Ex flashing new life in my face
Q. My ex and I were together for 7 years and broke up but remained friends, that was two years ago since the break up and we remained friends since. We lived together, no children, but two cats. The relationship broke up because I wanted to be fre...
A. 8 October 2015: I don't think it matters, honestly.
I think you both need to fully and completely move on from this relationship. You can't heal until you leave him alone and go full no contact. Oh, and quit dating guys from out of town to spare his feelings... (read in full...)
Do new couples usually have so many fall outs?
Q. Is it normal for a new couple to split up and get back together on a regular basis? My ex can be quite controlling and self centred. He also can have a short fuse from time to time. I notice (from comments on social media and friends etc) tha...
A. 6 October 2015: It's normal for some couples, but not those in healthy relationship.
Don't get all excited just yet though. Some people stay in unhealthy relationships for many years, sometimes their whole lives. And even if they broke up he still might not want... (read in full...)
I'm catching my boyfriend's lies out. Do I call him out ?
Q. i think my new boyfriend is lying . the reason im thinking this is because he told me his dad had fallen really badly and had to go to hospital (the day of our date) we havent met each others families yet so its not like i could ask his family ...
A. 4 October 2015: Well if you're sure he's lying and you've only been together 4 weeks I'd just end it. How can you have a boyfriend if you have to question everything he says? How is it even possible to have a relationship with someone like that?
Dealb... (read in full...)
To smoke cigarettes or not? Is there a compromise or a solution we can try to make things ok for us both?
Q. I know what I’m going to write sounds kind of strange, and very long but I guess that’s just the way it goes…. Since I was a young teenager I was interested in trying smoking but I got the chance once at the age of 14 but I didn’t actually go throu...
A. 3 October 2015: Smoking sucks. I know because I still can't kick the habit. People give you dirty looks, make comments, and it is uncomfortable knowing that my clothes smell like smoke and I don't know how badly because my own smoker's nose is broken. Then there's ... (read in full...)
What the hell is my life and what the hell is love?
Q. This is more a rant than a question, but I'd love to hear all of your input: I have been with my boyfriend for a year. We live together and I thought everything was going so well. We have had our disagreements and arguments, sure. Just like every ...
A. 2 October 2015: You're really overthinking this. I can pretty much guarantee you that he was just posting a pic of a hot chick (maybe she even reminded him of you, did you ever think of that?) and was not in any way insinuating that he would rather have her than ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he tell me his plans or what he's doing over the weekend?
Q. I am 38 and have been in a relationship with a man for eight months now. He spends time with me during the week and sleeps at my house but when it is Friday sometimes he goes drinking with his friends without telling me. Then he comes home later. ...
A. 2 October 2015: Well, he is a grown man and you aren't his mother, so to be perfectly honest he does not have to tell you his whereabouts 24/7. You really don't have the right to demand it, either. Many adults enjoy their freedom and don't want to answer to ... (read in full...)
My husband has started wetting the bed!
Q. My husband is 34 years old, for the past two months he has started bed wetting, he couldn't realize in sleep that his bladder is loosing control, at first i supported him, i told him its OK and all but in 2 months yesterday was the third time in ...
A. 30 September 2015: Really? Your husband has a potentially very serious medical issue and you shame him over it? Frankly you are the one who should be ashamed, he isn't doing this on purpose and I can't imagine how humiliated he must feel with his own wife being so ... (read in full...)
Fiance wants to leave for a 3-month internship. How do I tell her I can't do a 3 month LDR ?
Q. My fiancé is planning on leaving for a 3-month internship next summer. We are both almost 25 years old, I am a real-estate developer and she is working towards her PhD in computer science. We have been living together now for several months, and we ...
A. 23 September 2015: Three months is nothing! If your relationship isn't strong enough to handle being apart for what is literally a TINY blip in your lives then perhaps you should rethink it. If it's a dealbreaker for you then so be it.... (read in full...)
Could his reaction, to me touching him, be regarded as him flirting with me?
Q. I like this guy and i met him 3 weeks ago in my college and he has 2 of the same lessons as me. We take the same bus home and i sit next to him. Today, i sat next to him and kept touching him and he was like stop touching me or i'll punch you. ...
A. 22 September 2015: No. I would not take it as flirting. I would take it as he isn't interested and doesn't want you to touch him.
Stop touching him, he doesn't like it, you were annoying him. It's rude to do that. ... (read in full...)
He lied to me and then tells me that he did that because he doesn't want me to get upset!
Q. My husband lied to me. But came to me to tell me he lied but the way he did it makes me mad and the more I think about it the madder i get. He starts out by saying "I want to tell you something but I don't want you to get mad at me". Then he ...
A. 21 September 2015: Well, without more information I can't tell you how I feel about it really. Just because something isn't uncommon for a wife to get upset about doesn't mean it is reasonable for her to get upset about.
I'll say this- apparently he came clean, o... (read in full...)
Why does he treat her better than he ever treated me?
Q. Yesterday I was on Facebook and came across my ex's current girlfriend's profile on my 'people you may know' list. Both her and I are friends with my ex's cousins. I was curious and clicked on her profile to take a look. Two years ago, my ex and I...
A. 21 September 2015: You were just not the one for him. It is nothing against you, apparently they are just a better match together. Doesn't sound like he was ever really that invested.
Why stress about it? He's an ex.... (read in full...)
He evaded answering my question. Should I confront him or ignore him?
Q. Hiya I have been seeing a guy for a few months and all has been going really well, and always tells me how much he likes me and how much fun he has with me. We haven't yet been physical and I want to wait until I am sure of him. We only se...
A. 20 September 2015: CindyCares is absolutely 100% spot on.
I think in his mind, he did not answer because he was not sure how to say "yes, I'm going, but honestly this is supposed to be guy time and I'd rather not meet up". He probably had no clue how to word it,... (read in full...)
If you have a nasty partner, is it cheating if you find a few hours of solace and happiness with someone else?
Q. If your partner is nasty and doesn't miss any chance to belittle, criticize,and hurt you, is it considered cheating if you find a few hours of solace and happiness with someone else? I feel it isn't. ...
A. 19 September 2015: Having sex with someone else without your spouses approval or a specific agreement in place is cheating. Period. ... (read in full...)
How do I respond to my ex's comments about our past sexual relationship?
Q. I am single and in my 40's and in contact with an ex. We were talking about our very brief relationship from years ago and I said to him that I enjoyed our brief relationship all those years ago. He replied that we had fun and that we had some ...
A. 19 September 2015: He obviously wants to have sex.
If you do too, go for it.
If you are hoping for something more, then you should wait and insist on dating. ... (read in full...)
My body is "flat" and I feel a woman should look more womanly
Q. I am a 25 year old woman. I have very small A cup breasts and absolutely no butt. I have a very 'flat' appearance to my body. I hate to say that I'm somewhat insecure and quite unhappy with my body. I find myself comparing myself to curvy women w...
A. 18 September 2015: All men are different. All men like different body types. There is no one body type that is universally attractive to men. And I have known men who LOVE tiny boobs, just like I have known men who love really big women. You can't stereotype men like ... (read in full...)
Am I having a mental block that I am unable to climax with a guy? Even though I enjoy giving pleasure to a guy?
Q. Bi sexual I have been straight and married for some 40 years now, but since now ex-wife said NO MORE SEX, I have since have had oral sex with a few men which I have really enjoyed both receiving and giving... My partners say I'm very good, and ha...
A. 17 September 2015: Maybe you feel guilty inside for cheating on your wife? Does she know about this?
If she is adamant about never having sex again then perhaps you need to sit down with her and let her know that is not going to work for you, and that while yo... (read in full...)
My fiance has become the "Church lady" and I don't know how to deal with it
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together about 6 ½ years. Last winter we told our friends and families that we intend to marry someday soon. No ring but we went that far, so I guess she’s my fiancé. We are both in our 40’s. She has children, nearly g...
A. 16 September 2015: Man,I feel for you, my friend.
As an atheist that would be a dealbreaker for me.
My own husband is a mother earth pagan, and that I can handle as it doesn't come with an instruction manual. You worship mother earth? Ok,at least she's tang... (read in full...)
Does this not seem like a very strange interaction and departure?
Q. My now ex-Gen. Manager left our place of business under suspicious circumstances. The business had been growing. and getting better since he opened it. Great staff and management team. Award wining company. Anyway, since the day he hired me, he has ...
A. 14 September 2015: Interesting story, but what is your question? ... (read in full...)
Is she flirting, or just being friendly? Shall I ask her if she'd like to walk in the park?
Q. Hello, like to ask advice. I do deliveries to businesses, when I do one, there is a woman, I like to ask , out, maybe a walk in a park, or coffee. the last time, she opened the door for me, she has no way of seeing me coming,then she walk with me...
A. 2 September 2015: Do it! ... (read in full...)
Four years of dating, so why is my Gf continuing to refuse penetrative sex, with so many "no" excuses?
Q. My girlfriend won't have penetrative sex with me, although we enjoy other forms of intimacy. She gives excuses like soreness, or thrush, but even on the few occasions I have started full sex she doesn't allow me complete entrance. I'm a 67 years...
A. 2 September 2015: Maybe she has an STD like herpes and is embarrassed. ... (read in full...)
Do you think he really cares for me & is just wanting me for himself - or are these the signs of an abusive relationship?
Q. My boyfriend makes me feel special and is very protective over me. However, sometimes when I challenge him over his past he gets very bad tempered and verbally abusive to me and won't speak. We made up after the last time as it was just a misund...
A. 2 September 2015: What do you mean by "challenge him over his past"? What is that supposed to mean? Sounds like you both need to grow up to me.... (read in full...)
How can my boyfriend be so unreasonable? He has the nerve to be angry because I slept with someone before him!
Q. I'm having a huge argument with my boyfriend and I'd like some advice on how to handle it. About a month before I ever met him I was dating quite a bit, we met each other on a dating site so he was quite aware that I was dating people before I ...
A. 25 August 2015: Don't you mean your EX boyfriend?
What? You haven't dumped this rotten SOB yet? Why? What are you waiting for? This behavior is never going to get better, it will only get much worse. You think it's bad now? Just wait. ... (read in full...)
Why did my girlfriend suddenly decide she won't have sex till we get married?
Q. We have been dating for over a year now, things have been going on well between the both of us. As usual she is ready to have sex anytime I ask for it Suddenly things changed! My gentle and caring girlfriend suddenly changed to someo...
A. 25 August 2015: Well between that and the acting out it sounds to me like she's looking for an out. But as others have mentioned you'll have to have a conversation with her about it. ... (read in full...)
Am I unusual for wanting to be dressed feminine ?
Q. what do most women think of men who like to wear female clothing? I curiously started wearing bras and panties way back in the 1960's when due to not having enough room in the bedroom shared by my two older sisters some of their clothes were stored ...
A. 24 August 2015: I know women who would find it to be something they couldn't handle. I could deal with it I think as long as it wasn't totally out of control.
You don't mention whether this is a sexual thing for you. Do you just like it, or is it a turn on for y... (read in full...)
Should I delete my male friends because my boyfriend asked me to do so?
Q. === should I delete my male friends because my boyfriend asked me to do it???? Hello everyone My boyfriend asked me to delete all my male friends on facebook! p.s: They aren't lot just 6-7 friends because only accept good friends. And when I ...
A. 24 August 2015: No! He's jealous and insecure, personally I think you should "delete" him! ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with him without hurting his feelings?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I am not in love anymore. He's really a nice guy and I don't want to hurt his feelings. He's going to be very surprised and hurt when I tell him. I know he really cares about me but I don't feel anyth...
A. 24 August 2015: It's going to hurt his feelings. There's no way around it.
Just be firm but as kind as you can about it. He's a grown man, he will live, trust me.... (read in full...)
How can I contact my girlfriend without risking anyone being hurt?
Q. Hi, I was wondering what my options are for trying to contact my girlfriend ever since her mum found out that she was in a same sex relationship and read through all the messages between my girlfriend and I. It's really uncomfortable as I know have ...
A. 21 August 2015: Oh, I'm so sorry sweetie. What an awful thing for her, and you.
If you think she's in physical danger then you need to speak with a trusted adult ASAP! Obviously she doesn't have a good support system at home. Do you? Is there someone that lov... (read in full...)
I almost cheated in a desperate bid to get pregnant. Should I tell my husband?
Q. This is a long one, and I hope I wont be judged, because I would never tell anyone this. I feel like a despicable human being. You guys are my only hope! My husband and I have been having a six year fertility struggle, mostly male factor. It ...
A. 20 August 2015: No. Don't tell him. You came to your senses. The only person who might feel better if you tell him is YOU. It will devastate him. Honestly I think telling him would be selfish. I would keep it to yourself and keep yourself out of situations like ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 7 months will not have sex nor let me see her naked
Q. My partner will not let me see her naked and as of yet we have not had any form of sexual contact and this is after us being together for over 7 months and each and everytime I try to talk to her about this she starts to cry and tells me that her ...
A. 20 August 2015: :( that poor lady. It sounds like she has some very deep body image issues. I feel so sorry for her, it must be awful to go through life with the crippling fear that people won't like you any more if they see your body.
You can't fix her. Som... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sat naked in front of guys we just met.
Q. My girlfriend and I recently went to a lakehouse with one of her friends. Her friend brought her boyfriend and 2 of his guy friends. We had only met the boyfriend for lunch once and had never met the other two. We stayed there together for 2 ...
A. 18 August 2015: Whether or not you should be worried is irrelevant, the fact of the matter is that you already are worried, and that's what we should be discussing.
Your girl is definitely an exhibitionist. She likes being the center of attention and loves sh... (read in full...)
I'm freaking out about my boyfiend's gay fantasies!
Q. My bf and I have recently been engaging in anal play during sex, and he really loves it. He recently confided in me that he has fantasies of being penetrated by a transgender person and he further confided that he would like to experience giving ...
A. 17 August 2015: Well, if he's never had those experiences but is curious about them then he certainly qualifies as bicurious. If he also likes women then he certainly isn't gay. I give him props for his honesty as there are MANY bisexual/bicurious men who are ... (read in full...)
I've said something I regret, what do I do now?
Q. Hi I am looking for quick advice about a problem with my boyfriend, I don't know what to do, I've said something to him that i regret and now he isn't speaking to me. I have had intimacy problems with my boyfriend because he is on medication wh...
A. 15 August 2015: Libido issues are one of the things that can most drastically affect a man's ego. They feel like they are not a man at all if they can't do the deed. My husband struggled with this for a while and pressing the issue always, always made it worse.
... (read in full...)
Does he have a problem with my sexuality?
Q. Does my boyfriend have a problem with my sexuality? I think he might be jealous of my past encounters, he hasn't had many sexual experiences himself, and is insecure about sex and his own performance. We've had many arguments about sex before...
A. 14 August 2015: Man, he really needs to grow up a bit in my opinion. Letting your partner know what you like is NOT an insult! It's necessary even in relationships where both partners have plenty of experience. Why would he not want to know these things so that he ... (read in full...)
Should I unfriend and cancel all contact with my ex-boyfriend?
Q. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend last April and moved on. But we are still friends on Social Networking Sites. Now I am in relationship with a person who understands me better and is very honest too. I love him very much and is 100% honest to hi...
A. 14 August 2015: Your call. I'm friends with most of my exes so personally I wouldn't. But if you and/or the new guy are not comfortable with it then feel free. ... (read in full...)
What kind of guy tries to get intimate on a first date?
Q. I recently met this guy some days back through a mutual friend and we had some chemistry. We went out and then I stayed over at his place because it was already too late to get to mine which is far. He tried to get intimate with me. I wanted it ...
A. 14 August 2015: Impossible to tell. I met my own husband over a kinky sex proposition, which I accepted because it sounded like fun, he was absolutely adorable, and I didn't feel there was any danger of getting attached. Little did I know.
We're insepara... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says that he owns me and will say he wants to hurt me during sex. Is this the beginning of an abusive relationship?
Q. I started dating my boyfriend coming up for a year now. I'm 25 and he's 45. From the moment we met we got on great and always love being in each others company. But a few months ago I had a night out and he went very weird with me saying he didn't ...
A. 14 August 2015: Don't tell him! Not even joking, his behavior is super scary and he's made it clear he doesn't consider you a partner but a possession. I would not put it past him to essentially kidnap you and physically prevent you from leaving.
Also, guys lik... (read in full...)
I need help to convince my girl to give me another chance after a rough break-up. Help, what can I do? or say?
Q. I broke my gf heart when I left her for six month and now I feel horrible because I felt what i did to her. A week ago she told me she met someone new. I am devastated, I only left her because I was in so much pain from my grandmother and father d...
A. 13 August 2015: She's done with you. Speaking from experience, she'll never want you after that kind of betrayal.
Leave her alone and let her live her life. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says that he owns me and will say he wants to hurt me during sex. Is this the beginning of an abusive relationship?
Q. I started dating my boyfriend coming up for a year now. I'm 25 and he's 45. From the moment we met we got on great and always love being in each others company. But a few months ago I had a night out and he went very weird with me saying he didn't ...
A. 13 August 2015: With the others. Been in abusive relationships a few times and you've described it to a T. And don't forget, this is just the beginning. This is the EASY part.
It will get worse. So much worse that you will wonder whether you want to be alive. E... (read in full...)
Is there a chance that in fulfilling these fantasies I could also get a broken heart?
Q. Ok.. How can I sum this up... My fiancé and I are head over heels in love with each other, we have been together for 4 years. We have made it through some pretty hard times, the first year of our relationship, which in the end made us so much ...
A. 11 August 2015: You say that it is your fantasy for him to be with another woman.
I don't believe you. Your horrible fear of it happening tells a different story. I think he's either pressed you into this idea or you've sort of pressed yourself into it based on... (read in full...)
How do you know if a lady is single or not? Do you go by a ring?
Q. Hello everyone, this question is more for the ladies. When I'm out I have mentioned before that from time to time I see a woman that I would like to approach. What holds me back many times is if I see a ring. If that's the case I won't approach. If ...
A. 11 August 2015: You just have to ask. And good on you for caring whether she's taken. ... (read in full...)
What are the chances we might conceive a deaf child?
Q. Not really a relationship question but maybe someone knows the answer to my question! My boyfriend and I are trying for a baby. My boyfriend was adopted and doesn't know his birth parents. He has very little information but he does know that his ...
A. 11 August 2015: Does it matter?
Worst case scenario you get to learn a new language (sign language).
Deaf people are no different than anyone else. ... (read in full...)
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