I have an embarrassing medical problem and I don't know how to tell my parents!
Q. I have a problem at the moment and I don't know what to do. Lately my vulva has become very itchy and sore and I really want to tell my parents but I am too embarrassed and afraid to do it. Its making me cry at night because I'm so worried but I'm ...
A. 10 July 2014: Don't be worried, you probably have a yeast infection. They make you very itchy and they aren't sexually transmitted or anything. If you have access to your own money you can just go to the store and buy the medicine yourself.
Why are you afra... (read in full...)
Boyfriend living with me temporarily the love is dying, what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years now and the love is seriously dying out. We have a few past personal issues but that isn't what's pushing us apart. Recently, about 3 or so months ago, he got evicted from his...
A. 5 July 2014: You're very young. In this day and age it would be very unusual if your high school sweetheart was the one you ended up spending the rest of your life with. Young people go through so many mental and emotional changes as they mature, growing apart ... (read in full...)
I find myself wanting to spend less and less time with my husband. Is this natural after years of marriage?
Q. Has anyone experienced this with their husbands after many years of marriage? The thing is that I started to avoid being around my husband. We always had good relationship, never argued much, but lately about a year I caught myself on a thought ...
A. 5 July 2014: Yes, that happened to me. It was the beginning of the end for us, as I realized we were totally incompatible and always had been. I don't know whether that's the case for you.... (read in full...)
Do I have to go to bed the same time as my girlfriend every night?
Q. I don't have to get up early, but on 4 days a week my partner does have to. She doesn't like me going to bed at a different time as her.The thing is, it's very rare I want to stay up watching TV in the living room when she goes to bed.If it was all ...
A. 4 July 2014: It's perfectly fine for you to stay up, you're a grown man and she isn't your mommy. Sometimes we all need quiet and alone time. Also, it is wrong for her to try and dictate your bedtime. ... (read in full...)
Is it true that white girls don't like Indian guys?
Q. Hi, i'm an Indian. I am 20 years but i didnt ever travelled out of India. But soon i am going to visit some countries. My problem is I want to date with a white girl. But i am worried about do they like me or not. I am shy to approach them. One of ...
A. 4 July 2014: Hey, I'm a white girl, and one of my fondest past relationships was with an Indian guy named Omar. He was sexy, funny, super handsome and easygoing, and we had a blast. If I weren't married I'd date another Indian guy in a heartbeat! ... (read in full...)
How to deal with this insecurity? Help!
Q. Hello everyone. So here is my problem- I was with a guy for years, I did love him. He gave me a lot of issues in the start because he was a very social person, especially with girls. He used to go out of his way to comment on each and every pic of ...
A. 4 July 2014: You may be attractive, but confident you aren't.
I'm not at all sure why you'd want to stay in a relationship where there are multiple screaming fights, that's horrible and no way to live. And for the life of me,I can't understand why your boy... (read in full...)
Is it a compliment that my husband has been masturbating over our wedding photos?
Q. A few times I have found my wedding photo album not the way I had put it away. I solved this when I found my husband masturbating while looking at photos of me in my wedding dress. He didn't notice me seeing him doing this. I haven't told him anyt...
A. 1 July 2014: Good god, woman, dig that dress out of storage and surprise him by wearing it when he comes home from work! It'll probably be the best sex ever, and do it without mentioning that you caught him. He's going to think you're a mind reader, lol.
Compl... (read in full...)
30 year old male virgin. Sexually frustrated and have Aspergers syndrome.
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a shy and sensitive university-educated 30 year old male who suffers from a mild autism known as Aspergers syndrome. Owing to my social interaction difficulties (I am not socially popular and have no true friends),I have nev...
A. 24 June 2014: Respectfully, have you considered a sex worker? There are actually some kind, caring sex workers that specialize in gently instructing very inexperienced people, and people with varying degrees of social challenges and even disabilities. It is worth ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want my daughter around when she has her daughter around. How to work through this?
Q. My girlfriend and I, both in our 40's, have been together for over 2 years, and have 6 kids in total. Like any relationship we've had our ups and downs and I'm happy to say however that the good have definitely out weighed the bad. One of the stre...
A. 24 June 2014: Um, this is not acceptable. By agreeing with this you are placing lower value on your own daughter than on hers. You are telling your own daughter indirectly that she isn't as important. I'm very sorry, but this is a vile, vile thing for your g... (read in full...)
Unwanted attention from an old guy at the restaurant
Q. Hello, This isn't really a relationship question but I need advice. I have 30 minute lunch breaks every time I work more than a 6 hour shift, which is about 4 days a week. Around my work, there's no where to really eat. We have a Dunkin Don...
A. 21 June 2014: You just have to tell him! There is no other way around it. "Thank you, but I'm just not interested in conversation". Or, "My lunch is my private time, please respect that". You don't owe him a thing.
This is how men get away with harassin... (read in full...)
How do I tell her without offending her about her wiping issue?
Q. Hi I just started dating a new girl . The sex is great and we both oral fixated me giving and her getting . There is one problem she wants her anus licked which I usually enjoy doing but there is a problem with this she has a wiping problem back ...
A. 18 June 2014: Nah, just go clean yourself up first, then tell her to go in and clean herself up too so you guys can have some real fun! ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else ever felt this way after having an abortion?
Q. I'm looking for some advice from anyone who might have been in my situation or know someone who has. I've come to understand it's a far more common situation to be in than I had once believed. I had an abortion 3 weeks ago. At first I felt gla...
A. 16 June 2014: A grieving process is perfectly normal after an abortion. It is probably related to your hormones trying to get back to normal, and many, many women feel this. Also, if you have a religious upbringing this can affect you also.
Best wishes. ... (read in full...)
Is this a misunderstanding or should I just give up on him?
Q. It's been almost a year I'm living with this guy I've got a filling his still seeing his baby mama lately I'm seeing a lot of picture of him and his kid but he always told me he dosnt see his kid anymore cause that b**** don't let him see ...
A. 15 June 2014: What do you mean "seeing", and who are you referring to, the kid or the mother?
Wheb someone has a kid, they are sort of tied to the other parent until the kid grows up. It is just life. Hopefully they can learn to get along for the best interest... (read in full...)
My upbringing makes me feel guilty about using my sex toys
Q. I was brought up with the idea that sex was dirty, porn was unquestionably wrong, sexual expression was shameful (saying "sexy", for example, was taboo in my household), and sex toys were disgusting. Of course, now that I'm an adult (an open o...
A. 14 June 2014: Eh, it's hard to overcome upbringing. I'm a recovering southern Baptist in my 40s, and to this day I still feel a twinge of residual Christian guilt after I masturbate.
It might not ever totally go away, but recognizing it for what it is will kee... (read in full...)
I don't want to live in someone else's shadow!
Q. I've been with my partner for 2 1/2 years now. We've had a baby together and I have lost all my confidence. My ex husband cheated on me all the time and I'm unsure if my own insecurities are the problem or i should be concerned. My boyfriend ...
A. 12 June 2014: They're in a box and you're freaking out about it? Yes, it's you. You have no right to expect him to erase all of his memories for you. This is unreasonable. It is perfectly ok for him to have them.... (read in full...)
He wants proof I am telling the truth or he'll take the kids from me.
Q. OK so I've been with my boyfriend for 9 years and we have 2 kids. I went through a massive depression stage and I completely lost myself. I was drinking heavily. Well I was staying at his family's home in a different city while he stayed at his ...
A. 8 June 2014: He can't just take your kids away from you. I agree with the others, the relationship is done, but it is very difficult to prove someone is an unfit mother and if you have cleaned up your act then it will be impossible. You may have to share ... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you date a girl if you knew she had done nude modeling? Would that change your outlook towards her? And would you be able to see her as being more than a sex object?
Q. I have been modeling for an online swimwear site. I was approached by a porn site for nude modeling... The money they offered was amazing! I told them I would NEVER do photos with a man or another woman... Guys: Would you date a girl if you knew...
A. 6 June 2014: Yes, many men will be fine with dating you. Just don't cross that fine line into porn. ... (read in full...)
How do you know if it's going to be just FWBs or lead to something else? I want to avoid being used!
Q. This is a general question which I'm sure will have varied opinions but I'm asking because of situations I've been in which I just don't know how I could have prevented. I'm going to use the classic girl / boy situation because it seems the most ...
A. 4 June 2014: In my opinion you can't tell for sure. Just to illustrate, when I met my husband he was a very single, very handsome bartender. We were both 40. He had well over 100 sex partners over the years, most of them much younger. He approached me with a ... (read in full...)
How do I Make him stop flirting and cheating?
Q. We have been married for 16yrs, with two children, our youngest is 16. From 2005 my husband has been cheating on me. In 2010 we almost got divorced but he apologised and vowed to stop and seek counselling but that didn't happen. We have been to ...
A. 4 June 2014: Oh my god. Why is this man a preacher? He sounds like a scuzzball to me, and I would never tolerate this. You can't make him stop. You can only decide whether you are willing to put up with his emotional infidelity and his unbelievable, unbelievable ... (read in full...)
This married guy knows I have a crush on him and he touched and kissed me and said, "lets be casual". What does he mean by that?
Q. here's this guy a married man 47 yrs old, he's my friend and most of his family members were my friend also. last year i realized i really like him (crush). but i kept it inside me. he's so nice to me and whenever we see each other he always f...
A. 3 June 2014: It means that he wants to use you for sex, and doesn't care that he will devastate his poor wife if he sleeps with you. I hope you are not considering this. Women who knowingly sleep with married men are nearly as slimy as the men themselves. ... (read in full...)
Husband wants a threesome, how can I fulfill this sexual experience?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I need to know how to go about having a threesome with my husband. First off I am bisexual, so theres no issue with wanting to be with woman sexually. My husband has always wanted to experience a threesome. Its just a fantasy. ...
A. 3 June 2014: I agree with wiseowl. Don't do it. I had a Threesome with my husband, when we first met, and it turned out fine. There is NO WAY I could handle it now, when we're so bonded and in love.
If you can find a substitute for an actual threesom... (read in full...)
Should I go to my boyfriend's best friend's birthday party? I don't want any more drama!
Q. Ive been seeing my boyfriend for about 10 months, exclusive for 6 months. Its going brilliantly! And we get a long so well. But last week hit a bit of a problem. So we have gradually been introducing each other to family and friends etc and its ...
A. 30 May 2014: I usually agree with wiseowl,but in this case I don't. Your boyfriend is trying to avoid her because she is stalking him and is obsessed.
I would go if I were you, if she tries to talk to you again I would repeat what you said last time, and abou... (read in full...)
Engaged to be married but afraid to do so because I do not want sex
Q. I am 21 years old and engaged to be married. Let me explain some of my background to you so that this makes sense. I went to a very small Christian school all my life (16 kids in a k-12 school) that is attached to my church. I grew up reading ...
A. 29 May 2014: Wow, it is amazing to me that there is this kind of religious oppression right here in America.
Honey, in my humble opinion you are being held against your will. The people that are doing this do not have your best interest in mind. They have bra... (read in full...)
We don't make love anymore, we just have sex!
Q. I am in a long distance relationship as of about a year ago. We have been together for 3 years. The last 3 times we have been together we hardly make love and is more like sex. This past weekend we were together after not seeing each other for 4 ...
A. 27 May 2014: People can't control their dreams. Maybe he didn't tell you because he knew you'd get upse. Heck, I am so, so in love with my husband and think he's the sexiest man alive, and even I have occasional dreams about sex with other men. It's normal. ... (read in full...)
My friend seems selfish and ungrateful, or am I just too sensitive?
Q. Why does she behave like that? Am I overreacting? So my older married friend needed a babysitter for the weekend and I love kids and was bored and needed her to do my hair so I spent the weekend with her and her family. I slept with her ...
A. 26 May 2014: Hmm, insecure maybe, but a user? Doesn't sound like it. She does sound concerned that a younger (possibly prettier?) woman is around her husband, and I am questioning why you followed "I wouldn't do that and neither would he" with "hehe", it almost ... (read in full...)
Given the circumstances why wont he give me a key?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about two and a half years. He is 35 and I am 27. He has been married before, I have not. I am at his place often, probably about 5 or 6 nights a week. I do not have a key, so if he has to work before me he will ...
A. 26 May 2014: For some people, giving up a key is rife with symbolism. If he gave you a key, that would be an indicator of FULL commitment, and perhaps a sign that you are officially living together? Then, oh, my, what could be next? Maybe (gasp!) MARRIAGE????
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They are all vain, shallow and racist. Will I be alone for ever?
Q. Hi, I'm a 19 year old gay guy who's never been in a relationship. And I feel really terrible about it. I hate feeling lonely and depressed all the time. But I feel like I'll be alone forever. I know it seems like it should be but the gay community ...
A. 26 May 2014: Aww, sweetie, I'm sorry you feel so alone. For what it is worth, the gay community isn't any different than the straight community, the traits you've described are frequently seen in straight people too. It is hard for everyone, gay or straight, to ... (read in full...)
Why would they be interested in me?
Q. Two childhood sweethearts. . Looked me up after twenty years.. One grade school kept in touch more than the other from Jr high.. they have children and our grandparents. .and from different states .. I finally have a four old daughter and am not ...
A. 26 May 2014: I'm friends on Facebook with several of my exes, including my high school sweetheart. He is a great guy, we just drifted apart. Many years later, we are both with the love of our lives, and we enjoy seeing each other's family photos and sometimes ... (read in full...)
My ex treated me better than this boyfriend!
Q. I was in a relationship for 9 yrs with my ex boyfriend who I dumped a year ago since the relationship was going no where and there was lot of trouble as it was a long distance relationship. After breaking up I immediately got into another ...
A. 26 May 2014: Ahh, a "serial monogamist". I understand, I'm sort of one, too. We tend to stay in a relationship until the next one is ready. Hard cycle to break.
You shouldn't go back to your ex. It won't be any better. And you shouldn't stay with your new... (read in full...)
Twenty eight and throwing tantrums
Q. My lovely live in boyfriend has some sort of anxiety and depression. He has spoken to people about it in the past, and been on antidepressants before my time. His recount on things I've said or scenarios that have happened where he ended up getting ...
A. 26 May 2014: Lovely? LOVELY? I fail to see what could possibly be lovely about a man who freaks out over nothing and slams you into a wall. Get away from him, now, before he seriously injures or kills you. He will NOT stop, this will only get worse. I have been ... (read in full...)
Don't like being friend with my ex, but there is no way
Q. Hi everybody, Since ever the one in the group that is single and always dating new girls and all the past relations were like heaven. Everybody likes me, even my ex-girlfriends and I love everybody, I was happy. There was a girl whom I always lik...
A. 26 May 2014: Aww, you seem like a very nice guy, and kudos to you for sucking up your feelings and being around her even though it hurts. I'm so sorry to say, the only thing that will help is more time. Of course, you must refrain from speaking to her ... (read in full...)
Whose move next?
Q. A man I like, whom I met several months ago and have bumped into a couple of times asked for my number when we randomly saw each other one evening a few weeks ago. I had a missed call 2 weeks ago and I sent a text back to say I saw the missed call ...
A. 26 May 2014: I'd say it's obvious he's interested, so it doesn't matter either way. Go ahead and invite him for coffee or a drink, and if he can't make it that time, then it is time to wait and see.... (read in full...)
The ex stayed with the family for the funeral so why not me?
Q. Hi So I am after some opinions as to whether I am over analysing things and being silly or if I am right to feel upset. I am new to this site and so am expecting there may be some readers who will judge me pretty harshly but that's ok, maybe I dese...
A. 25 May 2014: A terminal illness is not a fun thing for anybody. This is not a pleasure visit. Their child is losing her grandpa, and any good mother would care about this. You are complicating an already horrible situation over nothing more than insecurity.
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Is he playing games with my head and heart?
Q. HI all I am sorry if this is a bit long but I need to get this off my chest and hope to understand a bit better. I first started dating my partner a year ago next week. In the begining he told me he was with someone but has not seen her for...
A. 23 May 2014: The only thing missing here is boiling bunnies.
Run, don't walk. ... (read in full...)
Is being horny tons of times a day normal?
Q. Hello. Just wondering if being horny tons of times is normal. Ever since i turned 13 I've been getting horny urges. They were laxed originally but as i got to about 18 they started to become very abundant. My estimate (because i don't keep track...
A. 23 May 2014: Lol, yes, teenage boys are horny every second of every day. I am dead serious, you are completely normal. ... (read in full...)
I'm not interested! How do I let him down?
Q. What should I do about this guy? I'm so upset:( So my older friend says I'm a good decent girl and very pretty so she gave my number to her husbands nephew and he's been calling me since. We've talked and I found out that he's a 31 year ...
A. 21 May 2014: You just have to tell him nicely! Don't drag it out, besides what he said would creep me out a little. "I'm sorry, I'd rather not meet in person will suffice. You owe him nothing more than that, and the meeting would surely be uncomfortable. ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to let his guard down?
Q. Long story short as possible. I could really use some advice/encouraging words. My boyfriend (ex, I should say) have been together 4 years. Things towards the end started to go bad. We've basically been on and off the last 4 months. One minute we're ...
A. 21 May 2014: Ya gotta work on yourself, sweetie. Not wanting to fight is a VERY good,valid reason to split. Ask yourself- IS it always you that starts the arguments? You aren't being very clear about what kinds of things he jokingly says to see whether you'll ... (read in full...)
I found porn on girlfriends phone about men with big penis. Should I be worried?
Q. So me and my girlfriend been sexually active and I am actually below average size but my girlfriend says she is fine with it and that she is satisfied. Recently I checked her phone just to go on the internet and on her history it said "big black ...
A. 20 May 2014: And she will keep hiding it from you, as you apparently grilled her until she "confessed" masturbating to it.
Its just fantasy, it has nothing to do with you. Why do people insist on shaming others over their private (masturbation) choices?... (read in full...)
He threatens to break up because we haven't seen each other for a few days
Q. My boyfriend is mad because we haven't seen each other for a few days, what should I do ?. I last saw him on Wednesday. It was his fault that we didn't see each other on Thursday,and I was busy on Friday and Saturday. He sent me a text today, sa...
A. 11 May 2014: You should be grateful you are rid of this controlling, jealous jerk, pick yourself up, and move on.... (read in full...)
Do I need help for watching porn?
Q. I am a young female and i have been in a faithful relationahip with my bf for almost 4 years. Sex was great for the first 2 years. Hes gained weight and sex was painful for me. We havent had sex for months. I look at lesbian porn i!dont like all the ...
A. 11 May 2014: Nope, not weird! Many of us women do that. I have since I was much younger, but I tried sex with women a couple times and was not comfortable with it. I've learned to leave it fto the role I want it to play in my life- fantasy only!
Love yourself... (read in full...)
What type of condom do you recommend for the first time?
Q. Hi! So I am a virgin currently. My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex. I'm a virgin and he isn't. My question is: What type of condom do you recommend for my first time? He wants to use fire and ice but I'm not so sure since if it hur...
A. 7 May 2014: Just use a regular condom. To be honest your first time is going to be complicated enough without adding in something like that to the mix. It typically takes a few times before sex becomes fun and pleasurable, plus as you mentioned you don't know ... (read in full...)
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