What are the chances we might conceive a deaf child?
Q. Not really a relationship question but maybe someone knows the answer to my question! My boyfriend and I are trying for a baby. My boyfriend was adopted and doesn't know his birth parents. He has very little information but he does know that his ...
A. 11 August 2015: Does it matter?
Worst case scenario you get to learn a new language (sign language).
Deaf people are no different than anyone else. ... (read in full...)
Why do guys keep breaking up with me?
Q. Why do guys keep on either playing me or just break up with me?...
A. 10 August 2015: It could be, but most people aren't too hung up on race. And why would they date you in the first place if they were? ... (read in full...)
Is being married and having a family all its cracked up to be?
Q. What is it like having your own family (a spouse, a house, with children and pets, etc). I'm just wondering because I had never really found Mr. Right (I thought I did in the past but you know how it is). Can anyone with what I described clue me in? ...
A. 9 August 2015: There is no one right answer to that question. Some marriages are happy and content, and some are literal nightmares.
You can't paint things with such a broad brush. ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to act when a male friend sends me unwanted pics of his privates?
Q. Hello Agony aunts. My first question is what do we say or do about friends that send pictures of their privates to their female friends. I remember the first time my very close friend did that to me, I severed all contact with him. I was ...
A. 9 August 2015: Personally I'd react by answering "HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! AAAAAAHAHAHAHAH! That's the smallest dick I've ever seen! Whose is it?"... (read in full...)
Why do guys keep breaking up with me?
Q. Why do guys keep on either playing me or just break up with me?...
A. 9 August 2015: Because they can't deal with the fact that you let your pet horse sleep in bed with you every night. Because your habit of impersonating Barack Obama during sex is just too offputting. Because of that nasty meth habit. Because of that time you threw ... (read in full...)
He is ignoring me after I expressed my interest in getting physically intimate with him?
Q. My neighbor who haven't seen with a girlfriend for like 1 year now.... only 2 who seemed to be random hookups. Met in a bar afew weeks ago and I told him that I wanted us to be F buddies.... exactly that and nothing more. He listened as I went on ...
A. 9 August 2015: You've expressed your interest, now it is time to back off.
While I can't say 100%, it really sounds like he is not interested. Else he would have jumped on the offer of NSA sex. It may be as simple as the fact that screwing your neighbor... (read in full...)
Why do I get so much rejection if I'm what people say I am?
Q. Okay so I'm a bi man who's not out as bi. I am confident and friendly and funny (so I'm told) here's my problem. I've been told more times than I can count how good looking I am by both men and women, people telling friends your friends good loo...
A. 9 August 2015: Maybe you're too conceited and people don't like that? ... (read in full...)
I gave oral sex after losing my virginity should I have tests done?
Q. Hey everyone! So recently I lost my virginity. Well in doing so I gave him a bl-wjob. I'll be honest, it hurt! So much but then after, I went down on him. He broke the hymen so I did bleed a lot. Ok so the question is, will there be any problems ...
A. 8 August 2015: The danger is not in sucking your own blood. Your body is already full of your own blood! Whatever disease you could get from it you already have!
The danger is in you swallowing his semen and giving him head without a condom. That is how you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriends "guy friend" causing problems in the relationship.
Q. So me and this girl have been tougher for going on 3 months (not long I know) I was really close to her before that for about 3 months so it feels longer. Things have been going exceptionally well bar the occasional argument. These arguments are ...
A. 8 August 2015: He was her friend first. You don't own her and don't have any right to tell her who she can be friends with. If he can singlehandedly break you up then your relationship isn't very strong. You are giving this guy too much power. Insecurity is not an ... (read in full...)
We are involved but both married. I don't know how to stop this relationship!
Q. My boyfriend and I are both married to someone else and are in love. Yes, people call it love affair. It hurts me bad because it is not right thing to do but I can't stop this relationship. (Yes, I have tried in the past.) If anyone out the...
A. 3 August 2015: Can't stop this relationship? You've tried?
What an utter load of bull crap. If you wanted to stop it you would, you just don't want to.... (read in full...)
Do I consider his efforts to reconnect? My ex has been pestering me for a second chance
Q. Me and my ex were together for a year, but putting it realistically as a "long distance relationship" it was about 6 months. It started off amazing, but then of course that phase faded, and as each month went by i was seeing more of his real sel...
A. 1 August 2015: You are under no obligation to give him a second chance, and given the circumstances you've described I would not. It's ok to say no, and I can tell that you are hoping for our encouragement to say it.
You have mine. ... (read in full...)
Can a man live without sex in a marriage?
Q. Can a married man in his mid 40's stay happily married if his wife doesn't want sex anymore? And I'm talking years now? Can a man live without sex in a marriage? ...
A. 30 July 2015: Very few men in their forties would be happy. "Survive", though? Of course. ... (read in full...)
I should have listened to my mum's warning about this man
Q. I have let my Mum down by my actions the past while. I met a older man at work, he was always helping me and being friendly. The man has a wife so I always thought he seen me as just work-mate. After working there a while I had saved up enough ...
A. 25 July 2015: Eesh. I would seriously consider telling your superiors about this, and if he makes an ounce of trouble for you at work then I definitely would.
Hopefully your mom snaps out of it. You are young and young people have a long history of needing ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get turned on watching lesbian porn?
Q. I just wanna know, is it normal how turned on I get watching lesbian porn? I am a 17 year old girl who is only romantically and emotionally attracted to boys. I could never see myself in a relationship or married to a woman, not that there's ...
A. 24 July 2015: Yup, normal! ... (read in full...)
I think my ex is on drugs and he wants no contact from me but I care and wish I could help him
Q. (Mod Note: OP is in early 30's) I was with my ex for 3 years. At the beginning of the year I noticed a change in him. He became distant and moody and would snap at me for no reason. After a row one day he broke things off saying he didn't love me ...
A. 24 July 2015: Leave him be. He doesn't want your help, and there is nothing you can do for him.
Speaking from experience, you want nothing to do with this train wreck. ... (read in full...)
I made a comment about a person and my friend came back on me saying things that really hurt!
Q. I am friends with this girl and we were out together the other day, and I said a remark about a random stranger saying that she is fat, she doesn't need any more chocolate (because she was buying so many bags) and now my friend has had a go at me ...
A. 24 July 2015: Do you comment negatively on the appearance of others often? That would bother me. I don't ever make fun of people because of the way they look. It IS mean, and if you do it frequently she may have gotten fed up with it.
Frankly I would have spo... (read in full...)
I made a comment about a person and my friend came back on me saying things that really hurt!
Q. I am friends with this girl and we were out together the other day, and I said a remark about a random stranger saying that she is fat, she doesn't need any more chocolate (because she was buying so many bags) and now my friend has had a go at me ...
A. 24 July 2015: Do you comment negatively on the appearance of others often? That would bother me. I don't ever make fun of people because of the way they look. It IS mean, and if you do it frequently she may have gotten fed up with it.
Frankly I would have spo... (read in full...)
I made a comment about a person and my friend came back on me saying things that really hurt!
Q. I am friends with this girl and we were out together the other day, and I said a remark about a random stranger saying that she is fat, she doesn't need any more chocolate (because she was buying so many bags) and now my friend has had a go at me ...
A. 24 July 2015: Do you comment negatively on the appearance of others often? That would bother me. I don't ever make fun of people because of the way they look. It IS mean, and if you do it frequently she may have gotten fed up with it.
Frankly I would have spo... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to want to perform oral sex on a man after just having sex?
Q. I love my husband. We are married 8 years and he was my first sexual partner. I was always the prudish type! Not by choice but i think by fact of low self esteem and the fact I probably have no confidence. I have only in the last maybe year or so ...
A. 24 July 2015: Eh, I'm not real keen on it myself. Sometimes I'll grab a t-shirt or whatever is handy and dry him off super fast. If you make it quick enough it really doesn't interrupt the flow of things. For some men though the idea of a woman going down on them ... (read in full...)
How is it possible for him to feel aroused, when we were arguing and so angry at each other?
Q. We were in the middle of a heated argument and I noticed he had a hard-on. Later he disclosed that he was so hard he had wanted to rip off my clothes and have sex right then right there. How is it possible to feel that way when you are so angry at...
A. 17 July 2015: Because you're cute when you're angry. :)... (read in full...)
If my bf really loves me why does he want me to have sex with other partners?
Q. I've been dating my bf since Jan 2015. I'm 18 and he's 35. Big age gap I know but love has no boundary. My family likes him and him and I know very well that we're each other's life partner. However I believe that because of his age he is too le...
A. 10 July 2015: He is manipulating you. He is trying to draw you into the swinging lifestyle, and he is using your age and inexperience to get what he wants. He is a predator. Sorry but it is the truth. ... (read in full...)
What are the reasons or justifications to share, or not share, one's sexual past with a significant other?
Q. Would you share your sexual past with someone who you're in a committed relationship with, or do you think it's best to leave the past in the past? Similarly, would you want to know about your significant other's past or would you prefer not to k...
A. 10 July 2015: Well, I don't know, there is no single right answer for this. My husband and I both have quite sordid pasts, and have shared lots of details. For us it is fun to do so.
HOWEVER, lots of people are simply unable to handle hearing such details ... (read in full...)
I am starting to think no man will accept my body but I can't do anything about it so what is someone like me to do?
Q. I've been seeing a man for the past few months and a few nights ago I was foolish enough to get intimate with him. After two days of not hearing from him, I attempted to contact him and he texted me saying in a nutshell that I'm a really nice wo...
A. 9 July 2015: I'll be honest here, I don't think you should have pushed him so hard for an answer and I think he's kind of a jerk for caving also. What good can come of telling you these things? It isn't as though you can change your body or your scars. All it ... (read in full...)
I'm being used by every man in my life and constantly controlled
Q. I keep ending up in two types of relationships and I have no idea how this keeps happening! I either end up in one where it becomes nothing but sex, or one where the guy WILL NOT let me not date him or break up with him. The guys who DO want a ...
A. 7 July 2015: OK, as a woman in my forties who had major drug and alcohol problems in my 20s, and abusive relationships also, I feel fairly qualified to give advice here.
Firstly, you are starting relationships WHILE STILL IN REHAB? That is a big no-no al... (read in full...)
My current Bf claims my vagina is too loose and accuses me of cheating. What else would make it feel loose to him?
Q. I had my daughter at the age of 14 through a c-section.. i have had several of sex partners in the years since then and no one has ever complained about my vagina except my current boyfriend. He believes i'm cheating on him cause he say my vagin...
A. 20 June 2015: Tell him your vagina isn't looser, his dick is just shrinking. Pretty soon it'll shrivel away to nothing.
This idiot has no clue about female anatomy. You don't get looser by having sex.
You need to lose this guy. His irrational jealo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was unappreciative of the meal I cooked and he never wants to spend time with my family. I wanted our relationship to work but now I'm having second thoughts!
Q. My boyfriend can just irritate me so much sometimes. I brought over all the ingredients to his house to make BLT's. Instead of thanking me and being appreciative he complained I got wheat bread. Then he freaked out that I was cooking the bacon in ...
A. 9 June 2015: Ok, bacon in the microwave? Ew, seriously.
That said, he's a boor and while he could have gently showed you how to make bacon correctly while telling you how sweet and amazing you are for thinking of him, he chose to insult and berate you inst... (read in full...)
He said he can't love me because of my past, but I still love him!
Q. i am unable to get over my ex. we started dating four months ago and it was perfect.by the end of the first week itself i told him about my past, that i had lost my virginity to my ex. all he asked me was, if it was a one time mistake or more than ...
A. 28 May 2015: Well then what in the hell is his problem. You don't even want to know how many partners I've had and my husband loves me for ME.
Drop him, find a guy that won't slut shame you over something so insignificant. ... (read in full...)
He said he can't love me because of my past, but I still love him!
Q. i am unable to get over my ex. we started dating four months ago and it was perfect.by the end of the first week itself i told him about my past, that i had lost my virginity to my ex. all he asked me was, if it was a one time mistake or more than ...
A. 27 May 2015: How many partners has he had?
Not that it matters, but what's good for the goose....... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 10 years wants kids and I don't
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over ten years and everything is great - I love him and I know he loves me. But the problem is that he wants kids and I don't. We started dating when we were teenagers so it really wasn't an issue ...
A. 25 May 2015: This is what we call a dealbreaker. Moving on is scary especially when it's been so long and you don't know anything else, but don't be afraid! You'll be fine, no-BETTER even. He will too.
Try to break it off as kindly and in the most adult wa... (read in full...)
Its going on 2 years, we've never met and he won't respond to my questions of "what are we"
Q. So I've been in this Long-distance "relationship" for more than over 1 yr., almost 2. I'm 21 and he's 26, we met on an app and have been talking ever since. Yes we have seen each other so there's no cat fishing here. He lives more up north and I ...
A. 22 May 2015: I'm sorry, but you were only a way for him to kill time. He never took any of it seriously, and this is not dating. He has now moved on to the next shiny thing but lacks the moral fortitude to tell you this.
You deserve much better. You deserve ... (read in full...)
She asked me to do a project for her...after she already asked somebody else to do the same thing!
Q. Hi, I am a single male in NYC. I know this woman who is very pretty and married. Let's call her S. I guess you can say we are friendly acquaintances. She has done things which have offended me in the past, like planning to meet up and then canceli...
A. 15 May 2015: What if she asked just you to do it, then didn't like your work and asked the other guy after the fact? I suspect you would be just as upset.
You sound more entitled than she dos. ... (read in full...)
We broke up. But I'm still checking his SnapChat. How can I motivate myself to stop doing this??
Q. How do I stop checking his snapchat? He hated 4 months ago, left, and now I am kinda okay but I checked his snapchat (knew the password) and to see if he was having a hard time but no he was partying with other girls and he's over it and it hurts. ...
A. 10 May 2015: Call him and tell him to change his password.
If you can't log in, then you won't. ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a gay man and I always thought I was straight. How can I explain this to family and friends?
Q. Okay so I thought I was straight until about 8 months ago. I was in a relationship with a girl we broke up cause she cheated. I got over it, sort of slept with a few girls and then one day I come across this guy on Facebook. For some reason I was...
A. 10 May 2015: Uhm you're kind of stalking this guy. If he wanted to interact with you or was interested in you he would respond. So knock it off.
I agree with the previous poster that there is nothing to tell your family, so quit worrying about that part, to... (read in full...)
Clearly we have some kind of emotional affair going on but what now?
Q. I met a guy 3yrs ago through a mutual friend, there seemed to be an instant attraction on both sides the chat was flowing and then he slips out that he has a girlfriend, gutted! Anyway I decided right then to back off. He lives over 2 hrs away ...
A. 9 May 2015: He is using you to stroke his own ego. Nothing more than a game to him unfortunately.
If I were you I wouldn't play it anymore. ... (read in full...)
He's fine in person but is awful at texting!
Q. I was just hoping for some general advice. My boyfriend is incredible, and I'm head over heels for my relationship. We're both in college, so I know we're young, but I've never been happier with a significant other. He treats me like a princess. The ...
A. 30 April 2015: Ok, so you say it "isn't false" that you want to know where he is at all times, then follow by stating you weren't asking for anything ridiculous and clingy?
Honey, that IS ridiculous and clingy. He is a grown man, not your child. You do not own ... (read in full...)
Should his voyeurism concern me? How can I believe that I am the woman for him when all his thousands of saved images of women all look nothing like me?
Q. i am currently engaged to my partner of just over 2years. I have since constantly found images he has taken of women in public, on screens or saved of women. Also the usual porn etc... On his phone, email, playstation, in our new home (dvd's, ...
A. 26 April 2015: What? He takes pictures of strange women without their knowledge or consent for sexual pleasure and you are "uncomfortable"?
What are you doing with this creep? He is violating women and possibly breaking the law, and just to be clear this is ... (read in full...)
Any advice for me regarding my Girlfriend's actions during her previous relationship re nude photos sent to her now ex?
Q. My girlfriend has sent her nude photos to her ex about 2 years ago and that is over now. she said there was nothing more to that (like sex). She and I are together about a month and I really care for her and she does the same. She told me this bec...
A. 26 April 2015: What is there to handle? I'm confused. This isn't a big deal. Why are you trying to make it one? ... (read in full...)
My daughter is being so excluded in her class by her classmates. How can this ostracism be dealt with?
Q. Hi, My daughter is being so excluded in her class. And the girls ignore her and don't really want to hangout with her. This of course has affected her and of course concerns me. She is almost 11, beautifull both inside and out., sweet but on the...
A. 25 April 2015: Kids are so mean. SO mean. Nobody can force other kids to hang out with yours.
I have a beautiful, intelligent 12 year old daughter who is experiencing the same thing. What do I do about it? I hug her and tell her she is beautiful, and that kid... (read in full...)
I love my b/f but don't wish to have sex with him anymore
Q. Okay, so I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and I am 20 years old. He is very affectionate, caring, and I know he would do anything for me..he is my best friend. He wants to marry me. However, we argue constantly because I am not very ...
A. 8 April 2015: You don't want to have sex with him because you're ready to move on. You're both very young, and you have outgrown him.
Time to gently cut him loose and start seeing other people.
There is nothing wrong with you. This is instinctual, and... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friend is flirting with me and I'm not sure what to do about it
Q. Hi, this is kind if a weird question but here it goes. So, my boyfriend and I have been together for about three years, and I love him to bits. Recently we started hanging out with some of his old friends more, which I am super happy about because ...
A. 8 April 2015: Footsie doesn't happen on accident.
He doesn't sound like a good friend, or a moral guy. He's cute and he knows it, and apparently has no problem betraying his so called friends.
Run. ... (read in full...)
I need to talk to my b/f about trust since I caught him texting. How do I start the convo?
Q. Around 5-6 months ago I found that my boyfriend of almost two years had been messaging other girls. Some messages were friendly however others weren't, I confronted him about it and he didn't give me a straight answer at first until I kept asking ...
A. 8 April 2015: What is the content of the messages? I can't answer without more info. ... (read in full...)
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