Should I report this, I don't want to create problems or trouble?
Q. Hi, can I ask a question please? I am currently working as a housing Assistant, my superior is a married man 2x my age, he comes across flirty sometimes and stares at me all the time, like really it has been noticed by others. The other day he ...
A. 16 November 2014: Totally inappropriate! Yes, report him. The man is your supervisor!
I want to know why you think it was ok for this married man to touch you like that? What are you thinking? ... (read in full...)
I am heatbroken there was no compromise or compassion!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 weeks. Things were going so well until yesterday evening. He invited me to a wedding and I gladly accepted the invitation (the bride and groom wanted to meet me too) The wedding was a sunrise one so it ...
A. 16 November 2014: His friends are important to him, and he is unwilling to give them up for a woman he has been dating for THREE weeks. Wise man. They have been in his life for a lot longer than you. He is a very secure, confident person and he knows he needs a ... (read in full...)
He texts another female everyday, and she sends him selfies .... I told him it makes me uncomfortable but he doesn't seem to care.
Q. Is it normal to be texting the opposite sex everyday if you are attached? My bf has been texting a female friend everyday for the past month and she sends him her selfies a few times a week. Although the photos are not sexual, I do feel ...
A. 16 November 2014: You are very young, so I am not surprised that you have this completely false expectation that friends of the opposite sex suddenly should be shunned because one becomes involved in a relationship.
Apparently you've read the texts and there is... (read in full...)
I have the hots for the amazingly hot baby sitter
Q. I have an amazingly hot baby sitter, she is new to my family, just me and my daughter, but I have known her sister for while now. How do I find out if she has any interest? I wont lie I would love to see her in more ways than just my baby sitter. I ...
A. 15 November 2014: Ew, she will think you are a creep if you come on to her (and she'd be right). She is an employee and barely of consenting age. Your letter really skeeves me out. I really hope she realizes what you're up to and quits. ... (read in full...)
How do I continue with this relationship with my married boyfriend when I have periods of doubt creeping in around his ability to be faithful to me?
Q. Hello DC Friends. I could use your advice. Not judgement or answers which predict future behaviour and outcome. None of us knows what will happen with certainty. And let us remember that not every man is the same nor is what they do nor is every ...
A. 15 November 2014: What are you being so clingy and insecure for? He isn't even "your" man. He belongs to another woman, not you. You've got no business insisting he be faithful to you when you agreed to be his mistress.
Oh, and those awful feelings of worry an... (read in full...)
A (small) betrayal or much ado about nothing?
Q. I told my husband in confidence that his best friend was getting a divorce. Before telling him I made him promise not to tell anyone until his best friend tells him himself. A few weeks later, he blurted it out. Now, as usual, he’s angry AT ME fo...
A. 14 November 2014: I think in the future I'd tell them in no uncertain terms that you don't keep secrets from your husband. There is no reason on earth for someone else's drama to affect your marriage. This is unfortunate. ... (read in full...)
A (small) betrayal or much ado about nothing?
Q. I told my husband in confidence that his best friend was getting a divorce. Before telling him I made him promise not to tell anyone until his best friend tells him himself. A few weeks later, he blurted it out. Now, as usual, he’s angry AT ME fo...
A. 14 November 2014: I think in the future I'd tell them in no uncertain terms that you don't keep secrets from your husband. There is no reason on earth for someone else's drama to affect your marriage. This is unfortunate. ... (read in full...)
Communication is becoming impossible!
Q. She asks "Would you like a biscuit" - I answer "yes please, just one" - "but you normally have two" - "yes but I'm not hungry, just one would be nice" - "You don't like my biscuits ?" - "yes but I'm not hungry" - "I've spent all this time cooking ...
A. 14 November 2014: Oh, my. You have apparently not paid attention to SOMETHING that is important to her, and now it has come down to the biscuit.
I agree with the others, this really isn't about the biscuit. It is about something else, and you must ever so gently p... (read in full...)
My alcoholic boyfriend has become a born again Christian and insists we marry
Q. Hello everyone - I'm confused with the direction of my life. My alcoholic boyfriend of 5 years (and it has been a roller coaster ride of binge drinking destruction) has finally quit drinking after a 10 day binge which ended up with him in hosp...
A. 10 November 2014: He's traded an addiction to booze for an addiction to Jesus, that's all.
Personally there is no way in hell I would date a born again, there are few things I find as distasteful and annoying. But it is your choice. Just don't go pretendi... (read in full...)
I'm tidy, she's messy, I know we will find a compromise but how do I bring up the topic without upsetting her?
Q. Need some relationship advice. I'm a lesbian in a relationship for the last 7 months and everything is going really well. The woman I'm with is honestly the kindest, most caring, and nurturing woman I have ever met. I am madly in love with her ...
A. 9 November 2014: Well, my husband is very tidy and I'm messy, and I'll say this: he happily follows me around picking up after me, and has never once complained. Dont get me wrong, we have discussed it, in the context of how well it works for us. He has never tried ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my boyfriend hanging out with girls of low morals?
Q. My boyfriend used to talk about his female friends and other girls a lot and I asked him to tone it down please. Now he doesn't mention them much and often doesn't tell me when he's hanging out with his female friends. His two closest female friends ...
A. 8 November 2014: You need to make up your mind. You aren't happy when he talks about them, and you aren't happy when he doesn't.
Have you even met these girls or attempted to be nice to them or friends with them? Or have you just treated them like competit... (read in full...)
Why can't my boyfriend reach orgasm once in awhile? I feel like it is my fault.
Q. My boyfriend is 60 and I am 45. He sexually satisfies me and performs very well in the bedroom. We have great chemistry and an incredible sex life. That is why I am baffled when once in awhile he cannot reach orgasm, despite my doing everyth...
A. 6 November 2014: No, I don't. I think you need to just let it go when it happens. I know from experience that making a big deal about these things can compound his insecurities and make these things worse. It's psychological.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to set up a fake okcupid profile, what does this mean?
Q. I've been writing to this guy on okcupid for the past 6 months, during which time I was living abroad, and we couldn't meet. When we finally did meet, we had a deep connection. He's introverted, and didn't make any moves on me. Finally, on the ...
A. 6 November 2014: I think he sounds extremely mean spirited and his "joke" is cruel, and I wouldn't hesitate to tell him so.
Plus, whose picture does he intend to use? He could very well get someone in trouble with their spouse (yes, "ugly" people have spouses ... (read in full...)
Why can't my boyfriend reach orgasm once in awhile? I feel like it is my fault.
Q. My boyfriend is 60 and I am 45. He sexually satisfies me and performs very well in the bedroom. We have great chemistry and an incredible sex life. That is why I am baffled when once in awhile he cannot reach orgasm, despite my doing everyth...
A. 6 November 2014: Good lord, the poor guy is 60? Cut him a break. These things happen as you age. It isn't your fault, he is just getting older and penises are notorious for not doing what their users want them to as they age a bit. My own husband has this issue ... (read in full...)
Why won't he pull out during sex?
Q. So I have a boyfriend who's a pretty good guy. The only thing is, he doesn't want to pull out during sex. Or wear a condom. Says he hates them. We're both pretty stable so that's not a problem. My only question is, why does he do this? We both have ...
A. 6 November 2014: The bigger question in my mind is, why are you not insisting he wears condoms or no sex? ... (read in full...)
He used to do his own laundry! Is he cheating on me?
Q. Is he cheating? My boyfriend of 4yrs and 11 mnths . nowadays constantly takes his clothes to the dry cleaners where his ex works.but before he used to do his own laundry. Is he cheating?...
A. 6 November 2014: Um, what? ... (read in full...)
What would you ladies do or think if your straight boyfriend just announced he had once kissed and touched another guy like he was telling you about his day?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months. Things are really great between us and we are thinking about taking the next step and getting a house together. It wouldn't be until the new year anyway but things are getting serious and I couldn't ...
A. 5 November 2014: And to add to that, my own husband experimented with men when he was younger, doesn't change my love for him or my confidence in his love for me in the slightest. ... (read in full...)
What would you ladies do or think if your straight boyfriend just announced he had once kissed and touched another guy like he was telling you about his day?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months. Things are really great between us and we are thinking about taking the next step and getting a house together. It wouldn't be until the new year anyway but things are getting serious and I couldn't ...
A. 5 November 2014: I wouldn't think anything of it, but I am a LOT older than you. More men have experimented with other men than will ever admit it. He sounds like a very honest young man. ... (read in full...)
I don't see my boyfriend and I moving in together should I walk away?
Q. I don't think my boyfriend and I will move in together, should I walk away ?. He has bipolar disorder. He recently moved into a new place. He doesn't seem to want to move in with me, and it could be difficult to live with him, as he has so many mood ...
A. 5 November 2014: Blech, move on. I see nothing but misery if you try to have a future with him. Find a guy that's full of life and fun.... (read in full...)
Advice on what a break means.
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for two years. However, out of the blue, she sent a text message asking for a break. She said she didn't want things to end, just a short break. It was not stemmed from a fight and she made it clear she still ...
A. 5 November 2014: Awe, honey, I agree with chigirl. A break is breaking up. I'm sorry, you sound really sweet. I wouldn't waste the time or money on your lovely gift idea if I were you. ... (read in full...)
My gut is telling me he's not faithful!
Q. Lately, I've been rather doubtful of my fiancé's loyalty. I caught him liking other girls photo on facebook. And suddenly I get all jealous. He wasn't normally like this. For weeks My gut has been telling me that he's not faithful. He gets all ...
A. 4 November 2014: You are way overreacting. Getting mad and jealous because he likes other people's photos? Seriously, you have a major jealousy problem. You speak of absolutely no evidence of cheating. ... (read in full...)
I didn't tell my b/f about my past and he found out from someone else. Now he wants me out of his life!
Q. I wanted to tell my new boyfriend about my past but did not know if i should tell him or that he would not want to know about my past or when was the best time to tell him and had thought about telling him as i know a guy that works for him that ...
A. 4 November 2014: Some things are deal breakers. You have them, I have them, we all have them.
Apparently this is one of his. Time to move on.... (read in full...)
What does the word 'cute' mean to guys? To me, it means 'ugly but acceptable'!
Q. Dear Auntz Me and my new boyfriend started dating a week ago and he keeps saying that im cute! I have always told myself that i will never date any guy that thinks i am cute, but here i am. I wish he would use the word beautiful instea...
A. 4 November 2014: You are seriously overthinking this. He is complimenting you, quit it.... (read in full...)
I would be leaving my wife of 12 years for her, so I need to know if she wants me too
Q. First time I have done something like this online but there is no one else i can speak to about this. I am married with a child and 2 step kids, I love my wife but I don't know if I am still in love with her. I met a girl in her 20s a couple months ...
A. 3 November 2014: Middle age crisis alert! *slap slap slap slap slap*
Dude, wake up! What are you thinking? I know a little bit of attention from a younger woman feels great, but take it for the ego boost that it is and think of your family! Think of your kids! Yo... (read in full...)
How much am I entitled to know?
Q. How much asking about a bf's friends is too much? Do you stop asking once he says "I'm going out with a friend/friends? Or is it ok to ask what else they'd be doing? Or ask if who the friends are. Just curious. Many thanks for your replies...
A. 3 November 2014: If you're just asking him out of curiosity, it's fine. If you are grilling him because you are insecure and suspicious, it isn't. ... (read in full...)
Is oral sex harmful?
Q. My girlfriend gives me blowjobs. Does it is harmful or bad for her???...
A. 2 November 2014: What? No! Why would you think that? I can understand a young teen having this question, but I fear what other misinformation you may have if you think that in your twenties. ... (read in full...)
I want to get married at Disney World but he doesn't
Q. I got engaged a few month ago and need some help. Since I was 10 I said I was going to get married at Disneyworld and I've never changed my mind. My fiance wants a big wedding here. I don't!! All we do I argue over it because I want to go to ...
A. 2 November 2014: Why don't you get married here and have your honeymoon at Disney? ... (read in full...)
Should I go off the pill now or wait and make an announcement?
Q. My partner and I both want kids, he is of the mind set that he doesn't want to TRY and conceive, he would like it to just ... Happen . Without too much stress. He would be happy if I turned around tomorrow and told him I was pregnant. A little bit ...
A. 2 November 2014: Yes, why are you asking if you know??????
These decisions should be made together. ... (read in full...)
Guys, is this a turn-off?
Q. Sometimes my vaginal discharge is very sour, very tart, like a vitamin C pill. Anyone else ever have that? Dudes, you ever notice that? I know it changes with time, it's not usually the fluid that comes with being turned on. What's it mean and is it ...
A. 1 November 2014: Get checked for bacterial vaginosis. Very common, not an STD, not harmful but can cause an unpleasant odor. ... (read in full...)
Was he just in it for the sex?
Q. Dear friends I need your advice. I met a guy when I went to visit my sister cause she had a baby. He was my brother in law s friends. We didn't really talk that much at that time because we didn't really know eachother. Once he left the hospital I ...
A. 1 November 2014: Of course he only wanted sex. He had one last piece of strange with you and then married the woman he loves.
You made this bed, now lie in it.... (read in full...)
Normal for boyfriend to watch shemale porn ?
Q. I recently discovered on my boyfriends computer history that he has been watching shemale porn. To be honest I'm very disturbed by it , it had like ladyboy asain boys and guys with girls too but the girls wore strap ons. He had other porn like teen ...
A. 31 October 2014: It is likely just fantasy. There are some hot trans pre-op women out there (in other words, with penises, she-male is actually an offensive term). I do, however, doubt he was watching it "for the freakshow aspect.
My husband enjoys watching... (read in full...)
How can I get my partner to drop his friends without making an ultimatum?
Q. I don't like my partner's friends and it is pulling us apart. 18 months ago we made friends with a couple that live close by. The friendship began with dinner once a month at each others homes. After only meeting a handful of times my partner was ...
A. 31 October 2014: What, specifically, did they do to make you dislike them so much? So far the only thing you have cited is jealousy, essentially. It seems like you're angry because he is so close with them. Why? Is that what the arguments are about? Because unless ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I'd rather have a piece of jewellery than chocolates as a present, and not sound ungrateful?
Q. So, on my birthday my boyfriend (of about 9 months) bought me chocolates, along with taking me out for dinner and dessert. I enjoyed it, afterwards we spent some time together on the beach and I acknowledge he did spend a fair amount of money on...
A. 29 October 2014: Probably the best way to start is to begin dropping hints ahead of time. OHMYGODLOOKATTHISNECKLACE hint hint kinda stuff. That way he might actually think he came about the idea all by himself.
I will say however that nothing worked with my ex hu... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I'd rather have a piece of jewellery than chocolates as a present, and not sound ungrateful?
Q. So, on my birthday my boyfriend (of about 9 months) bought me chocolates, along with taking me out for dinner and dessert. I enjoyed it, afterwards we spent some time together on the beach and I acknowledge he did spend a fair amount of money on...
A. 29 October 2014: Probably the best way to start is to begin dropping hints ahead of time. OHMYGODLOOKATTHISNECKLACE hint hint kinda stuff. That way he might actually think he came about the idea all by himself.
I will say however that nothing worked with my ex hu... (read in full...)
I orgasm when alone, yet lose the orgasm when with my Bf. Yes he's caring with foreplay. What needs to change?
Q. Hello ! So I'm having a issue with reaching an orgasm with my boyfriend . He's 5 years older then me and he's the best lover I have ever had ( I think it's because he's older ) but anyways I have never climaxed with anybody that I have been ...
A. 29 October 2014: I never orgasm from intercourse, oral only. Most women are like this, so don't trip. Have him go down on you then have sex after. ... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend and his ex-sister in law! I am incandesant with anger over this. What could or should I do?
Q. My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother. I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will. I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this s...
A. 29 October 2014: You are mad at her but not your boyfriend?
I agree with the other poster, dump him, unless you WANT a life filled with weird family drama, ... (read in full...)
My Dad has told me he's disowning me for spending the night with my Bf. Feel incredibly hurt. What can I do?
Q. I'm sorry if this post is lengthy and/or complicated. I'm 19 years old, and ever since I turned 18, I've been having more and more issues with my dad. My parents are divorced, and are very different from each other. My dad is very overprotecti...
A. 28 October 2014: This sucks! I'm so sorry to hear that.
I know you love your dad very much, so this may be difficult to hear, but it may be better this way in the long run. Your dad is controlling, unstable, and toxic. You can be free to grow up now, without ... (read in full...)
Can a married man fall in long with his mistress? Or is the lover just used for sex on the side?
Q. Do married men only use their lover on the side just for sex only? Can they actually fall in love with their mistress, despite being torn because of the children? ...
A. 27 October 2014: Anything "can" happen. The majority of the time she is just a piece on the side though. ... (read in full...)
He's abusive. Why do I take him back, even though I know he is not good for me?
Q. Dear Cupid Where do I start? I was with my ex was 4 years. Earlier it used be fun, for past few months the verbal emotional abuse is more than I can take. He withdraws affection and love. Makes me beg with him to even talk to me, at last talks to...
A. 26 October 2014: You take him back because he is familiar and you have become accustomed to the routine, and because you haven't found the confidence to stand your ground when he pressures you. Find it now! Block his number and do NOT respond to him in any way. ... (read in full...)
Did hiring a escort make me look bad?
Q. I'm doing an update since my post "I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?" (I'm 28 now)and have not post anything for few months. Well I hired a escort and done the deed, and I can my experience was not bad as ...
A. 25 October 2014: And, if he sees it as a problem, then it is a problem. Not sure why anyone would begrudge him for his adult decision. ... (read in full...)
Did hiring a escort make me look bad?
Q. I'm doing an update since my post "I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?" (I'm 28 now)and have not post anything for few months. Well I hired a escort and done the deed, and I can my experience was not bad as ...
A. 25 October 2014: Yup, I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. As long as they are both consenting adults and practice safe sex. ... (read in full...)
Did hiring a escort make me look bad?
Q. I'm doing an update since my post "I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?" (I'm 28 now)and have not post anything for few months. Well I hired a escort and done the deed, and I can my experience was not bad as ...
A. 25 October 2014: I see absolutely nothing wrong with what you did. It may help you develop social skills and a bit of confidence. Millions upon millions of men have/ do visit sex workers. Personally I don't like the way they are demonized.
To the other posters ... (read in full...)
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