I need to talk to my b/f about trust since I caught him texting. How do I start the convo?
Q. Around 5-6 months ago I found that my boyfriend of almost two years had been messaging other girls. Some messages were friendly however others weren't, I confronted him about it and he didn't give me a straight answer at first until I kept asking ...
A. 8 April 2015: What is the content of the messages? I can't answer without more info. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell someone to stop flirting with me in a work place?
Q. There is this older man at work who is getting too friendly and I want to put a stop to it.I don't work with him everyday since I have a part time casual position and he has permanent position on different floor. I am casual wh...
A. 5 April 2015: Married people get crushes, too. Being attracted to others doesn't automatically disappear just because you're married. :)
Head him off at the pass, no worries. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell someone to stop flirting with me in a work place?
Q. There is this older man at work who is getting too friendly and I want to put a stop to it.I don't work with him everyday since I have a part time casual position and he has permanent position on different floor. I am casual wh...
A. 4 April 2015: Nobody is being direct enough in what they're advising you to say. This guy doesn't think he's being innocuous, he is directly coming on to you in a very creepy way.
Do NOT say "please". Do not give him an out by telling him you're sure he think... (read in full...)
Will a married man ever replace his long term mistress with the next best thing?
Q. I am here to ask a question to everyone but WITHOUT JUDGMENT or PREACHING. I know affair posts get everyone very worked up. But I am not here to be crucified. Just to get help. I want to know what you think the answer is. It will help me immensel...
A. 3 April 2015: Wow lady, bunny boiler much? You "are not responsible for your actions" if he "cheats"?
He IS cheating. On the woman he married, with you. Of course he could cheat on you too.
You have some growing up and soul searching to do. THREATENING YOUR... (read in full...)
She hugged me and it felt really good. Am I in love?
Q. A girl hugged me today and it felt really good. Later when I was in class, I got a boner from thinking about it. Am I in love? I had a crush on her last year. Should I hug her again to see if I feel the same....
A. 2 April 2015: Haha, no, you are not in love. You are a teenage boy entering puberty. Prepare for these feelings to get a LOT worse.
You got a boner when she hugged you? Give it six months. You will get a boner when ANY girl hugs you, looks at you, or has the ... (read in full...)
How can I know if my husband is gay or not?
Q. I have been happily married for 13 years now. I have always had great sexual experience with my husband. I only felt it was not as often as I would want. I recently suspected he might be a gay??? there were several signs of it to me. Most shocking ...
A. 1 April 2015: Your husband is not gay. He is able to enthusiastically maintain a "great" sex life with you.
He may well be bi or bi curious, who knows? In my opinion the instances you have posted are not proof of any sort. And if he is, he will never ever tel... (read in full...)
Would you move thousands of miles for someone you loved but have to give up your goals or dreams?
Q. So I met someone I am really into and we have been carrying on a long distance relationship for a few years! we met online. He lives on the other side of the country. I liked him since we first chatted though and we have talked everyday since then. ...
A. 29 March 2015: Have you ever actually met your boyfriend in person? ... (read in full...)
What else? Tried anti-depressants, counselling and contraceptive pill to try to control side affects of heavy periods. Any further suggestions before I see Dr next week?
Q. Hi, I have had some great advice on here before relating to periods and anxiety - people suggested fish oil and cutting out caffeine and these have really helped me a lot - as a result I am nowhere near as anxious as I was. However, I won...
A. 27 March 2015: Ibuprofen! Not 600, not 800, but 1,000 mg every four to six hours during those couple heavy days.
My own gyno recommended that for heavy bleeding years ago, and within the second or third dose it stops it in its tracks. I feel that advice t... (read in full...)
Would you be ticked at a one word reply from your BF in an email?
Q. If you send your BF an email with a funny pic attached and he just replied "Cute!" would you get ticked about the one word answer? Especially if at the end of the message you said "Miss you" and he did not say "Miss you" back? ...
A. 26 March 2015: No. What a silly thing to get all worked up over.
Are you actually in the 36-40 age range? This question sounds like something a teen would have written. ... (read in full...)
He acted frustrated and then pushed me against the wall and kissed me. This means what?
Q. I feel super lame asking this but if a guy gets frustrated at you and kind of pushes you against the wall but then kisses you on the head quickly what does it mean?...
A. 25 March 2015: It means run, don't walk, away from the relationship if there is one. ... (read in full...)
There are constant rumors of my boyfriend cheating. Not sure what to believe
Q. Everyone keeps telling me that my boyfriend cheats on me whenever he goes back to his hometown or away from the city we live (he works away at least once a month) but they never have any proof and I don't want to believe them but there is something ...
A. 21 March 2015: I agree with wiseowl. One or two people claiming he cheats, I can see being very skeptical of that.
Friends, coworkers AND family? Honey, you've got a whole village screaming warnings in your ears while you plug them up and yell "blah blah bla... (read in full...)
Should I kick my girlfriend out?
Q. So my gf moved in 6 months ago. I cant walk through my garage cuz she hasnt unpacked, its full of boxes. Ive asked her many times to put the stuff away. She refuses to get a sitter for her kid. We havent gone out in 6 months no lie. I suggest things ...
A. 20 March 2015: Sounds like she is using you and I believe that you should let her know that she needs to leave and set a date. Make it fair, at least 30 days because she does have a child.
Be prepared for backlash! She may cry, scream, and refuse to leave. U... (read in full...)
Was it a date or "hanging out"
Q. I've never had a bf so I'm pretty clueless about everything. My crush has never has a gf so he is also lost when it comes to dating. I've liked him for a little over a year and in the beginning I told him I liked him but the feeling wasn't mutual b...
A. 20 March 2015: Definitely a date!... (read in full...)
He's young, not on medications and he's not a virgin. So why could he not maintain an erection after some caressing?
Q. So I met this great guy at work. he's the nicest man I've ever met. I do enjoy sex, but to me there's definitely way more. He's 25 and I'm 26. If this helps when we worked together it was through a temp agency. So we don't see each other daily...
A. 19 March 2015: He's probably just nervous! That can cause performance anxiety. don't make a big deal out of it, don't let it worry you, just keep your sessions as relaxed as possible. ... (read in full...)
It was not my kid but I lost my girlfriend over it anyway. I'd like to get her back but am worried she'll take me to court!
Q. I cheated on my girlfriend with this skank from work that everybody slept with. She knew I had a girlfriend I loved and it was just sex. She wanted me to be with her but that would never happen. She told me she was pregnant and my world ended. My ...
A. 18 March 2015: You need to STOP calling her your girlfriend! She is not your girlfriend! She broke up with you. She does not need your permission to do so. Newsflash: if one person wants to end a relationship, that relationship is over, period, end of story.
... (read in full...)
It was not my kid but I lost my girlfriend over it anyway. I'd like to get her back but am worried she'll take me to court!
Q. I cheated on my girlfriend with this skank from work that everybody slept with. She knew I had a girlfriend I loved and it was just sex. She wanted me to be with her but that would never happen. She told me she was pregnant and my world ended. My ...
A. 17 March 2015: Frankly, you sound like a bit of a skank yourself.
Leave your poor ex girlfriend alone, she deserves better. ... (read in full...)
My new gf's daughter flirts with me
Q. I recently started dating a really great 49 year old woman who has been divorced a long time. Things have been going so well that I spend a lot of nights at her house. She has a 19 year old (almost 20) daughter who goes to college and lives at ...
A. 14 March 2015: Frankly if I were you I'd have a very firm discussion with the daughter and tell her in no uncertain terms that her comments are inappropriate and that if it doesn't stop immediately you'll tell her mother.
And shame on you, too. Why didn't y... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend tells me what to do and doesn't want me talking to other men
Q. I met my LDR boyfriend online on a dating website, I live in a different country. He wants to meet me next year, now i am not comfortable to have sex before marriage. Now he has forcibly made me delete my account on the website right a month we met. ...
A. 13 March 2015: What do you mean by forcibly? You've never even met him.... (read in full...)
I'm not very good and giving hand jobs or blowjobs
Q. Hello :) I'll keep this as short as possible... Well basically my bf and I have been together for over a year now. And recently, v talked about blowjobs and handjobs.. And well so far I'm not very successful at any of those. And like my bf feels...
A. 10 March 2015: Porn. Gay porn to be exact. Not even joking. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't listen to me when I say I want him to stop watching porn, he even uses my phone to watch it! Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We also live together. I was having an issue with him looking at porn. I know guys are going to be guys. But....He only can get on the internet on my cellphone, so it kinda hurts my feeling...
A. 1 March 2015: It really doesn't have anything to do with you. Sure, you can "demand" that he not watch it, you can cry and scream and try to guilt trip him all you want. You have a partner who enjoys watching porn and he isn't going to stop.
If you want a p... (read in full...)
I'm suspicious about my daughter and son relationship.
Q. I have a son, who is 19 and a daughter, who is 17. I'm suspicious of their relationship. I went through some tough divorces and I've been away for a couple of years but I wanted a father for my children and they had family friends watching over them ...
A. 27 February 2015: You left your own children for a man? That is frankly horrible, and I don't believe you wanted them to have a dad. If that were the case then you wouldn't have left the entire time you were with the man and only returned when divorced.
I don't bl... (read in full...)
I sent my BF a long sexual message and he replied in only one word. Should I be upset? Or aAm I over-reacting?
Q. My boyfriend is out of town on business. He has been in touch everyday. Says he misses me, thinks about me all the time. I emailed him a very sexually charged message today, quite lengthy, telling him what I want him to do to me in explicit deta...
A. 25 February 2015: Well, you clearly aren't happy with him, so dispense with the drama and just end it.
You can't fundamentally change another person.
Personally I don't see anything wrong with his message, and no evidence of cheating. Simply being logged int... (read in full...)
I sent my BF a long sexual message and he replied in only one word. Should I be upset? Or aAm I over-reacting?
Q. My boyfriend is out of town on business. He has been in touch everyday. Says he misses me, thinks about me all the time. I emailed him a very sexually charged message today, quite lengthy, telling him what I want him to do to me in explicit deta...
A. 25 February 2015: Uh, wow, yes you are being horribly oversensitive and overreacting. The poor guy probably has not a clue that he might have done anything "wrong".
You are acting like a complete princess. You didn't get the exact reaction /validation you wanted a... (read in full...)
Is it too late to restart my life at 35?
Q. Do you think that at 34 (35 in 2 months) its too late to restart your life? I am living in a country that is not mine... With a man that I no longer love and can't stand him touching me... in a job that sucks... I just have this need to pack and...
A. 25 February 2015: Not too late. I started fresh at 41, left a horrible marriage and a life in a city I hated. Met the man of my dreams, moved into the country on 30 acres and now raise, sell and butcher my own livestock and breed Saint Bernards.
Defin... (read in full...)
Man I started talking to online won't stop sexting me! Opinions?
Q. Right, hi everyone. :) So I'm hoping to throw this out there and see if I'm overreacting. The other day I started chatting with a guy online and we seemed to hit it off. We exchanged numbers and the next day we decided - quite spontaneously...
A. 25 February 2015: Gross. Tell him to stop contacting you, you can do better than this. ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a girl 2 years older than me, but I have never talked to her!
Q. Hi guiz..I am a 16 year old male...i love a girl of my neighbourhood ..i love her very much..but she is two years older then me. I have never talk to her becoz im afraid.but i think she love me because she always looks into my eyes very deeply a...
A. 24 February 2015: You do NOT love this girl. You've never even spoken to her. For all you know she may hate everything that you love. She could even be a complete b*tch!
You will never know unless you make an effort to get to know her. So open up your mouth an... (read in full...)
My 18 year old daughter is sleeping with a 31 year old man. What do I do?
Q. My daughter is 18 and living and sleeping with a 31 year old man. In my heart I feel this is totally inappropriate. Her father is so upset. They got into a huge fight. Now I am in a deep state of depression. I don't see how my daughter believes that ...
A. 24 February 2015: There is absolutely nothing that you can do. She is an adult and allowed to make her own decisions and live her life as she sees fit.
Mistake? Possibly so, but only time will tell. My own sister has been married for 23 years to a man 17 years ol... (read in full...)
This man doesn't want to deal with his child!
Q. I have been knowing this guy for 17 plus years and all we do is have sex argue and then be ask for money. well we lost touch for a couple of years because he went to jail. i took it upon myself to contact him while he was in jail. i even started ...
A. 24 February 2015: Stop contacting this loser and make sure you file for child support.
He didn't want a baby and you can't make him want one. He doesn't want you, either. You must move on for the sake of your child. Your child is better off without this angry, a... (read in full...)
Why do the thongs I wear not seem go fit right?
Q. When I wear thongs, it fits like it should when I first put it on. They're comfortable and I have no problem with them at all. By the end of the day, I notice it makes its way up my vagina and sometimes, it rides up in the back and hurts a little ...
A. 23 February 2015: I solved it by not wearing thongs. ... (read in full...)
I havent had sex in 2 years . Will it hurt when I have it again?
Q. Dear cupid it been two years since I had sex with,and this is because my man is far away but he is coming by in three weeks time. I will like to know if it is going to be painful when we have sex again and is dere any possibility that I can become ...
A. 23 February 2015: Was it painful two years ago? If not then it probably won't be this time either.
Is there a risk of getting pregnant? What kind of a question is that? Of course there is, it's sex! You don't sound very knowledgeable about it. You need to get on b... (read in full...)
Interested in a co-worker. Last week, she was playful and fun. This week, she's snapping and short-answered.
Q. I work with this girl on a bar. She is attractive, and met her a couple weeks ago while working. There was so real playfulness between us and I thought that there could be something. Fast forward to last night. Coming off the back if a great week,...
A. 23 February 2015: You're right! You tried, it failed, now move along.
Trust me, you don't want to be THAT GUY. ... (read in full...)
My uncertainties are ruining my relationship
Q. Hi I've been with my bf for almost a year. We usually only see each other at weekends bbecause of work commitments on both parts but sometimes we get chance through the week, though this is not often. The trouble is, I think I'm obsessed...
A. 23 February 2015: I really love the way that you wrote your letter with complete understanding and clarity as to these irrational feelings. You know exactly what they are, you know exactly why you're having them, you know they're irrational and you understand fully ... (read in full...)
I found my partner had been looking at gay men on the internet!
Q. I found my partner had been looking at gay men on the internet he said he is not gay but doesn't know why he does it he feels his body is not good and like looking we have great sex life and have been together 5 years i don't know what to do...
A. 22 February 2015: Said it before and I'll say it again: many men who identify as straight like gay porn. My own husband likes it, and straight porn, and gender fluid porn. And many men are ashamed of that and therefore hide it. And many women freak out upon coming ... (read in full...)
Interested in a co-worker. Last week, she was playful and fun. This week, she's snapping and short-answered.
Q. I work with this girl on a bar. She is attractive, and met her a couple weeks ago while working. There was so real playfulness between us and I thought that there could be something. Fast forward to last night. Coming off the back if a great week,...
A. 22 February 2015: Sounds like she wants to keep it light and isn't interested in getting to know you as a friend or otherwise.
Or perhaps, because as you say she is very attractive, she has had men hit on her before at work and doesn't like it (and don't say it w... (read in full...)
Why do men expect women to be shaved down below? Porn?
Q. I'm out of a twenty year marriage so the last time I dates was some years ago. Since being single again it seems most men now expect or want women to be shaved down below. What's going on? I don't remember this ever being a request or even a prefer...
A. 20 February 2015: Well then you'd better be shaving down there too, male anon. Nobody wants your sweaty pubes in their teeth, and double standards are not ok.... (read in full...)
Why do men expect women to be shaved down below? Porn?
Q. I'm out of a twenty year marriage so the last time I dates was some years ago. Since being single again it seems most men now expect or want women to be shaved down below. What's going on? I don't remember this ever being a request or even a prefer...
A. 20 February 2015: I don't know why, but it is now expected of young men, too. Hairless is all the rage.
I was so happy when I met my husband five years ago and he asked me "please, for the love of god grow some hair down there, I haven't seen hair on a woman si... (read in full...)
I've been seeing him for six months but he won't show me his home
Q. I meet a guy for the past six month now,he's an engineer,and and i'm begining to fall in love with him,but the problem is i don't know his house,we stay 2geda in hotel sometimes,and i have asked him several times his house,but he kept on telling ...
A. 19 February 2015: Yup, this guy is very obviously married. Dump him quickly, before you waste even more of your heart on him.... (read in full...)
Why did he ignore the fact I saw his wife, I am confused!
Q. I am married and have a good male friend who is married. we email probably 3 times a week. I told him I visited with his wife today plus other info. and he totally ignored the fact I saw her, We're all friends so I just don't get that. ...
A. 14 February 2015: What is your question? ... (read in full...)
Is online flirting cheating?
Q. I am in a relationship with a wonderful person. He is 10 years older than me and I love the fact that he is more experienced and worldly wise than I am. I met him on facebook and we hit it off immediately. We are both abroad away from our families ...
A. 12 February 2015: You dumped your male friends. That was your choice. He maintained his friendships. That is his choice. Clearly he values his friendships and has no intention of dismantling them, nor should you expect him to.
If you are not secure enough to deal ... (read in full...)
Fallen for one guy. Like another guy, as just a friend. Both flirting with me. How do I choose?
Q. I have ran into a dilemma. I broke up a guy I've fallen for a boy a year older than me, in my band, and he's the nicest person I've ever met. He's helped me through some pretty harsh times. And there's his friend. In my view, we're like siblings....
A. 12 February 2015: No dilemma here, if you only like a boy as a friend do not date him.
And on the off chance the guy you like doesn't like you, then I'm still not sure what difference that would make. You aren't going to suddenly develop feelings for the other bo... (read in full...)
I'm feeling insecure in the relationship since boyfriend likes watching transsexuals
Q. I have been researching this a lot but just wanted more feedback as I'm feeling unsure still. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we live together. We have s good sex life and are very happy. The first thing I found out about was that he ...
A. 11 February 2015: Well, my own husband loves all of those things. He's just a kinky guy, lol. It doesn't bother me, and we are super honest with each other. I personally have no fears or worries over it.
That said, my husband is NOT your guy. And your guy is NOT y... (read in full...)
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