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Name - Tom Wilkinson
Age - 27 DOB - 11/08/1987
Location - County Durham - UK (near Newcastle)
Occupation - Currently Unemployed
Background - Single parent, previous experience working with Carers, people with Special Needs and generally being the person people talk to! According to my ratings, you either love or hate my advice, suggesting that (and I agree) at times I can be rather direct / blunt.
I also suffer from insomnia so don't be alarmed if I post at seemingly bizarre times.
Interests - Football (SAFC fan), playing guitar, listening to all sorts of music, watching DVDs, mainly comedy (especially stand up) and horror and action, going out with mates
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Ladies, what are your thoughts about tattoos? Can tattoos have a negative effect upon obtaining dates?
Q. Hey, so I'm wondering what most girls think of tattoos. I've already got one, a cross on my right bicep and I've never heard any complaints about it. But this Christmas I'm looking at getting a koi fish done on my forearm (half sleeve), and event...
A. 22 November 2007: I've been getting more since getting a tat, so for me it has made a positive difference, but Mistify is spot on, it just depends on if the girl likes tats or not! ... (read in full...)
My ex is confusing me. What do you think she's doing?
Q. I have been hanging out with my ex. And we keep hanging out more and more. She flirts with me and gets jealous when I am hanging out with other chicks. It seams like she wants to date me again, because she is really flirts and likes to put her ...
A. 21 November 2007: You shouldn't get back with this girl. This sounds very much like she is using you emotionally. She likes the attention she is getting from you but doesn't want it to be a relationship, she wants to be able to do what (and who) she wants, and know ... (read in full...)
Is he attracted to me or is he just doing his job??
Q. I am a member at my local gym and there is this really nice, kind, attractive instructor there. He has been helping me with my proggramme for about a year now.We laugh together and get on well. I know he has got a girlfriend.He hasn't told me but s...
A. 21 November 2007: Most importantly, he has a girlfriend so instantly he is out of bounds. As a personal trainer it's important that his customers like him, so he will be friendly and talkative as part of the job. BUT this doesn't have to mean he doesn't like you. The ... (read in full...)
I think I want to date him... But we're good friends. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I was wondering if you could help me. I have this guy mate, we´ve known each other for ages, we´re really close and I have started to feel like I want to be more than just friends with him. He´s really nice and single, but I don´t know how to s...
A. 21 November 2007: If you are really good friends then letting him know what you want will not change anything, you have already made the first steps, and it sounds like the feeling might be reciprocated. when you are alone, simply try stroking his arm or hand, if he ... (read in full...)
He'd rather be washing his hair!
Q. my husband only wants sex once a week and then he acts like it is a job what's up with this?...
A. 21 November 2007: It sounds like the flame has gone from the sex life, try spicing it up a bit!
Wear some sexy lingerie and lead him to bed.
Ask if there are any fantasies he'd like to fulfil or something he'd like to try.
Tell him something you'd like to ... (read in full...)
How come my boyfriend isn't jealous at all?
Q. My boyfriend says he loves me and he doesn't want anyone else to have me but him but when his friends try to get with me and flirts with me in front of him he doesn't do anything about it, even if it's a guy that he doesn't know. My last boyfriend ...
A. 21 November 2007: Exactly as below, he just trusts you! I'm exactly the same as him and have had the same issue where girls have wondered why I'm not bothered and it's simple, he trusts that you aren't going to do anything so there is no need to cause a fuss! ... (read in full...)
Can anyone suggest how to forgive and build the trust again. I think I still love him but there is so much anger and confusion in the way.
Q. I need help. I need to learn to forgive and to trust again. My boyfriend left me for his ex and came back 3 months later. He is so different now. Seems more dedicated, supportive and generally more stable and sure of us. BUT I have withdrawn so ...
A. 21 November 2007: It doesn't sound like you're over him, but more like you're one step away from the sensible thing and leaving him. He left you for his ex, in my eyes, this is totally unforgivable, especially as it was for a number of months, he doesn't sound like ... (read in full...)
I have my first counselling session to talk about my insecurities and low self esteem. Can anyone suggest any other forms of help?
Q. Hi, I recently asked a question about how I can overcome my trust issues with my current girlfriend, well we have spoken about it and we have decided for me to give her space while she is at university, but still stay committed, but the promise I ...
A. 21 November 2007: You're already taking the best step, there's nothing really that will help you any more than that for the time being, they are trained professionals and will do everything they can for you =)
good luck!... (read in full...)
Should I give my ex this chance to clarify or continue ignoring him? I'm happily married and do not want to upset my husband or my parents.
Q. hi guys iam married n happy, the problem is my ex.he tried to contact me many times but couldnt, then started callin up my friends i told them to tell him that i have nth to do wth him, now iam home wth my parents and he started callin me here.i d...
A. 21 November 2007: You should tell your husband and family about this. You don't need to talk to the ex at all, this is your choice, but it's best if your husband knows that he is trying to contact you, it'd be so much worse if he was to find out from someone else ... (read in full...)
I'm rather shy, whereas he's outgoing. Do I have a chance?
Q. How can you tell if a guy is going to ask you out? Will I ever have a bf? I'm almost 16 and never had a bf because I'm quiet and shy. I like a senior, who I think likes me, but he's outgoing. Do I even have a chance? ...
A. 21 November 2007: There's no realy way of knowing if someone is going to ask you out, but remember, you can ask them!
Even though you're shy, just try it! The worst that can happen is they'll say no, which is hard at first but after a few it's like water off a du... (read in full...)
My lover is taking trips with her ex alone, is that right?
Q. I am a lesbian, I am dating a Bisexual woman of 9 months. She remains friends with an ex boyfrined from a relationship for a year. Now they are planning trips to Haiwai and Las vegas alone. She gets jeaulous if I hang out with friends. Do I have a ...
A. 21 November 2007: rcn is spot on, let her know how you feel, but try not to be angry.... (read in full...)
How do I get over this jealousy I feel?
Q. hey I'm a really jealous girlfriend and my boyfriend can't stand it because I hold the past against him.... he kissed a girl like 6 months ago right in front of me at this party and I have been jealous since... I hate other girls texting him I ...
A. 21 November 2007: You need to look at things from the other prospective, how would you feel if he got jealous everytime you talk to or text one of your male friends?
About the kissing someone in front of you, I'm assuming this is before you were together? Everyone... (read in full...)
Is there any hope of him ever falling for me?
Q. there is this guy who we've been friends for several years and at one time he was in love with me but i turned him down and now i really love and lately we started sleeping together on the agreement that it was just sex and no strings attatched and ...
A. 21 November 2007: Maybe he just thinks you would turn him down again. Tell him how you feel, it's better to know how he feels and if there's a chance than to just ignore it and possibly lose the chance forever ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? I am getting mixed signals.
Q. I'm in college and absolutely head over heels about this guy that I know from high school. We rarely spoke in high school but after leaving school I've gotten to know him slightly better but still not very well. I bump into him nearly every weekend ...
A. 21 November 2007: It sounds like he does like you, he just may not know if you like him too.
Having sex with his ex doesn't mean he's still in love with her, it could very easily be sex for the sake of it (we all have needs!).
The way he was being at the par... (read in full...)
How can I get back the spark?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and my bf have been dating for a year and a couple months now. He claims to be bored with our relationship but that he doesn't want to break up. What can I do? I believe that our spark is gone away. I don't know what to do I love him ...
A. 21 November 2007: You're just young, being in a relationship is fine, but one that he's bored with? It'll hurt but it's not fair on you for him to be bored and be open about it and stay together. It sounds like he is happy with the safety and security of being in ... (read in full...)
If I don't take the pill at the same time every day, can I get pregnant?
Q. Can i get pregant without using a condom but on the pill and dont take the pill the same time everyday...
A. 21 November 2007: as long as you take it daily you will be okay, but taking it around the same time each day will help routine to ensure you take it daily.
You MUST make sure you do take it everyday, if you think you might not have then make sure you go to the doct... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend feel better about himself?
Q. Dear cupid, I care about my bf. Lately he hasn't been himself. He sits in front of the computer all day and goes out for smokes with his buddies everyday!! He stopped going to the gym and he rarely rides his bike which he loved to do he also co...
A. 21 November 2007: First off, ask him what's bothering him, a change in behaviour like this is often due to something being on the persons mind and bothering them.
It could also simply be down to age (I'm assuming he's in your age bracket) as from 16-20 it's ver... (read in full...)
Stuck in a rut!
Q. I have been in arelationship with my boyfriend for nearly a year and a half but lately we've stopped being as affectionate to each other. Though it's long distance (200 miles from each other), that isn't the problem, we've always been quite ...
A. 21 November 2007: You're still young and being stuck in a long distance relationship with dwindling affection is not good. You should seriously consider finding someone closer to home, failing that, just someone affectionate.
Your age is a big factor, you should b... (read in full...)
Is it too late for us to get back together?
Q. this is my problem... i was with my bf for 3 years when he finished the relationship because he wasnt sure he wanted a relationship anymore. he said that it wasnt that his feelings for me had changed, he still loved me and there was no one else, he ...
A. 21 November 2007: If it's true love it's never too late. It's good that he doesn't want to rush things for fear of hurting you. What could work is going on a date with him, and saying it's the first date.
If you start seeing each other again, treat it as a totally ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my brothers friend
Q. Hey everyone, i got this problem...for a long time ive had this crush on my brothers friend n now im sure its love..im 18 now n i was in the 8th grade when i first realized i had feelings for him. When he comes over we talk and have fun. We hug a lo...
A. 21 November 2007: Firstly, you're an adult, so the age isn't a big deal.
It'd help to tell someone, maybe your mum or dad as they'd be able to tell you how your brother would react or feel about it. It'd be best if your brother knew how you felt, maybe just tel... (read in full...)
I get confused around girls!
Q. i never enjoy my self around girls; i just get confused; how can i change that?...
A. 21 November 2007: This is a tricky one because the self confidence has to come from within, nothing people say can make you do this, you just need to believe in yourself.
The most important thing to remember is BE YOURSELF, do not act any differently to if you with... (read in full...)
Am I really that old-fashioned? I'm so tight, sex is painful and I want to wait for the right guy...
Q. I'm 21, one partner away from being a virgin, and I have a small problem -- or rather, I have a problem with being small. Sex is painful. It was painful after the first time, and no, practicing with a well-lubed dildo hasn't helped. I am one...
A. 21 November 2007: It's not unreasonable at all. If that's what you want to do, the right guy will willingly wait. They won't nessicarily be religious (although it's be more likely =)), there are still some nice guys out there, and if they do wait, there's a good ... (read in full...)
What's the difference between a f*** buddy and a casual relationship?
Q. whats the difference between a casual relationship and fuck buddies? Is there one?...
A. 21 November 2007: None really although I supoose you could maybe say that a casual relationship means that you are together, but are allowed to have sex with others, whereas FB's is no strings sex and that's all.... (read in full...)
What can I get him for Christmas?
Q. Dear Cupid, Well, as we all know, Christmas is approaching fast. I need some ideas as to what to give my crush. Even though we're not actually dating, I just really want to do something special for him... because I really love him a lot. I don't k...
A. 21 November 2007: A cross necklace is a great idea!
Alternatively, there's always the safe bet of vouchers for a music store ... (read in full...)
Do guys that have "one nite stands" like to cuddle?
Q. Last year when my boyfriend and I broke up I met this cutie.. he's 24, I'm 32. We had an amazing nite of sex, but I got back with my boyfriend and I haven't talked to him since. Now I'm single again and last weekend I was out with friends and I ...
A. 21 November 2007: He could well just want a one night stand, he may just want cuddles too! ... (read in full...)
He blames me for him cumming too quick!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have going out with my BF for a long time each time are having sex he never last any longer and then blame it on me that am too wet what do we do...
A. 20 November 2007: this is not your fault. try getting him to wear a condom (he won't feel how wet you are) or simply go to the doctors and tell them ... (read in full...)
Men, would you kiss your partner who did oral sex in the past?
Q. Guys would you kiss a girl who does oral sex with her past boyfriend ...
A. 20 November 2007: Of course. Her mouth will be clean now! Oral sex is just part of a relationship, think about how many times she will have brushed her teeth since!!!... (read in full...)
I drank and had stomach problems.
Q. Help please yesterday i was drinking too much and i was sick 3 times. 2 of the times was normal sick but the last time i was sick it didnt look normal it looked like just liquid stuff but strong like acid it didnt have the normal sick stuff in it. ...
A. 20 November 2007: Ignore these mental yanks reeling off diseases, you drank too much, spewed, no more food left to spew but the contractions keep happening so bile and bits of stomach lining come up. You'll be fine just don't get that pissed again =)... (read in full...)
I found shemale videos in my husbands car! We've both tested positive for HIV.
Q. I have been married for almost 12 years. Six years ago, I found shemale videos hidden in my husband's car. He had rented a post office box in another town to order them. I confronted him then and he tossed the videos and swore never to engage in ...
A. 20 November 2007: Just because he is attracted to "shemales" does not make him gay, it could just be curiousity or something that turns him on. I think you're missing the point here, whether he contracted it from a woman, man or "shemale", it doesn't matter, the fact ... (read in full...)
What to start taking the pill but don't want to go to my doctor.
Q. hi,im thinking of starting the pill,the only thing is i dont want to see my male doctor,is it possible to go into a walk in center to get it? also what sort of questions would they ask when i do see them?, plz help...
A. 20 November 2007: Go to your nearest sexual health clinic (search for ""your town" - sexual health clinic" on google or something. They'll take your name and date of birth and ask questions like "have you had sex before", "are you on any other medication" etc.
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I'm worried about my penis size. Please help!
Q. Is my penis a bit short? I'm 13 1/2 and I've measured it. I got 3 1/2 inches flaccid and just over 5 inches when hard. I tried putting a condom on my penis but it looked quite loose even when it was properly put on. The 'bulb' shape on the condom ...
A. 20 November 2007: And also if you think that is small I'm guessing people at school or whatever have been saying stuff like "well I'm 9 inches...". Guess what, young lads lie, we all did it =)... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my penis size. Please help!
Q. Is my penis a bit short? I'm 13 1/2 and I've measured it. I got 3 1/2 inches flaccid and just over 5 inches when hard. I tried putting a condom on my penis but it looked quite loose even when it was properly put on. The 'bulb' shape on the condom ...
A. 20 November 2007: 6 inches is average for an adult male and you're just a kid, don't worry about it! the "bulb shape" is the reservoir tip, it's meant to be longer to catch your semen without popping the condom. And about it being too loose, as you get older your ... (read in full...)
Is looking persistently, in a nice way not perverse, a sign he likes me?
Q. There's this guy and in classes me and him will glance at one another like pretty much all class. He gives me other reasons to think that he likes me but I don't know. If a guy keeps looking at you, in a nice way not pervertish, does he like you? ...
A. 20 November 2007: It's a definate sign. Talk to him, look for the telltale signs of flirtation, smiling a lot, lots of eye contact etc. ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for a friend that is doubtful of his own sexuality. Would it be harder for him if I told him?
Q. I have feelings for a friend that is going throgh trouble with his own sexuality. i dont know wether i should tell him about them or if i should just stay "the best friend" and help him through his own troubles. i really want to be selfish an...
A. 20 November 2007: The most important thing is that you be a friend... for now. As you say he's unsure, so it would be best to let him decide for himself how he feels and which side his bread is buttered. If he decides he is gay, or wants to find out if he is, think ... (read in full...)
Normal to have hair around the nipple area? I'm very self-conscious about it.
Q. I have a lot of hair growing around my nipple areas. I am very self-conscious about it. My boyfriend has noticed them before but he says it doesnt bother him. I try to pluck as much off without letting him see them. It's so annoying though to keep ...
A. 20 November 2007: It's perfectly normal, we're animals after all! If they bother you then keep doing what you're doing and plucking them, but if your bf says they don't bother him be happy =) ... (read in full...)
When do you take a relationship to the "next" level?
Q. well i have been with this guy for 2 years and i love him i know i do, but we wanna take it to the next level like sex....i'm a virgin i wanna do it but dont know if i should. so should i?...
A. 20 November 2007: You're at the age now where, by law (I assume its the same in the US) you're perectly okay to have sex. It's rare that people have their first time with someone they love and are already in a relationship, so if you both feel ready, keep it safe and ... (read in full...)
I stopped him before I could orgasm because I was afraid to. While it felt amazing, it also frightened me.
Q. This may be a little wierd, but I'm actually afraid to orgasm. I should probably start with I only get to have sex with my boyfriend every few months because he lives about 300 miles away. I'm sure that dosn't help with a problem, nor is the fact ...
A. 20 November 2007: This is perfectly normal, I had a girlfriend who did exactly the same thing, it took a few times but when she finally let herself go, she never looked back =) try to relax and let it happen, you will be very pleasently suprised =)... (read in full...)
I'm a curious male that wants to have sex with a man but I'm worried a condom won't protect against all std's!
Q. I'm a curious male that wants to have sex with a man but I'm scared even if a condom is used I will still get an std or HIV. Is this a normal feeling to have? I met this guy and I'm really turned on by him, but I'm sure scared of taking the next ...
A. 20 November 2007: condoms are the best way to prevent such things. first things first, go get checked, and ask the potential partner to be checked. This will set your mind at ease. Just take it easy, unless the condom tears (which is very tricky to do) you will be ... (read in full...)
What makes a boy/man sexy to girls? I heard if boys have lots of female friends it makes girls want them more.
Q. what makes a boy/man sexy to girls? I mean what is attractive to them? I'm 17. What makes girls really tick? I heard if boys have lots of female friends it makes girls want them more. Thanks for any input in advance need all the help i can get. ...
A. 20 November 2007: There's an element of truth to having lots of female friends, but not for that reason. If you have a lot of CLOSE female friends (such as myself) they will often see you as "one of the girls" ie they will talk about pretty much anything they would ... (read in full...)
Will I get a second chance with him?
Q. Okay so I put a post up a little while ago about how my fiancé and I were taking a break for 6 months. Well last week he sends me an email to tell me that we are over. When we last saw each other we were crying laughing hugging and joking around ...
A. 20 November 2007: It really sounds like he wants to end this relationship, but he can't think of a way to do so without hurting you. He doesn't seem to want to just tell you it's over due to your emotional stability. It sounds as if he has suggested a 6 month break ... (read in full...)
We got back together again after a few months apart but it's not the same anymore. Has anyone else been through this?
Q. How do I really know if my relationship is over? I got back with my ex about 10 weeks ago after being apart since earlier in the year. This was my decision. My ex kept texting me to try and we somehow got back together early September. N...
A. 20 November 2007: I was with a girl for just over a year, we split for 3 months and then when we got back together, it was definately not the same, and it just made things worse, as when we split the first time we were able to see each other, be friends, go out with ... (read in full...)
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