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Name - Tom Wilkinson
Age - 27 DOB - 11/08/1987
Location - County Durham - UK (near Newcastle)
Occupation - Currently Unemployed
Background - Single parent, previous experience working with Carers, people with Special Needs and generally being the person people talk to! According to my ratings, you either love or hate my advice, suggesting that (and I agree) at times I can be rather direct / blunt.
I also suffer from insomnia so don't be alarmed if I post at seemingly bizarre times.
Interests - Football (SAFC fan), playing guitar, listening to all sorts of music, watching DVDs, mainly comedy (especially stand up) and horror and action, going out with mates
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We got back together again after a few months apart but it's not the same anymore. Has anyone else been through this?
Q. How do I really know if my relationship is over? I got back with my ex about 10 weeks ago after being apart since earlier in the year. This was my decision. My ex kept texting me to try and we somehow got back together early September. N...
A. 20 November 2007: I was with a girl for just over a year, we split for 3 months and then when we got back together, it was definately not the same, and it just made things worse, as when we split the first time we were able to see each other, be friends, go out with ... (read in full...)
I have starting drinking a bit lately as it makes me feel numb. Can you help me?
Q. I really need some answers, if anybody feels like they can help me then please feel free..... I am starting to feel like im falling apart in a way. I havent had a proper relationship in over a year now i feel like i just cant trust people. Normal t...
A. 20 November 2007: We've all gone through this, and I agree that drinking is not the answer.
HOWEVER, if you're going out with your mates, having a few drinks and a good time and forgetting your pain for a little while, go for it. That's what I do when I'm feeling ... (read in full...)
Met a Turkish man on holiday, we're in love and he wants me to move with him but I have two children. What should I do?
Q. I have met a younger Turkish man on holiday. I have been back to see him since and it confirmed how we both felt. I have been married for 18 years and have never felt how i felt with him.I am at present going through a divorce......before i met him. ...
A. 20 November 2007: I agree completely with the lady poster before me, this was a holiday romance than has extended, simply because of modern technology we can keep in contact more easily. It's easy to be smitten with the idea, but the reality if you moved over there ... (read in full...)
Do guys really break up with girls because they aren't shaved to turn them on?...
Q. I read a comment the other day on here and it got me really nervous...a guy said that one of his girlfriends wasnt shaved in her pubic area and he didnt end up getting really serious with her. I love my boyfriend a lot and he loves me, but im not ...
A. 20 November 2007: If they genuinely like you then no they won't break up with you because of that, it's just something that can be used as an excuse.... (read in full...)
I had sex with him on the first night out, which I had never done before! Now he accuses me for that!
Q. I am 45 just divorced and met this man. He seems genuine and caring and loving. I've been unhappy for a long time in my marraige for years. So I decided to go for this man. I had sex with him on the first night out. It's something I've never ...
A. 20 November 2007: You need to remind him, it wasn't just you who was there! You BOTH had sex that night, try a bit of reverse psychology, tell him if you're a slag, that makes him a slag too!... (read in full...)
I have a horrible feeling if he could trade me for his dead ex gf, I'd be dead and he'd be with her. I've always been the type to think the worst. Help before I ruin my relationship!
Q. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend at aged 20, I'm 21 now, he is two years younger than me, I was sensible about it as I've had over 15 boyfriends and he was the only really genuine guy. This is becoming an obsession with me though now, he lost his ...
A. 20 November 2007: he probably doesn't mean her when he says it was great being 14, because, think back! It was great when you were 14 I bet! You need to stop worrying about this, most people these days have sex at a young age, I was 15 which isn't rare and most ... (read in full...)
My friend has a bf and a child, is it wrong if I start a relationship with her ex?
Q. Dear cupid.. When i was 16 my best friend was involved with a lad in my class she was a year older than me and was with this boy for a year he was her 1st boyfriend.Its been 2 years and shes moved on she has a baby and a boyfriend now, we're very ...
A. 20 November 2007: Ask your friend. 2 years is a long time so she'll understand that you didn't have these feelings back then.... (read in full...)
He told me to be patient and wait for our relationship to get public. It's a secret one now as he has a gf. What should I do?
Q. I have a secret relationship with a boy cause he has a girlfriend? He told me to be patient and wait for our relationship to get public? But i dont believe that much, so i need help? I love him. What should i do? Should i do something so he would ...
A. 20 November 2007: He's with someone else which is an instant issue, you shouldn't have got involved in the first place but that's besides the point. You say you love him, but if he felt the same way, he'd have left the other woman for you, instead, you're the secret? ... (read in full...)
Should he tell the world he is in love or should he be sensitive to his ex's?
Q. I am recently in love. He says he loves me very much however doesnt want to say or post anything about that as he thinks it's like flaunting it in front of ex-girlfriends faces and doesnt want to hurt them. I feel he is more sensative to their ...
A. 20 November 2007: There's also the exes to think about, I've had exes who the second I ention a new gf / love, they can become aggravated and generally quite nasty towards me, he could be worried this will happen ... (read in full...)
I don't think I can be rejected, there's nothing else that is "worth it." Advise, please.
Q. i cant do this anymore i met a guy online and im so into him its crazy we texted and talked on the fone for like 3 weeks so into each other and its kind of fading off, he doesnt seem interested anymore and when i mentioned going to see him this wee...
A. 20 November 2007: Maybe he is just nervous about meeting for the first time, after getting to know someone without meeting them, this is a big step, especially if there is the worry that you won't click in real life, like you have online / text / phone.
I'm i... (read in full...)
I'm in it for the long run, but his sex drive is waning, how can I put the spark back in?
Q. What are some tips men can give me, about how to keep things exciting in the bedroom? My b/f and I have been together 2 years and already his sex drive seems to be in neutral. No, it's not health related. No I haven't gained 30 pounds and stopped ...
A. 20 November 2007: Obviously everyone has different turn ons, so any tips on what to do would just be opinion. What you could do (although I'm guessing you'll have already done so) is ask him what turns him on, if he'd like to try anything new, or flat out ask "would ... (read in full...)
Do verbal compliments really get guy's hot?
Q. I am just wondering if most people are very verbal during sex. I am quite shy and am not comfortable with talking dirty or complimenting my boyfriend during sex. Does being more verbal get guys more excited? ...
A. 20 November 2007: It depends on the guy, but personally, and from conversations with friends, it can be a major turn on. However, it's not a major factor of sex, it's just one of those things that you do if BOTH of you enjoy it. If it's not something you're ... (read in full...)
What do you say to start up a conversation?
Q. Hi, I am 22 and ive never had any luck with girls but i want to change this as i am fed up of being single. i am going clubbing on my birthday and want to chat some girls up but i have absolutely no idea where to start. for example you see...
A. 19 November 2007: Not cheesy at all mate, its exactly what you should be saying, it's true, it's about you, go for it!... (read in full...)
Is it his morals that prevent him having sex with me?
Q. I’ve been seeing this guy on and off for three years (I’m 26, he’s 27). The reason it’s been “on and off” for so long is pretty much due to horrible timing. I was just starting a new relationship when we first met, then he was in one…I travel often ...
A. 19 November 2007: He could have had a bad / traumatic experience with actual penetration. The obvious thing would be to ask him again why he doesn't want to have sex, as if he truly does feel the way he says and hold the morals he says he does (should be special, ... (read in full...)
Does she just see me as someone to talk to?
Q. hi im a single dad of three , in the last three months i noticed this lady at the kids school , I'd not noticed her before the new term started, which is funny as one of her girls is in my sons class, and i tend to stand be my self and people watch, ...
A. 19 November 2007: It's a little too difficult to tell as you say in that situation, so try and organise another.
There's no harm in asking if she'd like to go for a drink sometime. With the kids I understand time and availability are an issue, so even the suggesti... (read in full...)
Is he/she cheating
Q. if you thing your girl or guy is cheating look at what they act like if there acting superstitious always saying oh im going out or at my mates tonight then they might be hiding something from you its not neserserily that they are cheating but ...
A. 19 November 2007: I totally disagree with checking peoples messages etc.
I had nothing to hide but I have previously ended a relationship as I have a lot of female friends, my girlfriend at the time read into things, paranoia was implanted, jealousy stirred ... (read in full...)
What should I try to do to boost my confidence?
Q. I dated and lived with a girl, the only person I have slept with, about four years ago, but it ended when she wanted to get married and i realized she wasn't the person for me. Since then I have not had sex, or a girlfriend, and am getting desperate ...
A. 19 November 2007: You're reading exactly the right signs. Eye contact and smiles are big giveaways, and asking people out on a date is not a big deal. I too was incredibly shy until the first time I did it (the answer was "no") and after that I never looked back. ... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't like me - is this the truth?
Q. hi, my name is jina. i really like this guy, and i asked him if he likes me and he said no. but i'm confused because he pegs footballs at me and everytime he talks to me he tries to make me laugh. im so confused! please please someone help. :(...
A. 19 November 2007: He probably does like you as a friend, just nothing more. If he tries to make you laugh all the time this is a good thing, and could be the start of a great friendship, so just try and embrace that =) ... (read in full...)
How do I make her think I don't like her any more?
Q. I had maintained romantic feelings for one of my friends for some time. However, I believe that she is starting to pick up on them and is reacting oddly, being that she is in a relationship. How do you think i should go about changing her mind ...
A. 19 November 2007: This is tricky as potentially, you could seem distant and make it appear you don't like her even as a friend, which would be too cruel.
One option that could work, just get into a conversation and mention a girl you find attractive, and say so. ... (read in full...)
Am I over-thinking things?
Q. Hello. This isn't much of a big problem, but I wondered if you could tell me what you think. I haven't spoken to my ex-girlfriend for about a month now, after she split up with me this summer. Tonight I went on Myspace and posted a bulletin talki...
A. 19 November 2007: There's nothing wrong with talking about things you have done, but somethings should only be shared with some people, ie, about the talking to girls, maybe keep this conversation between "the lads", but by all means mention that you're going out and ... (read in full...)
How can I change his way of thinking?
Q. My boyfriend has been though a divorce when he was young. I understand you learn a lot from a divorce. When you get separated, you split up all assets, everything including pots and pans. I know my boyfriend loves me and trusts me very much. He told ...
A. 19 November 2007: This doesn't nessicarily reflect the way he feels about you. My mum and dad have been happily married for nearly 30 years, and my dad has a lot of cash that he keeps out of a bank account, and is essentially "his money". ... (read in full...)
He sent a text to his ex-wife, ending with an "x". I feel like I've been kicked in the teeth. Do I confront him?
Q. just back from hols with my boyfriend. looked at one of his texts he had sent to his ex wife. at the end of the text he ended it with a x. (they have three children together and have been separated for twelve years). i know it was wrong to look at ...
A. 19 November 2007: There is no way you should confront him with this, a "x" at the end of a text means nothing in the slightest, least of all to men. I personally, put an "x" on all texts to all females, my gf, ex-gf's, mam, sister, aunties, cousins. It's simply ... (read in full...)
Is a peck on the lips cheating??
Q. Is it considered cheating if you peck a close friend (of the opposite sex) on the lips, if you have been going out with someone for approximately two months? I am driving myself insane thinking that it is. Anyone I ask thinks I'm being silly! Could ...
A. 19 November 2007: Of course it isn't cheating, a kiss on the lips is no more than a kiss on the cheek, unless you want it to be. Don't worry about it any further, you've really done nothing wrong at all
Take care... (read in full...)
Should I go to social services??
Q. My brother is 15 years old and my mum has let my cousin and his wife live with them in his room "for a little bit.” for the second time this year. But it is a 3 bed roomed house, my mum in one of the big rooms. My 18-year-old brother in the small ...
A. 19 November 2007: Before you consider such a drastic action, talk to your brother. Ask him how he feels and if he is alright. Then you could even talk to the cousin and his wife, they will be equally as unhappy in the room if it's causing a disturbance. I've ... (read in full...)
I worry that he isn't ready.
Q. hi all, This could become a very long story if I let it , so i'll try to keep it short. Basically I'm the girlfriend of a widower (of 4 years) , and the relationship has had many up's and down's over 3 years , including a split for 3 months. ...
A. 19 November 2007: It doesn't sound like he isn't ready to be with you, it sounds more like he feels guilty because of (and I'm in no way blaming them or saying it's their fault) the children. Any (good) parent will always be thinking of their children first and ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my boyfriend to have had gay sex?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for years and are about to get married. However he just told me in middle school he had gay sex with his best friend. Is this normal or what? What should I do? ...
A. 19 November 2007: The lady before me is spot on, him sharing this is the ultimate sign that he loves and trusts you. If he is comfortable enough to share this with you, it's pretty safe to say this was simply acting on curiousity, which is a perfectly normal thing to ... (read in full...)
What do you say to start up a conversation?
Q. Hi, I am 22 and ive never had any luck with girls but i want to change this as i am fed up of being single. i am going clubbing on my birthday and want to chat some girls up but i have absolutely no idea where to start. for example you see...
A. 19 November 2007: Being in the pub or club is probably the best place if you aren't confident as there is a lot of fodder for conversation. Like the lady said previously, talking about the music is a good one. Before conversation though, try making eye contact from ... (read in full...)
He confessed he's been kissing another girl, should I accept him back?
Q. I have been with boyfriend for nearly a year but we have been going through a bit of a bad patch, he has been acting really strange so i accused him of cheating, we moved to live apart for a few weeks and started getting on great again. Last night ...
A. 6 November 2007: The decision is entirely up to you, but personally, I would never take anyone back after doing that, even if they admitted and regretted doing so. With you guys getting on well again while you were apart, this is when he was doing these thin... (read in full...)
Should I take him as a partner?
Q. my freind whom iv been knowing from childhood is 2 years younger to me.even though he has a girl friend-now hes liking me so much. he does everything for me.but now our freindship has turned more.he meets up with me evry week an behaves close with ...
A. 29 October 2007: If you fell nervous in that situation, then stop. It seems you do not truly want him as a partnet, so do not feel pressured into doing so ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to come over for Halloween.
Q. I'm in desperate need of advice! My ex, we still talk a little. He's in a class with me, so it's kind of hard to avoid him. While we were dating I told him about how my family likes to do a lot of decorations for Halloween. Well, he wants to come by ...
A. 29 October 2007: Since you are no longer together, you're more than entitled to say, "It's family only, sorry". He has no right to argue with this, and if he does or pushed further you're well within your place to simply say you'd rather he wasn't there ... (read in full...)
I want to ask this boy out, but will be humiliated if he says no.
Q. I have a big crush on this boy at school. Should i ask him out and get humilated if he says no or should i keep it a secret? But the problem is that he is friends with this girl and she will spread it if he tells her! help me... from confuse...
A. 25 October 2007: The other answer is very good advice, just make friends initially.
If you are already friends then just wait till a moment alone and tell him that you like him. Even if he doesn't feel the same, any decent person will keep it to themselv... (read in full...)
Did I just go through a bi-sexual phase?
Q. I'm a little confussed .... I'm bisexual... well i thought i was.... but lately girls ... nothing i don't feel anything in my stomach.... apart from a few ... i'm so confussed .... i mean guys turn me on .. well if there naked they do ... but girls ...
A. 25 October 2007: You're still just young and it's very common for people to go through such a phase. At one point I found myself attracted to other boys and assumed it meant I was bisexual. Eventually that just stopped as you described.
Hormones are running ... (read in full...)
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