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writes:Why is he so irritated with me? I'm so upset:(My boyfriend has been acting weird lately.So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now. (We haven't had sex yet). He's 28 and I'm 24.. Is a long distance relationship.He's so irritated with me he doesn't ring me as much as he use to. We use to talk and laugh for hours but is been days since we had a really good laugh:(He'd ring me as soon as he opens his eyes from his sleep but now I'm the one doing the calling and texting. and when he calls he's in a mood cause I didn't ring him. I've told him to go if he's find someone else before I get in too deep but he swears there's no one else.He's just changed and I'm scared I will never get my sweet, funny attentive boyfriend back:(He doesn't say he loves me or misses me anymore:(
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 January 2014):
 you have been dating for 8 months LDR
how did you meet?
how much time IRL do you spend or have you spent?
how long distance are you and how often do you see each other?
all of these questions need answering before i can discuss the LDR with you.
IN general however, if you met online and have not met in real life then there is no relationship.
IF you live very far apart and can't see each other regularly, then there is no real relationship.
my husband and I were LDR before we moved together... and you cannot sustain the amount of contact daily you are used to in the beginning... and once you are local (which is the total goal of LDR) then the texts and the i love yous and all that no longer matter so much as you are together all the time...
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (17 January 2014):
I think it's already over, he's lost interest or found someone else. Getting mean and rude is a common tactic for those who lack the courage to do the breaking up-he's trying to get you to do it for him.
LDRs are very hard to maintain, especially for young people with lots of hormones.
I'm sorry, but my advice is to do your best to move on with dignity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI asked him a very playful & flirty question yesterday & he got so rude, I was really hurt so I said I was running a bath so I got off the phone & he hasn't tried contacting me since:( or vice versa:(
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 January 2014):
The problem is, that after 8 months of dating in an LDR, there doesn't appear to have been any real movement or specific talk for the future. Instead, all that has happened is that the relationship has gone backwards, and you're not speaking as much and he even finds you irritating. And, to be honest, if he's not telling you he loves you, you do have problems.
Whether he's found someone else is to hard to say, but I do think you're right that you need to perhaps leave this before you get in too much further. LDR's are hard to maintain at the best of times, but if one isn't interested it's clearly impossible.
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