Not only will it not work, but it's wrong. I'm afraid your priorities are all twisted up. You should be looking for partners b... (read in full...)
I'm jealous over his pictures of female celebrities
Q. hi, advice please. i'm 19 and gay. i'm with a 44 yr old guy (dont judge) for a couple of months now. i love him and he says he loves me, i've loved him since i was 14. he split with his long term girlfriend 3 months back, i took a chance, he ...
A. 20 December 2013: He's not gay, he's bisexual. Either you choose to accept him for who he is, or you end it. Jealousy is harmful to you, to him, and to your relationship. You're still very young and impressionable, and your emotions and hormones are incredibly s... (read in full...)
He says his use of gay sex sites is an addiction
Q. I'm engaged to this really wonderful man. We've been in a relationship for 2 years and counting. We hit off really well as a couple and have had really good times together. The problem started when I discovered that he had online sex chats with ...
A. 20 December 2013: Hi there. He's bisexual. He may have never acted on it, but these chats with men indicate a clear fantasy (if not outright desire) for sexual relations with men. He's likely not outright gay if he finds you attractive and also wants to have se... (read in full...)
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