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Did hiring a escort make me look bad?

Q.   I'm doing an update since my post "I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?" (I'm 28 now)and have not post anything for few months. Well I hired a escort and done the deed, and I can my experience was not bad as ...

A.   25 October 2014: And, if he sees it as a problem, then it is a problem. Not sure why anyone would begrudge him for his adult decision. ... (read in full...)

Did hiring a escort make me look bad?

Q.   I'm doing an update since my post "I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?" (I'm 28 now)and have not post anything for few months. Well I hired a escort and done the deed, and I can my experience was not bad as ...

A.   25 October 2014: Yup, I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. As long as they are both consenting adults and practice safe sex. ... (read in full...)

Is it common for CrossDressers to have multiple personalities that don't always communicate

Q.   My boyfriend is a crossdresser as time hit gone on he has become more and more into dressing up for atleast the last 6-9 months he has been doing things like wearing my favorit lingerie while Im not home usually hes on Craigslist looking for other ...

A.   25 October 2014: Tell him you're terribly concerned about his mental health and are working on having him involuntarily committed for a short while. Perhaps that will jog his memory. ... (read in full...)

Did hiring a escort make me look bad?

Q.   I'm doing an update since my post "I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?" (I'm 28 now)and have not post anything for few months. Well I hired a escort and done the deed, and I can my experience was not bad as ...

A.   25 October 2014: I see absolutely nothing wrong with what you did. It may help you develop social skills and a bit of confidence. Millions upon millions of men have/ do visit sex workers. Personally I don't like the way they are demonized. To the other posters ... (read in full...)

If he cheats to be with you, does that mean he will 100 per cent cheat ON YOU?

Q.   Hi everyone. I have been dating a married man for almost a year and a half. He does have genuine feelings for me and we have great sex and chemistry and a good friendship. He is comfortable with his wife and not leaving. I am not totally okay w...

A.   24 October 2014: Oh, my, this man has his hands full, doesn't he? I'll bet when he started this affair he wasn't expecting to get a clingy, demanding, insecure mistress who mysteriously questions him and demands to know whether he likes other women, as though she ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with him but there's another woman in his life

Q.   dear cupid am dating a man I met and dated two years back we broke up that time and I got married to another man, now my marriage did not workout so am single now and this man I knew before has asked that we be together again, I have fallen inlove ...

A.   22 October 2014: Ugh. A good guy who rapes women. I hope you snap out of it.... (read in full...)

I'm just not feeling it for him. He should be perfect for me but I'm not feeling a connection or a spark.

Q.   Is it normal to date someone and not be in love with them? And if you are not in love with someone, is likely to change? I've been seeing someone for about a month who should be perfect for me. I did meet him on a dating website--the onl...

A.   22 October 2014: Yes, it is normal. I didn't form a connection or fall in love with the vast majority of men I dated. The dislike of his natural smell is another giveaway. Those are his pheromones, and your pheromones aren't interested in his pheromones. It do... (read in full...)

I'm in love with him but there's another woman in his life

Q.   dear cupid am dating a man I met and dated two years back we broke up that time and I got married to another man, now my marriage did not workout so am single now and this man I knew before has asked that we be together again, I have fallen inlove ...

A.   21 October 2014: Ouch! You're in love with a rapist. Yes, that's right, doesn't matter if they are together or not, forced sex equals rape. I had a boyfriend like that. He would hold me down and keep doing it while I was crying and begging him to stop. This guy is ... (read in full...)

I have a double standard when it comes to porn and it makes me feel disgusted and humiliated with myself!

Q.   I feel completely disgusted and humiliated with myself. I am 23 and feel like the worst woman on the planet. In high school and at times in college I explored pornography (much more then). My fiancé has confessed as well that he would look at ...

A.   21 October 2014: Oh, my, methinks the issue is that you think porn is so horrible and dirty. Obviously you enjoy looking at it occasionally, and there is nothing freaking wrong with this. It isn't cheating, and you are a grown woman. You have been taught somewhere ... (read in full...)

I think my professor has a crush on me

Q.   My proffessor likes me.he is 28yrs older to me.he pays more attentoon to me than any other student,caught him staring at me many times, he touches things that are closer to me but never physically came closer and also doesnt give me extra advantage ...

A.   19 October 2014: It could probably destroy his career if anything happened between you. Also, his conduct here is grossly unprofessional and unethical. Frankly if he takes it further he should be reported. Do NOT attempt to get involved with him. At best it will be ... (read in full...)

I think he's lost interest in me but I'm afraid to leave him

Q.   Hey guys.. I have a "boyfriend" but it's a long distance relationship and he tells me he loves me, usually just by words.. He asked me for nudes and I said no way but he kept insisting and saying he loves me. I used to be a shy and quiet girl but I ...

A.   19 October 2014: This is not a relationship, honey, this is just a fantasy turned nightmare. You are addicted to the idea of it, and you're going to have to work hard to move past it. ALL addiction is difficult to get past, and you have the added worry of the ... (read in full...)

How do I stop beating myself up for my stupidity at spending my money?

Q.   My grandparents sold their house at the start of the year. From the money they got from it, they gave they're grandchildren some of it. I got around £1500. At the time I was in a job that paid horrible money, less than minimum wage. The plan was to ...

A.   19 October 2014: Hey, Nora, why don't you tell us what you REALLY mean? :-) Op, don't beat yourself up. That isn't hardly anything in the grand scheme of things, and we've all made mistakes when we're young. Maybe you could benefit from a money management... (read in full...)

Can dating profiles be cloned over multiple sites or is my boyfriend lying?

Q.   Hi all, So I have been going out with my boyfriend for 18 months and we met on a dating site. 2 months into our relationship I found he was still logging in to pof the site we met on and my only dating site I joined. He said that can't be right he...

A.   19 October 2014: He is full of it. He is lying, and likely having multiple hookups when he goes away. This guy is a player and a liar. I hope you aren't having unprotected sex with him! The only thing worse than a liar is a liar who won't come clean even when pre... (read in full...)

Advice for dating someone who has children when you've never had any?

Q.   Hi I was wondering if someone could share their experience dating with kids. My boyfriend has two children, 14 and 9 and I have none. I have never been a kid person and never really wanted any of my own. The 14 year old boy is ok because he is very ...

A.   19 October 2014: Yes, this relationship is not for you. If you've never liked kids and don't want any, you should find someone like minded. Your feelings aren't going to get better, and your discomfort will show to the kids and that isn't fair to them. If they're ... (read in full...)

I love my BF. A flat mate seems to have a crush on me. Though not interested, how should I handle this?

Q.   I am 22 and live with my boyfriend,a gay couple and a single guy. Recently I have begun wondering whether the single guy might have a crush on me. He's really shy and never had a girlfriend. We get on really well but I don't want him to get the ...

A.   18 October 2014: I think you actually are interested in this guy. Your post is filled with positive statements about him and negative statements about your current guy. Is he interested, also? I don't know, ask him. Just be sure to end your current relation... (read in full...)

What do I do about my nitpicking fiance?

Q.   I moved in with my fiancé. I am finding out that he is a nitpicker. He tells me how to cook or what I should do with this or that recipe. He was the first one to ever complain about a recipe that I have cooked for years and years that everyon...

A.   18 October 2014: Let me see, you live together, work together at home, and are always together go-go-going on the weekends? And it's been this way for a year? Good grief. Get AWAY from each other for a little bit here and there. One of you go take a weekend ... (read in full...)

Is he interested? We are playing the part of husband and wife in a drama at his suggestion!

Q.   Ok. Here's the deal. I've been attending a new church for about 6 months. After a few months or thereabouts I have a thought that the worship pastor and I would make a good fit. Move forward a few months and he sends me an email (only me) asking if ...

A.   18 October 2014: Geeze, you guys, she is a grown woman and they are both single. Church seems like a fine place to meet a potential future spouse if one is a christian, pastor or not. There is a possibility this pastor is genuinely interested in this poster. ... (read in full...)

I miss her. Do you think she is in a rebound relationship? If yes, how long do you think it will last?

Q.   Hello, I have a question, but i need to tell you the most important details you will need for decision in the shortest possible way. My ex (also my Classmate!!) had a boyfriend, but I got her from him and she became my girlfriend, they were ...

A.   18 October 2014: She has severe depression, she's a cutter, you two fought constantly when you were together, she gets with other guys just to hurt you...yeah, can't see why you think she's such a catch or why you want back into that horrible, dramatic ... (read in full...)

Turns out that my mother is a prostitute and everyone at University and school knows. Should I move away?

Q.   Turns out that my mother is a prostitute and everyone in school and my university knows. OMG!!!!!!!! what can i do? should i move? i cant believe this, i cant even go out! my life sucks, hope no one other than me ever has to experience this. Every...

A.   18 October 2014: Sounds like she must be a pretty good mom if that's been her profession all these years and you are just now realizing it at your age. There are hundreds of thousands of prostitutes, and they are ALL someone's daughters,sons, sisters, mothers,... (read in full...)

Is it ok for me to send this message to a guy I like? In the closet now, but should I just come out to him?

Q.   "Hey decided to just be honest. I’m not gay but I am bi, and I kinda want to ^^^ you off. It doesn’t make you gay to let a guy ^^^ you off, like i said i’ve had friends it happened to and they honestly couldn’t tell the difference. I’d be 100% dis...

A.   18 October 2014: Agree completely with CMMP, and want to add that if you send this message via text or any other written form, then there is proof you said it, so if the guy reacts the opposite way you want him to, he will be pissed. If it goes that way, he might ... (read in full...)

It was an awkward first kiss, but does that make me an a pathetic 24 year old loser? What can I do?

Q.   So I just got home from a sort of first date with a guy. We hung out at my house last weekend just to break the ice so I cooked lunch for us nothing major. Tonight we went out for drinks and when it was time to drop me off we were just chattin...

A.   18 October 2014: Only a first date? I'd write it off and go date someone else. Sounds like the chemistry just wasn't there. Forget it and move on, no reason to be embarrassed. ... (read in full...)

Huge crush, but now she has resigned. Why!?! What the hell is wrong with me? Have I let my lunatic ego take control?

Q.   Turning 50 is not fun. My loving wife after 25 years of marriage tells me time has been kind to me and she still calls me sexy. I adore her. She is as lovely as the day I first saw her. I have always been somewhat shy. I never considered mysel...

A.   17 October 2014: Oh, dear, the melodrama. I feel that I shall swoon. M'lord, methinks the young lass didst avail you with her siren charms to feed her own ego, which doth run deep as the deepest river, much like her limpid eyes. Yea, though she placed the curs... (read in full...)

Should I tell my wife about the dream where I slept with another woman?

Q.   I had a very explicit and elaborate dream in which I had sex with a woman who was not my wife. I would never dare tell my wife such things except that this particular dream wasn't sexual in nature. The sex part was just a small (but important) part ...

A.   16 October 2014: I don't know, depends on your relationship and her sense of security. Many people have dreams like that, personally my husband and I can share them without issue but I also know women who would flip out over it. You know her better than we do,ho... (read in full...)

I got married less than a month ago and I think it was a mistake! What do I do?

Q.   I just got married less than a month ago and I am having all of these feelings and thoughts that it isn't right. That I made a mistake. He isn't the one. I feel so lost because I have been with him for over 5 years... since I was 19 years old. Don't ...

A.   15 October 2014: Sometimes marriage IS a mistake. Many people will tell you to suck it up and stay in it, and go to counseling because Marriage. My own advice is different (having made that same unfortunate, horrible mistake myself once). You only live once, and the ... (read in full...)

I have a lot of anger towards him. We both shout at each other a lot. How can this be resolved?

Q.   My husband has been shouting at me and sometimes hitting me and calling me lots of names. I have put up with it, now I feel like a very angry person and I shout back at him a lot and I can not speak to him nicely and even when he tries to be nice ...

A.   12 October 2014: Oh, my. That's so toxic. I've been in abusive relationships before, once it reaches the stage of physical abuse it is over and too late in my opinion, it rarely gets better. Personally I think you need to get out and heal yourself. I cant tel... (read in full...)

Should I have called him out on what I was told was a lie? Or should I let it go?

Q.   I like this guy. He's a lot older then me we never talk face to face. He's a bus driver i see ever day why he goes by and when we talk on the phone he tells me he's married and has kids. But then i find out he's not married, nor does he have any...

A.   12 October 2014: He isn't interested in you and that's why he is telling you those lies. Kind of cowardly that he can't just say that to your face, but the bottom line is the same- he doesn't like you the way you like him. You should stop calling him.... (read in full...)

I can't get over my girlfriend not being a virgin!

Q.   Hi, I have a serious problem that I don't know how to adress. Me and my girlfriend have known each other since we were in our teens. It's been about 8 years now that we've been friends. We've always gotten along great, been best friends and fel...

A.   10 October 2014: I think you should break up with her. She is an adult and has done nothing wrong, and you seem to be slut shaming her over it. I find this sort of attitude from men deplorable, and frankly she'd be better off without you. The vast majority of people ... (read in full...)

Is my request for her not to speak to him unreasonable?

Q.   Ok. a few months back i posted a thread where my girlfriend had went to stay with her male best friend for a while and he'd declared his love for her etc etc she never told me about him telling her he loved her until a few weeks after it happene...

A.   10 October 2014: Yeah. Too much history between these two. She's been dishonest multiple times. The problem is you can't "demand" she not talk to him, she is an adult. I think the best thing you can do is move on. I mean, look at what it's come to- you snooping ... (read in full...)

Why are girls getting naked for their tattoo sessions with my boyfriend?

Q.   My boyfriend of 6 months is a tattoo artist and I have noticed that some girls like to be naked for their tattoo appointment, and even if the design is being placed on their lower back they want to take their pants off, which I don’t quite ...

A.   10 October 2014: I'll be honest, I don't think you're cut out to be with a tattoo artist. This is his career, and he's going to spend it tattooing butts, boobs, and even the occasional labia or dick. If you can't handle this you probably need a guy with a profession ... (read in full...)

Will the Doctor respect my privacy or is it likely that the Doctor will tell my Mom that I'm not a virgin?

Q.   I'm 17 and my bf and I got carried away in the moment and so three days ago I lost my virginity. My mom is making me go to the doctor for a yeast infection. I know they will ask if I have had sex without my mom in there but can they tell her I'm ...

A.   6 October 2014: Hmm, yeast infections are easily cured with over the counter meds, I have to step in and say it is entirely possible you have an STD. Also, in my experience they aren't painful. You might want to come clean in case it isn't a yeast infection. ... (read in full...)

If I have a healthy libido then why does my husband need to masturbate?

Q.   I have discovered that my husband has started masturbating and lying about it. I feel puzzled because I have a healthy libido and he knows it. Why would he do this? Is this a sign of trouble ahead? We have been married for two years. ...

A.   6 October 2014: Masturbating and lying about it? I'm trying to understand how this conversation would even go. What are you doing- demanding to know whether he jacks off? It's just weird to me that you're apparently insisting on knowing if/ when he masturbates. ... (read in full...)

I'm concerned about my new boyfriend going traveling with his sister!

Q.   I've been dating this lovely man for two months now and we're both very keen on each other and make time to see one another at least twice a week. He's 39 and I'm 36 and he's been single for two years. He's very close with his sister who is si...

A.   1 October 2014: That's his sister. She was in his life before you, and will be in his life after you. At this point it seems more like you trying to come in between them than the other way around. If you start getting all insecure about it you probably will bre... (read in full...)

I'm concerned about my new boyfriend going traveling with his sister!

Q.   I've been dating this lovely man for two months now and we're both very keen on each other and make time to see one another at least twice a week. He's 39 and I'm 36 and he's been single for two years. He's very close with his sister who is si...

A.   1 October 2014: That's his sister. She was in his life before you, and will be in his life after you. At this point it seems more like you trying to come in between them than the other way around. If you start getting all insecure about it you probably will bre... (read in full...)

3 wishes: want him to treat me better, be more passionate, and erase his tattoo. Too much to ask for??

Q.   Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's wonderful man. We are both 25 and he's going to proposed me and give me that hint ( asking me about the engage ring that I like and accidentally told me that he's going to marry me next year). ...

A.   29 September 2014: You ask for advice, then you reject the advice. Go figure. And YES! You're being weirdly unreasonable. You feel like fainting when you think about it? Spare me the drama. I am afraid you have some very serious emotional issues that need to be ... (read in full...)

3 wishes: want him to treat me better, be more passionate, and erase his tattoo. Too much to ask for??

Q.   Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's wonderful man. We are both 25 and he's going to proposed me and give me that hint ( asking me about the engage ring that I like and accidentally told me that he's going to marry me next year). ...

A.   29 September 2014: Nope, you don't get to tell him what to do with his own body. Sounds like you need a different boyfriend ... (read in full...)

My friend might be sending nudes

Q.   So recently a new boy came to our school, the reason he came was because he got expelled from his old school for screenshotting a girls nudes and showing them to all his mates. The only problem is... He's quite good looking. My friend is a bit of a ...

A.   22 September 2014: There are millions of good looking guys on this planet. A lot of them aren't even assholes. Why are you wasting your time thinking about this particular guy, again? ... (read in full...)

My best friend treats me differently now that he's in a serious relationship!

Q.   Hi , I've been friends with this guy forever and now we're bestfriends.he always wanted a relationship with me but I refused cause I didn't want to ruin our friendship, now he hav found this girl who is serious about him, he starts treating me ...

A.   21 September 2014: If you turned him down, you aren't allowed to get jealous :) I'm thinking, though, that maybe he kept up the friendship because he was hoping for more. Now he has that and so doesn't need the friendship that much. Some guys are like that, food for... (read in full...)

I love him and we've been together 5 years. But how can I convince him to erase his recent tattoo?

Q.   l been with my boyfriend for 5 years and our relationship was great. We are the same age. He loves me so much and serious about our relationship. He would do anything to make me happy. But now he has changed. Its because of me too. Its my fault. I...

A.   20 September 2014: You can't. It's his body, not yours. You don't get to tell him whether or not he can have a tattoo. Either leave him alone about it or find a man who doesn't have one.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend never cares when people compliment our relationship

Q.   I've noticed lately that my boyfriend doesn't like or care when people compliment us on our relationship. For instance, the other day some random lady asked us for directions and then joked about how cute I looked and then said that my boyfriend has ...

A.   19 September 2014: I find it strange that you are even thinking about this. The examples you gave were so mundane and petty that I wouldn't even have noticed them. I don't know much about your relationship, but on the very limited info you've given it seems li... (read in full...)

How do I make myself stop watching porn to get off?

Q.   I'm straight but I watch lesbian porn to get off, I have don't it like 5 times now and feel that I might be addicted and when I have sex with my boyfriends, who doesn't know about it, one who knows me does. I feel like I have to think about it to ...

A.   19 September 2014: So? He doesn't get to dictate how you feel, or who you are. He sounds horribly immature. ... (read in full...)

How do I make myself stop watching porn to get off?

Q.   I'm straight but I watch lesbian porn to get off, I have don't it like 5 times now and feel that I might be addicted and when I have sex with my boyfriends, who doesn't know about it, one who knows me does. I feel like I have to think about it to ...

A.   18 September 2014: Why do you feel ashamed about it. Plenty of straight women enjoy it (I'm one). It is just fantasy, personally I don't feel there's anything wrong with it.... (read in full...)

His being late makes me feel disrespected

Q.   I have been dating a guy for about 2 months. He was on-time our first date but almost every time after that he is late. I am not talking 15 mins late. I am talking an hour! There have been times when he had decent reason for being late and I just ...

A.   18 September 2014: I dated a guy like this. He will never, never, never, never change. It is utterly disrespectful, but punctuality or lack of seems to be kind of ingrained, so if you can't deal with this horrible, maddening habit, you should move on. That,... (read in full...)

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