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writes: Okay, so I had a good job, good education and great prospects but I meet someone and fall madly in love. After a while we make a choice to have children, I decide that I want to bring my children up and so leave my job.Everything is fantastic until I mention returning to part time work and my partner having to deal with his children for a mere 8 hours on a weekend. So I put off returning to work just so the situation doesnt have to be addressed.Anyhow, I try and suggest other ways of bringing in my share of money, all of my suggestions are dismissed.Time passes and I start to think that I should do something to satisfy myself, I used to do some modelling before I had my kids (another thing my partner didnt like) and so tried to get back into this to no avail. My confidence is low by now and I desparately want to build it back up which brings me to now. Since having the children I have been somewhat unhappy with my body, I rarely go out, have lost contact with almost all of my friends - I must protest this is nothing to do with my partner, its the way that I feel about myself. So back to the modelling, I want to do a topless or page 3 style shoot, I think it will boost my confidence (assuming I look good) and be great for my morale however my partner does not like the idea of this - it seems that it is okay for him to admire the assets of the people that do choose to do these shoots however it wouldnt be good for me to do one. What is it with men? Would you let your girlfriends guys?
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reader, Jules_98_uk  +, writes (2 January 2008):
Can I suggest something? Compromise!
Let her do the shoot but insist that she don't show her nipples. Even better, ask her to wear pasties (nipple covers) during the shoot so no-one sees the most important part of her assets. It's a fair compromise. She'll feel great and you'll be happy knowing she's not totally exposed!
Julie
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reader, edd_edd  +, writes (13 December 2007):
Yes I would if she really wanted to as we only have 1 life. I would not want her to work at a strip club or anything like that. i would also want to come with her to some of the shoots as I would feel a bit jealous/uneasy and I think this would help. You must however consider the persons feeling you are with as that is very important, but perhaps try and talk to him let him come along so he feels secure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): it depends on how much you love him really
and how much he loves you
if you really love him and care about how he feels , then you won't do it
however if he loves you
you should be able to make him realise that he's hypocritical in that he can look at topless models and not let you do it.
you may both have to sacrifice things to make you both happy.
and to be fair, i'm sure you can boost your morale doing something a little less degrading anyway.
i just don't see how flashing your tits to the world can boost morale, you'd think that it would generally make you feel a little ashamed of yourself instead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): When my wife and I were younger, we would go out to nice dinners with her dressed somewhat provocatively for my benefit. Men would look at her and she was flattered and I liked it because I had her. I think I would like it if my gf or wife was beautiful enough to be a topless model. After all, I'm the one who gets to sleep with her at the end of the day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBless you samuraiRick, You are right.I know people would look but surely he shud just be pleased that I am going home with him. I was blessed with these 'beautys', why not use them to my advantage? I really dont see the harm.
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (28 November 2007):
 I think your posing topless is harmless and it would be wonderful for your morale. I would be proud of you if I were your boyfriend or husband and would support you. This is not the same as stripping at a club. Its just a photo!
Other men will see it, but so what? They are not in your life, and your guy is. He's lucky to have you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDuh forgive me Im blonde, didnt know I had anonned. User name is phiatiger for future ref.
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (27 November 2007):
 can't pm a non member =)
I dunno who she's going through lol but I can find out for you =) and thanks for your best wishes =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your comment, Im going to use it to put the point across that there is nothing else in it, just a bit of fun and then I will return home to him and the kids - same as ever.
I wish your girlfriend the best of luck with her contract. I would be interested in more details of whom she is applying with if you want to PM me, perhaps if she is successful she could give me some tips. x
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (27 November 2007):
funnily enough me and my girlfriend has this conversation on saturday. She asked if I would be okay with it as she's trying to get a contract, and to be honest, I THINK I'd be okay with it, at the end of the day I know that she's with me and just because someone is ogling her assets doesn't mean she's done anything wrong! The money is okay too =P x
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