His being late makes me feel disrespected
Q. I have been dating a guy for about 2 months. He was on-time our first date but almost every time after that he is late. I am not talking 15 mins late. I am talking an hour! There have been times when he had decent reason for being late and I just ...
A. 18 September 2014: I dated a guy like this. He will never, never, never, never change. It is utterly disrespectful, but punctuality or lack of seems to be kind of ingrained, so if you can't deal with this horrible, maddening habit, you should move on.
That,... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he see my potential? Is he sexist? Complacent about life?
Q. I feel like my boyfriend doesnt understand one aspect of my life and I need help explaining this to him. I am going to graduate late next year with a degree in engineering. I have worked very hard with my school and it is because I want to provide ...
A. 18 September 2014: I am relatively poor and live on 30 acres in a rural area. I could make a lot more money living in the city- I have a degree and job skills that are highly in demand.
I live in a beautiful little home in the middle of the woods. I raise my own p... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he see my potential? Is he sexist? Complacent about life?
Q. I feel like my boyfriend doesnt understand one aspect of my life and I need help explaining this to him. I am going to graduate late next year with a degree in engineering. I have worked very hard with my school and it is because I want to provide ...
A. 18 September 2014: I am relatively poor and live on 30 acres in a rural area. I could make a lot more money living in the city- I have a degree and job skills that are highly in demand.
I live in a beautiful little home in the middle of the woods. I raise my own p... (read in full...)
My boyfriend calls me and rants about things, is this normal?
Q. Hi all, I'm dating a man who likes to/ needs to "vent". This is what he calls it anyway. To me, "venting" has always meant something like calling a friend (or even talking out loud to myself in the car) and just saying what's bugging me. Just ...
A. 13 September 2014: I'm going to rewrite your post for you.
"What is the best way to break up with this perfectly horrible man who calls me constantly screaming and swearing and being generally unreasonable? I know that when I tell him I'm leaving him he's going to... (read in full...)
Straight man is sending me mixed signals
Q. I am a gay man that has become good friends with a straight man. He knows I am gay but I think he is curious about his sexuality. He always says he is straight but he is sending me mixed signals. What do I do?...
A. 13 September 2014: I don't know if you should "do" anything. Sure, theoretically you might be able to get drunk with him and convince him to have a little fun with you, but what then? A lot of bi curious guys are so insecure about their sexuality and so afraid of ... (read in full...)
He is always busy and I don't feel he prioritizes seeing me.
Q. I have been seeing my fella for a year now and it's going ok, but we both have very busy jobs and he lives in another town from me,anyway I wanted to see more of him so I suggested seeing him on a Friday night but he couldn't because he had ...
A. 13 September 2014: I'm sorry but it just doesn't seem he's that into you. He doesn't see you very often and it's clear he would rather golf than spend time with you. I don't see this relationship going anywhere at all.... (read in full...)
I want to break up with him but when can I do it?
Q. I have been in a relationship for a little over two years. At the moment he is away and working in the uk whilst I am in Germany. In this time apart I have begun to realise that I haven't been myself in this relationship. I constantly have my ...
A. 13 September 2014: I think your plan is a good one. You must get this off your chest and you shouldn't have to pretend for a moment longer. Yes the flight will be uncomfortable, but you seem very mature, I'm sure you can handle it.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to consider porn cheating?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years and the relationship is going pretty well so far. The only thing that really bothers me, and I have expressed myself, is the fact he watches porn on his days off while I'm at work. In my ...
A. 12 September 2014: Porn may be a lot of things, but cheating it isnt. Your guy has made it clear that he enjoys porn. He clears his history because it bothers you to see it. By continuing to nag about it you're just opening the door for him to start lying just to shut ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my partner about guys hitting on me?
Q. A guy from one of my college classes walked me to my car the other day (10 mins out of his way). He asked if I was single, I said no, he suggested he was interested. I took it as a compliment. Since then I helped him out with a class he missed, sent ...
A. 9 September 2014: Boundaries, my dear, boundaries. You're encouraging this boy, and that needs to stop. That's why you feel guilty. I wouldn't tell him, but I would cut contact with this boy immediately. ... (read in full...)
I enjoy sex but hate to think I have a bad reputation
Q. I am a single 22 year old woman and enjoy sex. I have had sex with a total of ten guys since i was 17 and can go a few months without any sexual interaction. Yet i am worried i come across slutty when i do go home with someone. I am always safe but ...
A. 9 September 2014: There is nothing wrong with enjoying sex. I enjoyed sex with many different men in my youth, and eventually settled with the man of my dreams, who enjoyed sex with many different women in his youth. Now we just enjoy it together. :-)
I hate the... (read in full...)
How close is too close for cousins relationships with each other
Q. My brother is over a decade older than me and married with no children. Because of the economy my brother had to take a job in another state and he flies back home during the month. His first job was by our youngest female cousin who has always b...
A. 8 September 2014: My opinion would be to stay far, far, far OUT of this situation. It isn't your business, dont make it so. ... (read in full...)
He bullied me into an abortion last time, so how do I tell him I'm pregnant?
Q. Can anyone help!! I think i just need someone to talk to and not judge! I have been with my on off partner for 3 years. At the minute u could say we have been casual...just dating. Last year I fell pregnant and he bullied and manipulated me over th ...
A. 4 September 2014: I'm not going to lecture you, the only thing I'm going to say is that you must decide whether you're prepared to be a single mother.
It seems the abortion traumatized you horribly, so I certainly won't even suggest that. But it is clear that dea... (read in full...)
Is this normal in a relationship?
Q. Hi, this is not really a personal question but I'd like to hear some opinions. It is regarding the recent celebrity nude pictures scandal. After seeing the pics I find myself questioning what is normal and acceptable in relationships(I've never had ...
A. 4 September 2014: No honey, everybody is different. Some of us do enjoy being kinky, when I do kinky things with my husband I do not find them degrading, or nasty, or gross. Sexual preferences run a wide range in both men and women, there are plenty of loving couples ... (read in full...)
Please advice me on how to make the separation and divorce as painless as possible for my son
Q. Hello aunts and uncles. Ive been married for 5 years. My husband cheated on me. He doesnt know why. To be honest Internet dont wanna hear it either. Maybe life was too perfect and he got bored. His own fault. He sleeps in the guest room until I can ...
A. 3 September 2014: There is no other way, only to tell him exactly how you just told us. ... (read in full...)
Am I being a "princess"?
Q. My boyfriend used to be my fiancé. Now I'm not sure if he's even my boyfriend anymore, but I guess that's where my question comes in. I called off the wedding about 6 weeks before we were to be married. It was a very unsatisfying engagement, ...
A. 2 September 2014: Yup, walk away. It's time. Some relationships are beyond fixing, and this is one.... (read in full...)
Please advice me on how to make the separation and divorce as painless as possible for my son
Q. Hello aunts and uncles. Ive been married for 5 years. My husband cheated on me. He doesnt know why. To be honest Internet dont wanna hear it either. Maybe life was too perfect and he got bored. His own fault. He sleeps in the guest room until I can ...
A. 2 September 2014: Your son is so young he probably won't remember it to be honest.
My advice: take the high road, always. Keep your cool. NEVER talk bad to your baby about your soon to be ex. It's ok to keep communication at a minimum, but don't fight, yell, ar... (read in full...)
Are soulmates even real?
Q. Hi everyone, my mind has been all over the place lately and i just wanted to ask you some questions about soulmates. Does anyone out there believe they have found their soulmate? Maybe you thought you did but then realised afterwards that they cudnt ...
A. 2 September 2014: Nah, there are probably many potential partners who would be near perfect mates for you.
My husband is as near as perfect for me as you can get. We're definitely bonded for life. That said, we don't always know what the other is thinking... (read in full...)
Need help dealing with heavy periods
Q. Hey I'm 13 and I have really heavy periods which are usually accompanied by horrible cramps. My cycle lasts for 3-4 days; in a day I manage to get through 4 pads!? Is this normal? I don't wear tampons because they seem really unfomortable. Like when ...
A. 28 August 2014: Go see your gynecologist. I want to mention that I have the same problem and my own gynecologist recommend that for the two heaviest days I take 1,000 (not 800) mg of ibuprofen every 4-6 hours. He assured me it would be safe as long as it was just ... (read in full...)
Expecting a baby with Bf. Looking for accomodation. Bf suggested adding a female room-mate. I said no. Was I wrong to say no to his idea?
Q. My boyfriend and I are currently apartment hunting. We are expecting a child in a few months and have been looking for a 2 bedroom apartment with little luck. The other day he messaged me telling me that one of his female coworkers was looking ...
A. 27 August 2014: Yeah, just want to agree with the others, and add that the girl is nuts to want to live with a young couple with a new baby anyway. It would be a bad choice for her, she ought to be rooming with other single young people. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are not speaking .... AGAIN!
Q. Well my girlfriend and I arn't speaking again. She literally makes me feel nuts with how double standard she is. We were talking about how you can fall in love with two people, she claims she would be okay if I cheated on her and fell for someone...
A. 24 August 2014: Oh my goodness, what a horrible relationship this sounds like.
Why are you with her? Seriously, do you enjoy the drama? Because that's all this relationship is-at least, seems that way from our end.
You should end it and take a long, hard loo... (read in full...)
How do I let this guy know I am interested? I think I came across as being rude and stuck up
Q. Hey, My Question is about a man I work close too, he always (well used too) Stare at me, turn up wherever I was, classic tell tale signs don't think that I need to go back into them, but I gave him nothing back didn't even say hello back, as I just ...
A. 24 August 2014: If you have just been ignoring him then this is super easy. Just walk up and say hi, strike up a conversation. The rest should naturally follow. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend hasn't told his family about us... is he ashamed of me?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year. All my close friends and family members know about him. Heck, he has even talked to my mother! I talk about him all the time, I'm proud to be with him and am serious about our relationship. However, ...
A. 24 August 2014: If he was ashamed of you he wouldn't be with you.
It is more likely he is ashamed of them. And yes it's possible he is from a family of bigots and is afraid they will say hurtful things to you. Maybe he feels he is protecting you.
You definitel... (read in full...)
Am I now the workplace joke?
Q. Im the 3rd oldest at work, 95% my colleagues are under 31. my handwriting isnt good , I try and its kind of ok and legible, but it will never be "really neat." Part of my job means writing and documenting at times, I do my best but since i was ...
A. 23 August 2014: Wow, you're way too sensitive, Cindy's response WAS genuine, and absolutely spot on. She is a very respected aunt and gives excellent advice.
With your completely out of line reply to her, I see what is going on here. You are extremely thin ski... (read in full...)
Extremely insecure and self conscious, I'm afraid this will kill my relationship!
Q. I have dealt with this issue for most of my life and it's slowly killing me inside and I'm afraid will slowly over time kill my relationship if I don't stop. I am extremely insecure about myself, I have very low self esteem for reasons sometimes I ...
A. 20 August 2014: Honey, I think you need counseling, sincerely. I was pretty jealous when I was younger also, but it seems as though it's crippling you and that's going to be difficult if not impossible to beat back on your own. This is the sort of thing that ruins ... (read in full...)
Could I have found the right guy?
Q. So I have been dating this guy for 3 months and things seem to be going very good. Except that his ex is still in his life he says they are just friends. We hardly fight and he says that when he he's with me that he doesn't think about anything...
A. 15 August 2014: In my opinion, if I fight with someone after only 3 months it is NOT the right person. Been with my husband for five years and we never "fight", and time between disagreements/minor arguments is 6-9 months. Just my opinion. ... (read in full...)
I cant get pregnant by my husband. Is it because our blood doesn't match? Should I try to get pregnant by another man?
Q. Dear Cupid.ORG. Im 29 married women with no children.Me and my husband we have been trying for a baby about 8 years knw bt now lucky.So I like to know if its is possible to get pregnant if I sleep with another man because so of people say maybe ou...
A. 12 August 2014: What the heck! No, you should go see a doctor. I don't know who these people are who are saying maybe your blood doesn't match, but they are very ignorant. It might be a problem with his sperm, or it might be a problem with YOUR eggs. You shouldn't ... (read in full...)
Do men like biting and scratching during sex?
Q. Is it enjoyable for a guy to have his back grabbed/ lightly scratched during sex? Lip bitten? I just don't want to hurt or turn men off. When I get excited, I can't help it! Opinions? ...
A. 11 August 2014: It's funny to me when people ask do guys or girls like this or that during sex.
Everyone is different. Everyone has different turn ons. Your question is really unanswerable. Might as well have asked if your guy will enjoy being spanked and tied... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like me wearing a bikini to the beach but I feel restricted!
Q. My boyfriend isn't happy when I wear a bikini to the beach. While he doesn't restrict me, when I wear the bikini, he would be in a foul mood because he doesn't like guys staring at my body. While I want to take his feelings into consideration, it ...
A. 7 August 2014: Wear your bikini and dump the insecure jerk. ... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend is shaming me and my sexual preferences! Am I in the wrong? Have I pushed him too far? Or am I really that disgusting?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for nearly 2 years - at least 18 months of which have been based on serious long term commitment to each other with the future in mind. We have an average sex life. I have accepted that I am a more...
A. 6 August 2014: You should never be shamed for sharing your fantasies. This is a horrible breach of trust. You are NOT nasty and NOT a whore, but you are in a relationship with someone who is not compatible with you. His slut shaming of you is a reflection on his ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't want me to masturbate. How do I handle this?
Q. I am in my early twenties and I am a girl seeing another girl about my age. I do not personally think masturbation is wrong but my girlfriend insists that she does not like the idea of me masturbating although I only do it when we cannot be intimate ...
A. 6 August 2014: What? No. She's nuts. Masturbating is fun and it's great for you. She sounds horribly, horribly insecure, and terribly controlling, and frankly you shouldn't put up with such an insane, over the top demand for an instant. Why does she think that's ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for the head of a man's penis to feel REALLY sensitive after orgasm?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I was wondering, is it normal for the head of a man's penis to feel REALLY sensitive after orgasm? My boyfriend says that, after climax, any stimulation at the head of his penis feels painful. Does this happen to all men? O...
A. 1 August 2014: Yes. It's normal. I have had many partners in my lifetime and the sensitive head is a constant. It's completely true. ... (read in full...)
My heart is broken....I don't know how to fix this. Help me!
Q. My husband asked me to fulfill a fantasy for him. He wanted me to have sex with another man and video it for he and I to watch later. I am not as open minded as him and it took me a while to process the idea and agree to it. We did it this ...
A. 22 July 2014: Do not let him beat you up over this! Do NOT! This was HIS idea. HIS fantasy. And now he is blaming you because it did not go well. He wanted it, he needs to put on his big boy pants and get over it. He might've lost a friendship and a wife and it's ... (read in full...)
My parents cant stand my relationship with my much older B/f. Should I even invite them to my wedding ?
Q. My parents have never been supportive if my relationship with my older boyfriend. We have been dating for three years and he is 19 years older then me and was also a family friend before we started dating. Once we started dating they but me out o...
A. 17 July 2014: Yeah, I definitely think the first few aunties missed the statement that they essentially disowned you.
This is your choice. You're an adult. If you choose to contact them, preface it by letting your mother know that you won't tolerate negative... (read in full...)
How to control rage issues, that have cost me my marriage?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I have a big problem and was wondering if anyone can refer me to some good websites, or help me to find information on this. Basically, my husband and I got in a fight, and I hit him. This has happened before, and I went to ...
A. 16 July 2014: Seems like you're blaming the counselor here, not fair. This is YOUR responsibility, YOUR fault. Sometimes it takes several years of losing the things we love to snap us out of bad behavior, and make us realize that the only ones who can change us, ... (read in full...)
He ignored my facebook request and now is staring at me at work. Awkward! What's going on?
Q. Hi everyone! I'm in an embarrassing situation! I recently started at a new job 5 weeks ago. Everybody's lovely but there are a large amount of staff that rotate, so you can often go weeks without working with certain members. Anyway I'm tryin...
A. 15 July 2014: I don't know, but i do know that it is only Facebook and nothing at all to stress over or be embarrassed about. Just act like nothing happened, because that, in reality, is EXACTLY what happened- nothing. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to find any handsome and confident guys that are not assholes?
Q. It seems that every descent looking guy I come across ends up being a total asshole! They turn out to be liars and cheaters and users and honestly I'm sick of it. They think that just because they are good looking they can step all over peoples ...
A. 13 July 2014: Lol, yes.
Signed, a 45 year old woman who just met the love of her life five years ago.... (read in full...)
I have a B/f but is it normal to be completely and utterly drawn to another person without being able to put your finger on the reason why?
Q. Hi all! I want some clarification into my situation! I am 22 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 5 years! He's 23! I have always been totally in love with him, he can wind me up most days due to the maturity difference in us, but I sti...
A. 13 July 2014: Yup, you're really young, it's totally normal for all adults but particularly at your age. Plus, he has been the ONLY guy you've been with your whole adult life.
You haven't experienced variety. Will your relationship last? Only time will tel... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is physically abusive. Part of me wants to leave him but I also know he would never truly hurt me
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years, and we recently moved in together. He is usually extremely sweet and caring. But sometime he has bouts of anger that make me extremely uncomfortable. I can honestly say he'd never hit me, bu...
A. 11 July 2014: Um, you are so wrong. This guy IS going to hit you. Or choke you out, or throw you into a wall, or stab you or shoot you eventually. The sad thing is, you won't believe me until it happens. I used to be young and idealistic like you. I had a few ... (read in full...)
I think my husband might be bi and I don't know what to do
Q. I am very confused and at a loss of what to do, think and believe . My husband and I have been together 3yrs and got married last november. I just found out the truth that my husband has been talking/flirting with other girls before and after we got ...
A. 11 July 2014: MOST people are "a little bi", it is just harder to admit it for males because there's a stigma. My question to you is,why is that more important to you than his lying and dishonesty? ... (read in full...)
Is my husband gay? straight? or just curious?
Q. I'm questioning whether to believe my husband when he says he's not gay or bi after I confronted him about knowing he watched/chatted with a couple trannies this one time that I know of. There were also females he watched/chatted with as well. He ...
A. 11 July 2014: Nevermind, I did not read your question carefully enough. It sounds like he Is possibly being unfaithful and dishonest. This is what really needs to be addressed.
Sorry about my previous answer, hey mods, want to delete that for me? Thanks! ... (read in full...)
I have an embarrassing medical problem and I don't know how to tell my parents!
Q. I have a problem at the moment and I don't know what to do. Lately my vulva has become very itchy and sore and I really want to tell my parents but I am too embarrassed and afraid to do it. Its making me cry at night because I'm so worried but I'm ...
A. 10 July 2014: Don't be worried, you probably have a yeast infection. They make you very itchy and they aren't sexually transmitted or anything. If you have access to your own money you can just go to the store and buy the medicine yourself.
Why are you afra... (read in full...)
| *henCowsAttack's friends
These are mutual friends, so *henCowsAttack has
added them and they have added *henCowsAttack!
|
