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Name - Tom Wilkinson
Age - 27 DOB - 11/08/1987
Location - County Durham - UK (near Newcastle)
Occupation - Currently Unemployed
Background - Single parent, previous experience working with Carers, people with Special Needs and generally being the person people talk to! According to my ratings, you either love or hate my advice, suggesting that (and I agree) at times I can be rather direct / blunt.
I also suffer from insomnia so don't be alarmed if I post at seemingly bizarre times.
Interests - Football (SAFC fan), playing guitar, listening to all sorts of music, watching DVDs, mainly comedy (especially stand up) and horror and action, going out with mates
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I don't have a boyfriend. Is it ok to show up at this party alone?
Q. So, I got invited to this party. All of the "popular kids" are invited. None of my friends did. They dont mind if i go. But, I really dont have anyone to take. I dont wanna mix my friends with the other group, It'll be a disaster if i do. I w...
A. 26 November 2007: If you've been invited, just go! They've obviously just invited you for being you so there's no problem here =) ... (read in full...)
A sex change... Is she joking around?
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for just over a year, and about 2 months ago i said i would do anything for her, well a few days later she said "if i would do anything for her i would have a sex change". everyday since she has asked me if i would ...
A. 26 November 2007: Surely this is some kind of hypothetical question, ie the questions like "would you still love me if I....". I doubt she seriously wants you to do it, she just want affirmation that you'd do anything, no matter how mad for her!... (read in full...)
14, and wetting the bed! Help!
Q. Hi this is a rather embarrasing problem seem astho im 14 but sometimes when i need the toilet in my sleep i will dream that i do and usually i will wake up but once i didnt wake up and i urinated like i did in my sleep but when i was in bed. I didnt ...
A. 26 November 2007: you should tell your mum and get her to clean it, it is unbelievably unhygenic if you leave it!... (read in full...)
I lied to my long distance boyfriend....
Q. hi, i just turned 18 not too long ago and im in a long distance relationship with someone, but i lied about my looks a little, i sent a real picture, only one and it was with really good lighting, im not ugly or anything its just i lied about my ...
A. 26 November 2007: A similar thing has been done to me, she lied about her weight and put off meeting over and over again. Eventually she told me she had lied because of how she feels about her body and thought I wouldn't like her because she was big. We still met and ... (read in full...)
Should I keep trying with him even though he doesn't return my calls?
Q. please help.i meet this guy coming up to 2 weeks so far its been good,ive been round his house 3 times and stayed over night the thing is he wants sex and deep down i want it two but not just yet, anyway this weekend i went away on a day trip and he ...
A. 26 November 2007: From a blokes point of view it sounds like he was only after one thing. If he liked you in the same way you do him, a few weeks is nothing to have to wait before sex. It really doesn't sound like he's worth the effort... (read in full...)
Do I keep waiting for him to change, or leave now?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I've thought of breaking up with him for almost a year. There is always something that keeps me from doing it. I think, "He'll get it together. He'll stop being selfish." He is jobless (his own accord) ...
A. 26 November 2007: It's really only cruel to wait from the transition from "new" to "established" relationship. 5 years is already well into "established territory, so on him, a few months will make no difference. It is however, cruel ON YOURSELF to wait. One year is ... (read in full...)
I can't help not trusting my boyfriend! Any advice?
Q. My boyfriend and I love eachother very much but I can't help not trusting him. I am admittedly a control freak. Since my last boyfriend betrayed my trust several times I really have trouble trusting anybody now. I have been keeping this under ...
A. 26 November 2007: What you have done is so much worse than his lie so you have no right to be obsessed about him telling the truth.
Look at it this way, I still have exes and "one nighters" who still text, call and mail me, often with rude intentions and content.... (read in full...)
Does my size say I'm ready?
Q. well i am 16 years old turning 17 in 2 months, and i was a late bloomer in puberty, and i had to take testosteron shots to actually get moveing in puberty, its been almost year since the shots started, and i feel im ready of sex with my girlfriend, ...
A. 26 November 2007: you could please her with 2 inches mate, if you use it well enough! Size isn't everything!... (read in full...)
Help! I'm going "Password" crazy! How can I remember them all!
Q. Can everybody please help me on this one? Everybody. I have so many different passwords and PINs. Mobile phones, PC access, websites, bank accounts, email, Paypal. I'm way the past the stage of being able to remember them. I thought it a good idea ...
A. 26 November 2007: I save things I struggle remembering on my phone, for example my PIN for my bank card, but save it as if it is a person in my contacts. I save the contact name as "Peter Ian Naylor" (PIN), not just "pin" so even if someone goes through my phone it ... (read in full...)
Any advice on fingering?
Q. I'm looking for advice on fingering girls. I've done it a few times now, but I still have a hard time finding the clit. I was with a girl on the weekend and she asked me to rub her clit while I was fingering her, and I felt like I was takin...
A. 26 November 2007: you could ask the girl to move your finger to where it feels nice.
Otherwise, this may be of use http://i... (read in full...)
How can I end this without hurting his feelings?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 weeks and a couple days, but my feelings for him have faded. At first I liked him alot, we had alot of stuff in common and we talked about us in the future, but just recently I realized that I don't ...
A. 26 November 2007: When you've only been seeing each other a couple of weeks and you're not happy, end it! It won't be so bad for him now, the only way you'd break his heart is if you let this go on for longer and let his feelings grown for you x... (read in full...)
Did my ex fiancee propose, just so I would feel better about having sex before marriage? What do you think?
Q. I know I kind of asked this question a little while ago. But, it keeps resurfacing in my mind. I broke up with my fiance a month or so ago, but I want to know if he proposed just so I would feel better about having sex before marriage? We had sex ...
A. 26 November 2007: You say you had had sex before you became engaged so it doesn't sound like he proposed just to have sex with you. It sounds more like he just wondered if you felt better about it!... (read in full...)
He's split with his wife, but still talks to her everyday because of he kids, how can I tell if he is ready to move on?
Q. I have been with a fella for 3 months. His wife of 17 years left saying she was unhappy. He is in contact with her every day because their children are teenagers who they share. He talks to her like they are very good friends yet he has only been ...
A. 26 November 2007: Perhaps he himself was ready for this split too, basically he had already detached himself from them being "together", making it much quicker and easier for them to simply be friends, if this what they both essentially wanted.... (read in full...)
He won't do oral on me but I do it for him. He said girls are gross down there..does that mean he'll never do it?
Q. My ex fiance used to never go down on me, but always demanding and asked that I go down on him. He always said that he was waiting until marriage to go down on a girl. We had sex, but I was always trying to wait until marriage but he made me feel ...
A. 26 November 2007: he's being very very selfish, tell him if he doesn't go down on you, you won't go down on him!... (read in full...)
Can pre-cum get you pregant??
Q. I want to really know.. can you get pregant by pre cum? ...
A. 23 November 2007: YEah, it's exactly the same substance, it's only called pre-cum as it's external before ejaculation has occured.... (read in full...)
I realise I have friends, but not best friends; I am never invited to parties, etc. I'm usually a happy girl, but this depresses me.
Q. Okay so usually im a happy girl. But lately, its been just so depressing. I realize i have friends, but not best friends. its so horrible. i never get invited to parties, i dont have a boyfriend, and im not miss popular, even thoug...
A. 23 November 2007: The best way to get invited to parties is to ask whoever is organising it if they'd mind you coming along. After a few times of doing this they'll start inviting you =)
Boyfriends are over-rated =P don't worry about it there's plenty of time yet... (read in full...)
He wanted to buy his ex a present...!!!
Q. Last year my boyfriend ended it with a girl he was seeing to be with me. Well, when they were seeing each other she had gotten him an expensive tool that he wanted for his birthday. So, by the time Christmas rolled around (and he was with me) he ...
A. 23 November 2007: It just showed his caring nature, I would have done the same as him, if you receive a nice gift it's only fair to reciprocate the act when the oppurtunity arises (birthday, crimbo whatever). I think you have definately over-reacted there.... (read in full...)
How long to know if I'm pregnant
Q. i had sex with my boyfriend around like 7pm yesterday. and when he was done he said the condom broke and now i'm gna be pregnant cuz he busted. how long until i know if i really am or not??...
A. 23 November 2007: Yeah get to the doctors for the morning after pill (which can still be effective up to 3 days after the incedent) ... (read in full...)
Should I give the "favorite customer" my number?
Q. I am 18 years old and work part time at a supermarket at the checkout. There is this guy who comes in all the time and always comes through my checkout! Always! I think he is pretty cute and he seems nice from what I have seen of him so far, from ...
A. 22 November 2007: You have nothing to lose, but slipping the number into a bag really isn't cool. Just go for a straight forward "if you're free sometime, would you like to *insert activity here*?" the odds are he'll say yes, then just say "you'll need my number ... (read in full...)
My ex is still harrassing me and uses others to do it for him.
Q. I have had it. I am so sick of my ex bf and his stupid ways of geting back at me! I broke up with him 3 months ago and he is still making attempts to get my attention. I broke it off because he was abusive. Anyway, he got his friends to send me ...
A. 22 November 2007: The best thing you can do for bullies like this is ignore it as best you can, or even worse (for them) agree with them.
The fuel for them doing this is getting the reaction they want. They want you to shout, scream, cry, argue, be angry etc. If ... (read in full...)
Do you think he loves me anymore?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for quite some time now at least 6 months i knew him as a friend from school before we went out with eachover,when school ended we built our realonship together things went really well in the past months,...
A. 22 November 2007: By the sounds of things, he never loved you in the first place, he was just using you for sex. You're both young as as much as you think you're in love, I can guarentee you're not. I suggest ending it, and enjoy being single.... (read in full...)
She's dating a guy but I still feel we have a certain chemistry.
Q. Okay, well. I am a girl, and I am attracted to another girl who we'll call "Zoe". She's my best friend Kris's other best friend, and we didn't really know each other for the first two years of high school. Just a few months ago, she started talking ...
A. 22 November 2007: When you're alone, ask her straight out, "would you ever do anything with a girl" or something to that effect. It's the quickest way to find out and go from there than the possibility of going for a kiss or something and being knocked back.... (read in full...)
My bf keeps talking to his ex's, what should I do??
Q. I need some advice in a hard situation. My bf and I have been together for almost 5 years, and we have a 3 year old together. I have always thought of him as "the one" but about a year ago, we started having major issues....so we called off our ...
A. 22 November 2007: First off, it's normal for a bloke to say "I won't talk to my exes" and then still do it, hell I do, I just know that some girls can't handle it.
Secondly, reading other people's messages is so wrong and I can't believe the amount of people (... (read in full...)
How do I talk dirty to my hubby, any tips?
Q. My husband wants me to talk dirty. I try sometimes but not often. I dont know how. anyone have any tips?...
A. 22 November 2007: a few one/two worders that ALWAYS go down well...
HARDER!!
OH GOD!!!
YES!!!
F**K ME!!!
And there's always just telling him what you want him to do, in a descriptive manner, ie, "lick my pussy..." and then followed by that word... (read in full...)
He had a foursome before he went out with me, should I be worried?
Q. Hi. Me and my boyfriend have been together 10 months and it's great and so is the sex. until one day he let it slip that he done a foursome before he went out with me.? Is this something to worry bout? Also he watches a lot of porn and has magazine...
A. 22 November 2007: No guy likes porn more than the real thing, I wouldn't worry about that =)
As for the foursome, the age is a concern but just because he has done that doesn't effect how he feels about you.... (read in full...)
I've been living with my nan with my brother for 4 years now due to family problems but my brother wants to move back with my mother what should I do?
Q. Back 4 years ago I had major issues with my mother and step father. These issues were to do with high level drugs. For 3 years I was the person who looked after my brother and cared for him. No one else knew about the problem so I had no help with ...
A. 22 November 2007: Hi Luke. You sound like a very responsible young man, credit to you for having the bravery to speak up and look after the wellbeing of yourself and your brother.
The best first step would be to talk to your Gran, without anyone else there. T... (read in full...)
What can I get him for Christmas to show him how I feel??
Q. Ok here we go.....don't laugh lol.......im 13 and there is this guy......i love him soooo much and i think he likes me to.......i want to get him something special for christmas in hopes that he will ask me out on a date or something.......i really ...
A. 22 November 2007: haha don't get him nuts then!! And you don't want to break the bank either!!
An easy gift is always a voucher for a music store, then he can choose his own gift but you can write a nice message in the card :)
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How do you stop thinking about someone you can never have??
Q. I go to grad school, am 25, have a steady boyfriend for 3 years now (though he is 5 states away), and am desperately in love with someone else. The only thing is, this guy is the teacher for my writing class, he's probably in his early to mid 30's, ...
A. 22 November 2007: It's your standard crush on a teacher. "forbidden fruits" are often a lot more desirable than something that would not be "wrong" or impossible. You have a crush on him, like you would any boy, but because it is something that can't happen, it makes ... (read in full...)
Do I just let her go??
Q. hello, i broke up with my ex about 4 months ago... We argued all the time and made up just as often. She would say the sweetest things and would do anything i'd ask her to. She would always say she had tunnel vision when she looked at me., she woul...
A. 22 November 2007: From the sound of things, you should let her go. She has clearly moved on, and as hard as it seems, so should you. You're only young (in my age bracket and I'd say I'm young =P) and it's the perfect time for you to be enjoying yourself, meeting new ... (read in full...)
I can't stop crying as he doesn't want to go out with me any more.
Q. Basically,, Me and my ex where together for just over a year, we're only 15 but we were in love. I don't care if people say we were too young becasue we weren't! We were talking about having sex, but we both took it very seriously and decided to ...
A. 22 November 2007: When I was your age I thought I was in love too. It feels so strong at the time and the hurt is horrible, but you're still young and there's so much for you to live for! I'm only 20 and I still consider myself a kid. Boys in general are immature, ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty for not being fair to him.
Q. Hi, I'm writing because I need advice, perspective. I met a guy over 1 year ago in Toronto. It was a friend of a friend and a roommate at the same time. Not long after he moved in (we were 3 living in a house), we hooked up for all the wrong re...
A. 22 November 2007: This was an abusive relationship, where YOU are the victim. It's very common for the victim to feel that everrything is there fault, which you mustn't do. Getting back into this relationship would be a serious mistake. You did nothing wrong here, AT ... (read in full...)
He'd cause problems if I finished it.
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and have a child with him. my mum thinks we split up 3 years ago and would disown me if she new. i dont love him or want to be with him but i know he will cause serious problems for me if i finish it. what ...
A. 22 November 2007: The problems will be far worse if you don't finish it. You need to think about your own happiness first and foremost. Also (I don't know if it is for you) staying together for the kid is NEVER a good idea, they will know that you are unhappy and ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be mean by just leaving her.
Q. Hi I'm in a bit of a tricky situation...Here goes Well I've been with my girlfriend for about 3 months now. I've been thinking about my ex alot. We decided to meet up and go for a walk and chat. We really have strong feelings for each other. She ...
A. 22 November 2007: Who initiated the walk? Be careful, this could quite easily be a case of "jealous ex syndrome", if she told you first that she still loves you and that her relationship isn't going to work, there's a good chance she just doesn't want to see you with ... (read in full...)
How come some guys are passionate and some guys aren't
Q. i'm the kinda girl who loves to be cuddled love to hold hands all the time love to be smothered and spoiled with kisses but my boyriend doesn't do any of that. so my question is how come some guys are pasionate and some guys aren't?...
A. 22 November 2007: It's just the way some people are, girls are exactly the same too =) it's just finding the right person who likes the same things, not everyone enjoys a cuddle as much as we do! :P ... (read in full...)
How can I get everything back to normal?
Q. Ok well I have a problem... I have a best guy friend and he has a girlfriend, ever since he got this girl shes been a total jerk to me and is trying to ruin me and his relationship. I havent told him about this because im afraid that itll just end ...
A. 22 November 2007: You should talk to the girl. Ask her why she is being mean and assure her that you and your friend are just friends. It sounds like she's just insecure and thinks that because you are close with her guy, you will try and steal him, or he will want ... (read in full...)
What to do to get over him.
Q. i jus got outta a really bad break up and the bad thing is we both want each other back but i have a boyfriend and i dont wanna go back to the past i have tried crying to get over him i have tried to right a letter and i jus dont know wat to do to ...
A. 22 November 2007: The fact that you say yourself "I don't wanna go back to the past" is answering your own question. Even though you may still have strong feelings towards him, you obviously know yourself that going back would not be right for you, and from my ... (read in full...)
Infatuation with my Latin teacher is influencing my decision for subject change!
Q. I've got a question that is affecting my schoolwork. I have a crush on a previous Latin teacher, who is also a female. I have a GPA of 4.0 in Latin and it is one of my best classes, and I also enjoy it immensely. This teacher took me last year, and ...
A. 22 November 2007: It' perfectly natural to have crushes on teachers, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. You clearly have a natural talent for the subject so taking it would not be a good idea, however, you seem to be highly intelligent so the subjects you choose ... (read in full...)
How long will it be until I find another girlfriend?
Q. Hi. I'm a little confused. I understand that it varies, but how often do guys, on average, get girlfriends? I've only ever had one, and I got her when I was 16. She split up with me a few months ago. I'm 19 now, and I can't say that I know that...
A. 22 November 2007: It all depends on what you're doing about it. A new girl won't just fall on to your lap, get yourself socialising, meeting new people and going new places.
It could take a year, you might have a few girlfriends in a matter of weeks, it's all rand... (read in full...)
I have problems with immature post break up anntics.
Q. Hi all. Here's my situation, the last two girls who I have dated have broke up with me because they have liked other guys I tell myself just to move on but there is just always part of me that wants to keep pursuing the girl. This often results in ...
A. 22 November 2007: You cannot stop these urges as they are in your nature, I'm exactly the same. The only thing you can do is to make yourself not act on the urges. Be the bigger man and just accept that they have moved on, or at least act like it doesn't bother you. ... (read in full...)
I am scared to try this.
Q. hey. i have been with my boyfriend now for a little over a year and we have stated having sex. we have only been exually avtive for about 6 weeks and its ok so far. but my boyfriend recently asked me if i would like to perform some role plays wi...
A. 22 November 2007: I agree with Mistify, you should tell yourr bf that you were raped and that doing this roleplay would be uncomfortable for you. He should totally understand, I had a girlfriend who had been raped and sex in genral was an issue for her at first.
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Ladies, what are your thoughts about tattoos? Can tattoos have a negative effect upon obtaining dates?
Q. Hey, so I'm wondering what most girls think of tattoos. I've already got one, a cross on my right bicep and I've never heard any complaints about it. But this Christmas I'm looking at getting a koi fish done on my forearm (half sleeve), and event...
A. 22 November 2007: I've been getting more since getting a tat, so for me it has made a positive difference, but Mistify is spot on, it just depends on if the girl likes tats or not! ... (read in full...)
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