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Name - Tom Wilkinson
Age - 27 DOB - 11/08/1987
Location - County Durham - UK (near Newcastle)
Occupation - Currently Unemployed
Background - Single parent, previous experience working with Carers, people with Special Needs and generally being the person people talk to! According to my ratings, you either love or hate my advice, suggesting that (and I agree) at times I can be rather direct / blunt.
I also suffer from insomnia so don't be alarmed if I post at seemingly bizarre times.
Interests - Football (SAFC fan), playing guitar, listening to all sorts of music, watching DVDs, mainly comedy (especially stand up) and horror and action, going out with mates
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Wetness, is it normal?
Q. ok quick question! is it normal to get wet when a guy touches me? and its not even in a sexual way. i think this is the reason i am still a virgin cause i am embarrassed about this!! please someone answer this "silly" question! thanks too!!...
A. 17 January 2008: It's perfectly normal, even if the touching isn't "sexual" it's just you getting turned on and preparing for sex.... (read in full...)
How can I make him orgasm?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have recently started having sex, but how do you know if he orgasms? I know this sounds stupid, but is he orgasming when he comes? I feel like I don't know enough about it, and haven't had enough experience, to give him what he...
A. 9 January 2008: yeah, when he comes this is him having an orgasm. Some people claim men can orgasm without coming through tantra and other nonsense, but that's all baloney if you ask me.
Anyway, don't worry, he is having an orgasm, it's all good!... (read in full...)
What can I get my boyfriend for Christmas, that can be engraved?
Q. This might sound like a trivial cry for help but,- What on earth should I get my boyfriend of 5 months for Christmas? I want to get something I could get engraved. He's into music,- plays guitar, but not into sports, doesn't drink alcoh...
A. 5 December 2007: buy a thin chain (silver or anything you like, doesn't need to be expensive) and a guitar plectrum, bring it to a key cutter / engraver and they should engrave anything you want into it, as well as drill a little hole so you can turn it into a ... (read in full...)
I love my 18 year old cousin who I just can't stop thinking about! Is it wrong?
Q. I'm 13 and I love/have feelings for my 18 year old cousin. Is that wrong? About my cousin: (in my point of view) my Cousin just turned 18 and is now going to Columbia university. She has a very nice personality, funny, innocent, adorable, beauti...
A. 4 December 2007: First off, there's no way she's go for her own cousin, and secondly, no 18 year old WOMAN would even dream of youching a 13 year old BOY. And the things you're doing like TOUCHING HER IN HER SLEEP is just sick. I don't mean to use strong, almost ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as destiny? For everyone?
Q. hi guys..............is there such thing as destiny??? Is there someone for everyone out there???...
A. 30 November 2007: Personally I think there is. However, you have to be careful because sometimes (as I found out the hard way) you can believe that somebody is "the one" when they're not. I haven't found my "soulmate" but I have believed I had. Keep the faith but ... (read in full...)
Received a "friend add request" on facebook from my EX's potential bf. Why?
Q. Hello everyone. Last time I messaged, I sounded like I was really making progress in healing my heart. The last thing I needed was a step in the wrong direction, and I think it may have just happened at the end of a night that was going very nicel...
A. 30 November 2007: I think you're loooking into this way more than you should. Some people just add as many people as they know, even if they've barely spoke and only know them through other people. Remember you don't have to accept!... (read in full...)
My gf periodically posts degrading pictures of herself in the net, semi-naked. Do I over react?
Q. I have been seeing a girl for a year and a half. She is amazing, but here is my problem. She will periodically post degrading pictures of herself on her Facebook as her profile picture. The first one was of her knealing (or standing, I couldnt...
A. 30 November 2007: It's not weird for you to be bothered but you need to put things in context, she obviously doesn't think they are trashy and also, just be glad she's putting them on facebook where you can see them, better than her going on some website you don't ... (read in full...)
If a guys says that you're annoying, does this mean he likes you... ? Or not?
Q. Hey guys. What does a guy mean when he says that you're annoying or irritating?? Does he like you is he being mean??? Help!!!...
A. 30 November 2007: We need a bit more information than that! He could be doing the age old teasing the person you like, or he might genuinely find you annoying!
How else does he act around you, body language, gestures etc? Then we might be able to help =)... (read in full...)
Why did he let me stay the night? Does he like me?
Q. hi,need some advice really,i really like this guy ill name '?' and i hope he likes me, well yesterday i was talking to one of his mates '?' was not there and i offered to take him somewhere to get something then back to his house,then his mate rang ...
A. 28 November 2007: One word... sex... (read in full...)
I'm dumping him, but I'm scared of being single... what should I do?
Q. I am dumping someone soon as he is controlling and tells me what to do. I am scared about being single again as i have had a tough life i though yes finally i have something good but it being snatched away. he has a daughter wit someone else ...
A. 28 November 2007: You're better off being single and lonely than with someone controlling. There'll always be someone out there, I wa single for a year before my current girlfriend and it started to get me down and I did some pretty bad things. Then I stopped ... (read in full...)
Will he hurt me again and is he a player??
Q. Sorry if this is long, Right, well im 14 and in March this year and i got with an amazing guy i had been after for ages and we went out for 1 month. The day before we broke up he passed his driving test i found out he had cheated on me. Before i ...
A. 28 November 2007: you're not over him because you're a kid, trying to be an adult, which you aren't ready for. You're 14, I know it feels strong, it's happened to us all, but you DO NOT love him. And yeah he is a player, but you already know that... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me... with a guy.
Q. so, i had a boyfriend and it was going really well...except for the fact that i thought he was gay, he was extremely sweet, borderline genius, and had an incredible bod. he calls me one day and tells me hes so sorry blah blah blah, so i tell him i ...
A. 28 November 2007: To be honest, you're well out of this one, how can he call you immature when he used a dead relative as an excuse!? Go get yourself a hot, straight guy =)... (read in full...)
I don't get turned on at all, is this normal?
Q. I don't get turned on at all...No matter what my boyfriends or myself do, nothing really seems to turn me on..Is this normal?...
A. 28 November 2007: It's just your brain telling your body you aren't ready to be turned on. In time (and I mean years) that'll change don't worry. Either that, or simply, you aren't sexually attracted to your boyfriend... (read in full...)
I want to be MORE than just his friend.
Q. My best guy friend and I have known each other for over a year now, we're such close friends.We talk about everything. We always have soo much fun together.We've gotton drunk with each other acouple times, and have tried the whole "friends with ...
A. 28 November 2007: hehe to be fair it's not her fault she thought you were only a kid, but I have to agree that the advice was somewhat poor, just hope mine in the mesages was better =P xx... (read in full...)
Missed my chance with my crush....should I try and be her friend??
Q. Hi, I think I may have missed my chance with a girl I have a bit of a crush on. She was on the uni dating site, and I'd seen her around a couple of times. Have thought about contacting her but something inside of me was always holding me back. I'...
A. 28 November 2007: Of course you should try and be her friend, there's no harm whatsoever in this, as long as you're telling the truth about no further intentions! ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregant with another mans child...what should I do??
Q. My girlfriend is pregnant by another man! I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 6 years. Over the last 3 years or so she has had an increasing problem with drink and because of this, she has been telling lies over the most stupid things. ...
A. 28 November 2007: Erm well the obvious thing is get rid of her! There's not a chance in hell you're happy when you're having to spy on her, which in itself is so wrong on your part! Find someone who doesn't cheat, lie and get pregnant off other blokes!... (read in full...)
How can I stop thinking about the future and think about the here and now??
Q. Ok i recently came on and said i was stessing about leaving school although i dont leave till may 2009. I am still upset and recently had a dream about the last day of year 11 which triggerd all thease emotions. I know i can always stop for sixth fo...
A. 28 November 2007: You're worrying about this way too much, it will be a sad time, but it'll be a much happier time than you think. At school you think these people will be your best friends forever and you never want to leave them, but trust me, you will make new ... (read in full...)
How long will a guy wait for sex??
Q. So heres just a general question to see what everyones point of view is. How long is a unreasonable amount of time to expect a guy to wait for sex? What I mean is, say a girl isnt ready to have sex with her bf (whether she be a virgin or not) but...
A. 28 November 2007: Personally, I could wait a lifetime, as long as that is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. Alternatively, sex is a big part of a relationship, and it is one of the factors of whether or not a relationship works out. x... (read in full...)
Is it possible to orgasm simultaneously with your partner?
Q. My girlfriend of several years and I have not had sex yet. We are both virgins. I have read that orgasm are very nice. How can I give her one? Is it possible to give her more than one? Is it possible for both of us to have one at the same time? ...
A. 28 November 2007: When you find something that makes her orgasm quickly, and when you are able to read when she is about to reach orgasm, you will be able to make her reach this point just as you are, so you can bring about a simultaneous orgasm, which is an amazing ... (read in full...)
We've been together 6 years and he still won't commit to me!
Q. Why has my boyfriend of 6 years never committed to me and just enjoys visiting twice/three times a week? He's not soft, he has his own flat and life. I am really fed up with the set up even though I think I love him and want some happiness ...
A. 28 November 2007: It really sounds as if he doesn't want to commit at all, and if you do then this is a problem, and you'd be better off finding someone who wants the same thing. Also, you said you THINK you love him, in my opinion, you shouldn't have to think about ... (read in full...)
Idead for Christmas...
Q. Okay, I have this idea for a christmas present for a lad I really like. I would like loads of messages saying whether you think it is too corny or any better ideas. I have already got him a little present which I am planning to wrap up, put in a nic...
A. 28 November 2007: Just as long as he likes chocolate! And them misteltoe kisses are lush! x... (read in full...)
Husband makes belittling comments about my looks
Q. My husband is usually a very loving, caring, and sweet guy. We have been married for 10 years now and he has always told me how beautiful, smart, etc. I am. Recently, over the past year or so, that commentary has tapered off and he has even ...
A. 28 November 2007: It sounds like he's just kidding, I do this with all my friends, family and gf, it just sounds like he isn't funny enough to get away with it! x... (read in full...)
Men!!! Why are they so confusing?
Q. Men! why are they confusing, ok.. I am happy happy happy wid my boyf..4 years..we have ups and downs..but all good..! we both share the same best mate..he use to be my boyfs best pal..but now hes mine too! we have a laugh..and when i first met...
A. 28 November 2007: Lucky lads...... ahem.... Anyway, is it really important who asked who? At the end of the day you're all happy, there's no issues here! x... (read in full...)
I know what I deserve and it's not to be "the other woman" or someone's "play thing..."
Q. Trying to keep this short, I was in a relationship with "Frank" for a while before it went down hill and he cheated, we split. We were the best of friends prior to dating and did our best to stay friends through everything. Over the past year we ...
A. 28 November 2007: You've already clearly got your head screwed on, you just need to try and take your own advice when it comes to actually seeing him. You know yourself he is a serial cheater, so don't be drawn in again and do anything that will inevitably hurt you, ... (read in full...)
I feel horny... but how do you know when you're ready for sex?
Q. well u see i am 13 years old and i have been getting really horney lately and have been thinking a lot about sex but i can't decide what to do if i should have sex or not or what please help and answer my question please...
A. 28 November 2007: You should wait. Even though your feelings telling you you WANT to have sex, your body and mind are just not ready, not to mention the legal implications.
At 13 your hormones will be going absolutely mental, I know mine were! If these urges be... (read in full...)
Guys...would you let your gf do topless modelling??
Q. Okay, so I had a good job, good education and great prospects but I meet someone and fall madly in love. After a while we make a choice to have children, I decide that I want to bring my children up and so leave my job. Everything is fantasti...
A. 27 November 2007: can't pm a non member =)
I dunno who she's going through lol but I can find out for you =) and thanks for your best wishes =)... (read in full...)
Guys...would you let your gf do topless modelling??
Q. Okay, so I had a good job, good education and great prospects but I meet someone and fall madly in love. After a while we make a choice to have children, I decide that I want to bring my children up and so leave my job. Everything is fantasti...
A. 27 November 2007: funnily enough me and my girlfriend has this conversation on saturday. She asked if I would be okay with it as she's trying to get a contract, and to be honest, I THINK I'd be okay with it, at the end of the day I know that she's with me and just ... (read in full...)
We have been intimate for 4 yrs yet he is awful to me in public and denies we have a relation. Why?
Q. I have been sleepin with this boy for 4 years but hes awful to me infront of people and denies sleeping with me?...
A. 27 November 2007: This is ridiculously simple, he's just using you for sex, don't sleep with him anymore!!!... (read in full...)
Shall I carry on and have fun or stop before I get hurt?
Q. need help.. i have split up with my long term boy friend..never through i would get over him, he keeps texting me/calling me ect.. BUT i have been seeing this lad, he makes me feel so special, but he has a gf!! so i think he is using me... he is 16 ...
A. 27 November 2007: Stop before, not anyone, but YOU get hurt. He is blatantly using you! He's too old to have an actual relationship with you, he'd constantly keep you a secret and he is clearly only after one thing, don't fall for it!... (read in full...)
Is he interested? I'm so confused...
Q. So there is this teacher who I have a good relationship with, and I consider him a friend since I’ve known him for about three years, but I wonder if he thinks of me more than that. Like he asked me where my “attachment” (boyfriend) was when he ...
A. 27 November 2007: Erm... the simple fact that YOUR TEACHER is HUGGING GIRLS and wants you to hug him too is just WRONG! It's cool to have a crush on a teacher but not when they are, by your description, quite blatantly a pervert! ... (read in full...)
Could the age difference have something to do with it?
Q. Hi I'm 19 and I work with the guy I like. What do I do when he said that he won't have a relationship with a co-worker? And one of our friends say's that they're sure it's not that he doesn't like me. There is also an age differents he's 34, could ...
A. 27 November 2007: Most men (that I know anyway) would not have an issue with this age difference as you're very much an adult, and also he would, I assume, tell you if this was the issue. It sounds like he's already giving his honest reason!... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid about the fact that her best friend is a guy...
Q. I'm wondering if I have cause for concern here... I think I'm going to be starting a relationship with a girl soon (we hooked up, and we talk to each other daily, so things seem to be going pretty good) but I'm paranoid by the fact her best friend i...
A. 27 November 2007: Of course they can just be best friends! Most of my best friends are girls and my best friend since I was 3 is a girl. Some girls I date can get jealous of this too, so you aren't alone, but you just have to trust her! ... (read in full...)
Do you know any teasing techniques?
Q. hey I was just wondering if anyone knew of any teasing techniques that I can use on my boyfriend. He told me that I couldn't turn him on by teasing him so I'm trying to prove him wrong. So my queston is do you know any teasing techniques?...
A. 27 November 2007: Good question! Here's a few things my girlfriend does to wind me up =)
kiss him on the neck and whisper things like "I've been so naughty" in his ear, while moving your hand slowly down his body, and make contact with his penis over his trousers... (read in full...)
Do you think I should ask him who this other woman is?
Q. Hi, So I'm a paranoid wreck at the moment. My boyfriend was working in England for the last 3 weeks. I missed him very much and I think he felt the same. He arrived back on Sunday and everything is fine. The thing is, this morning when I was getting ...
A. 27 November 2007: You're more than entitled to ask "who is Lucy?", but the way in which you ask is very important, you essentially need to say it in the same way you'd ask "who is john?", ie, generally being interested in his life as opposed to "how dare you talk to ... (read in full...)
I know he has moved on, so why can't I?
Q. Well all these feelings started last night when I went to a concert, and saw at least 20 people who resembled my ex boyfriend, once of which, my friend was getting close with. It sort of hit home that I'm not over him yet, and I really miss how it w...
A. 27 November 2007: The second you find somebody else you'll move on, trust me. When you're at your age every boyfriend can seem like "the one" when belive me, they very very very rarely are. Spend time with your friends, enjoy yourself, flirt, just try and enjoy being ... (read in full...)
I want to be MORE than just his friend.
Q. My best guy friend and I have known each other for over a year now, we're such close friends.We talk about everything. We always have soo much fun together.We've gotton drunk with each other acouple times, and have tried the whole "friends with ...
A. 27 November 2007: Well my initial thought is that if the "friends with benefits" thing didn't work, how would being in a relationship be successful? ... (read in full...)
One of my boobs are bigger than the other. Is this normal?
Q. My boobs dont look the same. One looks bigger than the other. Is that normal? Will I ever grow out of that? please please please help me!!!! thank you...
A. 27 November 2007: It's perfectly normal, 99.99999999999999% of women have one breast slightly larger than the other, it's the natural way! ... (read in full...)
Help! Is he going to be like this forever?
Q. My partner has recently quit smoking and drinking. What once seemed a happy environment has turned stressful and the whole relationship has been replaced with negativity. Is this just a phase or is it going to be like this forever? ...
A. 27 November 2007: It really depends on how he copes with quitting these two things. If he was highly addicted then this will be an issue for quite sometime. Alternatively, he'll start again and things will go back to normal, or with time (everyone is different so ... (read in full...)
Are we illegal?
Q. In 2007 Girl: Turned sixteen years old in late June. Guy: Turned twenty years old in middle October. That is 3 years and 3 months age difference... ...Been dating for a while now... Legal? P.S. From Washington State...
A. 27 November 2007: there's no law against age difference!!! he could be 70, as long as you're at the legal age for sex it's fine by law! 3 years isn't a big deal =)... (read in full...)
I hooked up with this guy , he said call me, but I don't do that, why hasn't he called me ?
Q. I met this guy at work.. I wasnt really interested at first. But then we went out a few times after work with other co-workers, and got along and it was apparent that we were attracted to eachother. The first night we hung out he gave me tickets to ...
A. 27 November 2007: He probably thinks it's you who isn't interested since he asked you to call him and you haven't!... (read in full...)
I don't have a boyfriend. Is it ok to show up at this party alone?
Q. So, I got invited to this party. All of the "popular kids" are invited. None of my friends did. They dont mind if i go. But, I really dont have anyone to take. I dont wanna mix my friends with the other group, It'll be a disaster if i do. I w...
A. 26 November 2007: If you've been invited, just go! They've obviously just invited you for being you so there's no problem here =) ... (read in full...)
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