How do I deal with these quite vicious older colleagues?
Q. Hi all, some advice on dealing with older colleagues that can be quite vicious. So I'm a newly qualified nurse who has recently got a job on a large ward with a lot of staff. I'm young at only 23 and I think a lot of people have sly digs at me b...
A. 24 March 2016: Personally I think the best course of action is to laugh it off. "Yellow? Dang, I was going for more of an orange tone today. Oh well, back to the old drawing board". Then laugh and walk away. That leaves her with nothing to say.
Sadly, many wom... (read in full...)
Is it weird that my husband is a house husband?
Q. Hello! My husband's firm has recently hone bankrupt and he has consequently lost his job. So now I am the only one working. We have no kids, I own the house where we live and I own the family car. He owns nithing.My job pays reasonably well so we ...
A. 23 March 2016: I have a house husband. I highly recommend them. :)
There are people who think our relationship is weird. We've had people call him the Little Mrs. One of his friends even cornered me and told me how he could never imagine letting a woman support ... (read in full...)
I feel scared that I'll be tempted to cheat again. What should I do?
Q. Hi all. I am a 37yr old married woman no kids. Have been super happily married for a few years now, but I am seeing my usual relationship pattern starting once again. And the pattern, which has always started after a few years into any of rela...
A. 22 March 2016: These things happen. People get crushes. I'm happily married and I get them too.
The key here is not why do you get them but why do you choose to act on them? Is your self esteem low? I'd guess that it is, and that these affairs make you feel spe... (read in full...)
How can I make this work? I want to get back with her. My family think I'm crazy to try.
Q. My ex girlfriend and I had a pretty intense relationship. We met when she was pregnant with her son, we became friends first but started dating shortly after her son was born. I hadn't had much contact with my family for a few years but once we ...
A. 22 March 2016: Goodness, if your arguments were so bad that you two were blowing up at one another in front of your families that is horrible. It would be even more horrible for the kids if they were to grow up seeing that.
Personally I think you should each sta... (read in full...)
We broke up but he wont leave me alone
Q. Hi, My ex and I broke up about 3 weeks ago and I thought it was mutual, both of us acknowledged that we no longer get on like we used to and have tried to make it work on multiple occasions over the past year. Basically it was one of those relatio...
A. 22 March 2016: He needs to go away.
Do you live at home or on campus? I know you are an adult, but it is time Imo to seek outside help in getting him out of your life. Talk to either your parents or the counselor at your college. Tell them what he is doing an... (read in full...)
Can a man be too romantic? That's why my girlfriend broke up with me
Q. Hi,am thirty five,an my girlfriend just broke up with me,after six months,I treated her really good, she said the reason for breaking up with me is, am to romantic,am not a challenge, should I just move on,or try to win her back....
A. 22 March 2016: No, it is not a common reason.
Maybe she is not articulating her reasons well?
Maybe she felt you were moving too fast? Maybe she felt you were clingy? It is also possible that you overdid it, speaking for myself I love romance but cons... (read in full...)
Why is he not scared that I'll become pregnant?
Q. There's this guy that i am seeing that i had sex with on the third date, after that it has been once a week(everytime we meet). We have seen eachother for approximately 2-3 months. BUT, there is one thing i dont understand. He always comes inside o...
A. 20 March 2016: Whoa, what do you mean why is he not scared?
Why are you being so irresponsible? Why aren't you on the pill and using condoms? Don't you care about your health and your future?
Do you really want to have a baby with some random guy you r... (read in full...)
I found my cheating ex on a dating site again
Q. So I met a man across the country who lives in Seattle (I live in the east coast). He remained faithful for almost 2 years and before I flew out to see him I found out he was still on date sites and had dated several and hooked up with 2 (no sex). I ...
A. 18 March 2016: You haven't even met him in person yet?
I think you should end it and find someone local, someone you can actually touch and hug.
I can't imagine calling something like this a relationship. It isn't. Its a fantasy. ... (read in full...)
Are we banned from this theatre?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were in the movie theater and i sat on his lap and we made out. However, an employee walked by and he said its okay to do that. But he had told the manager and so when the manager got us, he said we were having sex. We were ...
A. 18 March 2016: Really, that's not appropriate behavior for a movie theater. I don't go to movies to watch some girl sitting on a guys lap with her tongue jammed down his throat. Have a little respect for others. Hopefully you were in the back row at least.
... (read in full...)
Why did my married man detach so quickly?
Q. Hi I am new and don't even know if I'm in the right forum. I was having an online affair with a MM for a cpl months. He said he was unhappily married and only there for the kids and I could relate because although I am not married I've been with my ...
A. 18 March 2016: Wow lady. You are in need of a reality check. Did you really expect to come here and get sympathy for pursuing a married man, then heartlessly taking revenge on a woman who has done nothing to you?
You know who I feel sorry for? His wife and kids... (read in full...)
Is he with me just because he is lonely and cannot get anyone else?
Q. Hello, I am a black girl in my 30s and recently started to date an older white male. Hes a lovely guy, great, funny....however all his past girlfriends, and his ex wife have been oriental women. He was even going to move there at one point...
A. 11 March 2016: I wouldn't worry too much about his past partners. It sounds like he genuinely likes you. Good sex, good talks, having fun.
I'd keep having fun and see where it goes. Nothing you have said raises any red flags for me.... (read in full...)
Ex partner is a born again Christian now and I am scared of our daughters upbringing
Q. Hello everyone, Can anyone please give me some advice on how to deal with bringing up my 2 year old daughter with my ex partner who is now an evangelist born again Christian. Before we split up I was with him for years and he hated all forms...
A. 10 March 2016: Don't worry about it. You as her mother can try to introduce her to a healthy dose of skepticism to counteract the indoctrination.
It is true that religion can be damaging. I myself was raised in a very strict southern Baptist household and it d... (read in full...)
Heartbroken over my ex. Why is his new girlfriend taking revenge this way?
Q. I am so heart broken right now. I was with my ex for 3 years. We've been through a lot together, we loved and sacrificed for each other. We were there for each other through thick and thin. The only thing was we always argued about every little t...
A. 10 March 2016: The advice YouWish gave was some of the best advice I've seen.
I only have one thing to add that I think you need to know. Arguing over every little thing and breaking up repeatedly is NOT NORMAL. It is far from it. It is very unhealthy and is a... (read in full...)
He tries to kiss me then says we should just remain friends??!!
Q. Someone anyone pleeeaaassee. I am confused as heck right now!! Okay so a couple months ago one of my friends admitted he has liked me almost our entire friendship and had tried to kiss me. But when i just sat there and didnt kiss him back he aske...
A. 10 March 2016: Oh my. Just kiss the man already and see where this leads. Great friendships can certainly turn into great relationships. ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong because I don't want my jobless boyfriend moving in with me and depending on me to get him a job?
Q. My LDR BF said he wants to move in with me and asked me to find him a job at the company where I work. He has been working as a part time delivery boy for a local restaurant for about a year after I've known him. Then he hurt his toe and said he ...
A. 10 March 2016: Oh, my. It would cause so many problems for you at work and home if you did that.
I can already see the accusations of favoritism, him expecting special treatment and you being torn because he lives with you, him pouting if he doesn't get his ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else's husband said to his wife that she will be a burden on a business trip?
Q. My husband goes on some business trips during the year, but usually in the state we live in. Sometimes, I am able to go with him and he has been okay with that and he enjoys me going along. He will be going on a new business trip on the coa...
A. 9 March 2016: Hmm. Personally I'd be a little suspicious as to why he is so adamant about it.
Not to cause you any worry, but have you ever suspected him of cheating? His behavior would raise red flags for me.
It is also entirely possible he just needs a ... (read in full...)
It's over. Is going no contact the best way forward?
Q. My boyfriend yelled at me. In his words, not yell but was speaking curtly. He used expletives and went on about how he wants nothing to do with me. I am a little unnerved and shocked. Right now, I don't want to have any contact with him. I am tr...
A. 9 March 2016: Definitely. No contact. This could damage your self esteem and you don't need that in your life.
You are better than that! You deserve much better. ... (read in full...)
Could this be called psychological abuse?
Q. Hello. Advice would be really welcome here. In a long distance relationship of over a year. Good times and bad. Currently we had a heated discussion last week which we did not share a view on, and he did what he has done before and totally ignor...
A. 9 March 2016: I don't know whether I'd call it psychological abuse. I would definitely call it manipulative, petty, rude and downright mean though.
IMO this cat is not ready for a relationship. ... (read in full...)
Was it my fault or my ex boyfriends?
Q. Am I in the wrong here or is my ex boyfriend? I invited him to my sisters bbq at her house. When we arrived my sister asked me what I was drinking and if I wanted some wine so she poured me a glass. My boyfriend said he didn't want a drink, I ...
A. 9 March 2016: It appears your boyfriend doesn't care for seeing his girl tipsy. Unless you have a problem with alcohol then that is really his problem.
Here is the thing though - if it upset him this time it's going to upset him in the future too. I can see ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a widow to sleep with her late husband's married best friend ?
Q. I am a forty year old widow. My husband passed away in January 2014. I was very lonely. My husband's best friend, X, and his wife Y used to visit when my husband was alive and continued to do so after my husband's death. A month later Y noticed ...
A. 9 March 2016: The X - thing is really throwing me off here.
As long as everyone is honest and it is consensual, I don't see the problem.
I'm sure others may disagree with me. Morality can be subjective. ... (read in full...)
I’m troubled by my boyfriend’s sexual past! Please help.
Q. Hi Dear Cupid community, I've been dating a wonderful guy for about 9 months. But for nearly 6 months, I've been struggling to get over his sexual past. We briefly discussed our sexual pasts in the beginning of the relationship and I mentioned that ...
A. 9 March 2016: Look, it's a little squicky,but honestly if you've had hours of discussion about it and can't move past it then it is time to move on from the relationship.
He can't change his past, and you can't change the things you find important in a relati... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend cheated in a threesome but won't admit it
Q. I am pondering a situation that occurred with my girlfriend after had been living together for just over a year. The evidence points to the possibility of her having a threesome with her best friend and her best friend’s boyfriend. It looks on th...
A. 9 March 2016: How much are you going on and on about this? It sounds like you are frankly obsessed by it.
If you don't trust her then break up with her. Obsessing over it is not healthy for either of you. ... (read in full...)
I told her I didn’t think she was hot, but that she was super cute, and that’s when the trouble started! Help?
Q. So let me begin by saying im happy being in a relationship with my girlfriend. I love her and im thinking she could be the one. But over a month of dating she said she was ready to take our relationship to tbe next level. She's ready to have sex...
A. 8 March 2016: Oh, man, did you ever blow it.
Those words are going to come back to haunt you for exactly as long as you are dating. They fall firmly in the camp of "things to never, ever say to your girl".
You're young, so maybe you didn't know. Now you've... (read in full...)
Is it possible to live happily ever after knowing that my husband occasionally sleeps with other women on side?
Q. Is it possible to live happily ever after knowing that husband sleeps with other women on side occasionally(paid sex with high end escort/companions)? He always use protection and is very hygienic. I've got him n myself tested few yrs ago when I i...
A. 7 March 2016: None of us can tell you how to live with the situation happily. There just aren't any magic words.
That's why my suggestion was to talk to a counselor. They'll listen in a non judgmental way. Through talking to them you will be able to sort out... (read in full...)
How do I tell my new girlfriend I had a one-night stand with her sister before we met?
Q. I recently started going out with this girl. She’s beautiful, smart, kind and funny. Pretty much everything I could ask for in a girl. The only problem? I’ve slept with her sister. I’m 23 and she’s 22. We’ve been going out for 3 weeks now. The o...
A. 7 March 2016: Ya gotta tell her, man. Wow what an unfortunate coincidence.
I'd preface by letting her know how much you like her. Stress how different she is. Let her know that you believe in honesty and never want to betray her trust. Then tell your story. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to live happily ever after knowing that my husband occasionally sleeps with other women on side?
Q. Is it possible to live happily ever after knowing that husband sleeps with other women on side occasionally(paid sex with high end escort/companions)? He always use protection and is very hygienic. I've got him n myself tested few yrs ago when I i...
A. 7 March 2016: This wouldn't be my choice. I personally couldn't live with it.
That said, I do know wives of high wage earning husbands who know of their indiscretions and choose to look the other way. Like it is their choice, it is yours as well.
I'm not... (read in full...)
I like my friend but not sure if that makes me gay!
Q. is liking your guy friend in a not so friend like way good or not? Does that make me gay? should I be feeling this way toward my childhood friend? ...
A. 5 March 2016: So your real question is not am I gay, but should I tell my friend how I feel.
That is a hard decision. Do you have any gut instincts making you think he may be interested in you in that way? Is he flirty with you? If so, might be worth the risk... (read in full...)
I like my friend but not sure if that makes me gay!
Q. is liking your guy friend in a not so friend like way good or not? Does that make me gay? should I be feeling this way toward my childhood friend? ...
A. 5 March 2016: Should you? Well, controlling your feelings is a difficult thing to do. There is no "should". It is what it is.
Does it make you gay? Maybe, you haven't really provided enough info for us to make that determination. Are you attracted to girls to... (read in full...)
How do I make this threesome idea happen?
Q. I want have a threesome with my wife and friend. the game plan is they should not know each other so I want to blind fold them and to convince them for this and then the game goes on.... suggest me how to make this wonderful...!?...
A. 2 March 2016: This is a horrible idea. Anything of this nature should be thoroughly discussed and agreed upon by all parties ahead of time, with clearly agreed upon rules and perimeters and all parties fully in agreement.
You're working really hard on destroyi... (read in full...)
Texting. Is there a difference between a big X or a little x in a text from a man?
Q. Hi I am 40 and been briefly texting a guy that I know. After our initial chat by text I text him again on Friday and we had a 4.5 hour chat by text and as we were having a drink his texts became more loose but nothing bad and eventually we stopp...
A. 28 February 2016: Way over thinking it sweetie. There's no difference. Men don't pay as much attention to tiny insignificant details like that.
Don't worry, he likes you.... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 25 February 2016: Well, that escalated quickly.
Look. What do you really know about the bite situation? I'll say that I have had dogs that nipped at children, and in almost every case it was because the child was treating the dog poorly - pulling ears or tails, i... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 25 February 2016: This was a major fail on everyone's part. I have been breeding Saint Bernards for many years. I won't sell a puppy to someone with no giant breed experience. Their needs and behaviors are wholly different. They must be trained very carefully from a ... (read in full...)
Is it OK to make my girlfriend choose between me and her friend?
Q. Ok my girlfriend has a female friend, but this friend hates me for no reason and gets "bad vibes" from me. This friend has tried to break our relationship many times and spreads horrible rumours about me even though I've never been mean to her. The ...
A. 21 February 2016: Yeah, it's controlling. The best you can do is break off the relationship and she can make her decision from there.
The funny thing about ultimatums is, the first one is rarely the last one.
Good on you for asking. ... (read in full...)
Should I leave home because of my mom? She expects me to clean and help with bills and I think she needs to be told off
Q. I need some help dealing with my mum. I moved back home a couple of years ago and she makes me contribute financially and she complains when I make noise and wake her up but I am nearly 30 so I need to be able to come and go as I please and I don't ...
A. 21 February 2016: Yeah honeypie, I was on the same page. Finally decided to reply after I saw the question was still up and nobody had answered.
Figured I'd make the first leap of faith lol.... (read in full...)
Should I leave home because of my mom? She expects me to clean and help with bills and I think she needs to be told off
Q. I need some help dealing with my mum. I moved back home a couple of years ago and she makes me contribute financially and she complains when I make noise and wake her up but I am nearly 30 so I need to be able to come and go as I please and I don't ...
A. 21 February 2016: I can't imagine your letter is a real one. The things that you are saying sound so entitled and outlandish that it seems like a fake letter.
On the offhand chance you're not having one over on us, stop it. You are behaving like a spoiled teenager... (read in full...)
An ex, a breakup. Why is he acting this way, now?
Q. I fell out with a close friend I became romantically involved with briefly a few years ago. It was a complicated situation but resulted in is not talking for 2 years Then he started making the odd text messages occasionally and even after how he t...
A. 20 February 2016: I'm sorry to say this, but he used you to help him find a job. He doesn't really have an interest in any kind of friendship with you.
You seem like a very kind woman with plenty of empathy towards others. My suggestion would be to lose his numb... (read in full...)
Bf is taking me to the same restaurant he took his ex for valentine's day
Q. I found out my boyfriend is taking me to the same place he took his ex for vday 5 years ago. how do i know this his sister accidentally mentioned it to me, said oh i didn't know he is taking you to the same place he went wit his ex. Would you all ...
A. 9 February 2016: Maybe it is his favorite restaurant. I shared several restaurants with different men I dated, because they were freaking awesome.
I would not read anything at all into it... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my parents?
Q. i am 13 and I have been masturbating since I was 11 and my brother did masturbate and got caught and now he is not allowed any electronics so what should I do..... Should I tell them or what? ...
A. 5 February 2016: Oh my god. Let's punish our children for completely normal human development.
No, don't tell them. Your body, your business. ... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my parents?
Q. i am 13 and I have been masturbating since I was 11 and my brother did masturbate and got caught and now he is not allowed any electronics so what should I do..... Should I tell them or what? ...
A. 5 February 2016: Oh my god. Let's punish our children for completely normal human development.
No, don't tell them. Your body, your business. ... (read in full...)
Can a player fall in love????
Q. Hi there,thanks for reading my post. I am talking with a guy online. met him two times. he is 10years older then me. I am 36 he is 47.I really like him. but I felt he is player. I am interested to know can a player fall in love? Like, a guy wh...
A. 3 February 2016: Hearing more about your religious background, I'm leaning towards you two not being compatible.
It isn't a judgement towards either of you. ... (read in full...)
Can a player fall in love????
Q. Hi there,thanks for reading my post. I am talking with a guy online. met him two times. he is 10years older then me. I am 36 he is 47.I really like him. but I felt he is player. I am interested to know can a player fall in love? Like, a guy wh...
A. 2 February 2016: Nobody can make that call but you. Unfortunately we don't have any way of knowing his true intentions. I suppose it is important to define the word player. Is he simply one of those guys who is very handsome and charming and has zero problems ... (read in full...)
Can a player fall in love????
Q. Hi there,thanks for reading my post. I am talking with a guy online. met him two times. he is 10years older then me. I am 36 he is 47.I really like him. but I felt he is player. I am interested to know can a player fall in love? Like, a guy wh...
A. 2 February 2016: Well, from a different perspective, you've just described my husband, though he did have at least one LTR when he was much, much younger.
I'll say that I was skeptical of him for the reasons you've outlined.
I'll also say that after six y... (read in full...)
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