Can a player fall in love????
Q. Hi there,thanks for reading my post. I am talking with a guy online. met him two times. he is 10years older then me. I am 36 he is 47.I really like him. but I felt he is player. I am interested to know can a player fall in love? Like, a guy wh...
A. 3 February 2016: Hearing more about your religious background, I'm leaning towards you two not being compatible.
It isn't a judgement towards either of you. ... (read in full...)
Can a player fall in love????
Q. Hi there,thanks for reading my post. I am talking with a guy online. met him two times. he is 10years older then me. I am 36 he is 47.I really like him. but I felt he is player. I am interested to know can a player fall in love? Like, a guy wh...
A. 2 February 2016: Nobody can make that call but you. Unfortunately we don't have any way of knowing his true intentions. I suppose it is important to define the word player. Is he simply one of those guys who is very handsome and charming and has zero problems ... (read in full...)
Can a player fall in love????
Q. Hi there,thanks for reading my post. I am talking with a guy online. met him two times. he is 10years older then me. I am 36 he is 47.I really like him. but I felt he is player. I am interested to know can a player fall in love? Like, a guy wh...
A. 2 February 2016: Well, from a different perspective, you've just described my husband, though he did have at least one LTR when he was much, much younger.
I'll say that I was skeptical of him for the reasons you've outlined.
I'll also say that after six y... (read in full...)
Having an affair with my friend's husband
Q. I m 22 years old n i love a guy he is 23 and married to my friend.we have known each other since 1 year ago before evwrything was ok but since 4-5months we are regularly talking with each other and meeting secretly.we both have feelings for each ...
A. 26 January 2016: What? Why would you do such a horrible thing to your so called friend? This is an awful, awful betrayal.
The only right thing to do is to let her know what you have been doing, apologize and remove yourself from both of their lives. That is HER H... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a person to have crushes on other people while in a relationship and do nothing about it in the sense that they don't act on it
Q. Hello, I've been classmates with this girl for around three years now in college, and she intrigues me quite a bit. Let me explain: during our first year she seemed to be a rather shy and socially awkward person. Cute, but very weird. She was ...
A. 26 January 2016: You're so young. Relationships come and go at your age.
If you're really interested in this girl you should do something about it.
Just be sure to have integrity. By that I mean end your current relationship honestly, and only then initiate so... (read in full...)
Shall I allow him a second chance ? Or should I tell him how I feel about his actions?
Q. I'm new to the dating world after being married for a long time and am just trying to navigate my way…would appreciate thoughts and opinions :) I met a new man out for a blind date last night. We kept it short. Just a drink and sort of a ...
A. 24 January 2016: I think he took you there on purpose hoping to make an ex jealous.
Don't go out with this dude again. He's got baggage. ... (read in full...)
Should I even bother with a man who still has his ex's photo on the wall 10 years after she has passed away?
Q. I went met this guy online. We talked for 9 months before making plans to meet in person. He was a very nice guy, but has an annoying side to him. He liked to win when we had our little spats. Anyway, we went on a couple of dates finally, and they...
A. 24 January 2016: Wow, lady, what everybody else said.
You behaved deplorably, and I would say you owe him an apology except for the fact that I think he is far better off without you.
Please leave this man alone. He does not need your toxicity. ... (read in full...)
Should I break confidentiality to protect a relative?
Q. This is sort of an ethical dilemma. I volunteered at a transitional home for women most of whom were recovering drug addicts who had child service cases. One lady there, who I will call Shelly, opened up about her story and how she grew up in a ...
A. 22 January 2016: That poor lady. She's working hard to turn her life around and you, someone she is supposed to be able to trust, are considering exposing and humiliating her.
No. You should not do this. Also,I think you have no business working with recoveri... (read in full...)
Can't turn back the clock on what I saw
Q. Hi Aunties A few weeks ago I walked in on my boy friend masturbating in my bedroom. He has a key to my apartment, and I let him sleep there during the day when he works nights and I am at work. At the time it happened, he didn’t know that I ...
A. 22 January 2016: I don't understand how this turned into a big deal. Masturbating is such a simple, natural, normal human act. I truly fail to see why you felt the need to mention it. My advice is the same as it was the last time you posted:
Let. It. Go.... (read in full...)
How can I ever recover from this broken marriage?
Q. Dear Cupid Members, My husband has left me for someone else and I am really struggling. My question is will I ever get over this, honestly? Or will it affect me long term. This happened a few months ago. I have two young children and I am ...
A. 17 January 2016: Aww, hon.
I'm so sorry and it is clear that you're in pain.
These feelings won't last forever. You will get over it. It just takes time. ... (read in full...)
Why won't online disappearing boyfriend block me?
Q. I met this guy through a site about over a year ago. After our first exchange of a few messages, he disappeared. Then after a few months he appeared again then disappeared. He appeared again but this time messaged properly and wanted to get to. ...
A. 15 January 2016: Oh honey. Grow some ovariesand just block this loser.
You'll feel so much better, I promise. ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend intend to send this email to another woman?
Q. I have a very big problem and it's been eating away at me for the past few hours but it's been ongoing. I know the fine people of DC will be able to provide me with the best possible advice and that is why I am here reaching out to you. My boyfri...
A. 11 January 2016: Forgive me, but you are seriously overthinking this.
I see nothing in any of your posts indicating that he'd meant to send an email to someone else. I personally think you're being paranoid. I can tell that you have trust issues, and that's f... (read in full...)
I'm crushing on my professor who I've heard sleeps with students
Q. I am a second year student at a university and am 18 years old. I took a class last year with a professor and I think he might like me, I just don't know if he wants me. He tells me I look nice, and compliments me a lot. He also hugs me and tells me ...
A. 8 January 2016: How old are you?
In another six months you'll be too old for his tastes and he'll be off to take advantage of the next flavor of the month.
Ugh. This guy is a morally bankrupt POS. Why would you want someone like this? ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this? I walked in on my boyfriend while he was masturbating
Q. My bf has a key to my apartment. When he works nights, he likes to sleep in my apartment during the day because my apartment is quiet, and his apartment is often noisy during the day and he has trouble sleeping in his place. Recently, I got...
A. 7 January 2016: Masturbation isn't sex - it's maintenance. It's healthy for both men and women regardless of whether they're in a relationship.
There is absolutely no need to worry and no need to mention it to him as it would probably just embarrass him.... (read in full...)
Is my guy having an emotional affair with this girl he calls his "friend"?
Q. I'm really needing some honest opinions as I don't know who to turn to. The last month has been hell for me because of the problems in my relationship with my boyfriend of 4 years. I truly believe my boyfriend has been having an emotional aff...
A. 2 January 2016: This doesn't sound good hun. It is never a good thing when your partner confides in someone of the opposite sex before they do you. Even more of a red flag this early on.
I'm all for opposite sex friends, my husband and I both have them. But we a... (read in full...)
How can we resolve this? Our obsessions with each other's pasts is ruining our relationship!
Q. I have the most amazing fiance who is a lovely man and is very good to my son from a previous relationship. We arent usually jealous people but for some reason we have both developed unhealthy obsessions with who else each other has slept with. ...
A. 2 January 2016: I agree. The only hope for your relationship is for both of you to knock it off, and to stick to that agreement 100%.
Goodness, if my husband and I spent energy grilling one another over past experiences and partners we'd have time for nothing ... (read in full...)
Under grandma's thumb and with a sex mad boyfriend
Q. I have a problem. I live with my grandma and my mom is out of the picture. Grandma is really strict and she makes it impossible to do practically everything. I mean things like seeing my friends outside of school, talking on the phone, and being on ...
A. 1 January 2016: Your boyfriend is an absolute ass. He's abusive, he's manipulating you, he is sexually assaulting you and because you are new at this dating game you don't understand that. What he is doing is wrong. Please stop being alone with this guy. You ... (read in full...)
My best friend has been ignoring me and I suspect his girlfriend is behind it
Q. I've been best friends with a guy for the past 6 years. We don't see each other very often anymore because we're in college, but whenever we're home we make a point to meet up, and we visit each others' colleges occasionally. Our friendship has ...
A. 31 December 2015: That sucks. Some people are insecure and not comfortable with their spouse having opposite sex friends. Sadly, there isn't much you can do about it. It sounds like you've been doing the right things- including her and reaching out to her. It ... (read in full...)
Was I too pushy and frightened off a good guy?
Q. My question is about whether or not I might have frightened a good guy off. Male and female answers appreciated as I know we sometimes see things a bit differently! Anyway I will try to be brief. I met a guy at evening class in September and we...
A. 26 December 2015: Ahh, that period in a new relationship when you're pretty sure you know how much you like him, (A lot. No, really, a lot) but are not quite sure whether his feelings are as strong.
You question every test you send (after you've already sent the... (read in full...)
Staring at other women, odd porn sites on his phone.... am I wasting my time with him?
Q. Hi just wanting some advise really. My boyfriend who I've been seeing for 18 months had a porn site on his phone history a while back. I didn't go snooping he had handed me the phone himself. I guess he had forgotten it was in his history anyway h...
A. 19 December 2015: Sorry you were offended by my advice. I make no apologies for it. That little heart next to my name means that other users feel differently.
I do not believe in coddling users who ask for advice. I stand by my assertion that your respecti... (read in full...)
Staring at other women, odd porn sites on his phone.... am I wasting my time with him?
Q. Hi just wanting some advise really. My boyfriend who I've been seeing for 18 months had a porn site on his phone history a while back. I didn't go snooping he had handed me the phone himself. I guess he had forgotten it was in his history anyway h...
A. 18 December 2015: Given the new information (he demands to know whether you're masturbating, WTF???) this is a very codependent and unhealthy relationship. Masturbating is normal, healthy, and not in any way cheating, and frankly it's childish and immature and ... (read in full...)
Staring at other women, odd porn sites on his phone.... am I wasting my time with him?
Q. Hi just wanting some advise really. My boyfriend who I've been seeing for 18 months had a porn site on his phone history a while back. I didn't go snooping he had handed me the phone himself. I guess he had forgotten it was in his history anyway h...
A. 16 December 2015: He lied about it because he's embarrassed and knows you'd be pissed. That's common. It's clear from your post that you've gone on and on and on about it.
I don't care what kind of porn my husband looks at, I don't look for it and I don't as... (read in full...)
Staring at other women, odd porn sites on his phone.... am I wasting my time with him?
Q. Hi just wanting some advise really. My boyfriend who I've been seeing for 18 months had a porn site on his phone history a while back. I didn't go snooping he had handed me the phone himself. I guess he had forgotten it was in his history anyway h...
A. 15 December 2015: I don't really understand the mentality some women have regarding porn. Specifically, nagging and nagging and nagging, then wondering why he doesn't want to talk to you about it.
Yes, your guy looks at porn. Yes, so do 98% of all other men. If ... (read in full...)
Is my Bf telling me lies? And if he is telling me lies, then what is really going on?
Q. I have a problem that I need help with in deducing whether or not I should stay in this or not.. .me and my boyfriend has been in a relationship for a year now.. I'm finding out about small lies he is telling me ..I have been through his phone an...
A. 14 December 2015: You are right. You do have a problem you need help with. You are extremely jealous, controlling and paranoid, and conducting daily surveillance on a grown man. You're not his mommy. He's not your child. No wonder he won't let you have access to his ... (read in full...)
His drinking has become a major issue. Help!
Q. Dear cupid When my fiance goes out on nights out alone with his friends he gets stupidly drunk to the point he can't stand. He sways. He makes a total mess of himself or gets argumentative or very unpredictable. He even ended up going missing fo...
A. 12 December 2015: He's not doing it to make you angry, he's doing it because he lacks self control. He gets a bit of a buzz going and doesn't realize how drunk he is getting until it is too late.
Screaming at him certainly isn't going to help. You can either t... (read in full...)
I found feminine toiletries in his bathroom!
Q. I have been on a couple of dates with this guy and yesterday i had dinner at his house and i found womens body sparys and make up in his bathroom. The body spray was left on the side and when i opened the draw to find hand soap there was foundation ...
A. 4 December 2015: After a couple of dates?????
No. That's really getting too personal too soon.
I'd wait and see if it seems this might actually develop into something. You're going to run him right off if you start acting all insecure when you barely know him.... (read in full...)
Can our love survive this religious zeal?
Q. My girlfriend of little over two years how now decided that she wants us to be celibate until marriage. She is a Christian and recently has taken active steps to get closer to God. I am an agnostic. I am doing my utmost to support her in her belie...
A. 2 December 2015: Marry sooner? I believe he should be rethinking marrying her at all. Under no circumstances should he rush into marriage so he can get laid.
There is a possible major incompatibility issue arising here- that of religion. Her views are becoming... (read in full...)
How could I have such a dream, while sleeping in my boyfriend's arms?
Q. I have a really great boyfriend, love him to the point where even the thought of hurting him fills me with guilt. The other day, we fell asleep after doing chores and as he was holding me, I had the most graphic dream I have ever had featurin...
A. 1 December 2015: Don't worry and don't feel bad. I've had all kinds of weird sex dreams about men I'm not interested in, including (don't laugh) Duane "The Rock" Johnson, and my boss. Believe me, I absolutely love my husband and have zero desire to cheat. This ... (read in full...)
How do I keep my college-age daughter from falling away from our church and family?
Q. I am a proud mother of six children from the ages of 27-10. I am a stay-at-home mom and part-time Sunday School teacher and I volunteer for many church activities as do all members of our family. All of our children attended or attend our small ...
A. 28 November 2015: They are adults, and there is nothing you can do. You ARE driving them away with your actions. They are naive and trusting because you have sheltered them and not allowed them to have real world experiences, and now you are smothering them.
This ... (read in full...)
He admitted that he only knows two girls who are 'hotter' than I am and they'll be at an upcoming party
Q. Hi everyone, When my boyfriend and I first started dating we were going to a party and I said as a joke "there are probably going to be really hot girls there" because he is very involved in sports so a lot of the girls that are in his friend g...
A. 27 November 2015: I really hate the way society shames women who aren't "as hot", which is almost all of us.
Question: even if they're pretty, why do you fear them? What makes you think they'd want anything to do with him?
And even if they're "hot", what make... (read in full...)
He said he's, "marrying me because I want it and he doesn't".Is marriage still a good idea, in the circumstances?
Q. Im 28 years old and yave been with my boyfriend for 13 years. We have a 10 year old and a 6 year old. We are best friends and cant be away from each other for more than a few hours a day. We are in love. He never proposed but gave me a ring on my 2...
A. 25 November 2015: Eh, I think he's a guy and probably genuinely doesn't remember what he may have said that's caused you to be so upset.
Rather than the silence and assuming he can read your mind, I recommend instigating an adult conversation with him- ask him ... (read in full...)
I lashed out at him. He says we are done. What should I do?
Q. I lashed out to my boyfriend for the 3rd time after a party again and now we are broken up. I lashed at him about his daughter but Ive been very stressed with him for the past couple of weeks. He just has not been nice to me and I was going to...
A. 25 November 2015: If he wants to be done, there's nothing you can do other than move on.
He is a grown man, and doesn't need your permission to break up with you. Just like if it was the other way around. He couldn't force you to stay with him if you wanted o... (read in full...)
A friend has a crush on my BF. What needs to be done to discourage her unwelcome attention ?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles, I need some help here regarding a female Friend who has been asking my Boyfriend out. My Boyfriend and I discuss about boundaries with opposite gender friends and we both agree hanging out one on one with the opposite gender ...
A. 19 November 2015: Your boyfriend needs to just suck it up and tell her about your agreement. She is wondering why her good friend is suddenly shunning her, and she's got a right to know. I would certainly wonder what the hell I did wrong if one of my dear friends ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend is starting to make it all about him and his rules how can I show him its not all one way
Q. i have been with my boyfriend a short time , he lives a 10 minute drive from me and we can both drive. he told me his dad isnt well so cancelled seeing me , previous to this i asked him how his dad was , he told me hes not at work but goes to see ...
A. 13 November 2015: I think you are pushing too hard too soon. You haven't been seeing this guy for very long. If you want to jump right into a serious relationship this may not be the guy for you.
Give him space, you can't force someone to want to spend time wit... (read in full...)
Did she confuse me with someone else? Or is her excuse plausible?
Q. Hello, well I been seeing this woman for over a month, been great. I sent her a sweet tex this morning, she sent one back,but the tex said we should meet up for coffee, or a walk. It sounded like we never met before, so I ask her, she said some ho...
A. 12 November 2015: I don't think that is possible, but since it's only been a month I also think you may be making too much of it. It all hinges on this: have you agreed to be exclusive? ... (read in full...)
Do I leave my abusive husband? I want to but I'm also afraid
Q. My husband has been abusing me for 4 years, he even went to prison for his abuse before. I am now at the point where I have lost all my self esteem and confidence and he is really trying to break me down now very badly. I feel so weak and like I c...
A. 11 November 2015: Run! You have a way out! Do it safely. Enlist people you can trust to not tell him where you are ONLY. Do it while he is gone. File a protective order. Under no circumstances contact him. Change your number. Get your money out of any joint accounts. ... (read in full...)
What could be causing boobs to start hurting? Could it be my bra? Or..?
Q. Okay so! About a week ago my boobs hurt so bad for two days and then one morning I woke up and they grew probably close to a cup size. They felt a lot better but now my boobs hurt again all day but when I take my bra off for bed they feel better. Do ...
A. 7 November 2015: Are you sexually active? Painful breasts can be a sign of pregnancy. If you are, take a pregnancy test ASAP, even if you've been using protection. ... (read in full...)
Could our feelings be mutual?
Q. Are our feelings mutual for each other? After a long day, I like to go to my local coffee shop and just chill there and do some reading online. There is a barista there who is always flirting with me by complimenting me on something. He would te...
A. 6 November 2015: He definitely likes you. ... (read in full...)
Girls, question, are these red flags? Am I coming on too strong?
Q. Girls, question, are these red flags? Four dates so far, I think everything is going great, she doesn't say she misses me, loves to be with me, tells me not to fall to fast, tells me , I can go out with other women. She does tell me she likes se...
A. 3 November 2015: Disagree with female anon.
You're moving too fast and she's as much as stated that. Having the exclusive talk at this early stage is likely to scare her off.
Enjoy the time you spend together and do not pressure her under any circumstances. T... (read in full...)
Verbally abused and hurt and confused and now he won't take my phone calls
Q. hurt and confused,I been verbally abuse by my man sam,accused of everthing,Sam start argument and move out for two weeks,i secretly voice record him,what I heard sound like he was snorting meth or coke, when I ask him,he said he sick of this ...
A. 26 October 2015: Why on earth are you trying to contact this abusive jerk? Stop it! ... (read in full...)
Do all men stare at other women? Is it natural?
Q. Hi I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years we are happy we live together and never argue there's just one problem his interest in other women I know all men look but he stares for ages I have told him many times how this upsets me but he ...
A. 17 October 2015: Looking is normal, staring is rude and disrespectful to both you and the other girl.
Mature men know how to respectfully and discreetly glance without being a creep about it.... (read in full...)
Ex flashing new life in my face
Q. My ex and I were together for 7 years and broke up but remained friends, that was two years ago since the break up and we remained friends since. We lived together, no children, but two cats. The relationship broke up because I wanted to be fre...
A. 8 October 2015: I don't think it matters, honestly.
I think you both need to fully and completely move on from this relationship. You can't heal until you leave him alone and go full no contact. Oh, and quit dating guys from out of town to spare his feelings... (read in full...)
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